BFP! August/September 2020 Babies!

[Beth804]

Hi, just found out after a long time trying! Haven't really told anyone yet so thought some ladies in the same position might want somewhere to share symptoms/stories/worries. Doesn't feel real yet and that 12 week scan seems a loooooong way off!! 😂

Hi newbies 🤗
@martina2311 hello! Yes I had a mmc in July and only just conceived again afterwards. We found at 12 week scan that baby hadn't from past 7 weeks. So sad and part of the reason why I'm so scared this time. Have booked an early scan for 8 weeks this time.
We are going to tell family at Christmas, mainly just because they will guess if I'm not drinking and after the mmc we also know we would want their support if something did go wrong again and want to share the joy while we can 😊 I told dh straight away though I was so happy after so long!
So tonight we are hosting an Xmas party for all my friends... wish me luck! Luckily as it is our house I have hidden some alcohol free beer and then can just have tonic and lime after that. I know this time round that people aren't have as observant as you think they are! I'm just worried I'm going to be tired early!!

Just found out I'm pregnant yesterday. I had a blighted ovum and miscarried at 12-13 weeks in 2013 an ex-boyfriend. My husband and I have been together for awhile now, and in 2018 we decided to try. 3...4... months, and no results. Then we chickened out, and stopped trying.

This past month we decided to try again and got pregnant the first time around. Sometimes I think that the timing has to be just right for the little baby. My first pregnancy was with an ex, and we broke up soon after I miscarried... I guess it wasn't meant to happen. When my husband and I were trying previously, we were in a foreign country living for awhile. If I got pregnant then, it would have been really difficult emotionally.... guess I got lucky again it didn't happen. My current position is perfect for a kid, and it happened right away! Strange...

I'm due late August (29th or so).

Congrats to everyone who received a positive as well! Good luck, you'll get there, to the others. Trust that it'll happen when it's time.

Hi everyone,
Can I join in? My calculations put me at 7 weeks exactly today with an EDD of 11th August! This is our first pregnancy but I'm away till after the new year so first appointment is not till mid Jan when I will be 10 and a half weeks.
I'm feeling anxious, nervous and excited all at the same time.
Struggling to keep it a secret and finding it hard at this time of year....I could murder a glass of wine lol. Not worth it though so I know I just have to stay strong xx

@akiara congratulations! Glad you're in a good position to have a little one....me and my DH have been together 10 years but only married a few months...it's lovely to have had a BFP before Christmas ❄️

@sel2223 how exciting! Congratulations! So did you not find out for a couple of weeks after a missed AF then? ....I get what you mean about nervous and excited. I'm just super worried as for some reason I thought it'd never happen for me! Still keep thinking something will go wrong - just have to wait and see I guess 😖

Oh I am so glad I found this thread!! Can I please join?

My husband and I have been together for 12 years and finally got married in October. This was our first month trying for our first and we couldn't believe it when we got BFP on Thursday. So much so that I've done 10 tests in total.... Just doesn't feel real so have felt the need to keep checking!! AF due today and hasn't come so starting to sink in a little more! Online due date calculators say I'm around 4 weeks and due 29th August. Will be ringing the GP on Monday and will find out what happens next.

No symptoms really yet except feeling absolutely exhausted. Past few days I've been in bed by 9pm and sleep like a log!

Hi everyone...
Hope all you ladies are well!
I'm 4+4 today, a little crampy, exhausted (prob from worrying), and just quesy. Does that sound normal? It's the cramps that worry me
Much love
Maggie x

@SweetStrawberryKisses congratulations!! So happy for you!

@Maggie272 these are all the exact symptoms that I've had since I found out about 4 weeks in!

Thank you for the warm welcome ladies! @f00k @GalaxyGirl24 @Peanutty86 @TunnocksTcake

I ended up telling my partner in the end. The thing is, I would not be able to put the present under a Christmas tree as I don't want our son to know yet...I also thought of just writing in the envelope to check his phone but again, in front of our son, the reactions would need to be somehow limited. I would need to wait until he goes to sleep. Also I remembered that last year when I kept the secret for 3 days, daddy then told me I should have told him earlier and I guess as this is a pregnancy after a MC, I just felt like I want to keep it quite simple. I did wrap the test tho :) When he got back from work, I took him to the bedroom for cuddles and then I told him I have a present for him that I cant wait to give him so I want him to open it earlier. He was quite confused but didnt really complain. I said he will understand why, once he opens it. He was then confused to open the first wrap..I've put the wrapped test in a box from a fitbit haha Then he opened the test, looked at it, asked when its from..then he read the date I wrote on it. And just asked if this is from today? And really? We then cuddled and I cried again. He said he was happy I told him straight away. Apart from my sister and my best friend I didnt tell anyone else. We want to be a bit more careful with the reveal, its too fresh. Last year we told our son too, we were too excited and happy for him. And I dont regret telling him. I am quite happy that he knows there was a little baby that didnt join us...I just dont want to confuse him in case it happens again. He wishes for a sibling SO much, I dont want to break his little heart. I am so hoping this will go well, also for him.

I am thinking of going for an early scan as I hated the fact that last year we lived in the idea of pregnancy for 11 weeks while it wasnt even happening anymore. But I will see when they invite us for the big scan first. The thing is, my last period started on Nov 10th so quite a while ago (my ovulation got a bit delayed so my cycle stretched to much longer. So I know that if they go by the last period date, they will probably invite us when we will be already around 10 weeks, which brings us to the very beginning of Feb so not too long to wait...but I will probably feel anxious and will pop in the early preg unit before then. It still feels really unreal. I was convinced it wont work out as I was abroad during my fertile window. We had sex on Friday evening, Saturday I flew away and started having the most fertile CM ever :D I then had a positive opk on Monday and Tuesday evening I flew back and tried one more time that night first time with pre-seed.But thought it was too late already. :))

@Maggie272 Congratulations :) Try not to worry too much about the cramps. Many women apparently experience this, some also have some spotting, but it doesnt necessarily mean anything. But if thats something that worries you, you can always go to early pregnancy unit to get an internal scan. You don't have to wait until the 12 week scan. :)

Hi and congratulations again to all newbies, I can't keep up with everyone!! It's lush that everyone can share support/stories!

I'm 4+3 today, symptoms are really painful, massive boobs, fatigue and cramps. I can't remember the cramps first time round, but think it must have happened as I think most people get them!

I've just got my early scan date of 13th Jan, so in the countdown until then I think!

@Minniemee thank you so much for reassurance...I feel much better now and sort of enjoying this new quesy feeling : )
@Martina2311 thank you too for replying, I'm an IVF mum so on edge a little! My clinic ask that I come for a 6 weeks scan, so not too long : )

congrats to you both! xx

Hi again everyone and congrats to all the newbies from today! It's all so wonderful that there are so many people having Christmas BFPs :) thank you for the welcomes @TunnocksTcake and @Peanutty86

@maggie272 I'm glad you joined! Hello! I've also been having cramps.
I am 3+4 today so still super early. Had cramps yesterday and day before, a little bit today too but not as many.

I'm still a little scared I'll get my period on Monday when it's due but I have to trust in the two FRERs I did which had clear positives 🙃
I have some clear blues and thinking of doing one tomorrow but maybe it's better to wait till after AF is due for those? Thoughts? Just thought it would be nice to see the digital pregnancy sign. I prob can't get to the doctor till after Xmas I imagine.

It's my first pregnancy so I really don't know what to expect! Don't have any major symptoms yet except the cramping. I did get a horrible cold for about 5 days before my bfp though and I honestly think this was a symptom as read it can be.

@Martina2311 sounds like a lovely moment when you told your husband! I was also considering waiting to tell OH on Xmas but couldn't really deal with the suspense. I also told my mum. She was a bit sceptical that you can even get BFP before your period is due... 😂 But her experience of all this was in the 80s I guess it's come a long way.

My big sister is also pregnant and her embryo is a week older than mine! We actually tested together over the phone and both got BFPs it was magical :)

Anyway enough about me but wanted to do a proper intro as in my first post I was fretting about yoga 😂 silly me.

Nice to have this space for talking!

Xx

@IslayBrigid
I never liked the clearblue, as the line was always a bit distorted...so I always stuck to the FRERs. It's up to you but remember to look after your anxiety - it sounds like you a little like me - so unsure and nervous. I'm an IVF pregnancy so definitely on edge! One thing I do know - is that cold won't have done anything bad : )
yes, you're only six days behind me, wow, it's crazy. Lovely that you're pregnant alongside your sis : )

@SweetStrawberryKisses Same due date as me! :D And technically my first month trying too. Congrats!

I am fatigued as well, but I'm having cramps, massive boob pain, and an irritated stomach (randomly things don't sit well, or I'll feel sickly hungry until I eat something).

-- Anyone else freaked out constantly like I am? Every time I pee I check for blood. I miscarried at 12-13 weeks before, so it freaks me out a little... especially with the cramps. =/ How do you stay calm and chill? lol

This is so unfair I have woken up feeling hungover?! So tired and headachey and super nauseous this morning bleugh 🤢
Party went well though no one even noticed 😉 duvet day on the sofa I think today x

I've just got a bunch of positives, with baby due 1st September. I'm still not really believing it as I've had two early miscarriages in the last three months! Fingers crossed this is looking a bit more promising though. Darker lines at an earlier stage (12dpo now).

I check for bloody every time @akiara! I'm so paranoid.

I have zero symptoms at the moment. I did POAS (third test I've done since Wednesday) this morning and the line is darker so I'm taking that as a good sign. My boobs aren't sore anymore. I actually want to feel nauseous or tired... anything, because it doesn't feel 100% real yet.

Congratulations @user1477259453! Welcome to the club. Have you told anyone yet?

@f00k thanks! I've told a few people, but less in an excited way, and more "please could you pray that this one sticks". Ha.

@user1477259453 Congratulations to you!!! Just read what you said about telling people, I'm currently debating whether to tell parents on Christmas as they'd be so happy but not sure as it doesn't feel real yet. It's our first and same as @f00k I've got zero symptoms which doesn't help it not feel real. I know it's daft but I've tested twice a day every day since 18/12/19 - that's a lot of tests 😅 due on tomorrow so will keep you all posted as to whether there's any blood. Wish I'd just bloody waited to test!

@Martina2311 Aw that's lovely! I don't think I could have waited either tbh! We've just booked for our early scan at 6 weeks ish so hopefully something will show!!!!!

Congratulations to all you lovely ladies.

@f00k @GalaxyGirl24 I'm exactly the same! Zero symptoms. I'm literally knicker checking constantly.
@user1477259453 I've wanted this for two years and so want to tell my parents but I just want things to be confirmed before I do. But I'm finding it so difficult to keep quiet.

@Mrs71 it's really hard to keep quiet isn't it 😫 I keep wanting my mum/dad to ask us so I have to tell but I know they won't as they know we've been trying for a while and are open to the fertility clinic so things have been hard....speaking of? Should I be ringing the fertility clinic to let them know actually

@f00k @GalaxyGirl24 @Mrs71 add me to the list of people who don't have any symptoms yet.

I have been googling the likely-hood of a false-positive. Trying to convince myself it is a baby and not a HCG secreeting tumor.