Due June 2020 thread 8: The one where all the babies appear!

[Busylizzie85]

New thread I hope I have done it right!

@peetieswie I have been doing some word searches 😃 they are quite relaxing and pass the time sitting indoors.

@BirdGarden sounds like we have had identical days! Cut DH's hair first thing- hoping barbers will be open again before he needs the next one!

Did some gardening then baked a banana loaf and a yoghurt cake (mostly for freezer to eat while breastfeeding) and made dinner. Satisfying but utterly exhausted now though- have a headache and feel nauseous!

Evening all. Just checking in. Loving the post-pregnancy plans! I've just had a medium fillet steak and a (really small) glass of rioja! Plus loads of normal tea. So fed up of decaf. I would love to find out about the sleeping on back thing but I've managed 5.5 hours since he was born in total. The first night was totally my fault, nothing to do with him, I was just so in love that I couldn't stop looking at him so I couldn't sleep! Last night was tough (got home about 6.30) but today has been amazing. I've loved our first day at home together. I was surprised to discover that my milk came in this afternoon. Thought 48 hours was too soon but his korma nappies prove the other!

Hang in there, those of you who are close. The wait is so worth it. I have never felt love like it. I feel like the luckiest person in the world!

Looking forward to more baby news very soon! X

Aww that’s lovely @APD1981. So glad you are enjoying getting to know your baby!

I don’t have any immediate post pregnancy plans, haven’t really missed any particular food but I’ve been so sick throughout pregnancy that I’m really looking forward to just eating whatever whenever and not throwing up! Obviously the sleeping any which way is the most appealing thing of all. And not getting out of breath climbing the stairs!

I’m getting increasingly irritated by my DH. I’m feeling quite relaxed and positive about the impending birth, am grateful for any little cramps or twinges I have (they feel useful, productive and it comforts me that if nothing else my body is preparing itself or practicing), but every time I make the slightest sign that I’m having a cramp he gets this terrified look in his eyes and starts panicking with lots of “what’s up? Are you alright? Is it starting? Is this it? You look in pain, does it hurt?” I desperately need him to chill out and calm the guck down!!! He’s not helping me at all being like that. I know he’s scared but I need him not to be! Or hide it better at least!

Ah sorry all that felt good to get that off my chest!!

@APD1981 Lovely to hear that you have had a wonderful first day home together! So sweet that you couldn't sleep because you couldn't stop looking at your baby boy!

Oh yes, I need to add caffeinated tea to my list of things to look forward to 😅

@APD1981 so glad you've enjoyed your first day at home. I still have nights I can't stop looking at him sleep😍 regret it a little in the morning though lol, definitely no love like it💙

Good luck everyone can't wait to see some more babies x

@APD1981 do they check for tongue tie when baby is born as standard practise x

Agree with you all. Definitely looking forward to eating what I want without worrying and being able to lie down and sleep in any position and without hip pain! And (eventually) sex without the bump. Poor husband keeps asking but I’m just too uncomfortable!

Also I’m looking forward to having lots to do every day taking care of baby because I am so bored being in the house all day alone most days trying to fill my time waiting.

Looking forward to sharing the parenting with my husband since the pregnancy/growing the baby is all me, he can finally have a proper part in it! Can’t wait to see him hold her and become a dad.

@APD1981 lovely update! Can’t wait to feel and experience all that myself! Glad to hear you’re doing well.

@Magpiefeather my husband is the same, and hate to say it but this is second baby. We have done this $h1t before 😂 every single grumble, deep breath, "ohgodishecoming?!?!" (Don't know it's a he, said for ease). Earlier we were trying to walk the baby out and I had a stone in my shoe, it caught my toe and I squealed. He panicked thinking I was having a contraction outside. I've not told him about the few sessions of 10 mins apart ones I've had at night after I've slunk off to the spare bed. Not worth it!

@APD1981 that's a lovely update. This is definitely my last and I really want to appreciate the newborn cuddles. I didn't quite understand what other mums meant before when they said how precious those early weeks are, but it's true you don't get them back (particularly if you have an uncuddly baby like me 🙈)

@NakeliP yes, I've noticed that movements seem reduced or muted. I thought it was just me being anxious but I have gone in twice for monitoring when she's been quite quiet for most of the day, or it's felt like she has anyway. Obviously, she perked up straight away while we were there but it is better to get checked. I went in 2 weeks apart and during those 2 weeks I noticed that she had more active and more quiet days, so not sure if it's just her pattern changing or something? She's engaged so that might affect things. I went Fri night for the most recent lot of monitoring and she was active for hours then, had a really good day Saturday but has been quieter today until this evening. Definitely ring if you're worried.

My post-pregnancy things:
Being able to turn over in bed without being in pain, and other related ones such as sleeping without pain, getting out of bed without pain, etc.etc.

Not having the horrid HG taste in my mouth all the time

Not being dizzy or nauseous so much, and being able to scroll/watch anything without it setting my pregnancy vertigo off

Being able to move easier (eventually) and sit and play with my boys a bit better.

Being able to bend, sit and so on as someone else said without it being uncomfortable or needing to wee.

Ive not has as many messages but MIL keeps messaging DH telling me/us to 'hurry up' for the last 2 weeks, which is getting to be very annoying. I'm just glad no one else. I've had a few 'how are you feeling' ones but they have been from those who know about the movement worry or the SPD and BH situation, so they have been more to do with that than asking if I'm in labour.

I hope everyone is OK and that those with sweeps, sections, scans etc. tomorrow, that they all go well.

39+2 here

Loved reading all the post birth dreams!! I cannot wait now! Still on induction ward and nothing happening at all yet 😢😢 They say it can take a few days! Soooo glad I brought a LOT of snacks and my own pillow. Even with the window open I feel like I'm sleeping in a sauna and I'm next to the toilet with at least 6 pregnant women sharing it which doesn't help either! 😬😬 All in a good cause and hopefully I'll be having baby snuggles before another night like this!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@BabyBird20 thinking of you. Hope things have got going for you now xx

Hope things are going well for you @BabyBird20 ♥️

A loooong night of no progress 😩😩 think I'm going to take a while to get started!! Will try and get upright and active today to help kick things off!!

So I went in for reduced movements yesterday (everything's fine). Whilst I was there they offered me second sweep (had my first on Thursday which was painful due to closed cervix despite it being soft). This sweep was good and so in painful!!! I was 1cm dilated with forward looking cervix yay. Easily could get in.
Woke up this morning 3ish with period pains and back ache. Hopefully sign of things to start! And quickly!! No loss of waters or plug yet. 39+6
Got a scan today (due to RFM) hopefully I can drive there and back!!

Quick question re tens machines - can I use a normal one or does it have to be a specifically designed for maternity one? X

I've finally hit 40 weeks today!! 😃😃
I'm now debating whether to go for the sweep tomorrow at my midwife appointment... originally I thought no as I'm comfortable and happy for her to stay there but I really don't want to be induced and if having a sweep helps a little (I know success rate of kicking off labour is low, 23% I think) I think it might be worth it!

I'm the same @Smiffette going to ask for one tomorrow when I'll be 40+4 as nothing else seems to be working. maybe it will be the kick start! 🤞🏼

@Busylizzie85 I'll Keep my fingers crossed for you!
It's my Dads birthday on Sunday so it would be lovely if she came before then!

Congrats @Smiffette 🥳, also having this debate with myself. Except mine is booked for Wednesday.

I chatted to MIL who is a HV and she seemed pretty against the idea and seemed to favour letting everything progress naturally saying he’ll arrive when he’s ready.

On the contrary the MW at the hospital was pretty for the idea, explaining that if cervix is unfavourable (Both os aren’t open) then they’ll just rub around to get the hormones going. No digging around involved (I don’t know why I have it in my mind it will be then ‘digging around’ but the whole idea petrifies me).

I think I will probably try it when there to see what my cervix is doing anyway, that would be cool to know.

How you feeling today?

40+0

@Smiffette 23% sounds pretty good to me, that’s like the same or higher than your chance of getting pregnant each cycle!

@FTEngineerM feeling fine today, apart from only 5 hours sleep! I feel like I've been really lucky with a comfortable straightforward pregnancy, so it would be typical that I would now go over!!

@UKtoSK yeah that's what I've been thinking the % is pretty good considering!

Another one going round and round with the sweep idea! I have been offered one tomorrow at 40+3; because otherwise I'd have to wait until 41+3 which is getting on a bit. I had one with my daughter at 40 exactly and was barely able to take the pain; I am someone who needs pinning down and peeling off the ceiling at a smear test though I have no pain threshold for my cervix whatsoever!!! I also had PROM last time which was the first step in everything going wrong. Just very wary of any intervention at all now even though I know that a sweep is the least risky form of intervention and could be enough to avoid everything else. I am so confused!

One more post birth dream, I have had pregnancy rhinitis and woken up with a stuffy nose/nosebleed every morning. Looking forward to breathing!

@Ginfilledcats re TENS - when I was looking at them, it said you must use ones specifically for pregnancy as frequencies etc are different. Otherwise, they may not work.

@Ginfilledcats that sounds positive, hopefully they progress into the real thing soon

I hadn't thought about the tens machines being different, I know the pregnancy ones have a boost to press during contractions but I was just guna use my normal one and ramp it up each time

Currently sat hooked up to monitor because of reduced movements. It's looking ok but since it's my 4th time being monitored and I'm 2 days over due date they want to do a sweep today and induce me tomorrow. I'm gonna have the sweep but really didn't want to be induced so soon. I don't know what to do. I feel like maybe they're just being overly cautious but I dont know if I want to risk waiting either..... Wish I had a crystal ball