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Due Sept '07 - Loving this weather - yes WE WILL make it through the summer thanks!!!

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PurpleLostPrincess · 24/07/2007 09:13

I did it (slightly adjusted the wording - is it OK?)!!! Now all we've got to do is a link from the old one to the new one - I'll leave that to somebody a bit more competent!

By the way, I just go laalalaalalaaa when you guys talk about epidurals/pain relief etc. I really didn't enjoy having one when I had DS but I had to as they had put me on a drip and all sorts and I had lots of complications. Ended up with even more severe migraines for years afterwards too. Didn't have one with DD1 and much preferred the whole experience. If I can get away with it this time, I'm going to try and avoid having one (obviously can't predict how things will go!). Gas & Air me up all the way!!!

PLP xxx

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dal21 · 20/08/2007 21:43

10pm sorry. LOL my brain is asleep already obv!

canadianmum · 20/08/2007 21:55

omg - cannot keep up with this thread .

amyclaramum - good luck on Thurs or Fri, you never know, maybe your lo will decide to do a somersault before then??? If not, a cs is a lot less scary than you think. Plus your dh/dp gets to look sexy in scrubs .

twit - I love the "this autumn we will mostly be wearing stripes" one. Particularly as I seem to have enough stretchmarks to make up for those of you (frankly annoying ) people without any yet.

I am also having very sore top of bump, feels bruised and the skin just feels sore, almost like a sunburn. I am assuming it is just stretchy pains ?????

dal - glad everything is looking better for your lo

Hi Tod - you are due the same day as me! My current gut feeling is baby will be born 16/9, but this gut feeling changes regularly

Hello to everyone else - . Not long to go - (cue Jaws soundtrack)

Had another scan today, all well, bubba is definitely head down but OP (back to back); placenta has moved up up and away and bubba weighs approx. 3kg or 6lbs11. Still no signs of pre-eclampsia .

I am now making enquiries about an independent midwife as VBAC is looking more likely. I really want a fabulous birth experience this time and think this is probably the best way to get it around these parts. Anyone else going the independent route?

LoopyLouLisa · 20/08/2007 22:14

I feel like a bitch. Dp called earlier to say his son (12yrs) has fallen out with his mum and wants to stay with us.

Normally i really wouldn't have a problem with this, but the timing....

I go in for a cs with dc2 in 11 days. Dp works away all week (leaves monday early am and back fri night) and I also have ds1 (18mths) to cope with. It seems he wants him to stay for a few weeks. I am gutted that we will now not have any time on our own with lo. My mum is already taking ds1 off our hands quite a lot in the early days as I wont be able to lift him and dp will have to now do school run for the whole of his short paternity leave, approx 10 miles each way, just because of a teenage spat.

Dss isn't a horrible child but can be demanding when he hasn't got much to do. On the weekends when we do have him, we have to take him out, regardless of whether we can afford to or he whinges the whole time that he's bored. It also means we never get chance to take ds out doing something more suitable for a toddler, as dss gets impatient. i have a few issues with his language and temper too as i don't think ds1 should witness/hear it, but as dss isn't mine i cant discipline him.

i just don't have the energy or strength to be dealing with this right now. am i being completely unreasonable ? is it just my hormones?

kinki · 20/08/2007 22:55

Tough one Loopy, don't know what to say. Families I know with step children don't have as much of an age difference as yours. I agree the language and tempers shouldn't be witnessed by your lo - can dh lay down the law a bit? Does any of his friends live nearby. Maybe you could have a friend over (in the hope they'll amuse themselves) and then he could spend time there. If he does come to stay, could he bring his playstation (or similar, if he has one), that would keep him quiet for ages. As for the school runs, theoretically that would be say half an hour, an hour tops. It could be useful, in that dh would have to get up and out every morning, so if you need errands run, shopping, prescriptions etc, he is up and out and ready to do it. Also is your MIL around to maybe take dss for a bit, if only for a few hours.

Don't think I'm trying to talking you into it - I couldn't, I've no experience and it's not my call. I'm just trying to put a little spin on a difficult situation. Hope you're able to come to conclusion that keeps everyone happy - most of all you.

Oh, and you're not a bitch, kids just have a way of making us feel crap about ourselves. They don't mean to, its just their job.

EnormousChangesAtTheLastMinute · 20/08/2007 22:55

Tricky one LLL. I think your wanting time to yourselves in the early days is very valid. tbh not much fun for a 12 year old boy to be around a newborn either... so staying with you might not be the best option but hard to say without knowing what row about, how serious it is etc. Is step son leaving his mother the best way to resolve their differences apart from anything else. I guess you and dh need to have a heart to heart about it.
I hesitate to offer opinion or advice as it's an area i have no experience of and i appreciate it's very tricky to get the balance right with step children...but i do feel for you...so send lots of sympathy if that's any good!

JemimaPuddleDuck - a sea view?!?!?! if i get a view at all it'll be of wormwood scrubs.
it does make me laugh that queen charlottes has gone to a lot of trouble to make birthing rooms 'home from home' but haven't done anything to opaque the windows so you really do get to see over the wall into the scrubs. i am v jealous of you

plp - you poor thing. sounds to me like you're doing really well - didn't you do hombase, sainsburys and b&q all in one day yesterday?! the very thought of all three makes me feel like an alienated zombie shopper. shudder. you have to rest! i know it's frustrating - speaking as someone who was balancing on bath to reach top tiles in cleaning frenzy on saturday - maybe if you stay in bed where you can't see the mess...?! could you marshall the dcs from there?

Dal, glad things are going well and you feeling calm... and 'good luck' to twitmonster if things are starting to move along...long may the cool continue for sept mums to be!

LoopyLouLisa · 20/08/2007 23:57

sorry for crashing this thread with that problem. set up a new one in 'aibu'. thank you though for your help. i am feeling slightly better just for talking about it though i know it will keep me awake. just something else to worry about instaed of how am i going to cope with a newborn and a toddler i suppose

TwitmonstEr · 21/08/2007 09:16

morning all. kept awake half the night with contractions and awake the other half by feeling hot and cold and then finally uncomfortable.

kelmcd · 21/08/2007 09:56

good morning to all i never slept much last night either and then dh decided to make as much noise as he possibly could this a.m whilst getting ready for work seeing my midwife today, 38wk, slightly concerned as still dont think his head is engaged, doesn't feel any different to last check. I know i am usually a little concerned when i see a first time mum with an unengaged head at this time. oh well will just have to wait and see!!

PurpleLostPrincess · 21/08/2007 11:23

Morning all!

Thank you so much for all your messages of support, I'm all emotional reading how thoughtful you all are!!! (((hugs)))

Managed to have a lie in as DH got a lift to work so feel a bit more rested but now have a headache lol! I've just got to keep going, there's no other option really! I'm sure I'm growing roots into the settee lol! I'm managing to do what I can in little bursts and I WILL be washing baby clothes today, I'm determined!!

Twit - you have certainly got the right attitude about it all and I'm sure it all helps as these lo's can sense our moods. The fact that you're laid back about it all is such a brilliant thing. Did the contractions stop in the night then? I had a bout of contractions with DD1 way before she was born and it turned out it was her head getting engaged... Either way, hugs to you!

Loopy - what a tough situation! My DS is 13 and he is really into baby stuff at the moment and looking forward to this LO arriving (as is DD1). It would be interesting to know where the idea came from for him to stay with you - could it be that he secretly wants to be a part of things? I'm not saying you should say yes but I find it quite interesting. I also find it interesting that his mum hasn't had a moment to think about you and the fact that you're about to have a baby - very cheeky to even ask imo!! I do hope you manage to work out what is best for you and that you have a heart to heart with your DP. Make it clear that it will only be adding pressure to all concerned. Also, has he had a chat with DSS about it all? Is it something that could be sorted out verbally? Thinking of you...

I love the new ideas for the new thread, how about a combination: "Sept '07 thread - stripes and stretchmarks galore!" I've got tonnes from DS and DD1 and some of them are even purple which is cool with me lol!

amyclaramum, just wanted to say HI in case you're reading this! Hope you're not too bored and that you're enjoying the food!! xx

I've got a consultant appointment tomorrow so I'll let you know how I get along - strange how loads of us have got appointments tomorrow!

Hugs to all, this thread is getting harder to keep up with!!!!!

PLP xxx

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MrsBumblebee · 21/08/2007 11:25

Morning all.

Dal, I've sent you my details. Thanks for your patience!

Twit - how exciting! Keep us posted. 2 out of my 6 NCT 'buddies' have had their babies already - I swear I'm going to be the last...

MrsMar, thanks for the food tips. My addition to the list is fish pie, which I'm also planning to make. I've yet to try Ocado, but I think post-birth might be the moment

Canadianmum, sorry to hear LO is OP. My NCT book recommends lots of draping yourself over a birth ball to encourage turning.

LLL - sorry, no helpful advice (no experiece of 12 year olds), but thinking of you.

kelmcd, I'm seeing the MW today as well, and I don't think mine's engaged either (at 37+1). I'm a bit ignorant about these things - can you tell me why this could be a cause for concern?

By the way, Bourne film was fab. Recommend it as a bit of escapism. And not too long, so I made it through without a loo break

PurpleLostPrincess · 21/08/2007 11:30

Hiya MrsBumbleBee - I finally watched the first one last night (Bourne Identity) and I managed to stay awake to the end! We're watching the second one tongight and I told DH that you were seeing the third one - glad it was good - can't wait now!!!

Hope all goes well at the mw!

PLP xxx

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kelmcd · 21/08/2007 11:34

The main concern i would have is the size of baby compared to pelvis but alot of the time it juat takes the contractions to get going to get the head down there. It is really hard sometimes being on this side of things, i know what i know but being a pregnant first time mum scores out all knowledge when it comes to usual irrational thoughts bought on by hormones

TwitmonstEr · 21/08/2007 11:55

we are all different any way, i have engaged with all three lo's early, which is i think unusual.
are you a mid wife by any chance?

what would you say to a patient, first time mum, 38 weeks and not engaged?

toadstool · 21/08/2007 11:56

Wow, Twit, hope things are going smoothly for you!
LoopyLou, I do have a baby bath, but would be interested in your Moses basket - I can't remember where ours is, it may be in the loft, which DH is (grumpily) going to empty this lunchtime, so I'll report back if we can't find it!
A difficult one with the DSS - is he reacting to his Dad having another child and wanting to get in on the situation?
Cyber greetings to all the others on this thread!

Pennypops · 21/08/2007 11:58

Hi all,

Just spent the last hour and a half catching up - I can't believe how quickly this thread moves!Apologies in advance if I miss people out. Will look at bump pics you have all posted soon as well and try to post one of my own. I also hope that you are all enjoying some lovely, lovely maternity leave.

Twitmonster - I hope you are feeling better and maybe even manage to fit a bit of a nap in today. Being a newbie I have no idea if this is the beginning of the birth for you or whether you still have some more waiting around to do. Good luck in either case!

Dal - glad they are keeping an eye on you and making sure all is well.

Chatty - I winced at the story of your inadequately nappied house guest! Your poor thing!! I just hope they are paying you well.

MrsFish - those pics are superb. I definitely think they are future blackmail material!! At mine and dh's wedding my friend made these decorations for the Xmas tree out of embarassing family photo's from when we were both kids and they went down a storm - people were passing them round the tables. So the "bronzing incident" may see the light of day in twenty odd years time!

Motherhysteria - sending lots of good luck vibes to Amyclaramum. Hope she isn't too bored!

Purple - sorry to hear how much you are suffering with all the joint and pelvic pain. It must be thoroughly miserable. Hang on in there (like we have a choice) - not long to go now hopefully.

Mmoo and Edie - I get really sore skin at the top of the bump as well, especially on a growth spurt.

Re monitors - we got the BT one off Amazon as it seemed the best price. The lullaby feature is kind of cute. We've also got a Sensor Mat on order - a colleague of mine recommended it and I guess as first timers we are anxious to take every possible precaution. My colleague said the sensor mats are worth it because they enable you to actually relax and give you some peace of mind - otherwise you'll be prodding the baby every 2 minutes to check its still breathing! I can understand why some people might think its a bit OTT though.

As for stretchmarks - I've been using bio oil religiously and hadn't got any marks. However, I got measured for nursing bras yesterday and noticed what I thought were some tiny little purple marks at the underside of my bump. How annoying is that?? To get to 38 weeks and then have the buggers pop up. Grrrrr.

All sympathies to those of you having sleep troubles - I've had a fair bit myself prompted by the ever present heartburn/puking combo that now seems really normal. I can manage a decent few hours most nights by using copious amounts of lavender spray on pillow and some good earplugs to block out dh's snoring. I'm usually a heavy sleeper but now I wake up if a mouse in the garden moves a pebble so the earplugs are a must!

As for the August/September dabate I have to say I'm not that fussed. Frankly, the odds of this baby greeting its public before September are slim anyway as although I am 38 weeks the head isn't engaged at all - I am still carrying ridiculously high although at least he is pointing the right way. Furthermore I've had no crampy pains in the last week and a half, braxton hicks or anything (at least not that I've felt). All I get is the "knitting needle" pains in my you know where and that only usually happens when walking. One of my NCT friends had some BH's last night when we were all having dinner together and I felt her bump and it was absolutely rock hard - I don't think mine has ever done that. I am getting worried that this baby doesn't know how to be born. So much for " first babies can engage from 36 weeks" - I am desperate for the lo to drop a bit so I can breathe properly and don't have so much heartburn. Anyone got any tips for how to get a lo to drop down?

Love and big hugs to all xxxx

Kerri28 · 21/08/2007 12:03

morning all, although just realised that due to my lazy ways, its almost afternoon!!! amyclaramum good luck!!! and you too twit, i am sooo jealous of all of you who are having signs of baby coming, or being told they'll come on a particular date, eg by cs. i am soooo IMPATIENT!!! throughout my pg had hundreds of BH. but for past 3 weeks, nothing, not even a twinge... grrr!! my baby is also back to back and placenta is anterior so not much chance of baby moving except in birth canal...am still hoping it'll be a small baby as DH weighed 12lb at birth (don't snigger!) but mw says i'm measuring big for dates...hmmm. perhaps i'm suddently not so impatien!! as for scones i had to bake some on saturday as was so desperate and those in supermarker were so pathetic i could've eaten the whole packet in one sitting....as it was i ate most of my own "huge" scones by midday the next day!! i blame the cscones for the stretch marks that have appeared on my already disliked thighs!! oh, and we have one of the BT monitors, got it off e-bay shops for a good price, is fantastic!!

Kerri28 · 21/08/2007 12:07

and mrsfish, you little boy is soo cute, and sooo amusing!! i can see myself having discipline issues already as would wet myself if i saw child like that when i know i should be telling him not to take mummys make up!!! must learn self control - or perhaps its always funnir when its someone elses child?!

re august/september debate i really dont mind eiter way, although for first child (therefore oldest at home) it migh be quite nice being the youngest at school, just so you can drop the responsibility a bit? don't know, just a thought...

kelmcd · 21/08/2007 12:12

I am a midwife but as i said that part of my brain seems to have switched off at the mo. to get head to move down - keeping upright and mobilise, using the birthing ball to get pelvis in good position to allow most room. i have found it quite hard being a midwife and being pregnant cause people just friends/familt just assume you'll know it all - yes i know the theory etc but when its you its completely different. still have same hopes and rears as everyone else!

MMooMar · 21/08/2007 12:14

Hi ladies,

Hope everyone is well,

Loopy, cant give any advice i`m afraid,perhaps by the time DP gets home DSS will be talking to his mom ....with any luck!

Kerri28 my placenta is anterior too but LO is side on facing my bellybutton iykwim but has been like it for a few weeks now.Hoping it wont decide to face the placenta and become back to back ....a favourable postion so I hear with placentas on the front.You never know yours could swing round.

Just had a parcel delivered to find that I had won a prize from the Tesco baby club.Its a Tommee Tippee nappy wrapper....already got one from when we had DS so will probably just save it as a prezzie for someone I know who is pregnant too......

Just had to laugh ,DS was in his bedroom playing and came out moaning that the dog had bit his hand ,when I looked you could see teeth marks....but his own!.Cheeky little devil had bit himself hard and blamed the dog...nutter!

Dont know if anyone is interested but jojo mama bebe are selling Bump Bandeaus for £6( in new catalogue online) ,I think they are doing Burgundy,chocolate and sage green.Just ordered a sage one as alot of my clothes are khaki, black ..not much other colours( not my thing)so thought one might tide me over til the end as most of my tops are now showing flesh.If its ok might order another.

Amyclaramum...Loads of good luck for Thurs or Friday if bubba dont move.

Speak to you later
Bye..
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

EdieMcredie · 21/08/2007 12:20

Twit

I keep getting what I think are contractions and then...nothing. It's driving me mad as im so looking forward to meeting baby.

My mum got excited when I started cleaning out cupboards yesterday but nothing yet. Still, im only 37 weeks so shouldn't be getting so impatient yet I guess.

toadstool · 21/08/2007 12:33

Eek! Just arranged an interview with a postnatal doula! It's all getting very close to home, now...
All this talk of scones, mercy!! It's bad enough fending off the chocolate cravings (limited, because it worstens the heartburn, boo hoo). I have my dad coming over for a few days on Friday, and he doesn't eat any raw vegetables, so we're stocking up on the kind of food that are already making the piles twinge...

MrsMar · 21/08/2007 12:46

Morning all!

MrsB - How spooky is that, I was just thinking fish pie this morning in the shower! I'm going to sort out my freezer today, throw away all the old stuff and the vast amount of unidentifiable stuff to make room, and then go and buy a load of those tin foil dishes so I can freeze portion sized servings....Crikey I've turned in to Fanny Craddock!!! Ocado is brill, but then so is any supermarket that brings your food to your house and puts it in your kitchen for you! I can't face supermarkets at the moment, it's so nice to sit with a cuppa at the pc and do my shopping, so much easier

canadianmum - sorry to hear baby is op... get on your hands and knees now!!

Loopy - sorry you're in such a dilemma, I don't think you're a bitch at all. It's hard enough being this pregnant as it is, I can't imagine how much harder it is with an 18 month old, and to add a 12 year old in to the mix sounds really hard for you. I'm in no position to give advice cos I've never had to deal with this sort of thing, but I hope you get some answers too. Most important thing is to keep talking to everyone, I agree with ECATLM it might help to find out why he's fallen out with his mum. And maybe he does want to spend time with you and his dad as the baby's born... it could be that he feels a little insecure with the birth of his half sibling and just doesn't know how to say that. Good luck, I hope you sort something soon!

PLP - I'm glad you had a bit more rest last night, I hope the headache goes. Don't worry about growing roots on the settee!! My cat thinks I'm part of the furniture now cos I move so little

We're going to see the third Bourne film this weekend, dh is obssessed with the books... thinks they're brilliant!

Have a nice day everyone, I'm off to tackle my freezer!

xx

TwitmonstEr · 21/08/2007 12:49

I understand kelmcd, of course its easy to know the theory. I was trying to get you to see it from another angle to reassure you, not to upset you. You just know more than us lot which makes for a scarier time for you.

I am very tired so please ignore me if I seem unkind, I'm honestly trying to support you in my own unprofessional way. lol.

kelmcd · 21/08/2007 13:06

Twit - I think i a just having one of those days which isn't ending at the moment I know you weren't trying to upset me, i am just being over sensitive, thankyou for trying to help me think on different lines This preganacy has certainly opened my eyes and given me a new view on the whole thing. I think it will defineletly make me more sympathetic towards others when i go back to work

Rin23 · 21/08/2007 13:15

hello all! Good luck to Amyclaramum too! I can't believe this whole experience is getting so real...

LLL - read your post with lots of sympathy. I am stepmum to a 9 year old and I think it would be pretty hard having her to stay in the early days with the baby. So far her mum has been quite understanding and as far as I'm aware we'll have some time to ourselves when the baby arrives. It did occur to me that perhaps your DSS's mum is not being overly sympathetic to your situation here? Can your DP have a word with her? She is the adult in the situation, and therefore the one most likely to be able to sort out their differences. I don't think you are being at all unreasonable - as someone else said, it's going to be really boring for DSS too, as well as extra work for everyone involved (apart from the baby!). It's a one off occasion (with this baby) for you so you deserve to think of yourself and the baby on this occasion. Good luck!

hello to everyone else,

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