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September 2019 Babies - Thread #3

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stroan · 13/02/2019 09:51

Hi,

It looks like we filled up the last thread before anyone had a chance to start a new one, so here we go! Hope everyone finds their way over.

@twittlebee could you possibly link to the Google Doc again?

@karigan195 so glad you were seen again and got a bonus scan. Lovely to get a bit of reassurance too, hope the next 7 days go quickly for you.

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Easterbuns1 · 16/02/2019 08:36

@LaBelleSausage that's horrible, I tend to get bad dreams when I'm anxious anyways so you and everyone else have my sympathy. I quite often used to shout out when having a nightmare too, I used to wake my ex up but dp could sleep through an earthquake so don't think he will ever wake to reassure me in the night!

Whisky2014 · 16/02/2019 08:39

A chicken leg! Wow that is weird.

Try not to worry, karigan. I know its hard though.

Well, that 1 stressy work dream but then I woke up and went for a wee. I then dreamt I had a beautiful baby boy and was a really happy baby! So that was nice :)

happydays00 · 16/02/2019 08:42

Sympathies to all having stressful dreams and no sleep!

My DD woke up at 3am (interrupting a dream about a baguette) and didn't go back to sleep until 5:30 😩 I think she's getting ill, oh joyyyyyy.

I think I got maybe 30 mins after that so today is going to be a longggggg day. Particularly as my husband is working. It's times like these I panic about how I will manage with a newborn and a toddler - for those with multiple DC already was the jump from 1 to 2 a real shock?

IVEgottheDECAF · 16/02/2019 09:10

1 to 2 was fine. 16 month gap.

2 to 3 was harder.

3 to 4 fine.

IVEgottheDECAF · 16/02/2019 09:11

Should have said 3yr11m between 2 and 3, 3yr6m between 3 and 4

boodles101 · 16/02/2019 09:21

I'm wondering if I need to eat more protein Hmm

Easterbuns1 · 16/02/2019 09:25

@happydays00 17 months between my older two and I genuinely didn't think Juno from one to two was that hard at all, I run a tight ship though so was all about routine.

I'm more worried about how number 3 is going to fit in with taxiing the other two around in the evenings to clubs and the trek to drop them half way to their dads twice every second weekend.

IVEgottheDECAF · 16/02/2019 09:30

With number 3 i was really emotional, baby blues, tired etc

Older two were 5 and nearly 4, so i had one in school, a preschooler to entertain and a newborn. It was hard.

3 is my only girl i do wonder if that something to do with why i was so emotional, a hormone thing maybe

happydays00 · 16/02/2019 09:58

Thanks guys - that's good to hear! My daughter will be 2 years 9 months when this one arrives (all going to plan). I found the "baby months" incredibly hard with my daughter - I just felt the days dragged and dragged so I'm hoping that having a toddler around and being a bit more relaxed about it this time round will help pass the time a bit. Conversely I panic about how to manage the toddler when sleep deprived - I really struggle without sleep.

I know it will all work out and we'll find our new groove but at the minute it feels a bit unfathomabel

happydays00 · 16/02/2019 09:58

** unfathomable

DustyDoorframes · 16/02/2019 10:06

Hmm, I've 3y 3m between my first two, and will have the same gap again.
My eldest definitely needed a lot of lovebombing, we had sleep and toilet regression, but they really enjoyed each other from the get go, and have been giggling together since my little one first started laughing! And the regression is easier to deal with when you remember that it's totally normal. Oh, and I gave myself a free pass on housework for three months. I didn't have a clear floor til the baby was just past 12 weeks old...
This time we've school in the mix. Not sure how we are going to manage to get anywhere on time!

Megan2018 · 16/02/2019 10:09

I have a sleep disorder anyway so my dreams are mad and I get up and act them out-they’ve actually been better though the last few weeks.
I dreamt about not being able to find toilets and needing tampax though last night in a house I don’t know where a group of girls I hated from school were having a sleepover, so god knows what that’s about!

But I didn’t get out of bed at least so that’s positive.

boodles101 · 16/02/2019 10:17

happydays I will have the same gap when this one comes along. I also really struggled with the newborn stage so I'm hoping this time goes alot smoother.

Karigan195 · 16/02/2019 10:35

I’m intending to use the baby time to get out walking and lose the baby weight. Appreciate first month or so might be out but then I’ll have another 4 months of maternity leave to use.

I had different hobbies with my first and felt more trapped but my partner now is more active and we do a lot of walking etc so I can still do that

happydays00 · 16/02/2019 11:31

Yes @Karigan195 I think that's a good plan. I will try and do the same this time round, my DD never really slept in her pram and never in the car seat (that was just a screaming session) which meant I felt like I was bound to the house quite a lot. Now we will have to be out and about with DD this next one will have little choice 😬

MunchyMunchkin · 16/02/2019 12:09

@happydays00 sounds like you need a sling for number 2!

happydays00 · 16/02/2019 13:48

I had a sling and she spent a lot of time in it for dog walks and mucking out stables. But I would have really appreciated pushing a pram around the park or the shops instead of having something constantly attached to me!

Lavellan · 16/02/2019 14:42

I dreamt about a baby screaming last night and woke up and it was an effing fox. Went on for ages and was proper blood curdling. I really should wear earplugs.

GemmaJen · 16/02/2019 17:30

I usually dream action/scifi movie plots, but totally original and usually slightly odd. I think I was tearing around a temple turning people into amulets to keep them safe from the bad guys last night. Seemed totally legit until I woke up and didn't have the foggiest idea how I had gotten on to that... I made the mistake of trying to interpret the dreams once, but none of the usual 'being. Chased' or 'falling' classifications quite managed to encompass the cinematic quality 😆

BBell2 · 16/02/2019 17:37

Marking my place. Haven't even been able to look at my phone the last few nights so sickly from the minute I get in to going to bed.. .then like lots of you insomnia hits and that's it. Midnight after an hour, 3 am some days, the latest is 5am in a fortnight. At least for once I've been on time for work and nursery have never seen us so early! Midwife on Monday for the first time, I cannot wait pleased to hear notes will be available from last time, did wonder when they zipped them away!

ButtonTum · 16/02/2019 19:17

@Karigan195 and @boodles101 I'll have a similar gap all being well with this one - 2y7m - and I also struggled a bit with newborn phase. At the time I thought I loved it because I loved DS so much but looking back I was dead on my feet 99% of the time. Worried how that manifests when you have a very energetic toddler on your hands! Plan is to keep him in nursery for 2 days a week so at least I'll have that time to lay on the sofa with baby all day those days 🤞

boodles101 · 16/02/2019 21:14

buttontum my DS goes nursery 2 days a week aswell and I'll be keeping him in those days as he absolutely loves it there and I'll defo need those sofa days!

IVEgottheDECAF · 17/02/2019 07:44

Dc4 will be 2.11 when baby is due. He wont be staying at current nursery as makes no sense location wise, but in the January when he becomes eligible for funded hours i may look at the little preschool by my house. Im just not sure if it will work time wise, the sessions are 9-12 or 12-3. I have older dc a 15 min walk away at primary school. School nursery is only September intake so he misses that this year.

Nightdream · 17/02/2019 10:23

There will a 13 month age gap between DS and baby which I've been worrying about but I'm hoping it won't be the nightmare I'm imagining it to be and hopefully with such a small age gap they'll be close when they're older

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stroan · 17/02/2019 10:38

My dreams are so vivid, but so dull! Last night I dreamt I was having a WhatsApp conversation with my friend about Disneyland Paris. Went to continue the conversation this morning and it didn’t happen!

I loved the newborn stage with DD, but I was welded to my sofa trying to crack breastfeeding for several months and I won’t have that luxury this time. DD will stay at nursery for 3 days a week and we might drop it to 2 once we’ve all settled in. It’s her last year before school so I don’t want her to feel pushed out.

How is everyone feeling this weekend? My nausea/HG is not lifting at all and the medication is taking the edge off but not making a huge difference. We’re temporarily putting DD into nursery full time for a few weeks which is breaking my heart, but I really can’t look after her on my days off just now. She’s had a month of non-stop TV on those days but I’m not comfortable to keep that going.

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