Due May 2020 (Thread 4)

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@Mrshouse92 I cant wait to get to the half way point.

Sorry been quiet been really busy. Had gender scan today and got stitch thursday

Hope everyone is doing ok alot of scans j have seen glad to see so many

Soooooo excited.... scan today!!! 21+3 so feels like ages since I saw my wee man!!! Good luck to everyone else with scans today!!

Here’s me at 24 weeks (well tomorrow) ! I seem to have really grown the last couple of weeks. Also have anterior high placenta but feel baby regularly every day, I worry now if I don’t feel her for a while. Happy Friday all x

@sunshine8888 awww lovely and neat. enjoy the kicks x

Anyone else feeling really hormonal. I’m having a few really weepy days. I keep feeling so guilty for my lovely toddler that she won’t have my full attention anymore. Can someone please give me a virtual slap or just reassurance!

@ginunicorn come here you🙆🏻‍♀️big fat squiggly hug. i'm hormonal but more the super loving style- you are giving your toddler a sibling for lifelong fun and support x it's a positive not a negative 😍👍🏼🐨

@GinUnicorn Just to put your mind at ease, my son is 7 and so pleased he will have a sibling. He said he thought it would never happen. Although you say toddler so not so direct to let you know, I am sure they won't feel left out x

@GinUnicorn omg yes, I’ve been in tears all afternoon. I have started to feel resentful of my husband who is able to carry on his life as normal. I just had a huge go at him for arranging two friends to visit when I’m 36 weeks pregnant because I worry about the baby coming early and him being out drinking 😬🙈 am I being totally irrational?! I feel like I’m losing myself a bit atm 😣

Oh thank God for this thread! Thanks for the comments they really help.

It’s tough sometimes the emotional whirl, one minute happy then awful and guilty about the toddler. I already worry I can’t possibly love number 2 as much.

Hormones with a side of crazy here apparently but it’s to feel understood

@Sunshine8888 you’re not being unreasonable. My husband has decided to stop drinking (not that he does a lot) at the end of January.

Re crying - yes, regular and irrational! I'm very over sensitive atm, reading into everything. Plus things like adverts that pull on your heartstrings are getting me upset!

@facevalue People are weird, that’s one thing I have definitely come to realise during this pregnancy! Heard all sorts of ridiculous pregnancy horror stories 😩

@Sunshine8888 no I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, I would say that close to baby’s arrival it’s time to be a bit sensible about things and get ready. I’d be cross too!!

Totally get the toddler guilt, I just wonder how another baby could ever be as cute as my first! But they will be and they will be loved very much! Also emotional beyond words, had a pregnancy massage booked but forgot and when I got the answer message asking me to rebook I cried about it for an hour 😩 still spotting as well, not really sure what to make of it, babies moving 💁🏻

Hmm I just feel like he’s thinks his life is about to end or something so he’s cramming in lots of weekends away and opportunities to drink 😞 I’m just a bit like ok....you just carry on then but feeling a bit miffed.

@november90 and @Sunshine8888 gorgeous bumps.

Yes on the toddler guilt, tho I’m trying to think of lots of lovely things we can do together on my days off work Cos is know my days with just me and her are numbered.

Had a cervical scans again today and all is good, measured 28mm so no further action. I could have an early baby still as had my first early but I don’t need to be monitored which is good.

@Clairesoph your baby will be super cute. remember your toddler has 2 cute hands they are not identical but you won't choose one over the other.. your toddler had 10 toes would u love only one of those! it's the same with children you will love them .. the only difference is you would have had more time to love one a slightly less time to love the other depends on their age.

that's how i see it.

@Sunshine8888 you are more likely to be over due if it's your first. i learned that we r not equal - we get all the biological bonding feeling a baby grow and kick then if choose to breastfeed. men should probably be given a break to have some sort of joy too if it's drinking or seeing friends etc. ideally they would still be sensitive to your feelings. you must be honest " i feel pressure on my body and emotions, i'm restricted about what i can eat and drink etc i know u can't help with those but seeing u out and drinking like u have no worries makes me feel lonely etc " men are simple so just tell them how to help u but also be kind towards them xxxx i get irritable with mine even when i say have a drink and then he looks merry 🤪🙄 he pisses me off cos i want to be tipsy and chilled too 😂

@Bumpingalong84 glad your scan was reassuring

Is anyone else still struggling with feeling sick when you brush your teeth?! I've had it for weeks and it's driving me nuts!

@mrsf1204 thankfully not so much now, had to sit through a dentist clean this morning - so painful!! My gums keep bleeding which is apparently common in pregnancy but makes them sensitive and so I found the cleaning really painful! And have to go back in 3 months for another one 😬

@Bumpingalong84 it wasn't me with the stitch, sorry!

I feel like I am finally enjoying the pregnancy. I actually feel better when I am at work doing stuff and interacting with people than when I am couching around at home.

I am 21+2 and my bump is still very unnoticeable! No one at work has a clue that I am pregnant (apart from ones I have told).

Hi everyone! Haven’t posted for a while, nearly 23 weeks and all going well,
Feeling him move around like mad which is just the best feeling.

@Sunshine8888 I would be annoyed too. My husband went mad over Christmas with drinking and was a total dick to be quite honest, worse than he ever normally is. We went to a friends quiz night and him and my brother had been drinking since lunch, the quiz went on til 11 when obviously I wanted to go home but he wanted ‘one more’ so I went home and he rolled in at 4am being really weird and passed out on the bathroom floor. Anyway we had a good chat and he’s taking 6 months off drinking which I’m soooo happy about.

@facevalue you are right made me feel lonely and like I was boring as he carried on as normal and I just sat at home with my cup of tea 😂 also a bit jealous yes.

Rambly message sorry! Can’t believe we’ve hardly got any time left eeeek xx

@facevalue @Helensss thank you for your replies. I am going to try and be more relaxed about it. I’ve thought about it from his point of view and he’s just thinking that when we have the baby these things will become much harder and occasional. There has to be some sort of compromise though which he understands. 6 months off! Wow! I would never have the willpower to do that by choice! I’m already dreaming about the bottle of wine I can open in May 🙈😂

Hi everyone. Haven't posted for a while but as we are chatting about OH's I thought it might be worth asking whether any one can recommend any books. My husband asked me which books I thought he should read to prepare for parenting. I have read a few on pregnancy and labour but he feels he knows enough about these topics from what I've shared and we will be doing NCT classes together.

Through my job I already know a lot but really only from toddler age plus. Babies are a mystery to me. Does anyone have a suggestion for a good first time parent book?

@Sunshine8888 I know I was like just wait till I can have wine again 😂

I can’t wait for that large glass of guilt free wine!
He just needs to reset himself a bit as he’s been drinking far too much and everyone noticed how drunk he was all over Christmas when really he should be reining it in a bit! It’s like since I got pregnant he got way worse? But it’s sorted now Xx

I have to say I’ve been very jealous of OH drinking wine. I’ve had a tiny glass Christmas Day and New Year but feel paranoid about relaxing too much.

I’m so glad I’m not the only one with toddler guilt makes me feel a million times better. Not sure who came up with the two hands analogy but I love it

Anyone else feel big already? First baby no bump until 7 months but this one I look noticeably pregnant already!

Here’s my bump, first baby. Definitely feeling quite large for 21 weeks!

@Pastnowfuture
We're reading 'first time parent' by lucy Atkins, this book is very practical.

Also, hubby working his way through 'babies and toddlers for men' by Mark woods.

I didn't get on with 'what to expect when you're expecting', I found it quite repetitive and a tad American for my taste.

I'm also thinking of getting 'so lucky' by dawn o'porter - not a baby book as such, has anyone read it?