Due Dec 2007 - finding out the flavours

[mixedmama]

Hey all... over here!!

Thanks Ambi

Is it just me or is this thread just chock full of lovely people?! Haven't come across a single person on this thread who's written anything I find offensive or even irritating. Maybe its because we're all expecting a lovely xmas present.

Probably just as well I have lots of other things going on in my life as well so can't get too bogged down in thinking about what ifs.

Have just posted a profile - now just need to search out a couple of photos. Might even be able to put those 4D ones up in a few weeks time!

God I am hot hot hot ...

have just ordered some nappies - we use real nappies and having done 2 children the plastic wraps have lost most of their waterproofness! So this baby will have something new at least!

Yuck yuck yuck at this weather.

Come on wind and rain

I have my sarong out ready to wear solidly till December lol.

Well, we've got it all: rain, sun, clouds, blue sky - all I would really like is a bit of a breeze!

Too hot to leave the house today, thermo read 25 degrees in the coolest part of the house, can't complain at our only snatch of summer though, sorry for the guys who have rain too.

Evening all!

rain rain rain here today...just like the rest of the summer then!

cazzybabs what kind of cloth nappies do you use? I started looking at them all online but it totally confused me, so now I think I will probably just use disposables for the 1st few months till I get my head round it. Or is it easier than it looks?

I know it is not the same as being a parent, but I have worked with children who have downs syndrome and they have always been the most wonderful children. And to be honest I have worked with children with other conditions such as severe autism which would scare me much more as a parent. The whole thing is a scary business eh?

Lots of boys popping up here! I always thought girls were more likely, chromosomes or something? We seem to be bucking the trend! Unless we change our minds and pay for a private scan later, our LO will remain a surprise until he/she arrives!

We use terry nappies (which are flat as they dry quicker and are far cheaper. They also last longer). We don't use a tumble drier - better for the enviroment. WE use a wrap (the plastic bit) to hold it altogether so no need for pins. They also have a fleece liner to go between the nappy and the bottom. We do have a few pre-folded ones, but they are more like about £8 a nappy compared to £2 for a terry. WE don't really use them but have lefrt them for baby sitters. We wash everything at 60 and do about a wash every 2 days. I think for 2 children I spent about £150 in nappies (not including washing powder)..not bad. WE got ours from www.twinkleontheweb.co.uk.

They are easy to use once you have the hang of them honest! Ours came with instructions of how to fold them and trust me if I can do it anyone can! The worse bit is scraping poo off the nappy and getting it down the toilet when you have weaned your baby - but TBH that is 6 months down the line and by that stage it is toooo late as you have spent your money! It is fine! Anyhway breastfed poo is fine as it just washes out.

We love real nappies!

I got really good advice from the Nappy Lady (she has volunteer experts you can phone or who will phone you) about reusable nappies.

We have to pay for each bin collected (commercial waste, you see) so will not be using disposables!

They tend not to recommend terries as a first option as most new mums/dads are bamboozled by the folding.

Actually I think the statistic is 55% boys born. There are something like 52% women in the population as a whole tho as a result of higher death rate of males - starting from when they are teenagers. So I guess the higher birth rate for boys is natures way of evening things out!

I used cloth nappies and they are fine while you are at home but can't be used at daycare so you have to be pretty tenacious to get your moneys worth out of them if your baby goes to daycare reasonably early.

We had a massive hailstorm here in Wellington last night!

WE used ours at nusery (he he bet they love me!)

I am in shock - one of the ladies off my postnatal group on MN her son died at 2 3/4 years! It really puts everything into prespective. I just went and kissed my sleeping dd2. I cannot imagine what it must be like to lose a child!

Hi everyone, just back from hols

Congratulations all those that have had recent scans, sorry to hear that you need a follow up scan for your wee baby Buzzybee, hope all is well. Sorry you had such a crap OB, you'd think they would be more sensitive to treat you in a mature way.

I've got my 20wk scan tomorrow night - will let you know how it goes.

On the nappy front, we have been trying re-usables but I don't really get on with them. I love the idea of them but for us they don't appear to work very well. The all in one bumgenius are great on DD but (sorry for TMI) I can't seem to get her poo off the fleece liners and her bamboozle nappies and custom made ones are a poor fit and are soo bulky. Good on you girls that use them, if I can sell my bamboozles and two custom mades I'll buy more bumbgenius.

hello all,

Came in early to get lots of work done and instead have been reading the backlog of messages since I was last on!!

cazzybabs - that is horrendous about the woman losing her little boy - what happened? I feel physically sick when I hear things like that because I just don't know how people manage to continue their lives. I really don't know if I could.

We also use non-disposables with dd and the nursery just has to lump it! They are fine with it actually as it is a bit of a hippy nursery so there are loads of cotton nappy users there. Scraping off poo is definitely the worst part.

Buzzy - glad you have made your decision and you are happy with it. For what it's worth I completely agree with it, and like everyone else think babybuzzy is very lucky to have a mum like you!

Lizzer - fantastic news that everything went so well and glad you're feeling OK now, oh and congrats on the boy!

mixedmama - great you ds is taking to his toddler bed - they look so sweet in them, don't they? All grown up but still like babies, bless

Tried potty training dd at the weekend. Got her some groovy knickers from Woolies which she LOVED and made a big fuss about her being a big girl. Even took her over to our neighbour's house (she is in love with the 4-year-old son) to show them her new pants. Anyway by 10 am we had two poos and a wee in her knickers and absolutely zilch in the potty so decided we'd leave it a while longer - I know you're supposed to give it a good go before giving up but it's so exhausting, especially as she'll only sit on her potty if you read to her which is a bit much after seven books in quick succession and it's not even 8am... has anyone else been struggling with this lovely stage of parenthood??!

Been thinking about potty training aswell went out and bought one of those toilet seats for DD - but havn't given it a go yet - weekend was so hectic. Defo want to try this week though, as she knows when she wants to do a 'Number 2' as she comes up to me and says 'Poo Poo!'

Things that am struggling with - DD has started to sleep at 11pm at night for the past few days. I like to be in bed by then - but by the time she has gone to sleep and I've sorted a few bits and bobs out it end up being 11:30pm which is hard for me on a work night. Tried reducing her day time nap from 2.5 hrs to 1.5hrs, but still no change to her sleeping patterns.

Morning everyone,

Just been catching up with the weekend news.

On the nappy front, not much to say, I am far too lazy to bother with real nappies. I know that is awful, and i havent even tried. But, well done to all of you that do.

Housemum - I just love looking at all my books on my shelf brings a smile to my face everytime.

No kicks from me yet. Not since that big one a few weeks ago so feeling abit strange that I havent felt anything else.

Skidaddle - I have bought a potty, but not actually doen anything with it yet. DS still at ILs so will wait for my mum and dad to get back as i know my mum will committ to working with me to achieve it.

MotherofZ - DS goes to sleep quite late, between 9.00 and anytime up till 11 and of course since he does not gewt home from ILs till 9.00 - 10.00 i am putting off routine for my own selfish reasons of spending a bit of time before he goes to bed. Hows does DD normally go to sleep, is it in her own bed, on the sofa, with you?? I tend to take DS to bed with me and just try to get everything done with him running around. Come september tho I will be trying to get some semblance of routine ready for when Lo comes.

Skidaddle - I have bought a potty, but not actually doen anything with it yet. DS still at ILs so will wait for my mum and dad to get back as i know my mum will committ to working with me to achieve it.

MotherofZ - DS goes to sleep quite late, between 9.00 and anytime up till 11 and of course since he does not gewt home from ILs till 9.00 - 10.00 i am putting off routine for my own selfish reasons of spending a bit of time before he goes to bed. Hows does DD normally go to sleep, is it in her own bed, on the sofa, with you?? I tend to take DS to bed with me and just try to get everything done with him running around. Come september tho I will be trying to get some semblance of routine ready for when Lo comes.

hello,

I don't log on very often and the conversation just runs away!

Lizzer couldn't find your message but from skiddale looks like scan was good news

as part of ofsted I thought all day care had to be willing to use reusables?? we didn't find a nursery that refused as I didn't want to shell out for disposables but ds ended up at childminder and she been fine with it

skiddale - not at the full blown potty training stage but ds has been using potty since 10 mo - not training at all just 'conditioning' he always has morning poo on it and it saves me having to put more poo through the washing machine - hoping it'll make the nappy to potty transition easier when he's ready... which could be ages yet

Motherofz - yes we have to read books and play endlessly with toys (although mainly to stop ds playing with his willy on the potty!) I usually give up after 15-30 mins if he hasn't gone by then (on plus side it gives me a nice sit down rather than chasing after him!)

My scan today (am 21 weeks) am very nervous as know far more horror stories this time round and the bleeding as completely thrown me, I keep thinking its someway of my body telling me something is wrong.... decided not to find out the flavour as have a preference for a dd but had a lovely dream last night of ds and his brother so know it'll be great whatever

mixedmama - how old is ds? we're going to put ds in toddler bed before dc arrives but not sure when to do it - he's 14mo now

Hi everyone.

Inseywinsey - hope the scan goes well, I am sure it will. I love the 20 weeks scan as the baby looks so much more like a baby. Mine was very active, kicking and peddling throughout. And hasn't stopped kicking since . I think it might be a boy

Skiddaddle (and others) - we thought we would try potty training last weekend but unfortunately due to us not having any water and having to camp out with my parents this was put on hold. However I decided to give it a go in the week. Took off DD's nappy, let her run around, and waited and waited and waited. Nothing. She didn't do anything, either in her potty (although she did sit on it a few times) or elsewhere. Hmmm. Had to put the nappy back on to give her lunch and for her nap and that was that. have tried a few more times with similar results. I think she might be a camel. Not sure what to do except persevere when I get the chance.
On a better note, she slept in her new big girl's bed last night for the first time so hoping this one will be easier to crack!!

put dd into bed at 9:30pm and sing loads of songs, then just give up and let her do what she wants!
DH then has a go at putting her to sleep until she eventually nods off (over an hour later!)

Mixedmama - how old is your DS? Thinking about putting DD into a bed, but not sure when. How do you know they are ready for their own bed - or is it just a guess?

Good luck with your scan today insy and great you feel happier about the possibility of having another boy. let us know how it goes

MotherofZ - my dd has also been telling me when she poos or wees for ages now so I thought she was definitely ready but it seems not. Ah well. Good luck with your dd anyway and let us know how it goes

We have also had similar probs with dd and bedtime recently - seems to be going to bed later and later and then having long naps during the day. She's not quite at the 11pm mark but I used to love it when she went to bed at 7pm on the dot and we would have the whole evening to ourselves. Well that'll be gone soon with number 2 anyway so suppose might as well get used to it
think they start needing less sleep (11 as opposed to 12 hours a night?) around 18-24 months so that could be it??

mixedmama - you must get a lovely lie in if your ds goes to bed at 9-11pm? Kind of wish we'd done it that way sometimes, especially when woken up at 6 by dd singing twinkle twinkle..

MotherofZ - honetsly I think it is just a guess whether they are ready for a bed or not. I heard DS bang his head a few times when turning over and stuff and he actually used to get really angry if you put him in the cot and wake up crying. This way he just gets up and comes into our room. we converted his cot bed, so it is very low and have put an old duvet right next to him in case he rolls off but has been a whole week and he hasnt yet.

Insywinsy - DS is 17 months, I would have done it sooner to be honest but had to keep buggin DH to take the bars off. Good luck with your scan.

Skidaddle - his wake up time at the moment seems to be 7 but I just bring him into bed with us and we dont get up till about 8.30. In fact yesterday he fell back asleep until 10.30 - very pleased.

Hi all. Talked to MW tonight who had written report from hospital OB and turns out that the kidney dilation is quite mild but is in both kidneys. Likelihood of major kidney probs is therefore quite low which is nice to know. None of this makes Downs less likely but its good to know I'm not potentially facing something else very unpleasant - have a friend who's DD had 3 ops before she was 3 for kidney probs so have seen it first hand (her DD now 7 and fine, albeit minus half a kidney).
So good news!!

Can't offer much comfort on the potty training front. Started my DD when she was 2 3/4 and it was very unpleasant for quite a long period of time - no real "turning point" she just gradually got better at remembering she needed to go to the loo rather than just keep on playing when she felt the urge. One positive aspect was that she was night-trained very quickly - didn't attempt this until she was about 3.5 tho

Think the cloth nappy thing not allowed in daycare must be a New Zealand thing. Never saw ANY at DD's childcare centre here. Do they just give you a bag of dirty naps to take home at the end of the day then? I used Kooshies for DD which worked OK.

at your dd being a camel claraq!! I've been told/read that you should just go for it and once the nappy has come off it must never go on again (except when asleep). I should probably just do it but it just seems like such a huge endeavour and I am fundamentally quite lazy if I'm honest!! Are you planning to carry on little by little? I actually much prefer that idea.

motherofz - sympathies with the long process of getting your dd to sleep - mine is very similar. We are currently trying this gradual withdrawal technique with a modest degree of success!

mixedmama at your 10.30 lie-in!!

altho did have him kicking me in the face at one point as for some reason he likes to turn himself the other way and top and tail with us....

good news again buzzy - all looking very positive

yes nursery gives you a bag of poo-ey nappies at the end of the day (luckily our dd only goes for short periods so it is usually only one nappy)- still not their favourite job though I imagine!