April 2020 Babies - Thread 2!

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Hey all!

Looks like we filled up the first thread pretty fast! Took me a while to realise why I couldn't send a message.

This is the first thread I've ever created, so hopefully I've done it right.

I'm going to tag the most recent users that commented, so sorry for a lot of the people that I miss. Hopefully everyone will find this.

@ellarosee
@Sunshine8888
@PrincessConsuela12
@Nikkinoodle84
@Nebulae1981
@Harriettenightingale
@morgan158
@PurpleViolin
@poopatroop
@ruthsoph
@eskimod
@Sorbfsiabs

Previous thread - https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3640572-April-2020-Babies?pg=1&order=

Happy 9 months to us all (or most likely less now!!) and congratulations to everyone new joining 💕

@Dawn99 Yes last couple of days I've had really bad headaches, I had to take day off yesterday and its still lingering today. I've taken paracetamol it does help periodically. I also drink loads of water already too.

@Dawn99
Hi there!
I’m having headaches too almost every day since last week. Paracetamol helped me a few times, others is just staying quiet and hoping for it to go away. I read that this is normal in the second trimester. It’s bye to nausea and hi to headaches...

@happymrsc thanks! I'm going to start taking them before bed.

Has anyone taking any medicine to help with constipation?
Pretty much had it everyday for the past week

@happymrsc
Hi darling,
I'm taking PB8, it's just probiotics and has been helping me a lot since I've started.
xx

I lost this page for ages, so pleased to have found it!

Ahhh so many scans I've missed! Sorry. Just catching up with everything. Congratulations everyone :)

@lannacorrea ooh I'll look that up, thanks!! I've only had it once before and that was enough, feel like I just can't get rid of it, maybe this will do the trick!

@girlanonymous friends who've had the same issue with pregnancy have been prescribed lactulose, maybe worth seeing GP?

Loving all the scan pics. Look fab.

Anyone else really struggling to hide the bloaty/bump? I look really preg. I am 10+5

Can I ask when people have told others that they are pregnant? I am 9 weeks tomorrow (I think) have my first midwife appointment tomorrow.

Ive only told my line manager in work and the teacher I work with as I have been feeling so sick. My hubby has told his manager so that he can come to appointments with me (hard for him to get time off)

I don't think I want to tell anyone until I've had the scan and hit 12 weeks. My hubby is finding it hard not to tell his parents though and wants to tell them at around 10 weeks. He thinks they will be hurt if they find out later. I was planning on telling them first then leave it a few days and tell the rest of our family and friends.

I'm not very close to my in laws so not looking forward to the moment unfortunately.

I did post on Aibu page a few weeks ago in which was probably a mistake.

@ChickenNugget86

I'm exactly 12 weeks today, scan on Thursday. I've told a couple close friends and my mother at 5 and 7 weeks but not my in-laws because like you I'm not particularly close to them and we won't tell them or anyone else till a few weeks after the scan. My rule was that I would only tell particular people earlier if those are the same people I would be comfortable telling I had a miscarriage. I know my husband would have wanted to tell his parents eventually if we did have a miscarriage but I wouldn't have wanted them to know in the midst of it. I don't think you should feel pressured to tell anyone any earlier than you are comfortable with...!

@PurpleViolin I'm struggling too! I am a big gym goer so I've had a lot of people notice a 'bloaty' tummy and ask me what's going on - been saying I've been bad with food and missed gym because I was unwell! Not sure how much longer I can keep it up!

@Serendipity001 - thankyou for the message back. My friends who have had children seem to tell me very early on, I've even had one friend tell me before her partner which I found very awkward. I'm sure when I tell them they will be pleased for me, just hope they understand that I wanted to wait until the scan.

DH understands, when we found out I was pregnant he wanted to tell the world. He sees his parents 3/4 times a week and is close to them. I don't have parents in my life my mum died when I was 18 suddenly and I don't have a relashionship with my dad as he took the death bad as is an achoholic. So I am jealous that I dont have this moment to tell my parents and have been feeling low and missing them. I am not close to my family after the death, hardly see any of them. So don't feel excited to share the news.

DH just mentioned tonight he was finding it difficult not mentioning it to his parents and that he feels like he's lying to them!

I feel the same as you and if anything did go wrong with the pregnancy now I'd rather not them know about it although it would be harsh for DH who would want support from them.

Sorry for my sob story! Just hoping my first midwife appointment goes well tomorrow eeek

Sorry to hear about everyone's headaches! Hopefully they don't become a permanent feature of the second trimester!

@PurpleViolin I'm only just 9 weeks and my trousers are definetely tight! Wish it was still warm so I could wear a floaty dress to feel a bit comfier and keep it hidden! Starting to live in pj bottoms when I'm at home which definetely is the way forward.

@chickennugget86 sharing the news is such a personal thing and some people may shout it from the rooftops and others hold out a while longer but the main thing is you decide as a team so if you want to hold out an extra couple of weeks then I'm sure DH will understand. It must be really hard when you don't have that same family support on your side. Also don't worry about the booking in appt. I have just had mine and it certainly made things more real but was not in any way anything to worry about! Although be prepared mine did take 2 hours!

@ChickenNugget86 I totally understand where you are coming from. I didn't plan to tell anyone until 12 weeks after I got my scan results as I've had a MC before and one of the worst parts was telling our parents the baby was gone.

I'm not mega close to my OHs parents, they are nice. But I hardly see them. I'm 10+5 today and only told my parents/sister because of the bleeding when I thought I'd lost the baby and I didn't want the first time for them to hear about it was when I'd lost it - just like your husband really.

I think it's a complicated choice but I definitely think do what's right for you. I've only just told a couple of very close friends and there are only so many excuses you can make and I needed the support.

The way I see it, is that if we tell the in laws after the scan, they get to enjoy it with none of the worry and the anxiety that my family have carried for the last 2 weeks. They can't get excited because I can't be until I know it's all ok.

When I got pregnant first time around, my in laws were so happy I could definitely see that by having a baby it would bring us closer together so the same could happen for you. Hoping your exciting news is well received when you tell your husbands parents, but tell them when you are ready. X

Does anyone have any experience with spotting. I posted last week that I had brown spotting. It lasted a week and had got lighter and stopped yesterday. This morning it's started quite a lot again. I had a scan on Thursday evening and everything was fine. Should I be worried

@Leag1 nobody can answer that question, though it can be normal it also needs checking out to decide whether it is or not. Give your local early pregnancy unit a call, if you don't have the number the hospital switchboard will put you through. Hope all is okay x

Yes @leag1 I’ve had spotting throughout. I don’t know if it’s ok but I should find out on Saturday when I have a private scan 🤞🏻

@PurpleViolin I'm definitely trying to hide bump/bloat (blump) DH said to me yesterday he could see a slight bump when I was in my work clothes, constantly sitting with my fleece on at my desk to cover it.

@ChickenNugget86 It's totally up to both of you when tell people, we decided to tell family at the weekend as we were with them and we dont see them that often. I now wonder if we should have waited (scan is 30th Sept) but then I think they would be able to help if anything does go wrong. Everyone needs someone to talk to and telling close family has helped as it can be quite isolating, but only do it when you both want to.

@happymrsc thank you will be giving the GP a visit.

And I might sounds nuts but I plan on telling people at 16 weeks if I don't show before then. I want to be able to tell people the gender at the same time so will be getting it done privately if I reach that point. May sound very late for most people.

On the subject of telling people, we never planned on doing any sort of announcement on social media etc; ours parents know through one thing or another (holidays and weddings we've been to recently) and a couple of my friends but that's it.

I'm actually finding myself umming and ahhing about keeping it quiet even after my scan next week. I feel weirdly protective, like I don't want to share it with anyone yet. But I don't know whether that's my background.... I've had to have a bit of a word with myself, I think I'm very much expecting the worst but hoping for the best with the whole pregnancy which is a bit of a miserable way to be thinking.

@happymrsc I'm the same not planning on telling anyone as long as I can get away with it!

I have my scan on 9th Oct and will then tell my parents, siblings and close friends but i wont be doing some massvie announcement on social media - but wil tell people as and when - will tell work around the 16 week mark if i can kep it that long x

Hey lovely people, I have news to share!
I just got my Harmony results back and found out I'm having a healthy baby boy!! I'm thrilled!!

I'm only 13+2 but with the Harmony test you get the option to check the gender at the same time, I'm so glad I did 🥰

@bookworm83 what fantastic news!! It's so incredible that you can find out so early now and he's lovely and healthy. Hope you have having a fabulous evening celebrating!

@leag1 I've had spotting on and off and some reassurance scans to check all is okay and touch wood it has been so far but it's hard to ever know without a scan. If you are worried though I would consider a trip to the EPU or a private scan?

Ahh bookworm, is this the first gender reveal of April?! Congratulations :) x