April 2020 Babies - Thread 2!

[LokiCat]

Hey all!

Looks like we filled up the first thread pretty fast! Took me a while to realise why I couldn't send a message.

This is the first thread I've ever created, so hopefully I've done it right.

I'm going to tag the most recent users that commented, so sorry for a lot of the people that I miss. Hopefully everyone will find this.

@ellarosee
@Sunshine8888
@PrincessConsuela12
@Nikkinoodle84
@Nebulae1981
@Harriettenightingale
@morgan158
@PurpleViolin
@poopatroop
@ruthsoph
@eskimod
@Sorbfsiabs

Previous thread - https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3640572-April-2020-Babies?pg=1&order=

Happy 9 months to us all (or most likely less now!!) and congratulations to everyone new joining 💕

@MrsG3 I'm so sorry. Thinking of you xx

@otterbaby fingers crossed everything goes well at your scan tomorrow, it sounds like you have a wonderful hospital looking after you xx

Such lovely scan photos @littledinosaurs @elb1504 - congratulations xx

@nicoletia beautiful scan, congrats! I need to have a read up on Nub theory, as well. Clueless about it right now!

@ellarosee sorry I realised I missed your earlier message!
Sorry you've been feeling so rubbish, but glad you got to see a heartbeat and baby at your early scan. I obviously can't count 🙈 my scan is 16th October!

We're also planning to head to the Baby Show in London that weekend to have a browse at things and do some research. There's so many options for each item, it's so confusing where to start!

@MrsG3 I'm so sorry to hear your news, sending you lots of hugs and love.

Thanks @littledinosaurs, all went well.

My scan was quite late in the afternoon and i had to leave and return three times because baby would not behave. Did everything it shouldn't, faced the wand, back to the sonographer or curling up in a ball on its side. Clearly stubborn like mum. I had to go for walks, shake pelvis around and eat a sugary snack before we finally got the right angle for the tests. OH found it all highly amusing.

Saw a good heartbeat and lots of arm waving action, and was nice to see baba for longer due to multiple trips.

I've been put forward a few days, measured at 13+3 with new EDD of 3rd April.

Congratulations Bristol :) beautiful photo xx

So sorry @MrsG3. So very brave of you to come on here and let us know. My thoughts are with you.

All went ok with my scan. Put me forward a few days so revised expected due date of 9 April 2020.

Congrats @BristolBear and @Dumbo1981 – lovely pics! Glad I wasn't the only one with a stubborn baby!

Lots of luck today @otterbaby. Will be thinking of you.

@BristolBear @Dumbo1981 congrats ladies, lovely scan photos!
I didn't realise how much you might have to move/wiggle to get them in the right positions. This is all so surreal!

Congratulations ladies 💕

I’m so sorry @MrsG3 💞 take care of yourself

Congrats to all those ladies with happy scan outcomes x

@MrsG3 very sorry to hear that. I think most of us have been there and know how crushing that feeling is. But I know you'll have your rainbow baby like I did. ❤️❤️❤️

Congratulations to all those who had there scans, absolutely love seeing the pics!! Mine is on the 22nd when I'll be 13weeks so I've also booked a private one for the 14th at 12 weeks because I'm bloody impatient.

Xx

@MrsG3 I'm so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself.

Just an update, I've been for my scan and baby is wriggling away in there. They don't have any explanation for the bleeding, just "one of those things" (which seems be a frequent explanation with pregnancy symptoms!). And although we were feeling so relieved, the midwife quickly extinguished that when she said the nuchal fold looked a bit thicker than normal. She quickly followed it by saying she's not qualified in that area and it might fill out by the time we have our screening scan next Friday, but any happy feelings are now followed by uncertainty and worry. Part of me wishes she hadn't said anything, especially since she said herself that she wasn't actually qualified to measure it! So onwards to next Friday 😕

@otterbaby I'm so pleased baby is ok. I'd be angry I think if someone unqualified commented on the Nuchal Fold. She shouldn't have said anything. That aside it could have been the position the baby was in or just her lack of training. Hang on in there until next week when someone more qualified can take a proper look! Xx

@otterbaby so glad everything is ok! Sorry if this tmi but I seem to be having a lot of wet discharge today, it’s very uncomfortable! I’m having to wear a liner all day and it’s still uncomfortable. Is this just one of those unglamorous pregnancy things that gets worse around 9-10 week mark?!

@Sunshine8888 Yes, it is normal. I had loads last week (bleurgh) it's your bodies way of preparing the birth canal. I was talking to my midwife about it last week. It's all normal unless it's green/pink/brown and has a strong odour.
I'm 11+4 today and it's much calmer. Also got my dating scan this PM and I've found many of my symptoms (minus the giant boobs and sleeping) have calmed. X

@otterbaby try not to dwell too much on that. There is a v specific timeframe to view it in and she sounds like she doesn't know what she is looking for anyway

@otterbaby glad to hear the baby is nice and active. I know it's easier said than done, but I would try not to worry about what the midwife said re the nuchal fold. At my scan the sonographer was taking a lot of photos for her to take away and work this out from. She had to get the baby in a very specific position – even to get the EDD she took four measurements to be sure. And of course you need a blood test too. The midwife should not have said what she did. Hang in there. Xx

Thanks @Pip231018 I keep worrying it’s blood and breathe a sigh of relief every time I see it’s just discharge. I hope your scan goes well this afternoon, how exciting! I just can’t wait to get to that 12 week mark, at least it’s October now, every day is one day closer!

I've just got back from my dating scan, it wasn't the greatest of experiences. The baby wasn't in the right place and it took 40 minutes of jabbing/poking and pressing. The Sonographer wasn't overly empathetic and quite matter of fact. Every question I asked like 'what's my due date?' She said she didn't know/couldn't remember. I asked if she managed to get the measurements for the fluid behind the babies neck and she said she couldn't confirm. When I asked if I could be rescanned if she couldn't get the measurements, she said no.
The second half of the appointment was much more positive and the midwives and Drs were lovely. They did confirm the measurements for me as the Sonographer was able to provide it. I am only measuring 11+4 and I wish I'd have gone a week later - just really want to get through this first 13 weeks. My midwife said if I was really worried about MC etc then 16 weeks is the week I'm aiming for to feel like I'm in the clear. My scan isn't that great, but have attached it in case anyone wants to see. X

@Pip231018 I'm so sorry you had such a bad experience. To be honest I think I'd put a complaint in. They should be reassuring and kind not rude and dismissive. Also I don't think it's helpful for the midwife to mention the 16 week mark as being in the clear. The chances of a second trimester loss are extremely small. In fact if a healthy baby is seen with heartbeat at 8/9 weeks your chances are very good. It doesn't sound like anything worrying came up on the scan so your chances must be excellent by this point. I hope you can relax this evening and try and put what happened out of your mind xx

@Catconfusion they told me my 20 week scan date already and I'm just hoping it's not the same Sonographer. If the midwife hadn't been so informative/I didn't get given the measurements then I definitely would have made a complaint and asked for another scan.
I think the midwife was only reacting to me, because I was talking to her about my concerns because I did have a MMC. She also said I don't need to rush to tell work until I'm ready. She was kind to me, but I don't think I'll be able to keep quiet until 16 weeks. It's been hard enough for the past 2 months x

@otterbaby @Pip231018 so good to hear your scans went well, despite both having to deal with some insensitivities while going through it. Please don't let it spoil what is a happy day seeing nice healthy wriggling little ones.

I can wholeheartedly agree with the other comments here. Nuchal scans take a very precise angle with lots of measurements, mine took multiple trips to find the exact angle. And with the 16 weeks, again I agree that seeing healthy heartbeat at 9 weeks is a great sign, seeing that at 11+4 is even better :)

Has anyone started telling people yet? More than just close relatives/friends?

I've kept it mostly a secret (apart from immediate family and a couple of very good friends) but wondering how you actually tell people. I'm 13+5 today and so used to keeping it a secret that it feels weird telling people!

Also, can someone link me the Facebook group please? (Which I assume can't be seen by others?) Excited to get on there now I've had that scan :)

@BristolBear I've now told the people I work with along with family and close friends. I work with mostly men all of which said they thought I was pregnant due to feeling sick, eating habits changed and put on a bit if weight so felt right to tell them so I dont have to hide it.

Oo I'd also like to join the Facebook group if anyone's got the link.

Thanks everyone for the reassurance re: nuchal scans. I'm feeling much more level-headed about everything today. We'll see how long that lasts, haha.

@BristolBear I've told close family, a handful of close friends and family friends and one work friend. I also told my boss yesterday just because I have quite a few appointments coming up and didn't want him to think I was interviewing. I'm thinking of waiting until about 15 weeks or so before I'm happy for it to be common knowledge. That doesn't mean a FB post or huge work announcement - just where I'm not as bothered about keeping it a secret. Then at least colleagues will understand why I've been eating 2 breakfasts and 2 lunches every day! Suppose you can keep it a secret as long as you're not showing!

Thanks @elb1504 and @otterbaby handy to hear what others are doing.

I'm looking like I'm a month ahead of where I am. I can still fit in my leggings and wearing the more baggy of my t-shirts, but definitely way too 'snug' to wear my jeans.

I've also been out for quite a few appointments. Went to epu today as had some very very light spotting after dtd, wasn't too concerned about that but midwife referred me. I'll probably start telling some people over the next week, I'm also not one for FB/social media announcements so friend's I see regularly + work colleagues and only face to face as and when I see them.