BFP - Anyone else feb 2020? Continued ...

[Marleym28]

Continued thread as the old one reached 1k

Hello everyone!
I was in the last thread but don't think I've posted in this one yet.
Congratulations to everyone who's been having their scans! I had mine this morning, due February 21st. I'm quite excited about that date, because it'll be my best friend's daughter's 1st birthday!
Good luck to everyone who's scans are coming up 💐

Hi everyone! Have been gone a few days so nice to catch up and lovely to see so many positive messages. Had my dating scan yesterday and I'm 11 weeks today, due 28th Feb. Have told most people now except since family I want to tell in person this weekend. Still feeling rubbish with nausea and exhausted and having a rough time with DH at the minute as we're just fighting a lot. Had an absolute doozy last night before bed, of course he just rolled over and went to sleep while I was up half the night crying. I know it's probably just stress but it really hurt, he was complaining about me not doing anything round the house (it's true, the house is filthy but I'm just exhausted all the time) and I haven't been cooking or anything and everything just blew way out of proportion and now it's a huge fight and we're not speaking and I'm lying here crying again. Sorry for the rant, just feeling really down and alone, unsupported.

@Dweebette Sorry to hear that you're upset. I felt the same at the beginning of my pregnancy. Me and hubby were squabbling and ended up having the odd few big barneys and I just remember feeling really tearful and low thinking it should be such a happy time but we were just fighting a lot! And it was mainly around me being tired and not as energetic as I usually am. Bottom line is, men don't understand (as much as they think they do) and they never really will. A combination of realising your whole lives are about to change, hormones all over the place - bound to cause a few problems here and there! I even came on here to write a little thread about it for some reassurance and some lovely ladies responded to say that they had been/were in similar situations.
From my experience, it'll calm down eventually. I think it's really important for both parties to see things from the other persons point of view but essentially, be sure to take care of yourself and not cause yourself any additional stress. It's not good for you nor good for your little bean! All the best x

Thanks @S082018 I really hope things get better. I'm just so frustrated, I feel like he's purposely making things more difficult for me, it feels like he's punishing me for being "lazy". I just got up in the middle of the night to get water and earlier I spent an hour cleaning the kitchen top to bottom even though I was exhausted and feeling really sick. Just walked into the kitchen and it's a bombsite from him making dinner and honestly I know he did it on purpose because last night I tried to explain that I need him to help more and he said he has been but he was going to stop just to show me how bad things are when he didn't help. It's just so nasty and spiteful and it's really just not what I need right now. I'm trying to stay calm for the baby's sake but this is just a really horrible situation to be in and I don't know why he's being like this. We talked about everything before we started trying and he said he'd support me but it feels now that he's just making life so much harder when it's already pretty awful with feeling so sick and tired all the time

waves to everyone - just having a catchup.

xx

15+4 here - we're having a boy - soooo over the moon. i know a lot of you are still waiting on 12 week scan, im eager to get to the 20 week anomoly scan. - theres never not a worrying/anxious time. (or is it just me)

@bessie84 congrats on your boy! So lovely! You're right, never a time with no worry! Had my 12 week scan at 11 weeks so 20 weeks feels like a lifetime away!!

@S082018 that is a strange coincidence haha. I think I’ll tell close family members but everyone else can wait until baby is born 😁 hope you are well x

@dweebette - sorry to hear you are arguing a lot, that sounds horrible! I hope things get better for you soon!

@bessie84 a wee boy, that’s so exciting, congratulations!! I don’t think I’ll ever stop worrying until this baby is safely in my arms!

13+2 today and still feeling good, just on the commute to work at the moment! Last night I ate cherry pie filling straight out the can and I’m not even sorry 😂
Midwife should hopefully be calling me today with an update on when my 12 week scan will be, fingers crossed!

Hello ladies, just found this group for the first time. Due feb 10th xx

Hey everyone

If anyone has suggestions for headaches please send them my way. I've had them a bit the last couple of weeks but the last few days they've just ramped up to the point I have to just go to sleep.

I want to avoid taking paracetamol etc if poss .
I think it's fairly common and I have low bp so not too concerned but any tips would be appreciated :)

@Dweebette oh that doesn't sound very nice at all 😔 do you think you can try talking to him again? It took me a few of the same conversations with my hubby for him to realise and eventually become more understanding. And also as bad as it sounds, the more the pregnancy goes on, the more "real" it feels for the dad's to be too. At the beginning, because I wasn't showing or we hadn't had a scan or anything yet, I think my hubby found it hard to process. Since I've become a little bigger and we have had two scans, he is much more attentive and sensitive to my needs. It takes some men longer than others and some just seem to take on the role that we need them to straight away (lucky!). I hope things get better for you x

@InOmniaParatus13 it is a coincidence! Fingers crossed you hear about your 12 week scan today 🤞🏽
I received a letter yesterday about my 20 week scan. It's on the 24th September 😊 and I'll be exactly 20 weeks on this day too!

Hi 🙋🏻‍♀️
Currently due with my second on roughly 22nd Feb, having my dating scan next week just woke up from a very stressful dream where I was having a scan and the lady stopped and rang someone and was saying something about the heartbeat, I couldn't find my husband and then another lady came in and I said tell me it's not twins, and she said you're going to want to see this, and I woke up When I told my husband about it he said oh god i dreamt the same thing, twins! I'm putting it down to nerves

@Marleym28 I suffer from migraines a lot, what really helps me is a heat pack (the microwave ones) on my neck or my head. Hopefully that will ease them a bit for you too

Hi everyone, just after a little reassurance please. 13weeks with my first and my symptoms have switched completely from nauseous/sick 24/7 to a tiny bit nauseous in the evening but period type feeling of a dull ache/cramp with the odd sort of shooting pain that disappears as quickly as it arrives. Is this what I should be feeling? I've read about round ligament pain and stretching uterus but it always feels different when it's happening to you!

Thanks in advance xx

@Ginny1234 I'm 13 weeks and 2 days and just this week noticed a stretching/twinging type feeling in my lower stomach! Nothing major, it comes and goes fairly quickly and from what I've read, it's pretty normal at this stage 😊
Any further concerns though may be best to talk to your midwife if you need further reassurance. All the best x

Hi! Been lurking on this thread but didn't want to post yet.. had my first scan this morning and am due on Valentine's Day! This is my 2nd pregnancy, and I'm pretty nervous as I had preeclampsia at 35 weeks with my daughter and had to have an EMCS. But I've got several consultant appointments booked, so trying not to worry and take things as they come.

SO82018 thank you, I'm seeing my consultant this afternoon so will mention it then. Everything feels strange so hard not to worry!

Ginny1234, same here! 14 weeks and have pretty constant dull ache. 🤞 It's just stretching uterus?

Thanks for responding @45andfine I just asked my consultant and she said it's fine and to expect a mild period pain type feeling with shooting pain or bigger cramps but it's fine so long as they come and go and don't get worse.
Ps. Does 45 and fine mean you 45? I'm 41 and could do with another geriatric to chat to! Xx

@ginny1234 yes! I'm feeling old on here! It's definitely a different experience being a geriatric mum!

@ginny1234 oh and reassuring to know the ache is normal! Any time I Google symptoms it just says miscarriage risk is 50% for the over 40s... And I panic! 🤯.

@45andfine I know what you mean, I'm preggers with my first after 7 miscarriages so it's hard not to over think sometimes but I reckon I'm chilling out a bit now. If you want some nice stats have a look at this miscarriage risk calculator- it helps me when I'm being a nutter: datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer.php

Hey all 😁
Lots of posts for me to catch up on, just on the long commute home so will do that now!
I hope everyone is well.
Spoke to the midwife this morning, she said she would check at lunch time and call me back, haven’t heard a peep since! May try calling the hospital tomorrow see if they can help :)

@S082018 thank you, I think you're right and he's not understanding because it's not entirely real yet. Seeing the wriggle at the scan on Tuesday seems to have shaken him a bit so I think he was lashing out because he's scared. We had a good talk and I think I got my feelings across and vice versa so hopefully it'll be better from now. Also came home to a sparkling clean kitchen so that's something in itself!

Eeeee my midwife just text, my scan is at 1.30pm on Tuesday 😁😁😁😁