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July 2019 (thread 8): pram choices, 20-week scans, and the morning gag

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RooKangaroo · 15/02/2019 16:07

New thread!

Sorry, don't know if someone else was planning to do this. Just noticed how close we were to being cut off on the last thread.

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RooKangaroo · 22/02/2019 14:43

@Kentishgal, I feel exactly the same as you. My 20-week scan is on Monday and I don't seem to have accepted this pregnancy is real yet, and I'm waiting on what happens on Monday.

DH and I are talking about finding out the sex and I'm caveating every conversation with "assuming everything is ok and they don't find anything wrong". He said last night that he wanted to tell our DD soon after the 20-week scan, and I said I'd prefer not to until at least a week after. My reasoning is that if things aren't all ok, it's going to be devastating news and to then have to (in my head) postpone a planned conversation with my DD, it will just feel heartbreaking.

I assume I'm doing this to protect myself in the event of bad news. Hopefully it's all unnecessary, obviously.

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Kentishgal · 22/02/2019 15:09

Thank you all, it's nice to know I'm not the only one feeling this way. rookangaroo I know what you mean - my daughter already knows and is getting carried away with the idea so I'm already planning the conversation we'll have to have with her.

Trying2bemum · 22/02/2019 15:10

On movement - my app said the baby is only awake for 6 hours a day at 18 weeks - so there's a limited amount of time for you to be aware of movements and it could be during the night when you're asleep.

Yes definitely more clumsy and forgetful over here. I have dropped and smashed my iPhone, got on wrong trains, left ingredients out of cooking that were right in front of me - it must be a thing!

RooKangaroo · 22/02/2019 15:24

@Kentishgal - yes! Yesterday I ended up planning how I would tell work I'd had the bad news, and thinking about what it would mean for my projects and workload and how I'd be shafting other colleagues to cover for me for a few weeks :(

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Twistering · 22/02/2019 15:58

20 week scan this morning, all fine and what I thought was a boy is a girl!! 💖

Twistering · 22/02/2019 16:00

@Roo and @Kentishgal, if it helps any, I’d told myself the same, especially as no noticeable movement. To the point DH getting upset with me for caveating everything with ‘all being well’. And it is! Statistically speaking risk is so low now, I’m sure we’ll alk be fine xx

Kentishgal · 22/02/2019 17:19

Fingers crossed - sorry to bring the mood down everyone. Having a wobble. On a different note, I just bought some Taylor's rose lemonade infusion - made a mug and took a couple if sips then just thought I'd look at the ingredients - the main ingredient is hibiscus which is dangerous in pregnancy - just reading about how many of these herbal teas actually contain it.

Kentishgal · 22/02/2019 17:20

Yay congratulations Twistering - fab news!

BeckyButterfly · 22/02/2019 17:36

@Twistering congratulations!

@Kentishgal don’t be daft! That is what we are all here for, to support on another when we need it. We’ve all been there 😊 also, didn’t know about hibiscus, I’ll look out for that as I drink quite a lot of herbal tea.

BirthdayKake · 22/02/2019 19:18

Congrats Twistering!

My 20 week scan is on Tuesday - so nervous something will be wrong, especially as it was that scan that kicked everything off last time and ended up with me being convinced I was going to have a very early, very poorly baby! She was fine in the end so fingers crossed.

BirthdayKake · 22/02/2019 19:20

We bought our pram last weekend ❤️

A second hand Oyster 2 with everything for £150. It's in good condition too. Bargain!

KentishGal jeez I never knew that about herbal tea!

Hope everyone's well x

July 2019 (thread 8): pram choices, 20-week scans, and the morning gag
SnailorSwift · 22/02/2019 19:25

Looks pristine @BirthdayKake what a bargain!

We have our pram from DS, I can't wait to use it again as I loved it so much. I've been helping my sister shop for hers though!

RooKangaroo · 22/02/2019 19:38

Congrats @Twistering, glad the scan went well! 😚

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HchyScott · 22/02/2019 20:10

@yukka do you know any more about the itchy spot condition? As I’ve said before my spots have been awful the whole time, especially on my back and they are itchy. I’ve spoken to my midwife and doctor about it and have a antibiotic and zinc lotion to apply twice a day but they never mentioned a condition?

ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts · 22/02/2019 20:21

Where can I find out all the info on the best car seats?

blueeyedviking · 22/02/2019 21:42

Congrats on all the scans!

@ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts i think we are due date twins Smile

@Roo and @Kentishgal - anxiety can really make it difficult as pregancy can already be quite a lonely place. I Hope you get some reassurance soon

I had my 20 week scan today. And it's a little boy 💙 All is well with him. I had to go for walks and jump around a lot as he was being a bit stubborn.. Will have another scan at 24weeks as they also saw a small blood clot so need to monitor it.

Also had my hooping cough jab. My arm is so sore!

ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts · 22/02/2019 21:50

@blueeyedviking 9th July? Smile

BirthdayKake · 22/02/2019 21:59

Congratulations Viking!

Yukka · 23/02/2019 07:29

Lovely to hear all the scan news. I’ve got ages to go not booked in till 14 March I’ll be 20w 4d.

Baby bump has popped a bit more this week and may have felt a bit of movement but it’s hard to tell! DH commented that I do actually look pregnant now. Feels nice :)

@hchyScott it’s called PUPPS the descriptions online reference it on the stomach and legs but it’s a spotty and rashy itchy thing. I happened to have consultants appointment the day after it started and she explained it. Mine seemed to go away on its own ( with e45 itchy cream) but if it doesn’t they will give you special cream - maybe that’s what they did for you?

Off on the big pram/travel system search today...wish me luck!!!

Hope everyone doing well today xx

Kentishgal · 23/02/2019 08:52

yukka my sister had a bad case of PUPPS (!) And I know it was not v nice at all. I think I recall something about more women expecting boys getting it? I know she used something called "grandpa soap". As if by magic, baby started moving a lot more last night - in fact she wouldn't stop! And again this morning. Typical just when I had a wobble about it. I think my anxiety is more about them picking up an abnormality at this stage though. Have in-laws visiting for the weekend - first comment: "are you sure it isn't twins"...(polite laughter as if they're the first to make that joke)!

Yukka · 23/02/2019 08:59

@kentishgal thanks I’ll see if I can find what it was she used! Typically it’s picjed s little again this morning.

Interesting theory about boys! We’re yellow but there are no boys in our family... 6 nieces... everyone’s desperate to find out but we said no! I know it’s cruel!! All the old wives tails at the moment are predicting boy for us :)

FuzzyPixel · 23/02/2019 09:37

Okay, this is going to sound a little bit awful I think, but I'm really struggling with boredom today. Before pregnancy, I was working full time, studying for a degree part-time and had two volunteer placements which I went to every week. I have intercalated from University because the sickness was really interfering with studying and my grades, and due to the type of volunteer work (with animals), I've had to take a break from that too.

We're in the middle of house renovations, and usually, I'd be involved in the work, but DH (kindly) is wrapping my up in cotton wool a little - so my main 'job' is to sit and make some decisions about things like paint colours, or where to store the books...

If I raise it with friends or family, I get a lovely, caring response of 'you're growing a baby! Just relax, put your feet up', but I'm bored! I'm pregnant, not incapable.

We waited a long time to get pregnant, so I realise that everyone is trying to 'look after' us, but in that long time to get pregnant, I filled my life with doing lots of great and distracting things. I feel like I've gone from doing a lot, to just work and napping.

It doesn't help that I have a bit of pain in my sciatic area and groin, so DH can see that I'm not as mobile.

There's only so many times you can read product reviews of car seats or look at house layouts...

BeckyButterfly · 23/02/2019 09:44

@FuzzyPixel why don’t you mention that the best thing to do for sciatica is to keep moving? Because that isn’t a lie. Sciatica is made worse by just sitting. You have to stay as active as possible (gentle of course) I find going for walks and things helps mine as long as I don’t overdo it.

FuzzyPixel · 23/02/2019 09:57

Thanks, @BeckyButterfly - we've had a little chat about it. You're completely right about staying active. Unfortunately, I've had sciatica before and physio too, never the groin pain with it though!

On reflection, I think it is probably Saturdays that I am struggling with most because I used to get up at 5:30, be on the train for 6:30 and then spend the day helping to teach in classes. I'd get home for tea and then have a nice evening with DH. I think I'm really missing those classes (and the people, and the dogs, and the wins!)

We spoke about it not long after I posted that message (although we have spoken about it before too) and decided I need something low impact but still moving to do - luckily for us, we have a big garden, and so DH has suggested planting up some of the seeds we have and looking at what else I can do in the garden - just to give me a bit of pottering.

I'd usually do something crafty but all of the bedrooms; including the den and my craft room/office are being decorated so my craft things are little inaccessible. As soon as my mum has some time off work, I'm going to pop to her house, use her craft room, and start painting some wooden signs for the house/garden.

I feel like a right whinge-bag today!

LavenderBelle · 23/02/2019 10:33

Morning everyone! I’m so tired today. This little one is taking everything out of me, we finally have a shortlist of names now too