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ChipsAreLife · 28/05/2020 21:58

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ShiningStarz · 02/06/2020 17:56

@Sep20baby I'm glad you had your 20 week check up. I didn't heartbeat at mine either. They do full check of the heart at that scan so try not to worry.
My consultant said I was carrying a small baby (1.5 lbs at 25 weeks!). I think we'll worry either way, why can't they just tell us out little one are measuring normal!! Measuring big may just mean if you carry full term they'll ensure your pelvis is big enough for natural birth. My sis in laws were all over 9lbs and therefore she was booked In for c sections! The midwives are supposed to be measuring bumps now. If you are worried I'd just keep ringing them until someone gives you an appt. the least they could is measure your bump xx

ShiningStarz · 02/06/2020 17:58

Omg @the child care comments!!! Hasn't even crossed my Mind🙈🙈

Thanks for book recommendations, keep them coming 💜

ShiningStarz · 02/06/2020 18:07

Natural baby shower have 20% off maxi cosi in June.. other offers too.

Sep20baby · 02/06/2020 18:25

Oh god I hope she isn’t a whopper ha ha! Funny thing is my bump Isn’t huge and only gained 4lbs on total so far thought I’d balloon. My clothes still fit although getting tight. It’s so hot not enjoying the heat need some loose maternity dresses. Ooooh I’m going to check our natural baby shower now and look for some bargains!!

Sep20baby · 02/06/2020 18:26

That’s crazy about the nursery places that’s not even crossed my mind but will now bare in mind to look a lot sooner for when I do have to return to work. Thanks!

ShiningStarz · 02/06/2020 18:39

@Sep20baby I can't believe your still in normal clothes!! I had to get maternity jeans by 12 weeks!! Loose dresses are all I'v been in with this hot weather!! H&M is fab! I was so bloated tho before I had a bump!! Sounds like your little one is getting all the nutrition he needs and is big and strong 💜

MooseWL · 02/06/2020 21:25

I've not bought any maternity clothes but been living in gym leggings and dresses whilst working from home. Did try my jeans on the other day and not a chance they were doing up 🙈 finally given in and ordered some maternity jeggings but I feel like I've saved lots on maternity clothes as I'm not going anywhere!

Did they tell you at your scans how your baby is measuring? How do they figure out the weight?

ShiningStarz · 02/06/2020 21:48

@MooseWL I got a few maternity clothes passed down to me. I did buy 2 pairs jeans, gym leggings and few T-shirt's. I wear the same thing for 3 days, bliss working from home, saves on laundry!!

When I got scanned the consultant took measurements and it automatically calculated the weight. Don't know how accurate it is tho. I read about fundal height measurement, there's some guidance online that says the measurement should equate to how many weeks gone. Might try that between appts!

Sep20baby · 03/06/2020 07:23

I’m living in leggings and maxi dresses too at the min, it is so much easier wfh as don’t need to worry. I will be ordering mat clothes this week though as need some better fitting things. So glad it’s cooler today been too hot for me!

Chanel05 · 03/06/2020 07:49

@Sep20baby that is such good going, I've been in maternity clothes for ages. I've gained a stone! Confused

Sara7455 · 03/06/2020 07:50

Thanks for the book recommendations everyone! And the childcare heads up, I’m taking a year off so hopefully not such a panic yet but sounds like I’ll be nosing around the nurseries with a newborn to get a place for next September!

I’m so glad lockdown has meant an excuse to save money on maternity stuff! I had to get a few things early on as I was so bloated by 12 weeks I needed the comfort but since then I’ve been in anything stretchy enough to fit (leading to some questionable choices if I was actually going anywhere!) my mum also lost a lot of weight in the last year so sent me a few of her bigger sizes of dresses etc which have been great in the heat! I’ve gained 2 stone already despite apparently measuring completely average in terms of bump and baby size so I might need some more clothes before I reach the end at this rate!

Sep20baby · 03/06/2020 08:18

@Chanel05 i wouldn’t worry about Your weight gain at all unless you’ve been told for health reasons. My bmi is 30 dead on so need to be careful not to gain too much that’s why I’m conscious. However hasn’t stopped me eating all the bad things! It’s harder working at home!! I did but some mat jeans early on in the sale but never worn them. Just leggings and baggy tops for me. Our office plan to open July so need to get some better clothes to wear for then.
Ps; forgot to mention re books yesterday I got “The best planner” after high reviews it’s really good and helped me xx

Sep20baby · 03/06/2020 08:19

I meant the book The Nest Planner by Rebecca Patterson. It has a red cover and is highly recommended to help organise and things to think about Smile

sianyflewog · 03/06/2020 08:43

For some reason, I am only getting the occasional notification and then it slips out of my mind and when I come back there’s pages and pages of threads to read! Hi! I have read through this morning (I’m feeling very rested as my little boy decided to have a lie in until just before 7 this morning - he’s usually creeping in to see me before 6:30!) so just going to randomly join in conversations that have maybe already finished 😂

RE: School returns, what did you all decide? My little boy is in the preschool class in his private nursery, and they’ve reopened now to any families where at least one parent is a key worker. Both my husband and I are although I’m home working, but I’ve decided to keep him home with me. The guidelines (which were sent to the nursery by Welsh Government) were just so sad that I couldn’t imagine sending him for him to be so restricted. It talked about taking some of the toys and activities away (sand, playdough, cookery, any toys and books which aren’t plastic wipe down) and designation to a bubble that they can’t mix outside of - it broke my heart for these babies who don’t fully understand (although I obviously completely understand and appreciate the guidelines in place). He has his very best friend in nursery, they’ve been together since Harry went to nursery at 14 months old, and there’s no way they won’t hug each other when they see each other, hold hands to walk between the buildings etc. - they’re both very tactile. No schools are open in Wales yet so fortunately we’re not in a position where we really need to decide outside of what we want to do.
On the subject of nursery and childcare, @emma278, I would say nursery is one of the best things for H. It’s so sad sending them initially, and we went through phases where he would cry going (although this happened more at about 18 months+ when he wanted to move up to the next room and they were waiting for space), but it’s made him super sociable, it bought on his speech so well through playing with older children, and it’s just helped me be really confident about his readiness for transition to state nursery in September. I miss him not going now 😂 You and your baby will be fine.
@ChipsAreLife I definitely saw a regression in H through lockdown too - night wakings, we even had to re-potty train as he was having more accidents. It must be so difficult with the change in routine, plus the uncertainty for them of what is happening in the household. He knows Mummy has a baby in her tummy, and I feel like he must be subconsciously a bit anxious about that (which gives the worst Mum guilt!). Any Mum’s been through this before with some words of wisdom on how to make him feel better?

@MooseWL @ShiningStarz I would love a new bathroom too! We’re hoping to move in the not too distant future though, so don’t want to put too much money in to the house. In my kitchen, I replaced the handles on the cupboards, bought a new blind, bin, kettle (after melting the cord on the old one!), placemats and we’ll have new light fittings once measures are further lifted and it looks like a new room! Certainly made me feel better about it - I’ve hated the kitchen a long time.

@ShiningStarz - I’ve heard great things about the Holly Willoughby books, which I may get for myself actually. My advice is actually not to read too much (especially on routines!) as it drove me nuts last time - I really was a little insane, so uptight about it all. H doesn’t have really high sleep demands, he slept so much less during the day as a newborn than my friends children, slept great at night, I was convinced there was something wrong with him because he didn’t do what the book said 😂 Have finally come to the realisation that baby’s haven’t read the book so take what they say with a pinch of salt. Sleep is still a mystery to me!

For those of you talking about cars, would your partner swap with you? My husband had a new car the August I fell pregnant with Harry, and although my car also had isofix fittings, we decided it was better for me to have the new car as it was a bit more reliable. We have car seats in both cars now, but I used the newer car all through maternity leave and even now if anyone has H for the day, they have the newer car (which has the better car seat and more room all round). We’ll probably do the same this time too.

I had my 24 week apppintment on Monday, face to face at the GP surgery. Funny how it’s so different in different health boards. She did my urine check, measured my fundal height (growth is perfect even though I look enormous!), and I heard baby’s heartbeat ❤️ Does anyone believe in heartbeats telling gender? My next appointment will be when I have my GTT, but we’ve been told all appointments from 28 weeks onward are definitely face to face as there is the duty of care. If you’re not happy @Sep20baby, ring your GP and ask to see the midwife.
What she did say to me was that I should continue to shield, and not return to work. It’s unlikely to be expected before August enrolment anyway, we’ve only got 4 weeks left until the staff Summer break - but she doesn’t think I should return in August either. I know someone else here works in an FE college and can’t remember who it was 🙈 (maybe @Roxy8203???) - I would be interested to know what your plans are? I am unsure whether to apply to start my maternity leave 2 weeks early, or whether they will allow me to work from home (though I don’t see what use I could be), or whether occupational health will put something in place for me... think I’m going to sit on it and see what happens generally!

@Lazydaisydaydream I’ve been thinking of you over the past few weeks. Hope you and baby are well!

Sorry for the essay ladies 😂

MooseWL · 03/06/2020 09:48

@sianyflewog my notifications are exactly the same!

There is no way my partner would swap his BMW for my 20 year old corolla he doesn't like me that much 😂 my car was due for mot in may but due to corona was given the 6 month extension and I wasn't very confident that it would pass! So I may end up getting a new one anyway I guess!
I like the look of the maxi cosi seats but trying to decide on getting a multi category one, or one that can be lifted out easily so can get baby in it in the house. I don't think I'll bother with one that attaches to a pram.
I bought a second hand ergo baby omni yesterday so plan on using that a lot rather than a pram if we go on walks etc.

MooseWL · 03/06/2020 09:51

@shiningstarz ooh that's good to know. Hopefully midwife will measure me at my next appt which is a couple of weeks away. My partner is very tall (6'8 🙈) and so are all his family so I have a feeling this baby isn't going to be small and the newborn stuff I bought will be too small. I can't imagine anything with his genes ever fitting in anything that small when I look at it haha

Sara7455 · 03/06/2020 10:09

@sianyflewog interesting to hear your experience on routines, last time I saw the midwife she said not to worry about a routine too much for tiny babies (older babies maybe and toddlers definitely). She said the tiny ones have no concept of a routine and basically to try to go with the flow of what they want/need as it’s better for their emotional development. I guess like you say they haven’t read the book

sianyflewog · 03/06/2020 11:05

@sara7455 It honestly drove me loopy! I like everything to be just right in my life, I tried to pre-empt everything because I never wanted H to cry. Fortunately, he has always been a really easy kid but I really read so much into everything to try and be the perfect mum (resulting in post-natal anxiety). Turns out you can’t actually be Mary Poppins with a baby 😂

Roxy8203 · 03/06/2020 11:07

@sianyflewog I've submitted my paperwork. I'm due wed 2nd sept and have applied to start leave the Saturday before. My manager keeps trying to make up jobs and reasons for me to go back but when I question it he says he just thought I'd like something different to do.....no I think I stay safe at home and sunbathe thanks.
So at the moment no idea if and when I'll be back. If I do go back i can give 28 days notice and change the date so there are options but as I'm not working from home I can't see a reason to start leave earlier than needed

sianyflewog · 03/06/2020 11:08

Ah I wish you could edit posts. Now I definitely think it’s better to let babies show you their natural routine - probably saves so much stress! H doesn’t nap anymore, but it fell so that he was napping and in bed at fairly consistent times. Now he is just in bed by 7 each day - give or take 30 minutes depending on the day and what time he woke up!

sianyflewog · 03/06/2020 11:10

@Roxy8203 Is it you that works in an FE college? 🤔

Roxy8203 · 03/06/2020 11:20

@sianyflewog no I work on the railway

sianyflewog · 03/06/2020 11:25

@Roxy8203 Ahhhh don’t blame you for not going back! Enjoy the sunbathing while you can - in the days it’s glorious sunshine here all I want to do is sit in the garden and read, but my 3 year old doesn’t 😂

ShiningStarz · 03/06/2020 11:42

Thanks @sianyflewog totally makes sense not to freak out about the text book routine thing!! I just want to do everything right! Prob every first mum says same thing!!! Until realisation hits 🤣🤣

Do you guys not have lots of leave to take. I'v barely taken any this year so need to take a month leave before my maternity leave starts. I'll be off from early aug!! Whoop

Roxy8203 · 03/06/2020 12:29

@ShiningStarz I've got 30 days to take but can carry them to next year so I'm tagging them in the end of my maternity to drag it out

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