Due May 2020 (thread 5)

[sao81]

Carrying on from thread 4!

Hi everyone,
I was on the first thread then got completely lost and forgot what website I had posted on... Baby brain.
I'm now 27 weeks today with a little boy who's his daddy's double and my pregnancy hasn't been the best, hypermesis, renal colic with some lovely kidney stones with 2 admissions, severe spd and now I'm just back from seeing a cardiologist as my heart is going way too fast and he is concerned. I had to have an ecg and echo today and with the results of both the consultant has fitted me with a 24hr heart monitor.
I'm absolutely terrified if I'm being honest and I was already a high risk pregnancy before all these complications came along.
I'm still trying to be really positive about this pregnancy as this is my 7th pregnancy but 1st to go this far but after today, I'm scared.
Sorry for my out pouring when I haven't been on this thread since the 1st thread but I'm soo glad I found it again.
I hope everyone is doing as well as can be.
xxx

@Pastnowfuture Ive been feeling similar, I keep feeling really guilty because I don't feel like my little girl will be ready to share me, keep thinking I've done this too soon, keep worrying that something is going to happen or I'll end up with PND again. I'd just say if you can to speak to someone about how you are feeling, whether it be family, friends, your midwife or even all of us! Sometimes you need to just get it all off your chest and know you aren't being irrational!
@rainbowsX I'm bad enough with SPD so god knows how you must be feeling😥 alot easier said than done, try to get rest whenever you can and take all of the doctors advice. I hope you get some answers soon xxx

Got about 90 minutes to stuff my face before I begin fasting for my GTT tomorrow, but feeling really sick off these antibiotics so don't know how I'm going to manage not having my midnight belvita biscuits 🙈 cannot wait for 11am tomorrow so I can stuff my face!

@facevalue I think it’s great you’ve been honest with him and yourself too, you mustn’t feel bad about that. It sounds like you’ve had lots of conversations about this previously so it’s not like you’re dropping a huge bombshell. Maybe the separation is exactly what you both need to get some perspective on what you want and need going forward.

@RainbowsX I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time. The great news is that you’ve got through 27 weeks and that’s really significant. You’re a fighter and it sounds like baby is too! Also good that things are being picked up and addressed by your doctor/midwife so they can keep an eye on things. I know it’s easy for me to say but try not to worry and wait and see what the results are from the monitoring. And we’re always here to chat to, glad you found us again!

@Pastnowfuture I’m also 30 weeks and can definitely relate to what you’re saying (although I don’t have the house stress and I really feel for you 😣) Because it’s getting close, my mind is constantly racing with things that need to be done, how we’ll cope, am I good enough to do this etc. It’s at night time that these thoughts come to me the most. I’m coping by telling myself it’s normal to feel this way, most of my friends have kids and have said they went through the same worries. I’m trying to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel and meeting my little boy/girl at the end of it all. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed sometimes, do you have anyone you can talk to about it apart from us?

@sao81 @Sunshine8888 😿😿😿thanks ladies- i feel so so bad for him- like i'm betraying the marriage 😭

@sazzlerazzle 😘 thanks

With you on the constant thinking and worrying ladies!! my baby is so active now at 29+3 and my ribs and tummy are starting to feel really bruised whenever she moves, it actually feels like bone grinding on bone in my ribcage which makes me feel a bit sick 🤢 I absolutely love knowing she’s ok but it’s just getting so uncomfortable and I’m worrying how much worse is it going to get over the next 10 weeks. Eek

@RainbowsX I have just had a 24hr monitor and told they my heart is going fast (always told this but no one seems to worry). They said although it's going fast and I am having palpations, it's regular and they don't think it will be an issue in delivery. I have got to go back at 34 weeks as they are getting the cardiologist to compare my previous non present monitor results with these latest pregnancy once to make sure they aren't missing anything.

@Sunshine8888 the rib pain is so real isn't it? Also get really bad sciatica towards the end of the day which means my walk automatically turns into a waddle anytime after 6pm 😂
@facevalue sorry to hear you are going a tough time. You need to go with your gut and do what you feel is right for you xx
@Pastnowfuture definitely feeling overwhelmed also especially as it's the first! Just taking it one week at a time and hoping it all falls into place

@Pastnowfuture oh babe sorry i just read your post above. we r getting our bathrooms done starting 2 march for 3 weeks - also have my birthday / hubby birthday and MIL birthday and truly feels like a burden not celebrations. it's my second baby so i have learned a few things first time:

1. you will survive and u can do this
2. fear is normal- it's essential to help u look after baby ( natural)
3. plan things : join NCT group so u will definitely have local mums who r off with u and going through all the shit together
4. your hubby will go back to work so that's normal cos u want money!
5. while husband works u can be a yummy mummy / you book babysensory classes/ gymboree/ baby massage/ mummy and baby yoga/ get the MUSH app on your phone to join local mums when they meet/ lots of mum and baby activities.
6. if u can't afford any classes just call your local church and ask them what they have for new mums and babies/ libraries do storytime and it's free.
7. baby needs to be cool - always only one layer more than you ( so if u wear a t-shirt then baby needs a vest and t shirt). i switched off the babyroom radiator and bought oil heater controlled with thermostat keep it at 19 degrees- u buy that growegg ( electric thermostat for baby room and it will tell you the room is too cold or too hot etc).

finances: make a list/ outgoings/ then can ask work to pay you equal amount over the whole mat leave ( add the total then device by months u plan to be off) then u have a steady income. the chaos : just day dream about what the end will be- have one room fully chaos free ( have your comfy seat and tv a lovely plant some books and listen to music). download mindfulness apps to relax you. whatever stress u think u r under it is nothing compared to the mums in war zones or deprived countries ( be realistic u r probably in better place than 50% of population on earth).

i hope the above helps you xxxx hugs

@RainbowsX oh so sorry to hear about the stress from tests. as you said you are 27 weeks so the baby is viable and can survive if they deliver you anytime from now on ( we r lucky the NHS is free all the support baby might need is free and is very advanced). it is scary to have tests so it is ok that u have fear. talk about things with partner friends and family - a problem shared is halved xxx fingers crossed all goes well

Oh my gosh I cannot believe how much this little guy has been jiggling about recently! I feel like there's always a limb moving under my belly button and around the top. I forgot how special this felt. It's so nice knowing that I've always got this little buddy with me wherever I go ❤️

@november90 - same here, im not sure if its a foot or elbow but a sharp jab with it staying pushed out for a minute is now becoming regular.

Has anyone here had the experience of bottle feeding outside the Uk? I am aiming to breastfeed, but would like the option of Dh giving a bottle once per day eventually. Anyway, having researched, advice in the UK seems very different from here and elsewhere in the world in this regards.
Ie I have been looking up making formula incase needed, UK 70 degrees to kill formula germs blah blah. But here (western Europe), all the big brands like HIPP, Aptimal all say online and on boxes 40-50 degrees. But they are the same product?!

Also sterilising, the NHS says 100% sterilise before 12 months or your child might turn into the Hulk basically, but here spoke to the midwife and she had no idea what I was talking about and says its not done. Local friends also thought it was bonkers and just said ' wash them'.
I'm slightly lost whether I should be aiming for the UK guidelines, or sticking with the local ones.

We would be using max one bottle per day if all goes well, so would just washing that well with hot soapy water, then rinsing with boiled hot water be sufficient?

@caspianberg NHS usually follow WHO guidelines, if you google WHO guidelines bottle feeding there is a PDF leaflet you can look at that explains it all xx

Thank you everyone. It's so helpful to hear that others feel the same. My OH is very reassuring but when he says 'it will all be okay' I just think 'how' or 'it might not'. Friends are great too but no one is pregnant now or even recently and it feels like perhaps they can't remember exactly how intense and overwhelming these thoughts can be.

GTT done, I was expecting it to be alot worse, but abit concerned that I dont feel that awful afterwards, as last time I was really ill. Maybe I needed that glucose 🤣🤣

I have started feeling a lot of discomfort qhile walking / standing. There isn't any pain per se, but my bump gets really tight and it's just uncomfortable to walk. Will be 27 weeks tomorrow. Is this normal or shall I contact midwife? It's just really hard to describe it!

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@Woollycat I am 27 weeks and the top of my bump aches a lot. I think it's just the muscles as they are stretching but it does limit my walking and how I lay to get comfy at night. I don't see my midwife until next week and will mention it but am sure it's just part of the process.

Hi I'm due may and I think I may be going it alone - be nice to share with people who will not moan about me whinging about pregnancy 🤣

Are anyone else's hips just agony?

@woollycat I've been having the same tight feeling!
Is it Braxton hicks?

I feel like I’m having it easy compared to some of you. Sorry some are having it so rough.

I’m a bit stressed about declining a glucose test though. I don’t drive and it’s 30 mins away not public transport would get me there on time and I don’t have £50 for a cab to burn. Also my toddler doesn’t start day care until 9 so there is just no way I’d make it. Feel a bit upset about being pressured into it. The only reason is a family member developed diabetes in his mid sixties but he had the worst diet imagineable.

@123Pandy so I had this tightening from around 16-18 weeks which would last 10-20 seconds each time and I knew it was Braxton Hicks. But now as of this week it has just turned into permanent tightness - that doesn't fit the BH description. Will mention it to midwife in a week in my 28w appointment but maybe I should also give them a call for peace of mind.

@GinUnicorn you could ask if you could monitor your blood sugars for a week at home by doing a finger prick testing rather than the fasting blood test, this might be a solution for you x

For those who have mentioned it my tummy constantly feels really hard and heavy/tight. Particularly towards the end of the day. If I press it at the top it will be quite soar. I'm not overly worried about it... I remember last time having a really hard tummy.
The baby wriggles a lot so I think it must be because of that!