December 2019-Thread 2

[BostonFern]

Kicking off a new thread since the last one if nearly full!

@December2019 yeah bet they will be so close....Will be handy as you will already have all the baby bits already too!
@elephantmarch 🤣 our 7 year old said the same and thought it looked a rabbit and my husband thought my bladder was the babies belly and the whole (rabbit) looking bit was the whole Willy! lol so basically the pic is looking at baby from its bottom up and your seeing inbetween the legs which are what look like the rabbit ears

I keep waking up really early being hungry. I'm still tired. I'm only 11+3, this cant be normal is it? I can't get up and eat at 4am..... 🤷🏻‍♀️

We have a happy, healthy, very wriggly wee baby in there!

@TDLO must have a very hungry baby...eat what you want when you want it's the only time you can get away with it
@starrynights86 a big congratulations! when's your due date?

I'm officially over the 14 week milestone- hello 2nd trimester!!

I have had some crappy news today though, I've not told work as an opportunity for promotion was supposed to be advertised... it's now delayed until possibly mid July and the latest I can notify work of my pregnancy is 19th August. If I tell them before the job is advertised I 100% won't get it, they can't say it's because I'm pregnant but that will be why. I'm furious, there won't be another shot to progress in this company for me.

@lovebeingmum9 I know... but I'm overweight so trying not to over do it and also to be really healthy (eating the right amount though). It's the 4am thing I can't get over. I thought the baby would use my "reserves" lol. Need to keep a midnight snack by my bed lol. If I'm hungry during the day, I do eat, so defo not starving myself or anything like that.

@Starrynights86 congrats! It's amazing seeing them wriggling about on the scans.

@codenameduchess I would still apply, I know it's unlikely that they'll give you it. But that's crap (my company would be the same unfortunately). Just go for it, give t your best and make it really hard for them to turn you down. Look at ACAS and see if they offer any advice for attending an interview while pregnant. I know they can't say pregnancy is the reason but obviously there are ways round it for employers...
You say there will be nothing else for you to progress, but who knows what's round the corner. The person that gets the job (if you don't) might leave while you're on mat leave, move on to something else etc. True of other roles too. Make your intentions known before you finish up that you'd like to hear about every opportunity that comes up when you're off.
I do share your rage!!

@codenameduchess P.S. congrats on second trimester!! Can't wait to get there. Currently I'm 11+3. Time is slowly creeping forward

@TDLO there's 2 of us who want to go for it, so even if someone external got it first then left my colleague would be next up. It would be amazing to get it but really I've got no chance, it's been made clear enough I'll be looking elsewhere if I don't get it as I'm a fairly desirable professional... who just happens to be pregnant right now.

Luckily I have a fab mentor who is happy to help me with applications and interviews when I need it! And I'm in a good position to be able to wait for the right opportunity.

I have accepted today skinny jeggings don't fit anymore- I've had to keep nipping to the loo to take them down and breathe 😂

Hi ladies can i join please? 13w2d edd 8th of december!

@codenameduchess I totally understand. It's such a tough one and got to trust if you're right for it they'd take you.... who knows though and although we're protected against discrimination, it doesn't really translate to much in the real world. Good that you've got a fab mentor too. I would be hanging in for my mat pay, but understand everyone is different. Hope it works out.

Congrats @Fluffyunicorn98 welcome 😊

Questions ladies, I travel a lot for work. The travelling while pregnant I am fine with, flying is making me slightly nervous so have been mostly via train just now. But may need to fly soon. I am worried about lugging my case about and lifting it into overhead storage on the trains and planes. I feel fine physically (get cramps each week which I think is a growth spurt and also the odd sciatic type pain but neither in direct correlation with travel)... my case is a small cabin bag case but lifting it obviously uses muscles and strain on back/stomach.

I know lots of people who still do body pump and workout when pregnant and although I'm not mega fit, I've always done this type of travel and therefore always really been lugging a case or heavy bag around.

Just really interested in your thoughts. I'm assuming it's ok and I'm just feeling it cos I'm tired. But is it something that you've had advice against, for example?

My MW said travel was fine but I didn't really think about the case and bags etc...

Pregnancy irony...

Got a £60 parking fine in the post from when I went to A&E with bleeding.

We originally parked at EPU and got a parking ticket but they sent us to A&E so we drove around as they are different car parks - though in same hospital of course!

Assumed ticket was fine but the parking fine suggests not!!!

Wouldn't mind but they didn't even scan me I had to come back two days later!

I would 100% challenge that @agteacht.
It is clear that you did not intend to not pay... what a cheek!

@TDLO yea I think you are right! However I'll have to pay it and then challenge it as it goes up to £100 if I don't pay straight away!

@agteacht if you challenge it the clock stops so it doesn't increase until the appeal is done

@lovebeingmum9 21 December, I’m 11 weeks 4 days now.

@codenameduchess it’s just rubbish. I have been acting in my role and luckily just got made permanent in it, if it had been advertised later and I had been visibly pregnant I don’t think I would have got it either even though it was my third time acting in the role (twice for long holidays, then for this stretch as manager left).

@codenameduchess this might not be right for you but have you looked into shared parental leave? Financially it works out quite well and means you’re out of the business for less time (making you a potentially stronger candidate) but emotionally I’m not sure if it’s the right choice for everyone. Alternatively you might decide that you want to return to work on a flexible arrangement and that’s more easily available to less senior managers. In the past I’ve gone from full time, to part time, been promoted between dd1 and dd2 and then moved jobs with a promotion but worked 85% of hours. I’m hoping to retain that pattern on my return but am considering shared parental leave to show ‘game’ if I can handle being away from my children so early

@elephantmarch I have friends who did shared leave and it worked really well, mum had 6 months off and then dad had 3 as that's when mums enhanced maternity pay ended and she earned 5x what he did so it made sense.

For us, I earn a bit more (around 10%) so it doesn't make a lot of difference financially and I'm not sure dh would do well at home for any stretch haha he's a great dad, but I don't think he'd cope well with it (I barely did last time!).

My manager is being a bit of a dick to us all, we're a small team and because we work so closely we are pretty close and all get on well, but manager has suddenly started throwing fits over nothing, and now messing around with the structure and basically saying none of us will get promotions and she's wanting someone from outside . I think I'll wait until after mat leave and put the feelers out! The rest of the team are starting to look out for vacancies too, it's a shame as we're good at what we do!

@codenameduchess that’s rotten of your manager. My husbands leave policy is more generous than mine Finaicially so it makes it attractive as an option.

@agteacht appeal to the hospital first then look for advice on money savings expert which is really thorough

Hey girls I'm after a bit of advice...
So! It's my little boys 1st birthday on the 23rd December I want to do him a little party & book a cake smash, buuut! I'm due with no2 also on the 23rd (I know it's not very likely I'll go into labour on my due date) but it's just my luck 😂
So I'm stuck on what I should do... do I book his party & cake smash and just hope & pray I don't go into labour? It's even harder because everywhere is booked with it being the day before Christmas Eve
Any suggestions girls... I'm really starting to panic now x

@December2019 you could go into labour anytime around then really so personally I'd just book it. if you do go into labour or can't take him on the day is there someone else that could?

We have a lot on around edd, Christmas is a busy time in toddlers diaries! We've just agreed that if I'm in labour either my mum or dh will carry on as planned with dd. I'll be gutted if i miss some of the big events but as long as DDs routine isn't affected it's fine.

Hi all - is anyone a member of the Facebook group? I'd like to be added, and sent an email a while ago but haven't heard anything. Can anyone help? x

@Albgo which email address did you email? A new one was set up: [email protected]

@december2019 can you celebrate his birthday a month later? He doesn’t know and you’ll find it easier to enjoy the day if you’re not a) having contractions b) recovering from labour and as long as there’s cake your little boy won’t mind which day he celebrates