September 2019 #10.

[Karigan195]

New thread so we can leave #9 as a type of condolence book for little Roy and Twittlebee. Sleep in peace little man

How do you know what position the baby is?

And how do you tell hiccups?!

Re position if you feel a round hard lump and you poke it and it doesnt really move its the head, if it makes baby wiggle its the bum. Head is also harder than bum i find! Transverse is easy to feel as hard lump at each side of bump

@Whisky2014 Hiccups for me feel like rhythmic small kicks/spasms. Bump has them at least once a day (same with DD). Old wives tale is that it means baby will be born with lots of hair!

Karigan I get hiccups at least twice a day every day - she even did them when I was on the monitor for movements earlier in the week which made for a fun trace!

I panicked about it initially but have decided not to worry about it, I just have a hiccupy baby. If you’ve got any other issues re movements then follow up but normal movement + hiccups I think is fine.

I can only tell position from the scans! His bum is quite obvious now and the biggest kicks are either side of it. Other than that, it could be a tiny elephant in there and I'd have no clue.

Hiccups feel funny, like a regular and constant flutter in the same place. Again, can only tell them definitely because he had them while being monitored.

@exitstrategist are you having another growth scan? I get feeling detached, i think it's very common when it isn't your first as you just don't have the time! And then you feel guilty. Go easy on yourself though, it's hard work!

@BridgetJonesDaiquiri interesting! DD had a full head of hair but I don't remember many hiccups. And didn't have heartburn!

Argh sorry @Hsunshine ! Posting in a rush never quite works...
@happydays00 hope you are home and all ok now.
@IVEgottheDECAF mine is still flipping about like mad. They only seem to start settling about 34 weeks or later when they have even less room...
Hah re the hair/hiccups thing- my previous two were hairy and hiccupy. I've not noticed any hiccups yet with this one so we shall see if she's a baldy!

At my last growth scan they could see baby has lots of hair- but I am not aware of any hiccups occurring yet!

I have my home antenatal health visitor visit this week. Never had one before. Anyone else had one?

Perfect timing with kids all off school

@ivegotthedecaf they don't do that here. Can you refuse it? I'd say that with 4 kids already you could probably teach them what to do!

Pregnancy rage is full on today. Very little sleep thanks to hip pain then woken up by delivery men in the street at 7.20. Surely if you are delivering a TV that early in the morning you don't stand outside shouting and swearing?

Decaf I had a call from a HV earlier in the week, she tried to arrange a home visit but made it very clear it was optional and I declined because we’re having work done on the house and I didn’t know when it’s going to be a building site. Thought they’d push it more because it’s my DC1 but I think it was more of a courtesy visit so I didn’t see a stranger after the birth so she just said yes no problem see you when baby’s born.

I can decline but i have declined last few HV contacts and dont want them to think i am running a sweat shop or anything

Had an awful night last night, heartburn was killing me. Kept waking poor DH and now he's off for a 24hr duty. Ah well, I've obviously just reached the point where ranitidine before bed is an absolute necessity!

No antenatal visits here (Berkshire), just postnatal. Found them to be pretty useless last time postnatally to be honest, so can’t imagine they’d be much better before baby is born. What’s the purpose of antenatal? To check where baby will be sleeping? Check you don’t live in a hovel? Check you’re not a total imbecile? Think I would politely decline

Ah declining is so tempting

It's no.5 isn't it IVEgottheDECAF? Just tell them "this isn't my first rodeo"

ok so no one think it looks bad if i have declined several contacts e.g. dc4s two year check?

And yes no5!

No, I think it looks like you are a parent of 4 kids, soon to be 5, in the middle of the school holidays! They're probably overworked and will be delighted not to waste their time on someone who clearly knows what they are doing

@IVEgottheDECAF can you have a quick phone chat with them along the lines of "just checking what this is for, I've got no concerns, and school holidays are a juggle so don't want to waste anyone's time"? Then you are the sensible mum saving wasted appointments rather than the sweatshop mum (not that they will think that anyway!!!)

I like your thinking Dusty!

Entirely within your rights to decline if you want to. Just call them up and ask what’s it’s for and have a good chat about wether it’s necessary. Be nice polite and considerate about their time and you’ll probably get gold stars on your record :)

I’m meant to have one, I was told that its only purpose antenatal was to meet the HV so you don’t have a random stranger turning up when you are vulnerable post natal. Its also a chance for questions.
I filled in a consent form ages ago but heard nothing since.
I’m ok with them coming if the timing suits, but will decline if it doesn’t. If its when I finish work then its ok but not practical whilst working.

Agree with what others have said, I think if you decline in the right way they won’t be concerned.

I had the worst nights sleep ever, first properly uncomfortable night (32+1), hips hurt and had electric shocks in my rib cage which kept jolting me awake. Plus my bladder was really whinging.

I had this lower down in the early days, I think its nerve pain from stretching which in me manifests as feeling like electric shocks. It was grim anyway! Am shattered.

I had an appointment through for next Friday for the HV! Called and asked if it could be rearranged for once I've finished work and they did that no problem.

I also had a shit sleep and now feel unwell for it.

We just got our scottish baby box..it is amazing. There's just so much stuff in it, they've thought of everything and even has a voucher for a tots bits reusable nappy and inserts.
Quite emotional going through it all really.