September Babies Thread #5 - we're a chatty bunch

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Yet another thread for our September babies!

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I cleaned out the chickens and geese coops today too! It completely knackered me out 😴

Back from the hen do, absolutely shattered and over exerted myself. Had a great time with friends but off for an early night now.

@megan2018 would you think about a second hand one? eBay and Facebook selling sites are great, have just bought an immaculate second hand bugaboo!

@Tefiti2
I’d consider 2nd hand pushchair (buying other used things), but DH seems to have developed a pushchair and car seat obsession and wants new (car seat has to be obviously).
I have an unusual car so he’s all over the forums for it asking for opinions. Bless. I’m letting him run with it for now as its lovely to see him engaged with something baby related. He’s done an incredible amount of research!
After scan we will go and try our shortlist out in person and take it from there. One thing we need to check is height as DH a foot taller than me so needs to feel ok for both. The Uppababy might be too high for me based on some reviews I’ve seen.

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting! I am on my first pregnancy and 15 weeks 4 days, I've had the most terrible migraine the past two days is anyone else suffering from these?

Is anyone else a little concerned with weight gain/loss?

I am overweight and I've always really struggled to lose weight. However, I've lost 7lbs since I found out I was pregnant.

I've had a little sickness but not struggled to keep food down or anything near what I would expect to mean I'd lost weight.

Various things online say I should have gained around 5lbs by now but in the last week alone I've lost 2lbs.

I'm 15 weeks and have my next midwife appt a week tomorrow so I'll raise it there. Just wondering what everyone else's experience with weight is.

My scales are out of battery at home and the ones at work are weighing 5 pounds different from each other so I don't know! Most likely I've stayed about the same so far. I have plenty of extra so I'm only worried if I start gaining.

DancingUnicorn1 I was concerned yeah, I had a BMI of 20 before pregnancy and have only just put back on everything I lost over past week. So I was looking horribly skinny considering I am pregnant! My MW on Saturday didn't seem concerned, she said just start piling it on now if I can. I did have awful sickness though. I'm eating a cake a day to try and put it on.

Welcome Channewmom86 Sorry about the migraines! They are so horrid aren't they! I think we are more prone to them in pregnancy due to how much water we need to drink and all the hormones too.

That is lovely how involved he is trying to get Megan2018 ! My DH just leaves it all to me as its my thing apparently...

Btw.... I know this is early to discus... But baby showers... I never had one with DS because my Mum told me it's rude to expect guests to pay. All I wanted to do was go out for a meal or afternoon tea, nowhere expensive (approx £15-£20pp) and I said I wouldn't expect presents just the cost of their lunch covered. Anyway a lot of drama unfolded with my Mum saying it was an awful idea (she has form for this, it's why we eloped).

But since then I've now been to many baby showers where I have paid for myself (some being £80pp plus a gift!). So I've asked my sister to organise an afternoon tea (she is really up for it) this time round. But she's raised the question of who is covering it again.... AIBU to expect guests to pay for themselves?

twittlebee I've never paid to go to a baby shower but I've only been to a handful. My mum threw me one last time with DS and none of my friends paid for anything, other than the gifts they gave me.
I wasn't going to have one this time but I'll probably just have a BBQ and invite friends and family.

@dancingunicorn1 very concerned. I was already overweight and despite having HG I've piled on about two stone. The only thing to keep the nausea tolerable was to eat little and often and all I could stomach was carbs. I only have to look at carbs to put weight on. However, I can now barely eat anything so I think.it will.provably even out. I was the same with DD, put it all on at the start.

@twittlebee I've only been to my friends baby shower which was in her Mum's house and they provided all food and drinks. I really don't know how they are supposed to work! However, if I was invited to one and expected to pay for my own afternoon tea, I'd be happy to. I see them similar to hen do's.

Maybe ask a couple of close friends what they think?

I've never paid for a baby shower - the only ones I have been to the host has provided all food and drink.
I wouldn't go to one where I had to pay (mind you I won't go to any I can get out of as I hate that sort of thing so I'm not the best judge!). The ones I have been to were for family/close friends so I had no choice though!
The whole point of the baby shower in is the gifts though - so better to pay for people to eat and then let them buy things.

@dancingunicorn1
I don't have scales so no idea about weight gain or loss but I know I am eating less as not much appetite and as I used to drink a fair bit pre pg I have lost the wine calories too! I look slimmer in the face and don't feel bigger anywhere else apart from boobs and bump. Aside from jeans all my non maternity stuff still fits fine.

I was slightly overweight before (BMI 26) so had some to lose anyway. It's not something I'm worrying about though - as long as no GD develops then it is what it is.

Hi #channewmom86

I'm suffering with migraines never had them before I get lights in my left eye just before I get one which is usually first thing on a morning early afternoon and about 8 o'clock without fail everyday which is keeping my sickness going not good but water and paracetamol take the edge off for me I'm hoping they subside soon im 17+1
Got a gender scan to look forward to on Friday and my 16 week MW appointment super excited about finding out what I'm having as I have a 20 year gap between this one and my youngest you couldn't find out the sex back then (god I feel old!!)

Sorry to hear some of you have been so poorly. I've not been on much lately as I've actually been feeling much better (17 weeks now) migraines had all but stopped and was only being sick once in the morning, even went out to dinner which is big news for me at the moment! However I then got cocky and decided I didn't need my HG meds anymore, consequently sick as a dog again today! So obviously still there, but at least I seem to be able to control it with the meds now. Really hoping this doesn't set me back as I'm supposed to be getting back to work after the Easter holiday.

As for weight gain, my BMI has always been low and I was referred to consultant at my first midwife appointment as I'd lost weight from HG. However yesterday I got on some scales in a charity shop and they said I'd put on 10kgs!! I did basically live on potato and rich teas for the first trimester but I'm slightly concerned I'm going overboard in making up for lost food since I've been feeling a bit better!

Also can I pick your brains about car seats? We bought a britax baby safe after doing some research but hubby tried it in the car (Corsa) yesterday and said it seemed to wobble a bit side to side. Is there anywhere we can take it to have it properly fitted/checked for compatibility as we bought it online?

@Channewmom86 Welocme :)
I was a migraine sufferer before pg but not had any since.
I've read that they are common in pg for people that haven't suffered before - and people who have them often see them improve.

Ice packs and 4Head are your friend. If they carry on though tell your MW in case it is a sign of anything else.

On weight, I still haven’t gained back everything I lost from first 12 weeks so still lighter now than before I was pregnant and I’m almost 20 weeks. No one seems concerned so far

@twittlebee; @megan2019; @dipsy77 thank you for your responses they have been helpful. Forehead stick is my saviour, migraines are debilitating to say the least. I think monitoring water consumption may help? @dipsy77 how exciting about your gender scan on Friday - i have mine on Friday also

@Channewmom86
The other thing that helps my migraines is full fat coke. I have given it up in pregnancy but a small amount of that with 2 paracetamol and an ice pack on the back of head and another on the front does help.

I also see a chiropractor for mine, and that helped wonders. You might find that it is posture change related. I am still seeing my chiro in pregnancy despite the improvement in mine.

@megan2018 I always thought that it was just me that swore on full fat coke or Pepsi, plus a packet of wotsits! Lol.
It is lucky that you have managed thus far without any migraine attacks I hope that it continues for you. I usually get migraines with an aura though i didn't have the aura, last night my head felt like I was lying on a brick and my forehead felt like it had protruded - joy !!

Thank you all for the reassurance about weight.
I'm a worrier

Ah thank you for the replies about baby showers. I guess I will have to cancel the idea as I can't afford to pay £400 for one. We just don't need anything, got it all from 1st time round. Just liked the idea of having a naice afternoon tea with friends and family before baby and without DS about.

@twittlebee honestly, if that's what you want and you think friends would be receptive, you should do it. You don't have to call it a baby shower

@TwittleBee, yes I agree with @stroan. Just ask your friends if they would like to go out for afternoon tea before the baby is born - just don't mention it in the context of a baby shower.

That just conjures up images of those hideous party games with those things you hold up to your face and pretend dirty nappies you have to lick. Vom.

@TwittleBee I think you should go for it, like the others said - don't call it a baby shower just find somewhere not too pricey but still nice that you can go for afternoon tea with your close friends :)
Let them know you're not going to have a baby shower and just thought a girly afternoon would be nice before baby stress kicks in and everyone would be paying for themself...I'd be happy to go if I had a friend suggest something similar 😄

Oh 100% no games and weird baby themes hen party stuff... Just a nice afternoon tea. I've spoken to my sister about it further though and she said I should host it at my house as I have a lovely garden for an August sunny day. She said she will organise all the food, drink and decorations though so I don't have to do anything but maybe clean and tidy the house. Think maybe that would be better? Do have a guest list of 25.... But maybe should expect like half to turn up?

(Think my friends would have been fine with paying though as I've paid to go to theirs)