September babies thread #6 - half way!

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HVs do an at home around 34wks here. It's a long one, they do talk about breast feeding support, safe sleeping etc. So yeah, nice for you first but I wont sit though again! I'm reminded because the lad who worked for me took a whole afternoon off for his wife's home visit - that lad appeared to milk every single bit of contact he could, think he went to jabs! I was grumpy and early pregnant at the time, slapped on my "be supportive" face, when I wanted to ask if he was actually going to be pushing the babe out. His wife is an angel of patience!

Well, Imy ok if they want to come round for a chat at 34 weeks and maybe 1 after birth but really, all the rest seem a bit overkill.

@whisky2014 how much have they listed?

Mine came out after the midwife signed me off, but DD wasn't putting on weight so came back regularly for about 8 weeks. He was actually great, shouted for the support I needed and spoke to the doctor's when they brushed me off. But after that, the various checks were done by other staff, not qualified HVs. I'd rather have had his input at the 2 year check which seemed much more important than some of the earlier stuff.

6 appointments by the time baby is 4 months. :/

That does seem a lot if there isn't a reason for repeat visits. It does depend on a lot of things though, how you are coping, feeding etc. The 6-8 week one I think is when they do the PND review so some are probably more important than others.

I think I'll have the first 2 and then say I'll play it by ear for the others.

Ours only come out once unless you are struggling- after that you take the baby to a clinic to be weighed, if you can be bothered, or want to ask something.

Whisky that does seem rather excessive! I've not had anything yet about hv... it still amazes me just how different trusts are across the country.

@TheCraicDealer I’m just catching up, was flying back from hols yesterday so sorry for not responding. I’m the one merrily wheeling her Fox around the living room (loser alert). Interesting they don’t recommend using a sheet. Sounds a bit risky in the event of a ‘poosplosion’ (dear god, the things we have to look forward to!!). Are you going to get some sheets anyway? Do we need to use a support inside the bassinet? Seems like a huge space for them to be rolling around in. I have no clue what I’m doing, can you tell?! 😬🤣 After my early pram purchase I’ve fallen behind, you all seem so much more organised than me. And I’ve got to put all my stuff in storage in the next few weeks to have walls painted, some windows replaced and new carpets fitted before she arrives - it has needed doing for years, but typical me leaves everything to the last minute!

Really sorry for all of you still suffering with sickness and also SPD. It’s hard enough without all that to contend with. Best wishes to everyone

I had to fill out a consent form for HV to contact me at my 15wk apt with MW. They’ve not contacted yet though. Think MW said I should get a visit in third trimester so they are familiar for post birth but she didn’t mention how many other apts after that. I’m going to reserve judgment until I meet them.

The trust website suggests this is the standard schedule though here

“Universal - support for all families at key stages

When you are 28 to 36 weeks pregnant
When your baby is 10 to 14 days old
When your baby is 6 to 8 weeks old
When your baby is 3 to 4 months old
When your baby is 1 year old
When your child is 2¼ years old”

Website suggests that there can be additional visits for certain groups or issues

I will be refusing any visit attempts during pregnancy especially if they turn up unannounced like last time!

Eeek Decaf that would not be welcomed!

It was not. I kind of wish i had seen my own face. It was about 5pm, i had just got home with 3dc in tow. My house was a tip, i was trying to cook and there is this woman come to show me how to put a baby down for a nap

@IVEgottheDECAF
That’d not go down well with me either! Although I’m out of the house min of 7:30-7:30 Mon-Fri so they’d have a job before mat leave starts. We also have 6ft solid electric gates at the end of the drive so no-one can get to the front door without being buzzed in. So makes shutting the world out easy

Ha, I'd have said I have the napping down thanks, but could you please show me how to simultaneously entertain 3 dc whilst cooking dinner? Excellent, I'll just put my feet up whilst you get to it.

Megan2018 I want electric Gates to buzz people in! How lucky!

Well, maybe they just list all those appointments but don't actually need them if they see you're doing ok. It looks standard here and I'm definitely not a cause for concern. This is Scotland too so maybe extra appointments are just there thing :/

I'm still struggling with what cotbed to buy. I liked the silver Cross Notting Hill one but then I was put off reading there's no gum bars and the sides are locked in place.

Our cot doesn't actually have a teething rail either... do you think this is something you can buy to add on?

I have a £60 mothercare cot with teething rails that has already done 2 dc!

You can buy teething rails but we never needed to with DS and apparently me and my sisters and DH and his brother weren't chewers either. Hoping this one isn't either

Lol @Whisky2014
I recommend it, very good for keeping the ln-laws out....we have a very ordinary little house though, we just had the front walled and gates put on when it was built so we can use the front garden as much as the back. It will also coincidentally make for a very safe child space as there is no way of them getting off the drive if the front door got left open!

Hehe yeh that's worked out well then.

Luckily in laws are a 5 hour drive away so they would never just pop in. My parents do and now my aunt and uncle do too sometimes and I hate it. I hate unannounced visitors! We live in a village out of the way so it's not all the time, guess I'm a bit fussy :D

I hate unannounced visitors! My family must realise this as no one does it. I think i have a very obvious piss off face

My family live 1.5hrs away and never pop in but FIL and step MIL live in the next village and he has tendencies!

So the baby already has more clothes than me! Just been sorting through the 5 bin bags of clothes I’ve been given by 3 people. Everything from birth-3 years. We have more bibs, socks, vests than we can possibly ever use!
So much stuff! Including some very cute Gap, Boden and Joules. I have literally nowhere to put it yet though so back into bags it goes.
I could get away with not buying much at all for her first 3 years (but do want some new things just for the novelty of buying).

Feeling a bit stressed by all the stuff piling up around me. Obviously very grateful for all the things though. But we have some built in storage for our existing stuff to get put in first before anything baby related so its made the house feel like total chaos and me a bit tearful

Ah Megan it's just hormones, don't worry, think sometimes it just feels like there's endless stuff around. To be honest, it's the main reason I wanted the nursery doing - baby will be in with us for at least 6 months but it's somewhere for all the crap absolutely necessary baby equipment/ items / clothes to go out of my way.