Due May 2020 (thread 5)

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Carrying on from thread 4!

Is anyone here using a fitness tracking device such as Fitbit? I have been using a Fitbit for a few years now and my resting HR has always been around 60, max 65, but since pregnancy it has been steadily climbing up and now it's 81. There is surprisingly little information on this on the internet, I guess fitness trackers aren't as mainstream and the health professionals haven't caught up with them yet. Anyone else noticing a similar climb in HR?

@woollycat it's normal for your heart rate to go up slightly- 60-100 bpm is normal x try not worry

@May2311 I’m the same as you, also finish in 7 weeks (but I’ll be 36 weeks) using annual leave first and then starting maternity at 38 weeks. I’m also on the countdown!! Although not sure what’s happening with all my files as no one has thought to discuss any sort of plan about my absence with me 😂 totally useless

Soo I now know why I've felt so rotten. Very nearly ended up on an IV drip on a ward last night, UTI gone wrong. Luckily been able to come home on oral antibiotics and see how things pan out over the next couple of days, which leads me to ask, has anyone ever been prescribed cefalexin? I've only took 2 so far and theyre causing havoc with my stomach 😥

Of you working ladies, when is everybody else starting mat leave? I'm a ft teacher and planning to leave at 38 weeks for the nine months (money tight, third baby!) 😊

I'm 25 weeks currently and it's soooooooooooo good to be on half-term!

@rainminusbow I finish for annual leave on 2nd April, mat leave starts 20th April, but im currently signed off so not sure if I'm actually going to be back in or not🙈 I'm 26 weeks tomorrow, its exhausting isnt it!

My Maternity leave officially starts in just over 2 weeks time! Here we have to take as minimum 8 weeks leave before due date (and 8 weeks after minimum). So with my official due date listed as 2nd May, its the latest I can work.
However, I also run our own b and b type business with Dh alongside, so daily general running and maintenance will still continue as we have guests booked until early April.

I’m planning to work until 38/39 weeks if I can. I want to take a years leave with the baby so figured push myself now to get more tine.

@sunshine8888 ahhh I so hope it goes quick for us!🙊 i could really do with some motivation to get me through the next few weeks!! Xx

@Rainminusbow I am planning to work up till 38 weeks too. For safety reasons I've been moved from my normal job to office based work. Work have been really good!! So figure since I'm near the hospital and my house I'd work as long as I could. Have actually considered adding a week on and going till 39!! But will see!

I'm on annual leave from 9th of April and my mat leave starts 2 weeks later!
I've reduced my hours down to 2 days a week starting next week though (using up my annual leave!). It's going so quickly all of a sudden!

I am working up until 38 weeks is my plan so I'll finish on the 15th of April . 1 week will be annual leave and then maternity will start
The rest of my annual leave for the year I will get paid in December which will be nice near Xmas ! I work with disabled adults so it's a very on the go job. Hopefully I'll be ok to last until then ! X

I think I'll probably work till week 35. Was going to work up until week 38 but I think the bump will get in the way! Plus I've already started to have rib pain so don't think I'll last till week 38! 🙈

@123Pandy, I really suffer with rib pain too, the baby kicks me there a lot! Work have finally got me a back support for my chair which helps a bit with the backache but it is getting really hard to sit at my desk all day. Roll on 3rd April

My plan is to work until week 38/39 but who knows how fed up I'll be with everything by then 😅 so I might stop earlier if I feel like it.

@woollycat yep ! that's my plan too.. i want more time at the other side of maternity and so far i've felt ok. fingers crossed we make it that far.

on a less positive note- i'm considering leaving my husband 😑 i will probably regret it but can't think of another way forward- will see if he has anything to offer/ suggest but i doubt it.

I’m planning to take the max amount of time possible (if we can afford it) plus I’ll accrue 35 days when I’m off so could have more than a year 🤞🏻

@facevalue, I’m sorry to hear that ☹️ I know you’ve mentioned before that things aren’t great. Thinking of you x

@Sunshine8888 thanks babe. tbf to the man he's perfect ( kind, considerate, generous with money and gifts, excellent dad, handsome, perfect friend) - just zero intimacy - says not gay, no affair, still loves me blah blah but nothing changing so i have asked him to plan for a separation as nothing has changed. i feel like a really bad person- lots of married ppl have no sex but i don't seem to be able to be ok with that!

feeling like a bad selfish woman and mum

@facevalue I’m sorry to hear you are going through that. I don’t think you are a bad person at all. Happy mum happy baby in my experience and resentful unhappy parents is toxic for all. (Reminds me of my childhood)

It sounds like a really brave decision so wish you all the best.

@facevalue you're not selfish for acknowledging there's something wrong in your relationship, you're being really mature. I think a separation first is a really proactive way of helping you both understand if that's what you want permanently. The last thing you want to do is put your feelings in a box and then let them explode to the point where you can't return. I hope you're ok lovely, as ok as you can be in these times ❤️

@GinUnicorn @november90 thank you both for being kind and not judging me- i judge myself all the time. i wish i can be happy with the current situation- maybe there's no pleasing me. i think leaving him might be good for him as well then he won't have to live with me just for the kids. he deserves to be with someone happy to be with him.

@facevalue, a woman needs to feel wanted and desired. If you lack that, you’re just in a comfortable friendship relationship really. It wouldn’t be enough for a lot of people so please don’t feel guilty or like a bad person x

@facevalue I think you should do what is best for you and your feelings, you don't want to spend years unhappy and just plodding along as its no good for anyone involved. Good luck xxx

Hi everyone. I haven't posted for a while but have kept up to date with the thread.

I just wondered if anyone else is feeling completely overwhelmed at this stage. I'm 30 weeks (due date moved to 27th April) and I'm very tired/highly emotional.

Our house is in chaos with builders who are running behind so I feel like I can't get anything sorted. Various things keep me awake at night and lead to regular tears- how will I cope when OH goes back to work after paternity, will my dog feel pushed out, finances, I don't know what a baby needs to wear to keep them the right temperature. My mind is constantly going at a million miles and never stops.

Obviously as a result I then panic I'm causing my little guy harm by exposing him to so many stress hormones.

Has anyone felt similar or does anyone have strategies to help?