August '07 - One down, one on the way and still waiting for the expected mass POP !

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How's this for our new thread ladies....??

Rhiannon ??? What's going on ??? You ok ?

BM&BB - well done for trying bf - I sympathise completely.
Had trouble with both dc, ended up formular feeding which suited everyone better.
Banana - he's gorgeous, you must be so proud.
Conkertree - glad to hear you stuck to your guns and proved midwives wrong about bf, I had it all with dd - and being my first they all just put the fear of god up me and made me think I was doing something wrong!
A little more positive approach wouldn't go amiss.
Glad to see all's well now though.
Rhiannon - looking forward to exciting news.

Ooh Rhiannon, best of luck, chuck!

Conkertree, loved reading your birth story, thanks for sharing it. Sounds like you've had a bit of a tough week, but glad to hear it's all sorted itself out now. Love the name you chose, is it celtic?

Sorry - did Rhiannon say she was in labour?? Lucky cow..

Conkertree - my what a story - you've had a bit of a time of it first time round - enough to put you off babies I imagine! Enjoy being at home with your lovely boy (Good name) and adjusting to motherhood.

Bananabump -lovely pic - the cardie fininshes it off beautifully he's very snuggly.

As for here - well, its SOOOOO quiet that I'm beginning to wonder if actually I'm pregant at all, and perhaps when I had my appendix out, they stitched a basketball in, with a valve that DH is secretly inflating each night.

And actually - it is sooooo quiet, I am beginning to think DH has left me. Huge row (actually, u need two to row, he just shouted at me) because he couldn't make DS's porridge. Used one of those silly quaker simply oats, which says you can use the packet to measure the milk. Well, from experience I know you CAN"T - but DH had to do it. After the 1st went wrong he wanted to use all the rest to prove they didn't work. I told him to grow up. So he shouted at me (in front of DS) that if I ever said taht again eh would be "seriously pissed off"... not sure what more he can do... hit me? leave . So he's stropped off with DS for a bike ride, w/out saying goodbye, and I am debating on packing his bags for him.

then at least I can sort out a hospital birth, he's happy to have ds so taht wold be easy, and my best friend is back from Scotland tonight so she can be my birth partner.

Sorry crap typing - can't see coz I'm crying too much. . Maybe its just hormones and things aren't really so bad?

Sorry, all these lovely babies, and I go and put a downer on things.

Bagpuss - sorry to hear everything's so stressful for you at the mo.
I'm sure dh just feels the frustration as much as you.
I'm certain he'll come round when everything happens.
You know how men don't like to be proven wrong!! My dh would sulk for days if he'd got somehting like that wrong!!
Good luck hun, hope you all cheer up, and hormones all settle soon.

Lovely birth stories, conkertee and bananabump.
I, too had terribel experience to bf my dd, and she was bottlefeed. I understand its very emotional and heartbreaking when you want it wont work for you.
Good luck Rhiannion, seems good news coming soon.
I had occassional pains, nothing major so far.

Growingbagpuss!

It probably is just the hormones, fatigue etc... I mean is it really worth considering packing bags over some Oatso Simple!?!

I was really rotten a week or so back, just crying all the time for that day. The next day I was fine I probably had some fluctuation in my hormones...nothing more or less.

I to am overdue by 3 days. Ive decided to just go with the flow and think of my due date as being nearly 2 weeks to go rather than 3 days late. Often we can't actually change our circumstances but we can how we view them and how we respond to them.

Take Care of yourself please, you will need to be in a calm state of mind and well rested as you can be for when the little one arrives.

regards
Elenor

Oh and congratulations to the ladies who have already safely had their August babes!

Oh bagpuss, you poor thing. Typical man behaviour: They have to be right, and when they aren't they beat their chests, roar, and retreat to sulk. Guaranteed he'll be back later like nothing's happened, while you'll still be upset!

Sounds like you're both wrung out waiting for this baby, perhaps you could have someone mind your ds for an afternoon and spend some time talking things through? I hope you're feeling better, there's nothing worse than rows when you're pregnant, it makes you feel so vulnerable and worried. Don't worry about putting a downer on the thread, it's about support, not just celebrating new arrivals.

Still no news on Annie75? I hope everything's alright.

Love the pic of James Banana. He's so cute. Glad to hear everything's going well. I can imagine it's quite hard to have your dp's family around 24 7 when you want a bit of privacy but it sounds like his mum is being very helpful.

Good for you babymad, glad you're enjoying your dd.

Congrats Conker. Sorry you had such a hard time but your baby is lovely. I remember every midwife telling me something different about breastfeeding but most of them were telling me I was doing it right (I really wasn't). Glad it's all worked out for you now though.

Poor you bagpuss. That's all you need right now. Men can't stand to be wrong can they. Hopefully he will have calmed down by the time he gets home.

Good luck rhiannon. Hope to hear from you soon.

Well can i relate to some of you.

babyloves- I'm having the same drama, BP is up and have to go for hospital monitoring all next week, baby is due wednesday, but can't see LO comming any time soon. When are you due I can't find you on list, there's not much you can do about BP, I had it last time to, but you will be in good care, i got a room to myself with ds try and get plenty of rest.

growing bag- i've had a big row with dh and my parents today too. basically P's were harrassing me over name/sex etc, they don'y know anything yet, but want a girl and want to know names, eeeked out my names and then said they didn't like them. I only have one of each. I got upset and dh said i asked for it, etc. so I'm really upset and angry too, sick of everyone and have been crying for about 5 hours now. i know it's probably a bit hormonal but wish i could have some support rather than attacks.

Just want to have the baby on my own now without anyone.

hi all,

ah growingbagpuss - send you a big hug and a slap round the head for your inconsiderate dh! he'll surely be apologetic once he's cooled down no? and at least you have a bit of a break from him and ds for a while.

my dp came home 4.30am totally drunk on Saturday morning, after promising he wouldn't drink too much in case of emergency.. he switched on the bedroom light and woke me up then did full drunk routine of pledging undying love, followed by tears, sighing loudly and eventually snoring!! aghhh I was furious but he was so drunk he couldn't take any notice. when he woke up he heard me on phone complaining about him and was very apologetic at first then felt more sorry for himself as hangover kicked in, so I had to keep up my frostiness for the whole day just to remind him how cross I was...

men- 50/50 dog training/ parenting skills!

and..

bananab - lovely photo and update. don't stand for any shit from MIL! People who can dish it out can take it too, she's lucky to be a guest in your home at this special time. But your SIL what an idiot!! I'd have gone mad!

conkertree - lovely photos and birth story. sorry about the bf but it sounds as though you have it sorted now

uki - what are people like?? they shouldn't ask about names if they haven't got anything positive to say. and tell your dh you need his 100% support right now

and good luck rhiannon!

oh dear, bagpuss, uki: I know I am new and don't know you, but I really hope you're feeling better or will be soon. I guess that's all I should say given that I am a stranger round here.

I worked in a health food shop years ago and had a very new age-y colleague who was always advising me to "put on my cloak of protection" when rows with my mother were getting me down. It sounds a bit daft and I'm not much into visualisation techniques etc but actually, desperate enough to try it, I found it kind of helped to imagine physically deflecting the hurtful stuff that was being said.

sorry if that sounds incredibly lame! anyway - good luck.

Due tomorrow, thought my waters might have gone last night but no, was just your basic embarrassing trickle ... oh well - one more day of mooching around the house!

Congratulations to everyone who has given birth lately, it's so interesting to read your stories, esp as a first-timer.

oh dear - sounding like a lot of people are not having a great time just now.

its seems really crazy to give that sort of opinion on names so close to a birth uki - particularly when they are nobodies business but yours and your partners. am sure they are both great- and if you like them it doesnt matter who doesnt.

hope your dh has returned to apologise growing.

struan is a celtic name - sorry cant remember who asked - it means the meeting of two streams. (and robert is after my dad)

Uki...

Good lord your getting it from all sides!! IMO your parents and your partner seem out of order. FFS what is wrong with people!?!
When you could do with some support you have your parents putting their nose in were they have no bloody right too!!...Choose what names you want and to hell with them!!...and then your partner has a snidy go at you sigh-Ask him for his support not criticism at this a very vulnerable time for you. He might have been frustrated at your parents behaviour but nevertheless he should not have taken that frustration out on you!

Im having a quiet afternoon atm the moment... DP snuck up stairs for a nap, he'd been up early with his DD who choose to get up at 5:30am today!! She came looking for him found him asleep and after much sighing has fallen asleep beside him lol. Im sat at the bottom of the bed now just watching them snoozing away lol They look so sweet!! :D Best wake them up soon though- we were meant to go to the the park/WackyWareHouse (depending on weather) sometime this afternoon!

Still no sign of baby making an apperance...doubtless she will do that in her own time

What a cheery lot we are!

Feeling crap myself today... 38+2. Really tired and sore back. DH back to work tomorrow after 6 weeks holiday (he's a teacher). Children back to school/nursery on Thursday. Not looking forward to the next 3 days. DH has been such a help!

I'm also getting a bit of a break this afternoon Elenor. Today is the first time dh has cooked since I started maternity leave 4 weeks ago. He loves cooking and normally does his share but he sees me as a housewife now and doesn't offer to do any cooking or cleaning. Luckily dd is having a nap too. We went out to get some food for dinner and drove round for 10 minutes to get her to sleep - otherwise she is horrible.

My back's quite sore too today Ceolas but that's mainly to do with the fact that I hoovered the whole house, cleaned the bathroom and did the washing up. I'm ok if I don't stand for too long.

Embarking on a week indoors this week. I'm 39 weeks today and booked for a home birth. I'm very likely to have cabin fever by Tuesday afternoon but I really don't want to risk being too far from home when my waters break or I start having contractions. Dd will be with relatives for 2 days and I've invited people round 2 other days. Hopefully she won't be too much trouble if there are people here. She won't nap unless we go out in the car at the right time so she tends to get very difficult in the afternoons.

Bananabump - what a gorgeous picture , it made me go quite misty eyed.
Bagpuss and Uki - sorry you're both having a rough time of it. Uki-once you've pushed that baby out you can call it whatever the hell you want and you won't give a toss about offending anyone! I guarantee it!
Congrats conker - glad your Lo is here safely.
It's my due date tomorrow - scared now! No signs as yet.

Bananabump - what a gorgeous little boy you have! He just looks so content! Well done again. And at your SIL - I'd have gone mental. I still think you're very brave having the IL's to stay at this stage but I keep telling myself it's good that our LO's relations are interested in seeing them - I have a friend whose parents didn't want to know and I think that would be even worse. (Trying to look on the positive side before the onslaught of IL's and parents )

Conker - well done again!! Your pics are lovely and I love the name Struan. It sounds like you've had a tough week but I'm sure you're enjoying being back home now with your men!

Babymad - sorry to hear you've had a tough time too. Connie is gorgeous and as someone else said already, the most important thing is that she's putting on weight. I hope your midwife checkup went well today

Uki - I'm sorry to hear you've had BP problems too and how insensitive of your P's and DH to give you hassle over LO's name - that's hardly going to help things. I'm waiting for the hassle from P's and IL's over our choice of names after our LO arrives!! It's 'good' to know that someone else has been in the same high BP situation - I don't know anyone else that has experienced it. Did you have to take beta blockers too? And what happened during labour - did they monitor your BP throughout?? DH kindly reminded me today that my BP would go up during labour!!!!!! I don't want to be taking these beta blockers forever, especially as they've made me feel wiped out and a bit flu-ey - I'm wondering where I'm going to get the energy for labour now !! I'm due 22nd August btw. Sorry for all the questions - I just don't know what to expect.

Bagpuss - I hope your DH has got over his porridge strop! Maybe the way you're feeling at the moment is a sign of things progressing??!! Hope you're feeling better soon. Fingers crossed things will start soon

I concur with babyloves - said it all really!

Babymad - did you BF your other 2? I tried with mine but failed to get over the pain - going to try again this time but not holding out much hope!

I'm getting a bit sad that this pg is about to end - don't know if it's because I'm never going to go through another one or that I know the hard work it about to start!

Oh..I'm also having huge rows with DH - I think I'm probably starting most of them but he should really be more understanding!

Hi All

Sorry haven't posted in ages, have been too exhausted to do anything. Thought you might want to know that mini shuvel - Albie was born on 09.08.07 weighing 7lb 9 and is absolutely georgeous.

Congratulations to everyone else who's little ones have arrived. Will catch up on all posts when i can and let you all in on the birth details.

Am adding photos too.

Hello again

Thank you for all your knid words and sympathy, just what i needed

well update, after giving dh much grief, not talking to him, running away, not cooking dinner, not sleeping in same bed,etc (not very nice) but duidn't feel like contributing much else. I finally put my feelings into tangible words and we made up. i was pretty upset as we always have the same issues of him being the devils advocate with everything I do or say, so hopefully he might be more supportive next time.

parents have been ringing, but i haven't answered, just so sick of thenm intefereing and putting their judgements on the baby's sex, it really hurts me.
loler- well at least we are all similar so it can't be to un normal IYKWIM

growingbag- i hope you have sorted out everything too, my biggest fear was going into labour with all this, You or LO doesn't need that.

BLMuffins - Are beta blockers high blood pressure medication???? yes i was on these last pg and after pg and they have alot of side effects 9poor you). this time I will get induced straight away if BP is 150/90 I have a monitor at home. At the moment it's a bit below that, so hanging by a thread.
Yes ds's birth was induced and heavily monitored, i planned a birth centre birth (natural) but ended up with much medical intervention. BP and baby moniter on, catherer, had to stay on bed, epidural, c/s threatened twice sowasn't allowed to eat or drink, but did have natural ending really sorry to tell you that, but i would of liked to know that it might happen, but was never told this. important thing is baby and I were fine, in third world without medical help we would not have been.

I have no idea what to expect this time, would still like a natural birth if possible.

paperdoll- think i need a 'full metal jacket' for my P's

HI to everyone else, i'm sure we will all be feeling better, when we can sleep comfortably and see our feet!!!!!

Loler- On the B/F issue I found counting to 10, really helpful, the pain would not last longer than 10 seconds, and for me i found this pain nothing compared to induced labour contractions,so i could bear with them. if it does hurt longer they are not attatched properly, so try again. I don't think it hurt much beyond a week and a half for me.

you probably know that already though!!!

so no pops yesterday is that right? maybe todays the day for a few more to go?

Congratulations mrss - look forward to hearing more about it soon - and very cute pictures.

forgot to say - think it was tokentotty that mentioned snoring a few days ago - i developed the loudest snore ever in the last few weeks of pregnancy - people in opposite ends of the house when i was staying with my sister had to wake me up cause nobody else could sleep for the noise. Seems to have stopped now (fingers crossed).