July 2020 - thread 2

[RedRobin7]

New thread for our July gang 😊

Shall we do a little reminder of who we all are so we can see who is on here - Age, current EDD and if we know our 12 week scan date?

I'll start:

31 - EDD 08/07 - 12 week scan 24/12

We've bought a couple of nice books and two toys. There was a nice pram suit in Asda last night so might get that after our 16 week gender scan next week - it's still a surprise, it'll just be an early one 😊

@squirrelnutkins1 hehe... you're right still a surprise only earlier :) I must admit we were tempted when we saw others receiving their gender news at the Private Scan Clinic a couple of weeks ago...
we decided to go for it today and purchased the nursery furniture, however, we don't intend to build it until much closer to the due date... seemed like a good compromise :)

We haven't bought anything either. It just doesn't seem the time to do it really.

I guess we've hardly told anyone either, so we won't be buying anything til we've done that. I'm not sure when we'll get round to telling people. It kind of feels like it's our information and we're not ready to share it, and I think both our mothers will be difficult and weird about the pregnancy (my sister definitely will be).

I'm not really showing yet, so there's no urgency to share the news at this point.

@WooMaWang
How far along are you? I don't think I'm 'showing' exactly... to me I just look a bit fatter. Like I've been enjoying bigger dinners but my OH is adamant that I am showing now. I have told family and friends but I haven't put anything on social media yet...
Im 18weeks + 2 days now though... looking forward to my 20 weeks scan. I'm hoping after I'll feel much more relaxed.

I'm 16+3. My waist is a bit thicker and I can see a tiny bump but it's not recognisable as 'showing' to others. Even in my gym clothes I don't look like I'm pregnant.

I've told HR, my Pilates instructors and 2 friends. No family. I'm not sure that DP has told anyone at all. Maybe his boss, so he could come to antenatal appointments.

We'll probably tell the kids after the 20 week scan. It's still a long time for them to wait after the news.

I don't feel any sense that I need or want to tell my family. But I rarely need or want to tell them anything. DP doesn't really feel any need to tell his family either.

@HelenJudi I'm 18+4 😊 Definitely can't hide mine now 🙈

@RedRobin7 🤗🤰🏻
I keep thinking that I just look fatter And I have gone up a size in my work uniform but my OH insists I am definitely 'showing' now ... I imagine from now on the growth will be a lot faster!!
We are so close in dates!! Only two days difference. When's your 20 week scan? Mine is 2 weeks today... I really can't wait for it! I'm not feeling the baby move yet but I was told that my placenta is at the front so I'll probably be later than average in first feeling home/her ...

Can I join? 14 + 3 today (second pregnancy but my first ended in MMC) all was fine at my 12 week scan, and we had the harmony test done privately so we know that odds of chromosomal defects are low, and it’s a boy 💙 Impatient for 20 week scan in mid March as then I hope I’ll start to feel “safe”!

@HelloViroids Welcome! I'm 18 weeks tomorrow and just about feeling something like bubbles popping in my belly which I think is the baby.
Not bought anything yet..does anyone know of good Pregnancy/ Baby club sites or apps that have good deals and vouchers apart from Emma's Diary? Others I've heard of are Bounty and Custard & Crumble.

@HelenJudi Everyone at work keeps saying how big I am. I didn't really notice it until I put maternity clothes on for the first time. My 20 week scan is on Valentine's Day. Time has gone so slowly since our 12 week scan! My DH wouldn't let me "waste money" on an early gender scan so I've had to be patient. I've started getting popping sensations but it's easy to miss. Tends to happen in the evenings when I'm slouched on the sofa. Sometimes I go days without noticing it.

@HelloViroids Welcome! So sorry to hear about your MMC. I also had one almost two years ago, at my 12 week scan, and then I went on to miscarry again. I thought I'd be more relaxed after the 12 week scan this time but I haven't been. Was hoping maybe after the 20 week scan but now I'm thinking I'll be anxious until baby arrives and then I'll worry about them on the outside world!!

In a full day meeting today - so tired I could fall asleep in the loos 😴😴😴

Hi everyone

I’ve told more people at work now that I’m past the 12 week scan plus I am increasingly massive - I guess as this is baby 3 everything has just flopped out and I never had abdominal muscle tone to begin with. I’ve lost weight elsewhere through nausea and general appetite loss and through having to very carefully manage my blood sugars so it shows more that my stomach is bigger.

Had a tough-ish day today cos I felt so sick after breakfast, and then my post-lunch blood sugar reading was really high, but my post-dinner reading really low. I’m wondering if they’re volatile cos of me coming off the tail end of a cough/cold etc. I am at least finally nearing the end of a long stretch of my husband being away for work (since before Christmas - we were out there for Christmas but me and the kids came back for start of school so it’s been 5 weeks since then). He goes away a lot (reason #87 why this pregnancy is a lucky strike) but this stint had been really hard going.

Hi All, is it too late to join? Been avoiding Mumsnet due to feeling anxious over every little thing but feeling ready now! Currently 17+3.

I’m due 16th July with baby number 3!

Sorry that sent too soon!
DD is 6 & DS is 9 months

We’ve had 7 MC in total and two babies with non-compatible birth defects so pregnancy is always a very anxious time for us. But happy to have gotten this far and share the rest of this journey with you all, if you’ll have me!

Glad to see you’re all doing well so far. I’ve made the jump and joined the fb group too

@Secondsop Do you feel better that more people know? I felt it was a relief not trying to hide it anymore.

It must be so hard without your husband around. My husband is away most week nights and has now started leaving on Sundays so I get quite lonely and I overthink everything! It's really hard ☹️ He says he'll try to get back more when baby comes but I have a feeling he won't when he realises how hard the nights are!

@GreenDill Welcome! Nice to have you on our fb group too. You are very brave to try again after 7 miscarriages. I had two, one a MMC, and have been a nervous wreck this pregnancy. I'm terrified about my 20 week scan on Friday. We'll all hold hands along the way and get through it together! X

@RedRobin7 y I do feel better that people know, and also I don’t have to worry about hiding it!

@GreenDill sending you huge amounts of best wishes for this pregnancy. I had a smallish age gap between my 2 but bigger than yours - just under 18 months - and there is something rather lovely about it. Although the youngest one doesn’t really understand that they werent in my tummy together! Eg he was born in his sac and he said the other day “was [big brother] born first because he broke his sac but I didn’t?”.

Hi everyone, can I join you? My due date is 30th July. Just had my 16 week MW appointment today. I'm 28, and currently living in London, although (fingers crossed nothing falls apart with the buying process) probably moving out to High Wycombe before the summer.

@WeeScottishWife Welcome and congrats! My sister lives in HW and I'm 30 mins away 😊 We've got a fb group going so feel free to join. The link is further down the thread x

Hello everyone how are we doing. I got my harmony results back today and my risk has been revised downwards to less than 1:10,000 which is good news (although I would have been quite happy with my combined test numbers). I got the test free as I’m part of a trial so I don’t know the baby’s sex - will wait for the scan for that. Still feels a bit surreal, at my age, to have an ever-growing tummy and to be thinking about baby things. Last night we were trying to work out bedrooms and the smallest room is currently my second boy’s room but he always sleeps in his brother’s top bunk, so we figured they could formally share for a bit (we have top floor rooms for when they’re older but feels a bit soon for them to be moving up there). Then at bedtime we found son 2 in the process of trying to move pieces of furniture into his brothers room! We then had to make clear that nothing was changing room-wise for a year or so.

Meanwhile I think I have a urine infection so am going to try to get to the dr tomorrow - I was absolutely plagued with them for my first baby so I guess it was only a matter of time this time round.

That's good news regarding the harmony! Not so much about the UTI! Hope it clears up soon @Secondsop

It feels so good to be nearing the halfway point! 

@RedRobin7 Thank you, I found the Facebook group :)

Hi all, hope everyone is doing well. We had our 20 week scan today (20+2) and all is looking healthy, which is great. Can’t believe we’ve gotten to the halfway point, it’s all seemed such a blur till now but so many exciting things to come. I’m taking a week off in March to start on the nursery and the wife has her maternity now sorted so will be finishing work in mid-June. I’m contemplating taking a sabbatical from work for around three months, possibly towards the end of my wife’s maternity, but I’d be interested in your opinions on that - i.e. for those who have kids already, would having your husband around from around the 8mth old mark for three months have been beneficial or would it have stepped on your toes a little, or those who are expecting what your thoughts are too?

@AutumnDazed Great to hear from you! Pleased everything is going well for you. I'm 20+5 today and had my scan last Friday - we're team 💙

Wow that would be amazing - if you can take a sabbatical then do it! I would love to have my husband around but I'm not sure he would ever choose to do that! He's great with kids but prefers his own time - i.e. going to work every day!

My husband is starting the nursery in March too.

How is your wife feeling? It's starting to feel real now after the 20 week scan and with everything looking okay I'm starting to relax. I've definitely found finding out the gender is now helping me to bond with him.

Congratulations @AutumnDazed It’s such a relief seeing everything is o.k on the 20 week scan. We had ours last week and found out we’re having a girl. One of my friends took a year for maternity leave, then went back to work while her husband took a year off work. They both enjoyed having time with their LO, even though money was a bit tight.

Congratulations @RedRobin7 on the news you’re having a boy, and likewise same to you @PixieN having a girl! :)

Thanks both for your input, it seems like it’s a great opportunity for us to spend some time together as a family if I was to take the time off, but I’m also conscious this is a precious time for the mum and baby to be together and didn’t want to take away from that. So it’s good to get input from others on what they would feel in the situation, so thank you.

Like you have both said, we are starting to relax more now the 20 week scan has been done. E (my wife) was starting to get a little frustrated she wasn’t feeling the baby just yet (for certain at least) but that’s apparently down to the position of the placenta (at the front). But besides that, E has been so happy these last few weeks, eating well, and generally getting very excited. She’s reading books on hypnobirthing and talking incredibly positively, and feeling very calm about what’s to come. We both know we’ve been incredibly lucky so far, and we aren’t taking it for granted, but at the same time we are of course hoping that continues throughout now.

Thanks again for all the support here, it’s been amazing. I had thought about joining the Facebook group, but I don’t want to make people feel uncomfortable by having a male in the group and potentially stopping someone from posting something they wouldn’t want a male to see or read. At least here there’s an anonymity that can mask that somewhat!

Anyway, sorry for the long post, and thanks again :)