September 2019 #12

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Aaahhhh... thread number 12! Hold on tight ladies... here come the babies!

Ah, I see @DustyDoorframes ooh, 33 weeks, you're just coming up to the good bit then! Hopefully you don't have it, but you'll get through it if you do.

Actually, the back thing was probably the most baby brain moment I've had in ages - he/she isn't back to back at all - I can feel a bony bum sticking out all the time - I guess the kicks feel upwards coz their legs are tucked up? I don't know what weird image I had in my head yesterday 🙄

Just had a blazing one with dh - basically trying to sort out in my head how I feel about the induction etc and he kept telling me to ask my mum or his mum as he's never had a baby. I was like, yeah but our circumstances are different, we need to consider the impact on our baby. So he was like well ask my sister then 🤷‍♀️ OMFG! It basically descended from there so I said well if you're not going to help me decide there's no point taking you to my next appointment where I do have to decide, I might as well take my mum, hen he got all offended. He says he doesn't want to be blamed for making the wrong decision - gah - we're both in the same position and will both know the same things after the appointment, I just need support and for him to help me. Vagina or no.

Good news on the positioning kyles it can be hard to imagine how they are inside of you! Some good images on google images though.
Sorry to hear about the argument. I think dp would leave decisions like that to me, he usually does and tbh i usually just make them

Congratulations Stroan! Sorry forgot to say yesterday!

Ah @kyles101 it's really hard to tell which way round babies are! Even MWs get it wrong on a fairly regular basis!
Ouf no fun starting the day with a big fat row. I'm with you- if he won't engage with thinking it out then there's no point him coming with you, is there?!? Can you send him off to do some research and report back??
Is it the GD that would be the reason for inducing?
On a separate but related note- you hear a lot of horror stories about inductions, and not much about the easy ones. Mine was fine, and not desperately painful. I was going to ask for all the drugs but never got to the point of needing them. It took about 4 hours from starting the drip to giving birth. I was really worried about it having only heard awful stories!

How are you both this morning @Karigan195 ??

@IVEgottheDECAF yeah I'm normally the main decision maker I suppose, it's just really grated on me that he's refusing to help and take some responsibility. I know it's scary but just trying to palm me off on the mother's has irritated me. Plus I'm dithering and I don't like it, I'm usually very decisive. It's all new.

@DustyDoorframes yep, because of the GD. And yeah, all the horror stories have scared the shit out of me - was talking to a lady last weekend who was induced on Monday, ended up on the drip on Wednesday, pushing for 4 hours Wednesday night, baby got stuck so ended up with emergency c section - basically anything that could go wrong went wrong. She was induced just before due date due to GD too.

And it's not like I'm asking him to decide, I will obviously have an input, but talking it through together would be nice. Grrr, I don't know 🤦‍♀️

@kyles101 I think you should decide. Even if you got advice from others no one can make the decision for you. Then your husband can just back you up.

My husband asked me if I have a nightie to wear and also what kind of things I'd like to eat at the time during labour. He was pretty insistent that chocolate milk is the way to go since it has protein, salts, sugars etx he said it's the perfect drink. I'm like er ok I just can't see me craving choccy milk during Labour!!

Did he want chocolate milk? I have a couple of bottles of lucozade sport and then they obv have water in the hospital.

He is very partial to chocolate milk!
Yes, Lucozade I thought may be sensible! Also, loving apple juice right now. I said I think I'll want something refreshing rather than heavy chocolate milk. He's a bloody scientist though so goes into lots of detail about it zzzz

Oh well I suppose he can always drink it! As long as he doesnt try and feed it to you!

@Horehound yeah, deffo the actual decision would 100% be mine, if he was advocating something I completely disagreed with there's no way I'd go along with it, but I genuinely wanted his opinion and to talk it through together. Personally I think I'd like to be given as long as safely possible for thing to happen naturally as that's the lowest intervention route, but depending on who you talk to at the hospital you get different advice. I don't know, maybe I have been a bit harsh on him then, he is probably pretty used to me making most decisions pretty independently...?

Imagine if at the critical moment you really craved chocco milk - you'd never hear the end of it!!

Yeh I totally understand and I agree with you, you shpuld be able to discuss it without him palming you off. I also agree with how you expect things should proceed. It's your body and medical professionals will all have opinions but they could be related to other biases and stuff. Deffo go with your instinct.

Haha well he said he was gona get it in anyway..it wouldn't go to waste since he loves the stuff :D it's quite cute the way he was going on about keeping the fridge stocked with all this stuff for the next few weeks hehe

Oooo can't see me wanting choc milk in labour, might be a bit heavy. I was throwing up in labour last time so definitely couldn't have stomached anything other than water.

DH is on a proper nesting mission today. But he started with the garden and the garage, you know those really important things that need doing before you have babies 🤔
I was actually quite itchy all over yesterday, wondered if it was just my imagination, or a possible reaction to shampoo used at the hairdressers on Thursday. Had a good old scrub in the shower this morning but the soles of my feet are definitely still itchy. Going into day care soon for blood tests anyway so will mention it!

Urgh @boodles101 the last thing you need for your weekend of pre babies peace is another (itchy!) worry!!! Definitely sounds like whisking them out on Monday is absolutely the right plan!

Fanta is my labour energy drink of choice. Yeah, choc milk could be a bit much... choc covered Brazil nuts for after were pretty brilliant last time though!

@kyles101 I totally get what you mean- he can't just opt out of thinking about it all, even if it's your call at the end of the day.

Hmph, my post breakfast reading was 8.9. Grumble grump. Totally serves me right for poo-pooing the whole idea for the last two pregnancies.

@boodles101 ask them to check your bile acid levels when they check your bloods later. Higher than normal levels can cause itching - particularly palm of hands and soles of feet. But as you're having the babies out on Monday, it's unlikely to be a significant problem.

Hopefully nothing to worry about boodles! Does DH think the babies will be spending much time in the garage

@kyles101 totally understandable that you’d want your OHs opinion and to involve him in the decision!

@boodles101 that’s a good idea to mention it when you go in, hopefully it’s nothing to worry about!

Hope the new babies and mums are all doing well today!

I had a massive meltdown this morning, couldn’t feel baby move and just had this feeling that the worst had happened. Went to my day assessment centre where they did a trace and everything was fine but I was in such a state, when they asked me to do a wee sample first I just started sobbing as I honestly thought that something was wrong. They’re now going to have me in once a week for the last few weeks to do a trace, mainly to try and ease my anxiety! I’m trying to rationalise as I know it’s due to losing our baby last year that’s causing all of this worry but I just can’t control the panic!

My DH is like that before we go on holiday @boodles101 I'm packing for the three of us, checking passports, phone chargers, loading up the iPad for Dd and he will be deep cleaning the oven or washing machine. Or the best one... re-doing the mastik around the bath 🙄 really helpful!

Well I've sent a very apprehensive DH off to football, he was actually quite sweet. It's the first game of the season (which I gather is quite a big deal). But he wasn't going to bother because it's getting a bit close now (38+5). He's 2 hours away maximum even with the longest wait possible for a train. It's going to take my mum half hour to get here to have Dd and it'll take a further 35 mins to get to the hospital (depending on traffic). I've had 3 texts and 2 phone calls since he left at 9:30 😂 he doesn't seem to get that I was quite looking forward to a day of peace without him here!

@Puglover88 it's understandable that you are on edge. And good that they will see you regularly.

DP is going to football a couple of hours next week florence I will be 38+2. I dont think he will be sharing your DHs concern so i will have my fingers crossed nothing occurs.

I want to share decision making but like a lot of you it’s been put back on what I want. (I want him to research and have some input and not leave the mental load all on me). I’m very tempted to just go and do it alone, no partner, no family, no nothing. Maybe it’s hormones but I feel like I have the worst PMT ever!

@Moraxella DH has left all the decision making to me too after appointments etc and whether to go for c section etc. It's annoying because I would actually like to know his thoughts and opinions. He said he doesn't want to choose or give an opinion that then turns out to be wrong 😂 I'm not just taking his word as gospel but it would have helped me in my decision making to know what he thought.

Bloods done ready for Monday. Told the MW about the itching but she said by the time I would get any results, the babies will be here anyway so just keep an eye on movement etc.

Lovely twin mum in the area has just dropped me off a medela swing pump that she only used for a few top ups in the first few weeks. Didn't want to accept any money for it either so that's just saved me about £100!!

@Puglover88 I'm not at all surprised you are anxious! I think it would be very strange if you were NOT anxious! V glad the hospital is being supportive. And that you are not hesitating to ask for what you need.

@boodles101 good point re the babies beating the results back... hopefully it's not too maddeningly it hurts though!