***** DUE IN JUNE 08 ****** OMG I can't believe I just got BFP

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I got BFP this morning six months to the day after my MC, only 12DPO but so happy. Please pray this one holds on!!!! I am due on June 1 according to OV calendars so have the pleasure of starting this thread.

Anyone else out there or am I the only mental person who tests this early?

Welcome to the new people . I had a m/c earlier this year, too. There are a fair few of us aren't there? Hope we all get lucky this time.

The Chinese thing was right for my other children and tells me this one is a girl which would be nice and symetrical, and much easier for bedroom allocation too! So I bet it's a boy!

I haven't had cravings but my permanent chocolate craving seems to be stuck on maximum

dylanasluckymum - smoked oysters?!?! I didn;t know such things exisited! Is this one of these 'sniffing the inside of a pencil sharpener' wacky cravings, or is that something you'd normally eat?

I know a mum of a dylan... is dylan your ds2? Brown eyed boy with a penchant for stripes?

lol kif they are unusual but very tasty and i used to eat them when i lived in canada but haven't had them once since i moved here 6 1/2 years ago. this weird craving just came out of nowhere! my dad eats them all the time though (including in peanut butter sandwiches ick!) and i think they're supposed to be very high in protein. i didn't have any strange cravings with ds (he's my one and only) at all except to just eat everything in sight, particularly really fattening savoury stuff!

but dylan is my ds1 and is a sort of blue-green-grey eyed monster with a penchant for doing anything that gives mummy a heart attack on a daily basis. he seems to think he's evil knievel.

Still no symptoms for me, have made appointment to see dr on wed (will by 4 weeks 6 days) to see if I can have an early scan as I miscarried at 6 weeks in july, not sure when the earliest is that they scan though? Oh I really don't want to have to go through it all again

Hello everyone. I must say all I want to do is SLEEP. I've not had anymore MS...which does worry me but it is still very early (5W2D). I do feel funny in the tummy and have totally moved into yoga pants permanently. I'm getting headaches now too. I think that might mean I'm a bit dehydrated so I've been trying to down more H20. Tomorrow I see my doctor and HOPE she gives me a scan to completely ease my mind. DD(3.5) is coming too so the morning should be interesting. Stocked cupboard today thinking MS will hit next week so there's plenty for everyone to fend for themselves and hopefully plenty of crackers for me to live off of.

Glad to read that you all seem to be having healthy, normal pregnancies so far. I'll check in tomorrow hopefully with some wonderful medical news.

Hope all goes well tomorrow TS

Deb

DLM- I hope the scan went well today!

hi all, scan was good i guess but it actually made me more worried than i was in the first place. she said everything looks as it should and it measured correctly and everything but i have to go back in 2 weeks. and i thought i remembered someone on here saying that the sonographer had found a heartbeat so i asked her about it and she said, oh no, you can't find that at 5 weeks! she said she couldn't see any blood around it and it had a light area around it which is good, but she wants to check again in 2 weeks to see if it's viable. i hate that word.

to be honest i don't think i'm going to go back because it was so stressful (not to mention ds was having a fit being stuck there waiting so long and bored) i don't know if it's worth it.

Am also sleepy and ravenous! Gone off sweet things though, just want salty crisps, chicken and cheese! I'm the same TS, felt my symptoms weren't strong enough and I had stomach so did another test and got a BFP straight away!

Anyone elses joints hurting? My hips are very achy, also have sore itchy boobs. Think 6 weeks is the earliest you can have a scan?? I have a DS who is 2.7 and screaming because he doesn't want a nap [hmmm]

Cross posts!

Sorry your worrying so much Dylansmum, 2 weeks is so long to wait, they found my DS's heartbeat at 6wks so hopefully the next scan will reassure you more.

dlm sorry it was so stressful. They found a heartbeat for me though I wasn't quite six weeks, maybe 1 day less but I'm due about 10 days before you so my baby was older than yours at the scan. The fact that it measured correctley for dates is a very good sign, which hospital did you go to?

elizabeth garrett anderson at UCH in euston. same place ds was born. i wish the dr would have just told me to wait until 6 weeks to go! how stupid that i have to go back and go through it again.

this made me feel a bit better...
www.babycenter.com/400_5-weeks-and-4-day-ultrasound-showed-no-heartbeat-should-i-be_670136_165270699 887.bc

Oh DLM, you poor thing .

FWIW, I'm not planning on having lots of scans. When I was having DD I had fortnightly scans and it got to the point that my life revolved around them. When you are worried you think "I just have to know, I can't stand not knowing". And a scan can reassure you but by the time you have got to the car park you can be thinking "well, there was a heartbeat 10 minutes ago, but who knows whether there is one now?".

The way I try to deal with it now is to think - a scan won't make the baby any more or less viable, and apart from when I actually see a heartbeat on a screen or feel a kick, all I can do is hope for the best.

IIRC, there isn't a heartbeat just yet, which is why 6 weeks is a milestone - once the baby gets to the stage when it has a heartbeat the risk of m/c decreases, then it decreases again at the end of the first trimester.

thanks everyone. i will go get the scan in 2 weeks time because it'll drive me insane if i don't but rolf as you say, getting a million scans will change absolutely nothing so after this it's just the standard ones (and a 3d one at about 28 weeks like we did for dylan, it was great you could see his features perfectly). other than that if they ask me to come back i'm just going to say no thanks. have to just let nature take it's course either way!

Dlm - I think that sounds like a good scan though. The growth is the main thing at this stage

I think the 'fear' never leaves you from the moment you conceive. All those milestones: first trimester, second scan, birth, mobility, leaving them in childcare, school, 18, marriage.

I consider myself a mother from the moment of conception. It's in God's hands how long my children live - 3 weeks, 3 years, 30 years or 100. Sounds morbid, but it makes me more relaxed. I don't think living longer makes you more of a person. It's obviously just hard for people left behind.

actually kif i completely agree with that. i think grief tends to be a selfish thing - not a bad thing mind you - but for example when my grandma died recently my sisters were so upset and i said you have to realise she was in her 90's! and she wasn't herself anymore, she had a brilliant life and for her it was a release, so by all means be sad because you miss that person but don't be sad for them iykwim!

No scan today. Doc said it's little early and I don't have any "complaints" to warrant it. Just did the standard first visit stuff then out the door. May have messed up DD for life though...she thinks mommy got a shot in her bottom today (she was with me for the visit.) Then she got mad because she didn't get to see her baby brother or sister. She yelled in the office, "my baby's not in YOUR belly!!" Future visits will be without her .

MS back this morning. I asked for it and I got it. It was only mild but gave the warm and fuzzies reaffirming the pregnancy.

TS - shame you didn't get the scan but the Dr must think everything's OK - lol at your DS!!

I haven't told my boys yet, keeping quiet as long as possible!!

Deb

Sorry not getting on much. I'm still not feeling sick yet but with ds it didn't start till nearly 7 weeks so I'm just waiting for the day - a book I'm reading says it's worse 2nd time round I hope not I was off work for 2 months last time and cried everyday
Has anyone thought of having the nucal scan - I'm late 30's so will but mainly at the insistance of dh who is terrified of anything being wrong and is looking for reasurance.
Anyway hope everyone is ok and I'll check in as much as I can.

Morning all - now what is the point of having both exhaustion and insomnia??? Woke up at half past five and couldn't get back to sleep! I also have the joint aches, calebsmum, and itchy books too

Feeling really quite rough now - of course this is a good thing but does make everyday life difficult! Yesterday: intense morning at work, which I yawned my way through - nauseous till mid-morning than ravenous - enormous lunch then passed out in my chair for 10 mins sleep - intense afternoon, by end of which was feeling really knocked out - got home, got ds to bed, went to bed for an hour, got up, did washing up and nappy hanging up, went back to bed! Exciting life! I must be looking bad as my boss - usually completely unconcerned - keeps sticking his head in to the office just to see if I'm OK ...

On the scans, I'm with Kif and Rolf, it's reassuring for a moment but doesn't change anything. There is a new private scanning clinic here and I had wondered about having one but can't justify the ££ really for something which will make no difference to the outcome. Having said that, I am hoping to be booked in for a reasonably early dating scan - before which dp doesn't want us telling anyone - didn't have scan till 13 1/2 weeks with ds and it seemed to take forever to get there! sorry you had stress dlm but glad you're reassured now, everything I've heard says 5 weeks odd is normally too early for a heartbeat.

HI everyone

Supperwoman -we're considering the Nuchal test, or the triple test or both because I'm 38,but I don't really know if I want to know iyswim!! I think I'll see what the Dr says when I go.

Deb

Morning ladies,

I'm going to see the consultant today though if I'm intirley honest I'm not really sure why. I'm hoping that he will at least arrange a date for me to have my stitch put in andmaybe I can arrainge my dating scan too.

I feel like I'm in a really bad mood at the moment, I just feel so peed off all the time and I have no reason to be! I think it must be hormonal!

Hi ladies

Dose anyone else just feel soooooooooooooooooooooooooo PATHETIC

I can't stand it !!! ive got no energy, sore boobs,feel sick from the moment i get up till i go to bed and have gone off everything except cereal and orange flavour choclate!!!!!!!

I know that all of this is a good sign that the pregnacy is strong (had MC in march) but i spend all my time worring that something is wrong with the baby i never felt like this with my dd, so why do i feel that theres something wrong this time. its driving me mad !!!!!!!!!!!!

Are there any second timers who feel that there feeling are so diffrent this time around ??????

Im 7 wks +5 and don't see my midwife for another week. When i rang my doctor a 6 weeks to make an appointment they said that its all changed and thay don't see pregnant women any more and its all done through the MW i live in Cardiff but my previous pregnacy was on the Isle of Wight and they where amazing there so just wonderd if this was the norm ?? oh and my DD is 2.7

Sorry for the ramble but its the first time ive had the corage to post all thus.

sweetbean sorry you are feeling so crappy but as you said yourself it's a good sign that the hormones are doing their job. I've found every pregnancy to be different last time I felt really tired this time I feel a bit more tired than usual and more sick that last time though not a sick with dd1 when I had to sit on the street in regular intervals because I felt so rough!
I really loved my first pregnancy which I then miscarried at 20 weeks and every time I have been pregnant since then I haven't been able to relax and enjoy as I am so worried something will go wrong again and I'm sure most people who have mc'd feel the same.

Sweetbean I'm with you, when I'm feeling rough I feel pathetic and really worried that if this gets much worse I'm not going to be able to work or look after ds properly, and on the odd occasion I feel OK I just worry something's gone wrong ... and I didn't feel like this 1st time around, I just remember feeling a bit sick and a bit tired but nothing unmanageable. I keep telling myself it's only for a few weeks and is all a good sign but it is not easy to get through, especially with the hormones playing havoc with the emotions. Just keep posting - it helps to vent, especially to people who understand!

and I am in Lancashire and we have midwife-led care here for straightforward pregnancies, I don't see mw till week 9, so what you describes sounds normal to me.