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September 2019 #10.

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Karigan195 · 04/07/2019 19:25

New thread so we can leave #9 as a type of condolence book for little Roy and Twittlebee. Sleep in peace little man

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DustyDoorframes · 14/07/2019 20:52

decaf 10lb and a little over 8 and a half..

easterbuns1 · 14/07/2019 20:53

I've just put newborn stuff in the hospital bag, neither of the older two were huge, eldest was in tiny baby and second was in newborn for a couple of weeks at least. Might have gone up a vest size first to accommodate cloth nappy but that was it. If it seems like this one differs after the growth scan I can always change what's in the bag.

I'm still feeling meh. Mood doesn't seem to have lifted at all, terrified of it getting worse like it did in previous pregnancy so staying at home and not really speaking in hope that if I keep my mouth shut I won't be over emotional and start being all paranoid with dp. Well I am paranoid but trying not to voice it as he didn't really get it when I tried to explain how I was feeling before. Wish I could hibernate for the next few weeks!

Stroan · 14/07/2019 20:59

@easterbuns1 sorry you aren't feeling great. Offload here if it helps at all. I'm not in a brilliant place and find it hard to vocalise

DustyDoorframes · 14/07/2019 21:20

@easterbuns1 that sounds tough. Hiding at home and not talking about it might not be sustainable though? Have you mentioned it to your MW? Stroan is wise- hard stuff to talk about. But probably worth trying to?

Hsunshine · 14/07/2019 21:36

I have packed 3 in tiny baby, 3 in newborn and 3 in up to 1 month then if we need more will send someone to shop for the right size. We live far from the hospital though so that’s why I’m taking a variety of sizes

happydays00 · 14/07/2019 21:45

Echo @DustyDoorframes , perhaps talking about it (although incredibly difficult) might offer some relief medium-long term @easterbuns1 ?

I've packed 3 x up to 7lbs and 3 x newborns. DD was 7lb but skinny and she was in newborn for a good few weeks if I remember rightly. I've also packed some size 0 / tiny baby nappies in case he is prem and they are just so small it's quite scary!

Whisky2014 · 14/07/2019 21:49

@easterbuns1 in my experience, it's never good to bottle things up. It can be hard talking things out but usually once you do, you'll feel better. CakeFlowers for you.

I'm on a bit of downer today, Maybe just the work thing getting to me but I also feel exhausted, went on a walk today and now everything hurts. When I woke up I felt I was having very mild contractions in lower baxk, so wondered if that was Braxton hicks?

Another thing I feel sad about is that my husband hasn't done any reading up on having a baby. Has anyone else's husband/partner just not done any prep?!
He says he feels comfortable enough and isn't worried Confused

Stroan · 14/07/2019 21:57

@whisky2014 this is a tough stage emotion wise and you have added work stress.

I think it can be really hard for the dads to really get their head round it, or any sense of urgency. DH definitely didn't do any reading or prep, although he did come to NCT classes. And it WAS all ok in the end, it's a steep learning curve for both of you anyway. But, really, if YOU would feel better if he was more prepared then I think it's completely fair to ask him to do something about it.

The most relevant part of NCT for the men was all about how they could support us during both and afterwards. Practical stuff like organising visitors, sorting food etc. Could you even chat to him about how the first few weeks might work?

Whisky2014 · 14/07/2019 22:01

@stroan that is a good idea. I can ask him how he thinks the first few weeks ago, that's a good starting point.
I'm just surprised he hasn't felt the need to do any kind of reading!
I said to him he spent more time looking at clothes online than about our child and be coming parents. He said be spent damn more time building the baby furniture. Humph

I was silly and decided wouldn't need those classes! Maybe should have..

Stroan · 14/07/2019 22:18

@whisky2014 no, you probably didn't need them, don't worry!

Replace " looking up clothes online" with "reading sports news" and you have my husband. Research is his bloody job and I can't get him to do any...

But yes, maybe gauging what he thinks happens in the early days is a good way to start. Or give him practical stuff like learning how to fit the car seat. I even made DH think about stuff like who to tell first, since he was the one doing the phoning round.

Whisky2014 · 14/07/2019 22:19

Oh the car seat one is a good one too!
And maybe I'll get him to pack the babies bag :D

Stroan · 14/07/2019 22:27

That's a really good idea, chances are he'll be the one that has to get the first stuff out of it! He'll have to at least know what a vest and sleepsuit is so he can get one out...

Megan2018 · 14/07/2019 22:41

Why is nothing ever simple?!
My tenants have given notice to leave in Oct which means going to be trying to get new tenants right at the time baby is here. The house is not local, so the practicalities will be horrendous. Completely reliant on the rent as income for mat leave and to pay my hideous tax bill in Jan.

Then to top it all off the pushchair was unpacked today and the carry cot has a bloody big scratch on it. Given how much it cost (over £1k) it has to go back, but the deal it was on has finished and now out of stock, so whilst I’m sure they will give us a refund (John Lewis) that leaves us without a sodding pushchair again. Can’t buy it from elsewhere as we used gift card for a chunk of it and can’t afford it without that and the offer. Totally gutted.
So fed up, its just shit after shit lately.

Megan2018 · 14/07/2019 22:43

I’d try and find some last minute classes @Whisky2014
I wanted DH to know what to do so if something awful happens to me DH can cope without instructions!

easterbuns1 · 14/07/2019 22:46

I think it makes me worse when I talk about it because then I just get more upset. I tried telling him earlier in the pregnancy I needed a bit more reassurance but he doesn't really get it, so then I think I'm maybe just being needy because I'm hormonal. I just feel like I'm getting more withdrawn and because I'm so sore with the spd I don't like to go out unless I really have to for the older two. I will maybe mention it to the mw next time I see her but I really just wanted to keep my head down and get on with it as it's only another 7 weeks and hopefully will feel marginally better.

KnobJockey · 14/07/2019 23:16

Megan try not to stress, that's all fixable. John Lewis customer services is meant to be great, and they won't want to refund your money! Get on the phone to them, stress that you want a replacement not s refund, see what they offer.

As for your tenants, at least they've given you plenty of notice. Do you currently use an agent? If not, is it worth investing in one for the short term?

Lavellan · 15/07/2019 06:12

Seriously fuuuuuuuuck flybe. We got ditched in Manchester overnight with no suitcase and I legit cried that I had to get up and travel again with no hairbrush and no toothbrush, and worst of all no clean clothes. My wonderful husband has given me his spare clean pair of boxers and it has earned him one million preggo points.

Suitcase better turn up because it has about 90% of my maternity wear in it. Sad

Oh also, they took my documents at the gate after 3 hour delay and only then, after letting me through, started to make a fuss about me being pregnant. My husband was waiting with his passport as they pointed at me and whispered. He said what's the problem and they had the whole conversation with my fit to fly letter etc.. (Which they had no idea how to read) with him and didn't even speak to me once.

IVEgottheDECAF · 15/07/2019 06:38

Lavellan how rude of them to not speak to you yourself! Have they said where your suitcase is?

Megan i agree you should try customer service at John Lewis and see if they will offer to do anything else, they may offer an alternative item

Neither dp or I took any baby / pregnancy classes. You do just learn as you go really.

32+4

Megan2018 · 15/07/2019 07:07

@IVEgottheDECAF I don’t want an alternative item though! The pushchair decision has been agony. There is nothing else that fits the car and suits our needs.

Definitely speaking to them, but if they don’t have any more then there’s not much other option but a refund.

IVEgottheDECAF · 15/07/2019 07:11

I was thinking they may offer a newer model / design etc if that is in stock? What pram is it? I do feel your pain Sad i also wonder if they could contact the manufacturer and get a replacement?

Megan2018 · 15/07/2019 07:18

It is the current model though. It’s the icandy All terrain. Its for sale elsewhere but can’t afford it at full price. JL had it with 19% off for a while (as did everyone else) but we used gift card as part payment and my parents paid the rest. We’re almost £400 short if we have to buy it elsewhere and we just don’t have another £400 Sad

Megan2018 · 15/07/2019 07:18

10% off not 19-fat fingers!

mmmmbopp · 15/07/2019 07:31

Morning everyone, it's Amazon Prime Day today and tomorrow, there seems to be some good discounts on baby stuff!

One quick question, I know it was discussed a while ago.. but what baby carriers are people buying? I remember a particular brand that seemed quite popular, but I forget which!

boodles101 · 15/07/2019 07:35

I was just coming on to say about amazing prime day. Definitely check out the discounts if you still have things to buy!

Fortheloveofscience · 15/07/2019 07:51

I was really hoping that some of the things in my amazon basket would be reduced this morning - but no Sad. Will definitely spend this morning’s train journey browsing for bargains though!