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September 2019 #10.

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Karigan195 · 04/07/2019 19:25

New thread so we can leave #9 as a type of condolence book for little Roy and Twittlebee. Sleep in peace little man

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IVEgottheDECAF · 18/07/2019 13:32

Its a rare occurrence here but i find spoons works

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Karigan195 · 18/07/2019 14:00

Second spoons. You can still breath and move without it feeling like s marathon.

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kyles101 · 18/07/2019 14:07

Third for spoons. Although also now in the "not very often" camp despite DH trying at every given opportunity.

Florencenotflo · 18/07/2019 14:09

It was our anniversary 😂 haven't done it in a while but I thought we should make the effort!

Haven't tried spoons recently, but haven't managed that in the past so not looking likely. Yes, from behind is the only way that worked, but I'm not overly keen. It's nice enough but arse in the air isn't the most romantic of positions... hey ho... needs must I suppose!

easterbuns1 · 18/07/2019 14:13

My dp will barely come near me but on rare occasion he has it's spoons. I really wish I wasn't bothered about it but it's a pretty big issue for me. Hopefully things improve when baby arrives.

easterbuns1 · 18/07/2019 14:15

This was shared on a fb group a few weeks ago and the chair one gave me a laugh!

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Karigan195 · 18/07/2019 14:15

Our sex life has radically reduced too. He says it’s too weird with the baby right there. I think it’s just a bloke thing for some that will go when the baby is out.

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IVEgottheDECAF · 18/07/2019 14:17

I cannot lie on my back at all. Anyone else?

DennisSkinnersMolotov · 18/07/2019 14:33

The chair one is hilarious. In the past my office chair has seen a fair bit of action (I work from home, fear not) but I think I'd need an industrial winch to try that right now. We definitely aren't having as much sex as we're used to, until last night it had been about 10 days which is a long time for us.

I can lie on my back for short periods but find I need my shoulders propping a bit. I'll perservere for now Wink.

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Karigan195 · 18/07/2019 14:44

Can’t breath and feel sore fairly rapidly on my back 😂.

We’ve dropped from most days to once a week 🙄.

But in all honesty haven’t tried anything but spoons recently!

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boodles101 · 18/07/2019 14:49

No sex happening here, DH won't come near me. But I'm ok with that really as I'm just exhausted all the time. We are barely getting any time together at the minute, he's under alot of pressure and stress at work, plus doing a hell of alot for me around the house so I can focus on just growing the babies. I feel like a whale so not exactly up for it. The same happened during last pregnancy, so we will just resume normal activities after when we can!

Megan2018 · 18/07/2019 14:59

No sex here, neither of us can be bothered, last time was spoons though! I’m not concerned, its a mutual can’t be bothered.

I am still ok on my back and would sleep better like that if I could-but am doing the side thing as advised.
Can't wait to sleep on my back again!

kyles101 · 18/07/2019 15:02

How well endowed must the guy in the top pic be ☺️

kyles101 · 18/07/2019 15:03

@IVEgottheDECAF no laying on my back for ages but funnily enough I woke up this morning in that position and didn't feel uncomfortable.

TheCraicDealer · 18/07/2019 15:09

No full sex here either! I just cba to be honest and it's a bit hard to get in the mood when she's kicking and making her presence known. We have dtd since I got pregnant but the last time was about six weeks ago. We have spoken about it and DH is so lovely, knows I'm not feeling the most attractive with my massive bump and leaky bits, and says he doesn't want me to feel any pressure. Before pregnancy he would have moaned about the lack of action but he hasn't been at all, and he keeps telling me how hot he thinks I am whilst I look at him like Hmm

Auch he's lovely. Although he's been in the house all day and probably made a nest of chocolate wrappers and screens in the living room, so I might change my tune when I get home.

Stroan · 18/07/2019 15:22

DH is also lovely about it. Not happened since I had a huge bleed in the early weeks, but we both know it's not forever.

Although, considering the noises I make trying to rollover in bed, the neighbours probably think we are having a REALLY good time every night!

KnobJockey · 18/07/2019 15:53

Dennis I'm giving you serious points for still having the energy (and the hips!) to be shagging on the stairs! We tried a bit of foreplay earlier and even that was too logistically challenging 😂 I managed to go on top last week, but getting off was bloody painful!

McShakey · 18/07/2019 15:59

We’re still having it a fair bit, but it’s almost always spoons. I’ve found my sex drive has increased since being pregnant because of all the hormones

DennisSkinnersMolotov · 18/07/2019 16:26

Ha Knobjockey, it was actualy more comfortable than bed! Kept my back straighter.

McShakey there's definitely some hormones at play here too. DH has said I taste slightly different too which I'm putting down to that (sorry for that TMI).

Florencenotflo · 18/07/2019 16:44

I had a few weeks of feeling extremely horny! But that's well and truly passed now. DH doesn't like me leaning on him with the bump. So getting on and off if I'm on top really freaks him out Grin

When I was pregnant with dd he was worried about poking her. Had to give him a biology lesson and a reality check all at once. Bless, there was no way he was reaching anywhere near her!

IVEgottheDECAF · 18/07/2019 16:48

So my iron tablets say not to take at the same time as antacids. What are we taking this to mean? Like at exactly the same time, or same day or what? All the fresh orange is giving me major heartburn

Moraxella · 18/07/2019 17:55

@IVEgottheDECAF they stop absorption. Prob same as they advise about dairy/tea etc - maybe an hour or two?

Fortheloveofscience · 18/07/2019 18:37

Urgh I’m so jealous of all of you that have some semblance of a sex drive, mine dropped off a cliff at about 8 weeks and hasn’t reappeared. Trying not to feel down about it but it’s hard when DH is still so up for it and everything you read talks about pregnant women going sex-mad in the second trimester, makes me feel totally defective even though I know what I’m feeling is normal just less common. Can’t decide what’s worse, constantly turning down DH’s advances or having him stop making them. Sorry for the moan.

IVEgottheDECAF · 18/07/2019 18:42

science i dont really fancy it much at all, moving in bed even to turn over is painful enough, this morning was first time in over a month

BBell2 · 18/07/2019 18:50

@Fortheloveofscience you are not alone, I've majorly turned off! DH contributes to my lack of sleep between snoring, on call alarm going off and him generally being one of the most loud outgoing people at all times of the day. He has been away for 2 nights and they have been the only nights I havnt been awake 2-4am or 3-get up time in months. Fact that DD woke me at 5.40 one day and dog at 5.10 this morning is just a shitter! I'll probably blame that on him too