Due Oct ~sow's a'roasting!

[j20baby]

Hellllllllllllllllllooooooooooooooo..............here i am, sorry but waited for ages for somone else to do it and i can't find it if they have!

FT-sorry your feeling crap, don't think i've got much chance of a water birth either

put your feet up and get some rest x

J20 - glad all well with you honey! Great all well with inzi's lo...

Floria - sorry water birth out of the window honey. Sory to hear you're feeling crap too... Big hug.

Lisa - have fun at the wedding - sit back and enjoy the entertainment!!!

Hello everyone else.... Just a brief post as trying to make the most of time with my mum while she is here

hi alice

forgot to say earlier, mw thinks my lo is breech too, how can she go from being head down for 10 weeks to breech now?

well, we will see on Wed when i go see community mw again.

going to pick dd up now, still feeling really annoyed with her, she's just like her father! (sorry-feeling very arsy!)

Hi all,
Congrats to the Dal family... hope all going well.
Sympathies for everyone in pain/discomfort - not long now, hang in there, we can do it!

Got some great bits from freecycle today, baby bath/nappy bin/etc... really useful, the house is looking very cluttered again (well, it always did tbqh)

Anyhow, am having some reflexology (which I did last time) and would recommend to eveyone (who doesn't mind there feet being massaged etc!) it is so relaxing, and hopefully is preparing me in some small way for a calm (ha) birth.

Take care everyone.

Hi everyone, thanks WTP my email address is [email protected], send me your number and email and I will do the same for you if you need it.

Everything ok at moment, bump very active, never had limbs sticking out like this with the last 2 babies. I think he keeps grinding his head as lots of little stabbling pains when he moves!!

Went to DH's twin nieces 2nd birthday party this afternoon luckly not very hot today so wasn't too bad.

Glad your ok J2O, my DS1 is the child from hell at the moment as well so must be a baby thing.

I am going to sign off early tonight. Mainly because FIL took my chair, but forgot to bring the replacement with him.

Imalso need to get my clothes put into my new wardrobes.

In laws are taking DD swimming tomorrow, so will be over about 8.30am as it is 9-10.

NIght all.

Will emailyou now jersey

Thanks WTP.

morning everyone. hope yoyu've all had a good night and not suffering too much - sorry, can't remember any of the posts I just read - but hope we can all manage to take it easy today. Things here are alright; had a bit of a to do with DH last night; I'm just panicking a bit now about the reality of surgery, a newborn and a toddler on my own - and he doesn't get that for a few weeks I need him to put his 'stuff' to one side and support me. Do you think that is too much to ask? maybe it is - not sure if anyone else's DP reacts like this but when he's stressed, he gets realy grumpy which doesn't help the situation at all. Last time, with DS, it was a nightmare and I really want to avoid that.....hard isn't it? if anyone has some top tips I'd really appreciate them. Also, is anyone else feeling really sick??? Presuming it's a hormonal thing...right - better get on with breakfast. catch up with you all later - have a good day.

I was feeling sick yesterday nellie. After a week of it all seeming to settle down again I felt rough for much of yesterday...

No advice really on dh. I think it sounds like a really tough situation and no i don't think you're unreasonable to want a bit of extra support at the mo. I am terrified of having to manage with ababy and toddler too. Do ou have any family you could get to come and help too? Mum lives down in Herefordshire but she's coming to saty from 38 weeks until the baby arrives and then after Dh goes back to work after 2 weeks paternity leave. We are also lucky that dh works only about 10-15 mins drive away so could come home for lunch if I was desperate - I think you said yours would be working 2 hours away whichis really tough. Good luck sorting it out....

Hi all
Well, it all kicks off when I'm to tired to post!!
Inzi -hope you are still okay and lo is fine
Buffy -Glad it wasn't gall stones, I've heard they are more painful then childbirth!!!
J20 - Glad you are out of hospital

Well, dh went out to the gym at 7 on friday for a couple of hrs and came back around 11.30 ish. I was fumming to say the least having spent another fun packed evening watching some crappy program about weddings and cosmetic surgery. He even thought he was going to have a shower in our shower room -NO! I made him go upstairs and told him if he woke Ollie he would have to settle him back down (I knew Ollie wouldn't wake, I can hoover in his room and he still doesn't stir)

Woke up saturday and dh then said he might pop up the gyum for an hr........
After looking at my incandessant with rage face he made the better choice of phoning the man he'd made arrangements to play tennis with and cancal.

I can't wear shoes atm as my feet are so puffy, I can't get my wedding ring off as hands have joined in too so are a little worried about having to cut it off. (The ring, not my finger!) I have carpel tunnel syndrome anyway which hasn't bothered me for a while (I used to be a 'cellist and the dr thinks it was developed through this as it's a little like rsi.) I can't crotchet any blankets as I I have aches and pains in my knuckles, wrists and my fingers are fat sausages. Dh put his foot in it again when he cleared the study out ready for the temporary kitchen and then announced 'well, you can get back to playing the piano now whilst Henry is still inside as Ollie loved it when you did' How on earth does he think I can play when I can't even clench my fingers without them aching....? Oh, and if he tells me how much weight he's lost and how tired he is I really do think I'm going to punch him

We also had the MIL talk yesterday. He thought she would come and stay for a while after Henry's born and I said absolutely not. What I would like is for them to stay when Henry's born and I can stay in hospital and when we come home they go home as I can't be doing with making sure everyone's got food, cooking etc. I just want dh and Ollie. The second week would be helpful as dh goes back to work and I would appreciate the help. I just know this is going to turn into another family argument as it was when Ollie was born. My brother was living with us at the time and even he moved out for a week to give us a bit of privacy. My dad was going to stay at a friends house which meant his flat was free for them to use as their own but she went balsitic saying that she wasn't allowed to see her own dgc. I can feel it brewing...

Morning everyone,

I hope all managed to have a better night than me.

So much for an early night last night. I was just dropping of to sleep about 10.30 when someone in the neighbourhoor started letting off fireworks. It was not just the ones that fizz then bang in a colourful display, it was a constant babging for 30 minutes. Had it gone on after 11pm DP would have been on the phone to the police, but they stopped dead on 11pm. It also started off this LO and I finally got to sleep about 1am.

DD was up at 8am this morning. We usually have along lie on a Sunday, but her grandparents were collecting her about 8.30 to go swimmming. They arrived at 8.25 and I went back to bed, but got up at 9am as LO decided to wake up too and do her acrobatics, so no chance of me getting any more sleep.

Got lots of ironing to do today, then we are off to the inlaws for Sunday dinner.

Have a good day everyone.

Hi all!

Glad Inzi's okay and her lo. And Buffy - glad you're out of hospital! sorry they don't know what the pain is, though.
J20 - sorry about the infection and the iron levels. Sounds like resting is a good plan. I take it you've been mainlining the dark chocolate (doesnt that help iron levels)?
Floria, sorry about the water birth. I was planning one too, in the vaguest possible way (here we just seem to be allowed to ask for it and if one of the 2 pools is free, we get it, so it isn't a given, and also we can't have it if induced/needing monitoring for any other reason) but people keep telling me it's mad because an epidural is the only sane way to tackle labour. Never having been there, I don't know! I think I'm going to play it by ear to be honest.

Nellie, that sounds like DH not realizing what he's doing - guess you are just going to have to keep trying. And look for secondary support as well as Alice says.

Mrs Fish, I'd be annoyed too - if you have a plan in place it's really irritating to be forced to change it. Maybe you could say so as the babysitter might just not realize impact of her holiday.

Hello to everyone else! Jersey, hope you're okay today. And Lisa, how was the wedding? Alice, hope you feel less sick today.

We had a nice day yesterday: DH did first coat of paint in lo's room and is back in there doing 2nd coat this morning. Went to see my grandmother who was fine and had a wander around Durham where she lives. Not sure about today yet - when we got back from there I fell asleep for an hour or so. I really felt I needed it - the tossing and turning all night does not make for a good night's sleep!

Have a good Sunday.

Good Morning!
Nellie; have you read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? I think it over simplifies the differences between the sexes but some of the techniques they suggest to help us communicate do seem to work....my DH can't stand it if I want to talk over emotional issues repeatedly, he gets frustrated and grumpy; the book would say it was because he hasn't got a solution to my problem and that makes him feel inadequate as a man...it might be worth a trip to the library to read it.
As for coping alone, if you can't hire some help and no one in the family can spare a week or two between them to assist...a friend of mine put her 1st child in a nursery and wheeled the baby around in a hospital style cot for the first few weeks after her cs...they ate frozen meals and take aways, she did all her shopping online (ordering deliveries for when Dh was home so he could unpack it all), she picked everything up off the floor with one of those Grab sticks for the disabled (borrowed from my Mum)and hired a cleaner for a few hours a week..but she said afterwards that if she had realised how many friends would call round for a few hours each day (and she hadn't felt cheeky asking them to do things for her), she wouldn't have needed half those measures. Hope tings with Dh are better today.

Morning all.
Wedding was fun, although bride was late and i looked like a weeble on crutches I was planning to get some rest at my mums before the reception, but dh and dad were fixing his car and my mum felt unwell so she went for a sleep, so no rest. By the time i got to reception i was knackered and we left at 9.30pm! I did however see the drunk uncle before i left but no sobbing aunt, hehe.
I am taking it very easy today, I have been up in the night with contractions. Everytime i move they start again, even just nipping to the loo. Im still in bed right now, drinking tea and sitting on darrens laptop. Im planning to go and have breckie, have a bath and then if they are still coming will start timing, and ring my mum. Im not sure if they are true contractions as they slow when im laying down but im sure i have heard that laying on a bed slows labour!
Oh well we'll see. Seems a lot of us are getting these, so no panic yet

J20 hope you are feeling better. Any more news on inzi?

Muppet know what you mean. My hubby is a gym blokie too. If he complains that he is tired or sore, i just look at him, i darent say anything or i might blow my top.

Nellie hope you get the support you need when the time comes. I have to say i had c section last time. I was in hospital for the first week, which is the hardest time. DH stayed at home for following 3 weeks by which time i felt able to do most things alone, but he would come home on lunch.
All of my family have their own things to deal with, so doubt I will be lucky enough to have someone come help me clean, cook, iron ect. There's loads of people from my congergation that will no doubt help out, im just going to ask them to help with meals and things. DD will be at school, so have some time to rest too. I would defo recommed a cleaner if you can afford one but if your the sort of person that has to have it fairly tidy before alllowing someone to clean, dont do it, it adds more pressure.

Right off to finish tea now.

Lisa

quick post from me, not heard anything from inzi yet today, am going to go and have a look at a baby exhibition today so will catch up with you later.

ca you believe that i was up 11 times to go to the toilet in the night, surely that isn't normal!

have a nice day all

11 times j20?? bloody hell, that is not much fun at all.

alice, sorry to hear the sickness is back - horrible isn't it?

Lisa - gald the wedding was ok; lol at the weeble description, that is exactly how I feel!!

muppet, the gym thing would tip me over the edge I think! Glad your DH took note of the incandescent face!!

CHN, jersey and WTP - glad evrything is ok with you. Buffy - hopeyou're restin up and feeling better.

mrsfish - I would be pissed off with the babysiter - are there any further updates on that situation? did she book it after all?

Floria - sorry to hear about the w/b - that happened to me with DS1. I was all set for a w/b at home and then tested + for GBS so that became a distant thought! I know it's so disappointing. And thanks for your suggestions, esp about the book - you put your finger right on it - the common problem with us is that he says he doesn't know what to do or say which infuriates me! when you're in emotional melt down that isn't what you want to hear! I'll have a look out for it, thanks.

and thanks everyone else for the kind words - had a good cry now (quite hard to do when you have to keep hiding from a 2 yr old!) and feel calmer - I'm going to really look at the weeks after the birth and see what help I can get; booked a cleaner and made some meals up for DS1 so at least I know he'll be ok; also going to email all friends and family and let them know that they aren't to expect anything from me when they visit. I know they'll all want to come and see the new one, but that means overnight stays and then they're off again, which I actually find really stressful at the best of times - but they live 5 hrs away, can't take time off work so that is all they can do (altho my parents did book a holiday once they knew when I was going to be having the section....!!) DH can take one week off unpaid but will have to go back after that - Floria, love the idea of the picking up thing. It's just all the stupid things like changing DS1's nappy which I can't see w I'm going to do!!! I know, barmy!! I need to get a grip.I think i'm also wobbly cause it's almost a year since my ectopic pg which is making me feel a bit weird....

anyway - I shall shut up about me now and hope everyone else is emotionally sounder than I am today

Lisa lol sounds like my family weddings.....but thats another story!!!!!!

Hope you are all ok???

And Lisa will see you on tuesday still if thats ok? Keep dreaming that Alfie does a lassie runs away and finds me in new home lmao...mind you i have had loads of diff dreams which are sooooooo weird. Including arguing with the world over LO's name. As most know have been set on Konnor Michal well last few nights i have dreamt of my dad and have got the name Tomas Eden stuck in my head its driving me mad!!!!!!!!!!!
Because everyone else is stuck on Konnor now lol.

Anyways better go get dinner on although i don't fancy it in this heat!

nellie: dont tell health visitor I said this but change DS1 nappy on the bed, saves you bending too far
L

Lisa - 'Im still in bed right now, drinking tea and sitting on darrens laptop'

Surely that isn't good for the laptop???? Hope you are feeling better soon

Chocolatehobnob - spoke to the babysitter yesterday, she hasn't booked anything yet, she is having another look today and said she will try and find something a week later. DH doesn't think she has enough holiday from work left though, as she has been away 3 times this year already I guess I will just have to keep fingers crossed that it will all work out

Nellie - that book that FT mentioned, really is worth a read #

Winnie - what a co-incidence, we had fireworks going off last night too when I went to bed... was yesterday a special day for some reason? I went and slept in the spare room again, even though it was Dh's first night back, I was just too hot in our room, plus I have got used to having the bed to myself over the past 9 days Woke up approx 6 times, with heartburn/loo breaks/ and bad dream, where I dreamt ds had been mauled by a dog,woke up very close to tears

muppetgirl - hope home life settles down abit for you and no arguments start, I can totally see your point, I hope it doesn't cause too many probs.

alicet - hope you are feeling better today.

Well dh has been occupying ds this morning, and has just taken him out for a drive, then going to the in-laws for dinner which will be nice. Hope you all have a relatively good day

Hi ladies,
Sorry to hear so many of us are still having problems sleeping. Mind you J20, I reckon 11 times a night for the loo is a new record.
Buffy - glad to hear that things are a bit better now. Do they know any more about the pains yet?
J20 - How is it all going? Have the painkillers taken the edge off of things?
Sorry to everyone else, have read through all the posts but can't remember who said what . who was getting contractions that went when they lay down? Hope things have eased off a bit anyway.
To everyone else,I apologise for my crap memory and hope all is well, family disputes ease themselves and aches and pains subside for a relaxing sunday afternoon!
My Dd (2.7) is also being a bit of a nightmare at the moment, infact I've booked to see the health visitor on wednesday as her sleeping is now so bad I'm really beginning to panic about when lo is born.
I've got my consultants appointment on Monday and it has now got me thinking about my birth options. Last time she just sort of said 'I presume you'll want a VBAC' to which I agreed, but then it all seemed so far away at the time. Now it seems nearer and I really don't know what to do for the best. All I do know is that I want to avoid the emergency cs route again. Think I'm going to have to sit down with DH tonight and make a list of things to talk to her about tomorrow. I know our local authority have been told to cut back on cs's so she will try to dissuade me (and I'm by no means certain I want an elective) but I just want a fair hearing iyswim!
Ok, I'm rambling now so will shut up and go to B&Q. Got to get wallpaper for Dd's new bedroom. Have a relaxing day all

Muppet ? don?t envy you the pil battles. We were absolutely categorical last time that both sets of parents were welcome while I was still in hospital but when we came home we wanted to be left on our own while dh was on paternity leave. They actually were fine about this - maybe I?m lucky! But I don?t think its exactly unreasonable!

Winnie and Chochobnob ? sorry neither of you had decent sleep. Not much fun at the mo is it?

Lisa ? hope your lo stays put for a little longer ? certainly sounds like she?s threatening an early appearance! Maybe just bh?s though ? fingers crossed!

J20 ? certainly sounds like you might have a water infection with needing to go to the loo that often and the other symptoms you have been having. Make sure you drink lots of water and cranberry juice. A bit of bicarb in water (or squash if you can?t face the taste!) helps with any discomfort you might have when weeing. Hope al lsettles soon?.

HMP ? I have the same debate due with my consultant on Tues! I think I want an elective section and he had given me the choice after a long chat through pros and cons of each one so know I won?t have a problem whatever I choose which is great. Had a bit of a wobble about it all last week and nearly changed my mind but think I will go for the section with the option to take a view if I go into labour earlier than the date?. There are lots of helpful chats in the childbirth section on both vbac and electives with various links to other sites for info if you look ? I can send you some of them if you like? Let me know ? I can get your email from earlier this thread?.

Anyway we have had a great morning today. My mum got her train home at about 10 which is a shame ? its been a godsend having her up expecially when I was feeling so crap yesterday. Ds was very excited by the trains which is cool! Dh and I then took him to soft play and he had loads of fun. Just such a lovely age (19 months today!) ? seeing the world through his eyes where everything is new and exciting is just great.

Anyway off to do a little reading on sections / vbac and then tidy up a bit in ds1?s new room ? still have some baby stuff to sort through and junk in a couple of boxes from when it was the spare room. Which it still kind of is at the mo until he needs to move in there but better to sort now I think rather than when I have 2 boys to look after!

Hopefully catch you later and fingers crossed for no more excitement!!!!

hi inzi glad you are home xxxxxxxxxxxx

Dp just phoned work to take tonight off as I have been in agony on and off all day. So he staying home. If anyone txts me I can't reply as no credit but i will let you all know tomorrow how i am, looks like another trip to hospital.

Inzi, so glad your home and LO is still safe inside Hope the scan goes well and you have some waters left. I met a woman in hospital who's waters broke at 24 weeks, and was now 30 weeks, some of her waters had replenished

LES. let me know how it goes, youo have my number

Im still getting pains and my back is killing me still. Im still able to walk though the pain, so not panicing yet. Been shoppping so fully stocked of food. I also was looking at the photos from wedding yesterday. I have put one of me andhubby on profile and one of me with my brother and one of my sisters. I only noticed today how alike my little bro looks like my hubby, ooo spooky Me and sparkley look very different.

Still wondering who will be the first OCT lady to pop. race yah!

L