Due October 2007 ~porkers can't keep their snouts out of the feeding troughs!

[j20baby]

part zillion

morning all!!

just had a quick skim read of teh posts,

ejt tried ringing the physio dept yesterday and was told to ring my mw!!grrrrrrr!!!i dont think they know their heads from their arses tbh.im getting sooooooooooooooo fed up of it now.told dh that the next time we are at teh hospital for dd im going to teh physio dept and wont budge until ive seen someone.weve got dd's physio coming to see her on thursday so im going to have a moan to her to see if she can give me any advice on getting seen.its ridiculous,im struggling to walk now,and dh is having to help me get dressed and get in and out of the shower.he jsut laughs at me,but i feel like bawling my eyes out because i feel so sodding useless.

i'll email you my details,i think its a great idea to keep in touch!

j20,its 34 days until the house is ready!!starting to panic that teh move is getting closer,and with teh possibility of lo arriving early...well its all just scaring teh poo out of me!!!

hope everyone is ok!!

Monring ladies

I am not on here enough to keep in touch but just had a very very quick skim through to see how everyone is doing.

I spent last night in the matenity unit as I had been getting tumym pains all day. They were very thorough and took swabs to check for infection etc, but looks like it is just a case or stretched muscles and active baby. I dread to think what state my stomach will be after if it is that painfully ripped and stretched now! I need to start saving for that tummy tuck thats for sure.

I have also had hip and back pains at night which meant I was waking up every hour and finding it really hard to get back to sleep. My hypnobirthing teacher recommended Emotional Freedom Therapy, and I must say that I was sceptical but it really works. Full details can be found on www.emofree.com but she taught me a reduced version and each time I have been asleep within 10 minutes of doing it.

I think of my problem and make a statement "even though I have hip pain I will sleep and I deeply and completely accept myself". Then you tap on accupressure points using index and middle finger while repeating the phrase.

The points to tap in order are:
bit of your hand between wrist and little finger where you would do a karate chop
above eye more or less where your eyebrow stops in the middle
outide of eye on the bone
underneath eye on the bone part
space between mouth and nose
dimple of your chin
collar bone (find the place where it makes a hollow noise) normally towards the middle
under arm where your bra strap would go
top of head

it doesnt matter if these points cross from right side to left

you can also do it for emotional pain or for other people, so my son has had a cough that has kep him awake so I have been doing it twice at night for him and saying "although ds has a cough he will sleep deeply etc etc".

Sounds weird but just wanted to share it as I am convinced it has worked for me.

right, thats a long post, hope you are all well. Not long now

Hi all, just a quick post, got loads to do,
lES-bless him, my mum taught me to decorate, change plugs..etc, well some of it, the rest i taught myself,
at the clutch needing tightening, my car once wouldn't start, so i went into the motor shop to get a new battery, the bloke behind the till took one look at me and said, 'come on love, i'll have a quick look for you' me being the stupid blonde feeble woman that i am, he had a look and said it was something or other, so i said 'yep, ok, i'll ring the AA the AA man came, took one look, said 'its your battery' i told him what the other bloke had said, and he said 'well, it be a miracle for that to have gone, as these cars don't even have them!' so i got my battery and was on my way, ha!

your bound to be feeling that way about your dad just remember he's always with you in spirit, i bet he's really proud of you, you sound like you've done a great job with DS

buffy-try not to worry too much, if lo does come early, then you'll deal with it all at the time, go with the flow.

hi to everyone else
Have a nice day x x x

kezza, poor you
nice to hear from you, take care and thanks for the pressure point thing, will have a look properly later x

Morning all!

J2O - bubba has definitely quietened down in the last couple of weeks. I think they are running out of room and I guess as the second one is bigger than the first one, this one has run out of room sooner. But it can still kick bluddi hard when it wants to...

LES - dead impressed by your ds. My 10 year old dsd is great at making tea, but has no idea how to do the washing or cook. My 13 year old dss has just been taught how to do the washing. Their mum seems to do everything for them and it's difficult to get them to do stuff when they're only with us at weekends and it's contrary to what they do at home. That said, we were really worried that dsd would be put out by being usurped as the youngest of dh's children, but she was absolutely fabulous with ds when he was born. I think 9 is a great age gap and I'm sure you'll find your ds massively helpful...

Hello to everyone else!! Went to bed at 9 last night and ds only woke up once, so felt ten times better this morning!

Hi J20, hope you are doing ok and looking after yourself. honestly I am fine, I forgot how horrid it can be getting checked over for "ladies problems" though. Thought I had escaped without the need for an internal but oh no, along they come, one with speculum and one with a torch!!! Makes me glad I work in an office

Morning all. Woke by darren at 6.30am!! telling me we had had a power cut I told him to ring Npower to check its a cut and not just our house, and make sure he didnt open the freezer. Power came back on at 9.30am
Im with you on this LES, I was taught by my dad how to change plugs, put up things, general handy work My mum taught us all how to cook. I was shocked when i met darren and he didnt know how to cook oven chips he can now cook and clean well.

DD is 4 and will help make dinner, things like chopping and mixing, she will help me load the washing machine and loves using the duster. I dont do spoilt kids, they drive me mad. Its funny though my mum still rushes home to cook my brothers dinner, his 24years old!! But is the only boy in the house.

Im pottering today not doing loads. Im back at the hospital tomorrow for another scan and seeing consultant after. Wish me luck

Hugs to all
lisa

Lisa - good luck for the scan - what is it for? Sorry if you've already said, but just can't keep up with this thread...

Afternoon everyone.

Can't remember what everyone has said.

My washine macjine is still busy. Nearly done all te baby clothes that I kept here (up to 6 months) and then I will get the bedding done.

I have been busy photographing lots of Avon to go on Ebay, so will get it listed later today.

I hope everyove has a good day.

Hi everyone,

Inzi, hope your grandad's op goes well.

J20, I have definately been feeling less movement, I was a bit worried about it at first, but I went for a check up today and LO kicked the doctor whilst she was feeling her - so I guess it must just be lack of space now.

Lisa, good luck with scan.

The wedding I went to at the weekend was great, fabulous weather and lots of people told me how great I looked, which was a confidence boost although my appearance was almost entirely artifical (hair colour, spray tan, buckets of make-up) There was no getting away from the bump though, I'm the one of the first people amongst my friends to have got pregnant, so most of them are pleased, but definately a bit freaked out!

I had my first Braxton Hicks contractions on Friday night - although they weren't painful they definatley knocked me out a bit, I had trounble breathing and I couldn't sit comfortably at all. Has anyone else had this experience?

Hope you are all having a good day.

Hi all
Thanks for the good luck vibes. Mump, its because in my last pregnancy me placenta started to fail badly at 29-30 weeks and dd was only 5lb at birth and was distressed. They are keeping a close eye but have just discovered me sister has protein S defi, and this causes prem labour, high bp, low birth weights and placental failure. All of hers were tiny prem babies too, so its explains hers, but now im testing for it too, might get results tomorrow but doubt it. I had a few difficulties last time and this time hasnt been easy either, but we get by ok. Think might be booking Section date tomorrow aswell, fingers crossed.

Lisa

Good luck Lisa, thinking of you this afternoon

LES; you cry on my shoulder I'll cry on yours; it is so hard going through this without my Dad..he wanted to be a grandad so much, he was just fantastic with kids and he was devastated when I lost Robyn last year. He didnt believe in having incapable daughters either, he had me helping him put in the central heating at home when I was six, we replumbed 2 of my houses together, putting a complete set of new drains in one of them too and the day I passed my driving test he made me change all 4 tyres, do an oil change and water check then sent me to pick my Mum up from work...1st solo drive, 1st drive on the motorway, 1st drive in the dark all at once!!!! It's only 21 weeks since he went and I can't believe how much I miss him, especially knowing how much this LO is going to miss out on because Dad isn't with us anymore.

Kezza; sorry you had a fright but glad all is ok. Those internals are the pits! The last one I was subjected to they didnt even close the curtains properly and a teenage lad decided to look on!!!!

Inzi; Glad your gd is getting his op, hope it goes well and he is soon on the way to recovery. Glad that Murphy is responding to treatment too...sounds like an interesting night though..no wonder you didnt sleep! I was at the vets this moring with sils 11 yr old cocker ..poor thing has badly infected anal glands...but I now know why sil asked me to take him..the old fella cried and hid his head in my arm as the first one was done but went for the vet as he was about to go in for the second one...(not that a blame the poor beast it must be blooming painful)...being used to big dogs I was able to control the little one without too much fuss, but I think anyone else in the family would have freaked!

Lisa; hope all goes well with the scan and the consult.

Well I had beter go and get ready to teach ...I really have had enough of work now ...not that it is too strenuous but I just want to sit and veg these days.. anything like work seems too much effort... ho hum..no peace for the wicked

Lisa - that does ring a bell so I'm sorry if I've asked you that before. Hope it all checks out okay...

Rek - I think I had BH yesterday. It was really quite uncomfortable and went on for about 3 hours!! I had to pause whilst walking to the station because it hurt so much so I guess they can be quite painful. I didn't get them at all last time around...

Floria,
This is just a little something I wrote....It is now almost 4 yrs since my dad left me and I still cry for him. Too hear his voice etc.

Hope this poem doesn't make y'all cry cos it does me!!!!!

My life feels so empty now
No joy in what I do
The reason I am telling you
Is dad because of you.
You went from me so quickly
and never said goodbye..
Now every waking moment I fight the urge to cry.
I wish that many things I did had never taken place
I keep remembering when i did and the hurt upon your face
You smiled through the pain and filled our lives with joy
Now where you once were is just a terrible void.
I sit and wait for you call and hope that it will come
Then i remember daddy you life is now done
I wish I could think of you and not remember pain
I know that no matter what I do my life will never be the same.
I close my eyes to sleep and see you laying there
I wish I could have stopped it and showed you that I care.
I held your hand so tightly and said I love you so
Whether you really heard me I guess I'll never know.
So with these mild words I'll tell you once again
Daddy I'll always love you .........
Now who will take away my pain??????

And one more poem to make y'all smile.....

My True Love

My true love isn't wealthy
He doesn't have a car
He can't take me out for dinner
But us we'll go far

My true love isn't working
But he thinks of me each day
He can't take me on holiday
But us we'll go a long way

My true love, wow what a star
He really cheers my day
He makes me feel on top of the world
Us we'll always be true

My true love likes to hug me
And tell me "I love you"
And when he sometimes offends me
"I am sorry this is true"
Us we'll always be together

My true love often tells me
The sun will always shine
Then he looks in my eyes and asks
"WILL YOU ALWAYS BE MINE"

My true love holds my heart
In a way nobody else could
He has the softest hands
And also the warmest heart

My true love let me tell you all
He isn't very tall
But when I watch him smile I know I have it all
Us we are strong just like a wall

My true love yes he is young
But he means the world to me
My true love have you guessed it yet?????
My true love is.............

MY SON

LES; yes it did make me cry, but in the right way...quite lot of what you felt and expressed is how I feel too. I suppose we are never prepared for loss...we knew we were on borrowed time from last November but were told we had 12 months..we only got 4...a lot of what should have been said didn't get voiced because we thought we had more time and hadn't got over the shock of his diagnosis...there will always be regrets....there again if he wasn't such a wonderful person we wouldn't miss him so much...but it will take time to remember all the good things without the hurt of his loss...my birthday was 3 days after his funeral and Mum wanted to do a special meal at home for me as usual, I wanted to spend the whole meal howling because his chair was empty; but next year we will have a high chair there and this Lo if it is a boy will have Neil for at least one of his names, after my Dad...if it is a girl it will be more difficult; Nellie reminds me too much of the song about the elephant ( and with tubby parents this little mite is bound to get teased) and Ninel is Lenin backwards and though I might have some slight left wing leanings they certainly don't go that far! Any suggestions?

Floria,
I just had to talk to my mummy about this and she has sat and come up with a name which I LOVE...... Spelt ELINNI and pronounced Eleeni. Unusual yes but very pretty sounding if you say it how mummy dearest does lol. I know you probs won't like it But hell I do.

If this lo turns out to be a girl after all She will be called Lili-Mae after my nan Lilian May. If he is as they say a boy he is going to be Konnor Michal, Michal was my dads name pronounced Me-Hal.
When I had DS I wanted to call him Phoenix and if he had been a girl I wanted to call him Atlanta...needless to say my mum hated both and his name is Karl chosen by her lol. She has tried to get me to call lo something other than Michal but I am insistant on it. So I let her pick his first name which as I said will be Konnor, I like it spelt with a K rather than a C. Mind you I have an unusual name so I am used to them lol.

Ejt ? Have mailed you ? great idea and nice one for sorting it out!

Inzi ? glad I was able to help you with the info I sent about your granddad. Hope all went well for him today?. The offer is open if you want any advice about things you are told in the future. I may not be able to help but will always do so if I can and will be honest if I don?t know. Also will be honest if you have asked a straight question expecting a straight answer and the answer is something you might not want to hear if you see what I mean. On thread or CAT ? either is fine.
Glad it sounds as though your dog is better today?.
Glad your scan went well though ? at least something is going right!

J20 ? glad you have finally been able to mobilise some help with the DIY! Don?t worry about less movement ? I got an email from babycentre today that said this is normal at the mo as they have less room to move now they?re getting bigger. Of course if you are worried call mw but it sounds like you don?t need to be?.
Thanks for asking about me too! Have put some of my news at the bottom of this mammoth post!

LES ? going to send my 18 month old ds to you for sometraining in the housework dept! Your ds sounds like a star! I think it will be really great for him to be so self sufficient when he is older too.
Sorry to hear you?re missing your dad ? big hugs winging their way to you?.

Buffy ? sorry to hear you?re having such rief getting your physio appt. Rubbish when they are all fobbing you off with someone else. Fingers crossed you get it all sorted soon?.

Kezza ? hello ? it?s been a while! Sorry to hear you were in the hospital last night but very glad that it turned out to be nothing and also that you have found a way of coping with your hip pain. Hope everything else going well for you too?.

Lisa ? hope your scan / hospital appt goes well tomorrow

Rek ? no bh?s for me yet (apart from a run at about 18 weeks when they may / may not have been a threatened miscarriage) but they started about 28 weeks with ds1 so nothing to worry about!

Floria ? How about Nell if lo is a girl? Not Nellie and similar to Neil?

Well I thankfully the sickness and tiredness seems a little better over the last couple of days. However been a bit concerned that I don?t feel bump is as big as it was last time and hasn?t seemed to expand any over the last 2-3 weeks. Spoke to mw today and going to see her on Thurs though so hopefully she?ll reassure me I?m being paranoid! Lo moving lots so happy he?s ok anyway?. Off on holiday (to my parents then a couple of days in a hotel WITHOUT DS!!!!) on Sat so looking forward to that!

Big waves and hellos to the rest of you! Need to go cook dinner now ? have just taken ages to catch up !!!!

Alice lol start now with him, get him to take his plate out to kitchen !!!!!

Who do I email details to to become part of txt buddies for flumps that we all are?

Its ejt LES - if you scroll back down to I think Sunday then you can see her email. Will try that with him and his plate too!

Also thought of another way to stay in touch with everyone rather than just a couple - how about the first person to pop posts a link on here to another thread? Maybe in parenting? What does everyone think? Or could set up a yahoo mailbase if people were happy to join yahoo? We do this with some of the other docs at work so I could ask how it works....

tLES - email me - eirian dot thomas at gmail dot com .... (same goes for anybody else wanting text / email buddy) ... just thought it might be a nice idea for alerting rest of us when things start to happen - easier than giving instructions to dh / dp etc.!

Am suffering tonight - have had a touch of j20 syndrome ... I'm taking ds up to Ponty for the weekend to stay with my mum & dad - so that dh can paint our room and lo's room ... but there is just sooooo much junk to sort out - we moved in here 2 years ago, and some of the things haven't been touched since - they were just dumped! So today I have:

• taken ds swimming
• started cutting out lo's quilt
• sorted out the 4 storage bags of stuff from under our bed - mostly old clothes - most of which has been put in bags to take to the charity shop - I was going to car boot / ebay it, but really can't be bothered!
• Sorted out my clothes in the wardrobe - and I've been really ruthless - I never wear suits at work, and still had my first suit I bought when I started teaching - so that's gone to the charity shop bag too! There's now a total of 4 big bin bags of stuff to take to the charity shop!
• been to b&q with dh and bought paint for painting the 2 rooms.
• been to fabric shop to look at curtains for lo's room - but everything is a sickly pink - my least favourite colour in the whole world - I'll be dying the fabric myself at this rate - why does nobody make light turquoise curtains?

Tried to cook tea, and couldn't stand - so have sat on my backside since we got back - am now going to slump in front of the tv and whinge!!

hope all's well with all ... and hope you're not all too hot - I must be the only person who, whilst hating the heat in the day, likes it being warm at night! I suffer with Raynaud's which makes my hands and feet painful when they get cold - and night-time is my worst time ... to be warm enough not to sleep under covers is just bliss for me!

Mind you, I am waking up with numb hands - makes me very clumsy in the mornings!

and as for lo moving - I think she may no longer be transverse - I'm feeling a lot of movements that make me need to sit up - which I haven't felt before!

Right, am going to slump in front of the tv - take care all!

Think I might have been missing the point of text / email buddy thing! I was thinking it was away for us all to cintinue to stay in touch after rather than to let everyone know when someone has dropped!!!

So how do we stay in touch on here after? Do we keep this thread going or is there a logical place to set up another one?

At work again tomorrow and off to bed soo nso if I don't make it on tomorrow I'll see you all on Thurs. Assuming mw appt confirms that I'm being paranoid about bump not growing and everything is fine!