Due May 2020 (thread 5)

[sao81]

Carrying on from thread 4!

@mrsf1204 me putting the milk in the washer and dirty socks in the fridge approx an hour ago shows that you’re employer is a douchebag! 🙃😂

@november90, argh I can’t believe he’s just walked out like that with no real warning. The selfishness of it is hard to believe! You don’t msg stop caring about someone when you’ve been together so long but he’s treating you so terribly. I just can’t understand it 😣

Sorry that is meant to say *just stop caring

He's also told the nursery about the break up without even telling me he was going to do so. I text him a really heartfelt message today and I haven't had a response but his actions are obviously speaking louder then any words need too. :(

I know that I don’t know you and obviously I don’t know the full story of what you’ve been through together but.... I’m SO angry with him for doing this to you! It would appear he hasn’t at all considered your health and consequently the health of your baby by doing this and making these big statements like announcing it and taking his belongings. How does someone just walk away like that. I don’t understand.

@november90 I'm so sorry to read what you are going through. It's good you have your family close- remember to look after yourself and do not be blaming yourself!!! Xxxxx

The last 3-4 weeks I've been have days where I just feel "off"- can't really put my finger on what's wrong exactly I just don't feel right. Today has been the worse I've felt... just not really "with it" probably a bit spaced out! I pushed through finished work and then tonight I feel absolutely dreadful- totally fatigued. Now I know I'm not sleeping well ( literally I wake up at least every hour) but I do usually go back off once I switch positions so I don't think it can just be that. I am just a little worried thinking whether I should get checked out- but then as I don't have anything really "wrong" I don't even know what I would say to doc/midwife other than I feel off! 😂

I must sound so stupid!! Does anyone else get days like this? I am wondering if it's normal in pregnancy and just haven't realised with it being my first. I do see the midwife on Friday anyways but I'm home alone tonight as hubby is at the football and I'm now worrying whether I should be getting checked out as I feel so "off" ( it's the only word I feel I can use!)

@May2311
I have days like this too so your not alone
I feel like it today actually
I had hardly any sleep last night, my back kills me and the heartburn was horrendous so I was awake most of the night . It's had a knock on affect for me today and I've been in bed since 7 pm
It's weird coz like you say you don't feel unwell you just don't feel 100% yourself

It's likely just a pregnancy thing x

@november90 I'm so sorry that he is putting you through this at such a tough time both physically and mentally for you, please please try not to blame yourself. The way he has carried on is selfish, the fact he hasn't thought of the impact this can have on you or your kids, whether born or not. I hope you can start to heal in time and we are all here if you need us xx

So had my 20 week scan repeated yesterday, 22 weeks today! Still couldn't view everything but nothing abnormal detected. Growth scan at 30 weeks, but my partner has booked a 4D scan as a birthday present for me next month. I am sooo excited to have some time just seeing our little mans face!

@May2311 I have been struggling with fatigue alot lately, I have no problem napping of a day but I cant sleep of a night! Are you due an appointment soon? Any bloods due? I am low in iron so i put my fatigue.down to that, the painkillers and a toddler who refuses sleep 🤣

Hiya all I've not been around. Things have been extra stressful! First they suspected preeclampsia so I've had tests on tests for a couple weeks. t the moment they're saying it's not but that they need to keep an eye. Then our housing situation has become really unstable! Plus baby moves very sporadically and I'm stressy about it :( plus 100 other things!
Just hoping little one is nice and strong.
Hope you're all doing well? Sorry for the mini rant x

@mummyje20 hey you. sorry to hear you had a tough few weeks. how many weeks are you now? do you have other health issues to explain the high blood pressure or change in urine?! i'm 23+3 and although i get strong kicks it's still sporadic but i just say the baby didn't establish a pattern that's why it's sporadic - someone mentioned regular kicks from 28 weeks on.

what's the housing situation? are you renovating or was it a move? you should just get it off your chest as it's a supportive group and no one will judge- the thread moves so fast i have no idea what ppl have shared after 3 days sadly 🙄😰

@May2311 sorry about this- do you feel a physical type of off or mental health wise? a lot of the time it's underlying anxiety and just talking about things can ease it. i'm having the opposite issues- i've gone from nausea and fatigue half dead zombie in the first 3 months to hyper nesting doing 1000 tasks per day - i rearranged 3 out of 5 rooms. i cleared some ( 2 years worth) of random clutter... can't switch my brain off - with shit memory and baby brain with it all. i can't stop sorting shit out and my hubby is getting irritated because i'm kind of expecting him to keep up while he's feeling generally shattered.

@november90 how old is this guy if u don't mind me asking? he sounds so very immature like what a 20 year old would do after a girlfriend confrontation ... it's pathetic that he has started calling it " break up" when it's just a separation ! please can i advise you to book a free consultation with a divorce lawyer asap- i suspect he already did and his actions are worrying - no idea if u or he have any wealth behind it - trust me don't wait until he empties accounts and spends funds- moving out means he's changing his postal address so u will have no idea what is happening from now on. informing nursery!!!! omg how obnoxious ( unless he's bipolar and genuinely having a mental breakdown or planning to commit suicide or something). are you sure there were no fights? did u beat him? was there infidelity or something big??? it's not making any sense! what did your parents say? do they think he's a lovely man that just lost his mind?! did u force him to marry you?!

i don't get it at all

I'm here waiting for the glucose tolerance test. It's going to be a long 2 and a half hours!

@mrsf1204 baby brain is definitely a thing! We were playing a game at Christmas and had to think of a tree beginning with P... My tree? Spruce

@november90 it must be so hard when it's come out of the blue keep putting one foot in front of the other

@AlmostAlwyn good luck with the test this morning. I have gd and there is a support thread on here if you/anyone needs it. At least they've got you in first thing so it'll be over as quickly as possible.

I'm still in bed! concentrating on not moving as I've thrown up first thing every morning for the last 9 days in a row, I'm hoping for a morning off today.

Thanks everyone! It's a relief to know others are feeling like this as well. I can't say I slept well but relieved I'm working from home today so I'll work with my feet up and take it easy.

@mintbear good luck with no sickness today!!

Hope everyone has a nice day. Xxx

@mintbear thanks! Second blood draw shortly!

Hope you managed to hold the sickness off

@May2311, I can relate. I also feel a bit ‘off’ sometimes. I went out with my husband for dinner at the weekend and spent ages making my face up and trying to make myself feel attractive. Then I started trying outfits on and just ended up in tears because nothing seemed to fit or look nice. I know it’s completely ridiculous, I’m nearly 6 months pregnant now so of course my pre-pregnancy clothes don’t fit but I still find myself getting upset at my expanding body. I also find things just set me off - I’ll be feeling fine and then something little happens and I just burst into tears. I’m putting it all down to hormones!

Just catching up...
@november90 Your situation sounds super difficult and stressful but it seems to me you are a very strong lady. He sounds really cold and emotionally switched off- is this a usual feature of his personality.

@mrsf1204 I went to aqua natel yesterday and when I got out of the pool I realised I didn't have a towel. Totally baby brain moment. I'm usually so organised. Luckily I had a big scarf with me

@sao81 Some friends of mine had 4d scan and loved it. Said they could literally see which parent the baby looked like before she was born.

@May2311 I was having 'off days' emotionally and physically. Mentioned it in passing to GP and she ran some blood tests. Showed I'm anemic. Not sure if that's the cause but it's worth getting checked if it continues.

@mummyje20 Sorry you are havjng a rough time

@AlmostAlwyn good luck with tests.

Thanks for all the support ladies, it's really ment a lot to me. He's fully moved out now. The only thing he left was a T-shirt which had a picture of me and our son on. I feel like that was just really spiteful. If he didn't want it he should've just thrown it. Him moving his things out and telling nursery without telling me just makes me feel like he is 1000% done with me. He did respond to my message yesterday so trying to not live in false hope :(

I've got my GD test in a Couple weeks! I'm dreading the morning fast as I normally get so hungry in the mornings! I hope everything goes well today @AlmostAlwyn

**he didn't respond

I just want to say how out of character this is. I feel like I don't even know this person at all :(

All done. Just 3 and a half hours later! Fingers crossed for a good result

Hi, hope you don't mind me joining so late in the game. I am due 19th May with my 2nd. DS1 turned 2 on the weekend so it has been all go and i am exhausted. I have recently returned to work after a bout of LTS for stress so I am having to adjust to 6 am starts again which isn't helping.

Nice to see I am not alone with the sleeping and eating issues. My DS is not a good sleeper so I am often up 4/5 times a night with him, the added need to pee and never being comfy is really not helping!

I am also due 19th :)

I'm also the 19th!!

I'm one day behind on the 20th!
Just catching up on the thread now. I don't know how you guys who already have babies/children do it.
I'm struggling to look after myself leave alone any one else!