Due May 2020 (thread 6)

[sao81]

6th thread already 😬😬😬 not long now

@november90 aww thank you for asking! He is actually on his way home from the hospital right now!!!! After nearly a month in there he's coming home! He's elated as are we. So if anyone is searching for some positives, an 84 year old with COPD beating it is against the odds! We are so so proud of him and all the amazing staff that have taken care of him. It's been the hardest month of my life but we are through the worst hopefully. He has a long way to go in terms of getting stronger but he's on the right path now xxx

@May2311 exactly, I’m really glad I did. The midwife said she’s had a lot of ladies too scared to come in for monitoring and a few of the babies have ended up poorly ☹️ I’m supposed to finish at 38 weeks, not sure what to do now though.

@Raindancer411 you described exactly what's happening to me. since 34 weeks. now i'm 35+4 - i can do a few things in the morning until midday then i literally ache on the bump- left side worse but also i'm feeling every kick inside my Vag* it takes my breath and makes me scream . my hubby and DD run saying " what's wrong what's wrong" 😞 i literally have to lie on my side to take the bump weight off - i'm assuming it's the ligaments stretching or the baby going lower into my pelvis! but my bump is still very high. i'm already on my side on the sofa now 😞frustrating cos my husband in meant to be working and my toddler wants to run around and go in the garden - i can't stand - i already took paracetamol! due 12 may- so next 4 weeks will tough .. i'm not unwell just uncomfortable 😒

@Facevalue yes I am due May 19th. I didn't really ache with my first so this is all new to me lol

Can I ask something which might be a bit out there?

Once baby is out of belly and in the big wide world, is it unreasonable for me to say no visitors for 3 months?
I'm just thinking, giving the current situation, the last thing I want is an influx of people picking him up and planting kisses on his cheeks.

Anyone thinking of doing the same?

@123Pandy this lockdown might last a while anyway, and even when it's lifted there is likely to be lots of social distancing measures still in place for a while - so I think it'll be very much understood that visitors are not a good idea.

@123Pandy don't worry - the lockdown is already planned for until September so unlikely u will get ANY visitors .... i wish i can have visitors - i'm so fed up with this isolation.

@facevalue lock down until September?! Whaaaattt???

@123Pandy I think you're well within your right to do whatever you want with your baby! Try not to let other people take over. They've had/will have their chance (hopefully if they want children!) so feel comfortable with your own decisions :)

@Purple29 so glad there's some progress! How is your little boy doing? Is he on medication or anything like that at all?

@november90 yep! all hospital clinics cancelled until sept so that's what they r anticipating!
so social distancing will continue until even after that! even if some shops open or can go to work - u won't get ppl visiting randomly in houses .. i wouldn't worry about visitors as the situation is unlikely to have been sorted any earlier than September sadly .

It hasn’t been announced that lockdown will last until September and many countries who have been hit hard are already starting to relax their rules slightly. Let’s just wait and see what the advice given is, things change everyday.

Thanks for the advice on the rockers/bouncers.... people seem to rave about the Babybjorn so I’m guessing it’s worth that hefty price tag! Need to get my head round spending £150 on one that isn’t all singing all dancing though 😂

@woollycat we have the Ikea poang rocking chair and it’s SO easy to assemble, done in a matter of minutes. I’m sure the original poang frame will be the same.

@sazzlerazzle thanks, I actually want the rocking version specifically as well.

@sazzlerazzle oh interesting - what countries are you talking about that relaxed the rules? china ( who are known to fake their statistics and hide their true death numbers- relaxing because they need to restart the economy rather than care about their population safety)? they had a lock down since jan-feb and it's mid april now so that's 3-4 months already - our lockdown started end march - add 4 months - that's already july ...

i appreciate it might be your hopeful thinking ( or my overly factual thinking) and trying to stay positive ... but it's a fact : hospitals cancelling all appointments / operations until September- that's an obvious realistic time frame - best to stay realistic. i assumed its easier to cope if u anticipate it in advance rather than have this false hope that the lockdown will end in 3 weeks! they already said schools won't reopen until September regardless of all the cancelled exams etc .. this is a serious international crisis not some love island gossip🧐

anyway, i'm watching " love wedding repeat" and it's so funny - i recommend it x

@CharlieB93 I haven't read past your message this morning saying about not wanting to go to the assessment unit as it's at the main hospital so I'm hoping others have already said this but you must must go if you feel movements are reduced.

I was in 3 times last week and honestly maternity (and the hospital in general) are so careful with the whole covid thing. But you must must get checked.

The doctor that saw me actually said she's spending most of her time telling mums to come up. Her exact words to me were : she'd rather see me 3 times in one day and everything be fine than I don't come up and something terrible happens.

So please (and this applies to everyone) if you have any concerns about your baby's movements or anything else please call the number you've been given xxx

@CharlieB93 I second @moonstone12 I've been up 4 times now over movements and am now being monitored until my induction because of it. The hospitals are alot quieter and they are taking extra precautions to keep you as safe as they possibly can! Xx

@CharlieB93 just seen that you went up :) I'm so pleased xxx sorry for my long post earlier. Personal reasons for it and I'm very passionate about getting checked even in these difficult times xx

I think with the whole corona situation everyone is handling the situation in different ways, I know logically it won't be back to normal for a long time but if I think about that too much I'll mentally drain myself, so I'm just taking each week as it comes and preparing for whats happening now. We are all in a shitty situation having to bring our babies into this madness but as long as we can manage in our own little ways to make things easier it will seem less scary - at least thats how I see it anyway!

Had another scan today and placenta/bloodflow is all okay, so all being well will have a few days away from hospital before my next monitoring on Wednesday. It seems so much more real now that I have a set date and the countdown is on!

@november90 no hes not on anything basically all he needs to do is feed and grow. So they have been trying to establish breastfeeding where he doesnt need tube feeds as top ups. Hes started taking top ups by bottle. So he will get weighed tomorrow and hopefully he will have gained weight and can get his feeding tube out then home x

I have to confess with the dreaded Coronavirus I’m just telling myself we will be back to normal soon. I just need to have that hope!

@CharlieB93 you 100% did the right thing! Better safe.

Congratulations to any arrivals btw

@facevalue well Spain for example have begun easing their rules. And no it isn’t fact, it’s an assumption that it will carry on until September. And maybe it will. But I don’t think declaring it as though it’s a hard fact is particularly helpful.

Yes I think this next 3 week lockdown was given and then it'll probably be a gradual relaxation following perhaps, but a good few months before we have our old normality back. I don't really want to see soft plays and schools reopen until it's safe as I would hate to experience this again! I just want to be able to go round to my sisters or take my son to the park or beach. I'm sure it won't be too long :)

Btw I totally forgot to say before @mrsf1204 I'm SO pleased you're grandad is recovering that's such amazing news and so inspirational! What a guy!

@Moonstone12 @sao81 thank you for that message, you are completely right. 💕 I hope everything is ok now moonstone. Like you say I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if something bad had happened.
Just to reiterate like you said, the hospital had took all the precautions, I barely saw anyone apart from the midwives and there was cleaners everywhere constantly sanitizing things. If anyone else is in the same position I would 100% say just go - it’s so important and not worth the risk!

@mrsf1204 what amazing news - much love to your grandad at this time. It gives hope that this virus isn’t the be all and end all 💕

@CharlieB93 I found the experience the same. Masks, aprons, gloves and saw literally no one apart from midwife and doctor. All very relaxing and calm too. An incredibly positive experience :)

@mrsf1204 I missed the post about your grandad too, I'm so glad hes doing well! Its nice to hear positives in all of this hopefully he will be fully fit soon xx

@facevalue

I agree with @sazzlerazzle, it's definitely not a given that things will continue in the same way until September. You can call it your "factual thinking" (though it sounds like pessimism to me), but here in the Czech Republic things are starting to be relaxed now. Some shops have reopened, and they're planning to allow more to open depending on how they can manage their customers, birth partners are allowed again, small weddings are permitted and other measures will be gradually rolled back over the next month or so. So there's definitely light at the end of the tunnel and I don't think it's "hopeful thinking" to think so.

@mrsf1204 that's really great news about your grandad. What a hero for getting through it