Anyone due August 2020 pt II

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Hi all

Just thought I would get this set up so that we had somewhere to go at the end. Will link to it in the old thread. Can’t believe we reached the limit so soon!!!

Haven't used ice tho!

Thank you so much for your replies @Feelthefear01 @Macbless 💕 glad to hear that you’re more comfortable now, it’s horrible! I bought some Anusol in the end and the relief was almost immediate. My partner went to get it so he has been asking for 1 million favours in return for the embarrassment of getting “bum cream”. The things us pregnant women go through!

I’m so sorry to hear about partners not being allowed accompany to the scans. ☹️ Mine is on Tuesday 7th April so I’m guessing my partner won’t be allowed as things will probably be even worse by then. If possible, we will try to book a private scan for around 30 weeks so hopefully he won’t feel like he has missed out. I’m praying that by August things will have calmed down. I keep panicking about having to give birth in my own. Sorry to be negative but it’s terrifying me!

We had a holiday booked for May and I’d rather reschedule than get a refund to support the travel industry a bit. Looking hopefully into the future, anyone got any experience of travelling with a young baby? 😄 I have no idea if I’m being naive and it’s a terrible idea! Xx

Ok so just back from our 20 week scan. Baby all well which is the main thing. Husband came with me and got all the way to the waiting room and it was only then he was turned away. We didn't receive an advanced notice call from the maternity team/sonographers. I'm based in North London if that helps (Chase Farm Hospital).

When I got in there I asked if I could FaceTime him or video and they said no as it is a diagnostic test. That was when I had a little cry (gonna blame pregnancy hormones). I think she felt sorry for me so towards the end she asked the nurse in there who was taking measurements to pass me my phone so I could take pictures.

So if and when they let you do this, do a quick switch to video! I got a couple of clips 5-10 seconds long which he was pleased about (and of course we wouldn't have got that to keep under the normal circumstances). I'm not sure that they are printing photos for expectant mums at the moment so just be prepared for that and make sure your battery is fully charged!

Finally this scan really is as they say, diagnostic. There wasn't much in the way of things to see, other than the couple of snaps they let me take at the end. So I don't think my hubby really missed out on all that much. Plus, like you say, we can get a private scan done at a later date when hopefully things are more relaxed. Will be cool to get a 4d one done too.

Anyway, we decided to find out the sex given all the doom and gloom at the moment and we are having a girl - absolutely delighted and will give us some planning now for decorating the nursery, buy clothes and choosing a name.

Also, my friend is due at the end of May and I believe you are still allowed a birthing partner under the current circumstances m, but just the one.

Hope this helps!

Thanks for the info @StephD2020, glad your scan went well 💕 You have a great attitude towards it all. You’re right that the scan is purely diagnostic and not for entertainment. I hadn’t really thought of it that way. If a private scan is an option then it’s well worth it as you aren’t rushed and it’s all about seeing the baby 💕 Our NHS scans have always been very clinical (as they should be) but private has been well worth the money for the experience.

Congratulations on finding out you’re having a girl 🥳 xx

I have just received the latest visiting guidance for my hospital and it clearly states from yesterday that ONE guest can accompany women to the 12, 20 and fetal growth scans - all others scans or appointments are no guests.

I'm so happy, just praying it lasts a week till my scan and they don't tighten restrictions more!

Thanks @Fig20 we are delighted to be having a pink one! And it's been nice going through girls names this week - has given us something to look forward too!

We have friends who are 9 weeks in front of us in their pregnancy, also with a girl. Just hoping they don't end up picking our name! 😱🤞🏻

@Murree I'll keep 🤞🏻that your hubby can go to the scan but I'd definitely say don't worry if they change their mind on you at the door, I'm sure they'll let you take a pic or two and we are going to get a 4D scan done now so he can experience the second scan like other dads - there's always a solution!

We had our baby bedroom furniture delivered yesterday. The company have been amazing, such a personal service. They are Obaby and they are running business as usual as they have admin staff working from home and the warehouse staff are able to work completely separately. I would thoroughly recommend them if anyone is thinking about bringing forward their orders! We are going to tackle some of the other lists today, starting with the next to me crib and hospital bag - exciting times!!

Hope you are all doing well at the moment xx

@StephD2020 the hospitalchanged the restrictions again last night, from monday I have to go alone so we just missed out.
It's ok though, I had already come to terms that I may be having my scan alone!

Ah @Murree that's a shame, sorry you just missed out. Like I say though it was really clinical and I spent most of the time looking at the blobs on the screen waiting for her to tell me what they were! 🤣 Keep your phone in your hand when you get on the bed and hopefully they will let you take snaps so you can take a sneaky video or two like I did! And most importantly 🤞🏻your little bean is doing well and there are no issues xxx

I hope you’re all doing well. Any new news? We are just learning our new routine at home with our two girls (3 & 5). It’s tricky but hopefully getting into a good groove soon.

Is anyone having their baby at C&W hospital London? Any updates on changes in scans or new regulations? I’ve looked online but not seen anything. I’m gutted because wanted to take my girls to the 20 week scan so they could glimpse baby in a “real” way, but I know that isn’t possible now. Changing times ...

Stay safe and healthy ladies ... 💐💐💐💐💐💐

@MrsAmelia at my local hospital you are only allowed one person in with you (even under normal circumstances). They are very strict that no children are allowed into the scan rooms so that the sonographer can fully concentrate on the scan. I saw a couple last time who went for their 20 week scan and their young boy had to wait outside. I wouldn’t be surprised if this was the policy everywhere. Private scans are much more lenient with this I think as it’s more for entertainment than diagnostics 😊

@Fig20 - thanks for this. Makes sense. I’d not attempted it with my first daughter when pregnant with our second so unbeknownst to me 🤷‍♀️ Thank you 😊
We will just have to schedule a private scan if we can find an open & operating private clinic in a few weeks. 🤞🏻

No worries 💕 it’s a lovely idea! I’m sure your little ones will find it fascinating 😊 the private place near us are not doing gender or 4D at the moment but they are doing reassurance and anomaly scans. We are hoping that by 28-30 weeks things will have calmed down so we can go for a 4D scan so my partner doesn’t feel like he’s missed out. Hopefully our baby will look less creepy then as well 😄 Stay safe 💕

@MrsAmelia I'm at C&W, so pleased someone else is at the same hospital :)
I had my scan about 10 days ago (before the real lock down) and hubby was allowed in but they've probably changed the rules now?
I have a feeling I may have read somewhere, the website or my appointment letter, that children aren't allowed at the appointment but I don't have kids so it wasn't something I would have taken much notice of. Perhaps best to give them a call.

@EL1984 - Thank you for this! 😊 When is your due date? I’ve had my other two at C&W and have been so happy with their professionalism. The aftercare last time was less than desirable but they were overly full and the bookable private rooms were closed for renovation so staff were mega mega stretched. I had an emergency c-section after a failed inducement for my first and then an elective section for my second. Both procedures (& recovery) were very very well handled. I can’t fault the midwives or consultants at C&W. If this is your first - you’ve chosen a good hospital (IMO). 💗💗

So, looking for a bit of advice this morning ladies. I've tried to get in touch with my midwife 3 times since I've been pregnant - the first two were phone calls where I left a voicemail asking her to call me back and the third was a text message. I've definitely got the right number as it was her on the answerphone message. However, she has never returned my calls/message. Is this normal? I've only met her the once in my whole pregnancy (I'm 22 weeks today) so kind of starting to wonder what the point of her is?

I know they will all be busy right now but I would have at least expected a call/text back. AIBU? X

@StephD2020 YANBU at all... do you have the number for the community midwives office at your hospital? If not the ante natal reception... maybe they can get someone to call you or put you through?

Yea I do have the number but it's an admin line so only open mon - fri. I'll try and call this week but they tend to close before I finish work (I'm lecturing online at the moment so can't just make a call when I need to which is annoying) so I'll see how I get on!

Not really urgent, just no idea with what is happening with my appointments going forward. Has anyone else already got their 25 week appt booked?

@MrsAmelia thanks for the reassurance!! I'm due 3rd Aug.
I've also heard from dr friend they have a very good NICU (hopefully not needed!).
I need to decide whether to go labour ward or MWLU, I think they're renovating the labour ward at the moment and tours have obviously stopped because of the virus.
Will you have a CSec this time round too?

I've head the wards after are pretty terrible everywhere, I've already primed my husband to push for a private room as soon as he can

Has anyone else thought about cancelling appointments due to the Coronavirus threats?
I’m so scared of going I have my 20w scan on weds (21+1) and am terrified

I wouldn't cancel your appointments. They are really important! Hospitals are going to great lengths to protect mums during this time and the risk of catching Covid is minimal and far outweighed by the benefit of having the scan.

I have just been signed off work for a month due to panic attacks, I'm so relieved that I can start to minimise my exposure and protect my baby now.

We just had our 20 week scan today. Partner was allowed in (we're at Kings in London). You had to answer some questions and sanitise on arrival but otherwise everything felt very normal and it actually was nice to just do something with no further mention of the C word.
If you look around you can see frequent cleaning and the staff are all wearing masks / gloves and washing hands but you'd hope they'd be doing that normally.

Hello ladies!

We had our 20 week scan today. We were asked to sanitise hands on arrival and asked some health questions but then it was like normal. My partner was allowed in but only one person is allowed to come with you and no children are allowed at all.

Everything looking healthy and we were pleased to hear that we’re having a baby girl 👧🏼 💓

Hopefully we can start to get excited now and do some more planning. Trying to stay positive and calm to keep baby safe

@MaisieMolly Ah we also found out we're having a girl (which was a bit of a surprise as at 12 weeks they thought it was a boy!) Time to start thinking about some names!

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and have to go on my own. I get so anxious with scans and just feel like not attending, but know I have to.

@feelthefear01 I had my 20w scan today and was dreading going alone as partner wasn't allowed, but it was totally fine. The sonographer was lovely and totally put me at ease. I think all the staff are really aware that it's hard to be on your own and they were really making an effort.

I was very sad for my DH as i loved watching the baby on screen and felt he was missing out, but she printed off 4 pictures for us and he was more bothered to know all was well with the baby.

Originally we were going to keep the sex a surprise but we decided to find out - super pleased that we're having a little girl