July 2019 (thread 9): shame me about my bump, and I'll shame you about your complete lack of manners

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Honestly, I go to catch up on the thread after a few days and you guys have filled it up! Love this chatty group.

How is everyone this morning?

Hope everything is okay @aide2424, hope you get a good flurry of activity. Baby could just have got in a different position where you aren't feeling as much. Either way, I hope they scan you for reassurance. You could go to maternity triage and say you've had some bleeding if they won't take less movement seriously.

I watched the Emma Willis program about midwifery last night and it got me thinking about labour! I kind of feel like its a force that takes over and you have to let yourself go with it, it seems so unpredictable. I'd love to learn some hypno / relaxation stuff to help me stay calm. Not sure where to start though - might look for something I can listen to, and then classes closer to the time.

Oh AIDE that's such a worry, I really hope you get some great big kicks soon. They are technically right that it's very early days, but if I've learnt one thing through this so far it is that no one knows you better than you and you've got to really stick up for yourself and push the medical teams sometimes. Easier said than done, and I've felt like a total nuasance recently trying to get my side pain sorted, and at times I've ducked it and not asked again, but it is worth persevering. You and bump come first! Plus peace of mind is a genuine wellbeing concern too.

If it helps, somewhere between 20 weeks and 24 weeks my baby turned from being in a sitting position (i.e. her bottom above my bladder, facing outwards) to being upside down (i.e. the right way round for birth, again facing outwards - for now!). I didn't feel it happen but saw the positions on the different scans with the sonographer. The movements changed quite a bit between those positions - far more pronounced now she's upside down. It might be that your LO has done the opposite? I also have an anterior placenta so feel relatively little even at 24+5, that can be a factor, and was reassured only today that's still fine. Sending you hugs.xxxx

BeckyButterfly thank you v much for the Figleaves tip. I've just ordered some leggings and tights and a swimsuit. Been meaning to got aaaaages and this was just the prompt I needed, and in the sale, too! 😊 Sounds like your work people are decent enough, but definitely don't get signed off if you don't want to and press for adjustments. Totally get the anxiety link, it's got to work for you not just them.

thedust I am so with you on crying with frustration. Did it myself today at the doctor's. All a bit embarrassing.

It's been an awful 6 weeks of pain under my ribs (left side) and no one knows what it is. They keep pushing opiate painkillers at me (the pain is that bad, yes) but I'm reluctant to take regularly because it's not exactly great. It's now affecting my ability to sit and get out of bed. Had a chest X-ray today, in a very fetching lead apron to protect the bump (!), maybe something can be gleaned from there. I'm just so fed up and every time I cough I think I make it worse, whatever the under rib thing is. Also looking for an osteopath next week. If that doesn't work I'll try bed rest, reluctantly.

Sorry about the essay rant. In happier news- happy Friday!!! 🎉

Oh thanks for the telly tip Trying2bemum. I will definitely have a look. DH also found this last night, which we both enjoyed.

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p05zfhhf

Hope everything is ok @AIDE2424 ! Hope they get you checked out , I'm sure Baby will be fine though , maybe just moved positions and can't feel the kicks

How are you getting on, @AIDE2424? x

@stargazydrifter Sorry to hear you are in so much pain. Really hope they find out what it is. Can you get signed off work?

@AIDE2424 Echoing everyone's comments, you know your body best so hope you get some answers and reassurance.

I was back for a 24week scan today. Basically my placenta has bled a bit so there is a pool of blood by the baby. He is growing and getting nutrients as he should but I have to be monitored until due date, so I've got scans and consultant appointments week 28, 32 and 36. All a bit scary but glad they are across it. If I bleed at all (nothing yet) I have to go straight in.

Hi, still no movement rang triage again, they still aren’t concerned im at work on the sleep but I’ll be getting in the bath here soon so gonna see how that goes. I’m sure all I fine and little lady is being lazy xx

AIDE sorry to hear she's still playing hide and seek with you and making you worry! Is there a chance you can just turn up and ask to be assessed? Harder to say no. Let us know how the bath goes!

blueeyedviking I was planning on having the week after next off if no change. Next week is a v big week for us at work and I wanted to try and be there if I can.

The bath got her moving and I’ve felt her this morning too kicking away. Very relieved. 2 days of nothing and now she’s making up for it!
Thankyou for your advice!

What a relief for you AIDE.
I'm shocked a little that they didn't get you in to check you though! I seen my midwife on Monday (22 weeks ) and she said if I'm ever concerned to phone and they'll see me. She said they can't put you on a monitor til 24?? Weeks I think ... But said they'd have a listen with the Doppler at the very least !

That's great news @AIDE2424 - baby was playing hide and seek! You must be so relieved!

I rang my local triage twice and both time I was just advised to try cold water and lay down on my left side or try a bath. They said that at this stage it’s common to not feel movements everyday but I agree they should let me get checked out and in future I’ll be going to get checked and I don’t want another 2 days of worry xx

Relieved for you @aide24. Little monkey 👶🏻Xx

Hi guys,
I’m a bit late to the thread. My dd has moved so I’m now the 31st July: you lot seem lovely and chatty so I wondered if I could join?
I already have a 4 and 2 yr old and found the support from the 2 yr old bus invaluable.
I’m expecting twins, edd 31st July. Only 18 weeks atm so don’t know the flavour yet.

Hi Running welcome to the club

Aide phew! I'm relieved for you

Yukka Hello! I'm so pleased to see you here and that all is well. I'm jealous of your APS care - my team have kept me on the fragmin, I think this is out of lazy arse covering rather than clinical necessity.. judging by them not bothering to repeat bloods and keep my dignosis as antithrombin 3 defiency

I'm so impressed by the organisation on this thread. We haven't bought a single thing. We're hoping to put our house on the market next month and buy a car, so I think we might just be hiding from adulthood right now

Welcome @runningnotscared - twins, how exciting! Do you know if they are identical or fraternal?

Good news @aide, what a little tinker!

Brilliant news AIDE! 👶🐒

Just catching up this morning, love reading this chatty thread!

@AIDE2424, good news this morning! It's such a worth when they go quiet. I find myself eating ice creams just to get some movement. That's what I'm telling everyone anyway!

@StargazyDrifter, I think I might have a similar pain going on. It started around 19 weeks and is like someone is driving their thumb in to my ribs in one spot constantly when I'm seated or driving. Stand up and move around and it's absolutely fine, but sitting at my desk all day is agony. It's on my right hand side though. I have a doctors appointment on Monday, I imagine it'll be the same as you and everyone scratching their heads....

Hope everyone has a nice weekend planned. We ordered the pram last week, so exciting!

Ps. @ReginaPhalange89 congratulations on your engagement!! What a great day for you!

Yay @AIDE2424! I’m pleased everything is alright now. It’s really scary though especially when they talk so much about the importance of movement yet don’t seem to take it seriously when you actually think there could be a problem...!

For the past few days I’ve finally started feeling movement 😃 my husband has even felt her. I’m not sure if my placenta has shifted a bit or if she has just gotten strong but it seems to have gone from nothing to a full on penalty shoot out in there!

@running welcome to the July team :) and congrats on twins. Yikes!

@serena I have today care has been brill, but Riley from 12-16 weeks but when the changes my consultant she was like ‘bosh, this is the plan’. Sounds v positive you’ve also made it this far. Looking forward to 24w milestone.

Ok ladies I wanted to talk pain relief. Do you think the predicted size of baby would be contribute to your decision for epidural? Are you saying ‘fuck this give me all the drugs’ or are you going half way house, everything but an epidural? Interested in your thoughts, it’s s personal thing and my sisters have differing opions x

@Yukka it’s funny you ask because I’ve been researching pain relief and labour this week. When I went to yoga on Tuesday the teacher was talking about labour options and her take on different pain relief.
My gut feeling has always been no to epidural because the thought of that scares me more than the thought of the pain of labour. And to be honest, researching it has pretty much confirmed what I already thought. I’m hoping to go with just gas and air and have a water birth. Obviously things can change and I wouldn’t completely rule anything out. Plus, I’m a firm believer of taking any advice given by the doctors and midwives because they are the experts but my initial birthing plan is what I’ve said. So fingers crossed that’s how it all works out!

What a relief @AIDE2424 !

@SerenaOverjoyed if it makes you feel any better all I've bought is a little newborn clothing set from Boden, as a 20 week scan treat. Haven't even looked at a pram. We've got time! I was on fragmin with IVF - those jabs were sore ones, poor you

@StargazyDrifter sorry you're having such a tough time  did they have any idea what is causing the pain? I've noticed quite bad rib cage pain at night - it's very hard to relieve

@BeckyButterfly Yay that's great! It's so lovely to feel isn't it?

@Yukka I don't really have strong feelings about pain relief - but If I think if I really feel like I need an epidural then I'd have it. If I can manage without then I'd rather do that - I think intervention is more likely with an epidural

Feeling very tired today, and struggling to walk without being in pain, I’m only 21 weeks! The baby is kicking like mad for hours at a time now though which makes me happy.

Glad to hear everything’s okay @AIDE2424 that must have been frightening.

Last night I cried as I accidentally ordered a cheese naan on its own for my tea from the takeaway Baby brain is definitely getting to me.

Re pain relief I only had gas and air last time, but I’m just going to see how I go. Desperately wanting a water birth and wasn’t allowed one last time.

Im hoping for no pain relief at all, but I'm obviously open to the possiblity I'll need it !

With my first I didn't have anything til 7/8cm as I didn't get to hospital til then.
Gas and air then ended up with a last minute injection , think it was pethadine? And hated it ! I think it was too late in kicking in , but when it did it just made me so so drowsy. I couldn't stay awake once she was born!

With my second I had nothing at all, not even gas & air . But it was a very quick labour and I only arrived at the hospital at the last minute. I honestly felt like superwoman after haha. So I'd love to avoid it again this time if I can. I feel like I could manage it this time if it's as quick!