The March-ers 2019 - #9 Meet the Babies

[Angelmiracle]

Thread 9 wow 🤗

All being well a lot more birth announcements this thread 👣🍼🤰🏿🤰🤰🏾🤰🏼

Check-in mamas ✔

Congratulations @PurpleFlower1983! Glad it all went to plan for you

@purpleflower1983 awww congratulations! You look incredible post-birth too. Love her name ❤️

@caseofellen hope things are ok with your leakiness. It does sound like an odd symptom and sounds like waters but what would I know (nothing btw 😂) hope u get listened to/sorted out soon.

@badbadbeans my partner is the same. If I ask him to do things he will wait weeks/months to do it. If I ask him again I’m nagging. Then he gets grumpy if I do the task I’ve asked him to do as it makes him feel guilty 🤦🏻‍♀️ Can’t win. My house is also an absolute tip with baby paraphernalia in every room. He is apparently going to finish off the babys room tonight but we shall see 🙏

Congratulations @purpleflower1983. She’s beautiful!

I’m supposed to be taking the kids into the science museum in town today but have woken up with quite full on Braxton Hicks - so am undecided what to do, don’t want to waste thier half term waiting around for a baby who may or may not make an early appearance (I’m 38+2) but also don’t want to go into labour when I’m out and about with them!

Aww congratulations @PurpleFlower1983 she's beautiful!! What a beautiful name too! So glad all went nice and smooth for you XX

Is it taxiable back if needed @hermagsjesty?
If so, they often suggest braxton hicks ease by walking around so you may find it is OK just plan in lots of coffee stops!

Hope you're also doing OK this morning @wineandchoccy - thinking of you!

That’s what I’m thinking @squirtlesmumagain. In fact, I’ve warned the kids we might need to jump in a taxi if I start struggling... It’s so stressful not knowing if/ when labour might happen when there’s childcare for other little ones to take into account!

That’s what I’m thinking @squirtlesmumagain. In fact, I’ve warned the kids we might need to jump in a taxi if I start struggling... It’s so stressful not knowing if/ when labour might happen when there’s childcare for other little ones to take into account!

Yep, I hear you on the fun of planning for other little ones. We have plans but none of them cover all scenarios other than DH missing the birth of his daughter!
Family is 2 hours away do it is relying on friends which is great during the day but can't ask them to put their lives on hold for our baby!

Gorgeous gorgeous news and babies @thewanderlust @PurpleFlower1983 x congratulations both!! thinking of you @wineandchoccy x

Ahh thanks re the shower sympathy ladies x that's kind! Fortunately seems to have been a one-off and a lot more careful about what I do when DH isn't home now!! Thanks also for info re growth scans, really useful. Wouldn't have worried about not 'seeing' anything - we were laughing because we don't want to find out the sex and had made our peace with/were looking forward to seeing its little face the next time when we were holding him/her so were planning to ask the sonographer to turn the screen away and just give us the measurements! However if they're not totally accurate and this bump continues to measure bang on it doesn't seem worth it.
@cardboard83 concern based only on terrible family history in vaginal delivery and small stature, have a bit of a block about major tears or cuts. Fortunately have been very very lucky with both local trust and MW who have been very much "your body, your choice" and very supportive about all options so content to see how it goes for now.
@Gronk27 also looking a bit less glowy than second trimester, really interesting to read what your salon said. Not quite back to pallid/brittle/greasy days of first trimester but def feeling and looking physically a bit depleted too. Roll on the summer........ tiny squeak of hope voice
@SharonO225 lost plug at 31 weeks, bit stressful honestly but turned out fine and not unheard of - MW said body will keep making it and help to replace what was lost but to take it easy and call triage with any cramping/bleeding/significant water loss.
@babycatcher411 any sign of the pool this morning!?
@caseofellen glad things have slowed a bit for you and hope it stays that way, sounds so unnerving - you seem very calm and collected though, huge respect!
@sictransitgloria hip / groin high five, losing one night in three atm to sciatic pain. Manageable with a sedentary day but stripping/painting nursery furniture / long walks / rearranging bedroom etc all trigger the worst burny hips - wake up with pins and needles all the way to my feet. Counting the weeks!

Hope everyone has a good week this week & feeling well generally, and excited! Finding the excitement really lovely after so many weeks of niggling birth worry! x

@PurpleFlower1983 congratulations, she's beautiful! Glad all went well with the birth and great that you're home already.

I have an appt with the consultant today about inducing at 37 weeks due to the reduced movements. Baby seems ok movement wise now so hopefully he can stay in there for a few more weeks!

Hope all going well @Wineandchoccy x

@PurpleFlower1983 congratulations!

@BadBadBeans glad things are coming together.

Told DH last night he needs to ease up on the drinking (he only has 2-4 at a time but obviously can't drive on that). Luckily there was no disagreement, just an "oh yeah, what if it happens tonight, I've already had 2?" 🤦🏼‍♀️

Struggling in work today, colleague even commented that I'm visibly uncomfortable and mentioned the dreaded waddle...cheeky bugger.

I can relate to the physically uncomfortable. Hips and back especially!
Need to pump up my ball but that's a mission in itself I'm not sure I can face.

DS is being an utter pain not listening today and I just don't have the strength to do much about it... He knows!!!

@PurpleFlower1983 you all look so smitten! And what a gorgeous choice of names. Mega congratulations.

@Sictransitgloria sounds familiar! In fairness my DH is working very hard on other house stuff - but his priorities are different to mine right now and I don't think he understands how desperately I want the house in order well ahead of baby!

I've just had an appointment at 35+5. I'm still 95th percentile for bump size and baby is estimated at 6lbs13oz at the moment! By the time I have the section it will be pushing 9lbs. And it's breech! Or so she thinks- she is finding it very hard to tell as it obviously has a bony bottom! She said she would normally refer me for a scan at this point to check position, but there is no point as I am having a planned section anyway...

Thanks for the support re leaking everyone 

@Hermagsjesty hope your day out went smoothly! With no baby arrivals in the middle of the museum.

@BadBadBeans wow 6lbs 13oz already, baby is growing well! How far along will you be when you go for your section?

Xx

I had a bit of a chat with OH about his nesting. His involves doing the DIY that we’be been planning since we moved in 2 years ago. Mine is getting the house ready for a baby and getting all her things ready! He was a bit put out at first, I said I do really appreciate all his hard work but I was feeling anxious that she could be born any day and she wouldn’t have a stitch to wear and no where to sleep. He understood and got me the things out the loft. He’s sorted out the car seat and put the pram together. We’re not far off now. Want to deep clean the bedroom. Wash the Next to Me (apparently the fabric will go in the washing machine). Got one load of 0-3 baby clothes left to do. The rest of the house is a bit chaotic! But getting there. Just had a £2500 quote to fix our shower and soil pipe situation. Think I’ll have to have a chat with my parents about a loan!

Glad the chat was productive @Gronk27. Sorry the quote was so much - thank goodness for parent hey! Have had that thought about DS contacting us when he grows up lately, just feels funny being at the other end of the journey as it were!

Thanks @squirtlesmumagain I think a lot of us have said how frustrating it is to have so much to do but not being able to do it ourselves (or we shouldn’t really!) Haha I’ve often daydreamed about that-I can’t see us being able to afford our children the lifestyle I had growing up! But think love and support is more important of course and imagine things change over the years .

Hope you got through the day @Hermagsjesty!

@HidCat how rude! I've been waiting on a colleague coming out with that also...

@melissa112 hope your appointment went well?

Thinking of you @Wineandchoccy x

@Gronk27 oh not a nice quote going on mat leave its so typical!

Had 34 week appointment with community midwife but it was her stand in. It sort of put me off asking questions as I get along well with my usual MW. She was thorough though. I had concerns baby was back to back but she got a really clear heartbeat down on my left so she thinks baby's perfectly positioned but did warn me babies in subsequent pregnancies have more scope to move how they wish up until delivery!

She took bloods to check iron again thankfully as when last checked they were 104 up to 105 and as that's within range apparently can be managed by diet. After PPH last time I'm finishing the ferrous fumarate I have left.

Also asked her who I do my birth plan with - MW or consultant. She advised with MW when I go to delivery suite!!!! 😞 I said could I make a note of a few things first and she said only if you want to?! 😑 That's really helpful when you're really anxious about impending birth!!

And I finally got through my appointment with consultant midwife to talk through DS birth notes in 4 weeks 😶 Ill be 38 weeks! Seems a bit late in the day for it and again doesn't help current anxiety.

Pregnancy insomnia also back with a vengeance 😥

@angelmiracle no but good that we’re finally trying to get things sorted in our house I suppose. Can you not just do your own birth preferences and hand them to caregivers or do you need info/advice. There’s one you can print off the NHS website and just fill in yourself. Just wondered if that’s would help.

Oh @angelmiracle that sounds a bit rubbish. Can you speak to your usual midwife at all? Does she know how you have been feeling? 38 weeks does sound a bit late but if you think it will be helpful then it may still be beneficial?

I’m still here, had the gel at 2pm but no contractions from it. On the monitor now then will see the Dr to see what the plan is

@angelmiracle, if you’re worried about anything, please feel free to PM me. I can’t advise in an ‘official’ capacity but if I can help elevate any concerns I’m happy to have a chat :-)

@Wineandchoccy xx

That must be frustrating @wineandchoccy. Hope you've been able to find a good way to pass the time. Baby is obviously comfy!
Thinking of you

@Gronk27 Well done on your chat - I'm glad your DH has cottoned on! Ouch re the quote. House renovations are expensive! My DH is flat out because he's doing as much as he can himself to save us the money. So I can't get cross really!

@Angelmiracle I'm sorry your birth plan and your post-birth discussion aren't working out as hoped. As others have said, I would just do your birth plan yourself and have it at the front of your maternity notes so that you and your DH can talk the midwife through it on the day. I bet you'll feel better once you've written things down, even if you're not doing it with the midwife. My midwife went through my 'birth plan' today and to be honest it was pretty cursory. Ticking boxes on whether or not I was happy for students to be present, who my birth partner was going to be, etc. I had thought it would be more about whether I wanted dim lighting and delayed cord clamping! I guess I will have to just think about that myself and then discuss it when I meet the surgical team on the day.

@Wineandchoccy oh what a shame. Fingers crossed they can get things going tonight for you. Hope you've managed to get some sleep in today / last night.

I feel a bit wobbly about the birth again now actually having had my midwife appointment today. I asked about whether it is possible to pay for a private room - it was an option in the hospital I gave birth in before, although in the end I was actually given a private room because I was such an anxious mess. In this hospital though it's not an option! I am not fussed about being on a ward but I am so worried about sharing a bathroom. After DS was born I found it so hard to go to the toilet and manage my dressing gown / maternity pad / etc all along with having just had surgery. I'm a bit funny about public toilets anyway, and I remember going to the loo at one point and there was blood on the toilet seat from someone else, which I had to clean up before I could go for a wee, and then I felt like I needed to hover (v hard with C-section wound!) and I was wobbly, so my fresh maternity pad brushed against the toilet bowl... So then I felt like I had to throw it away and I hadn't brought another one in with me, so had to rush back to my bed and pull the curtains to get one in before I leaked... Oh god, it was so horrible. When they moved me to the private room with my own bathroom it was such a relief. In my head I had decided I was just going to pay for a room straight off this time round - but to find out that won't be an option has made me feel quite anxious. I mentioned this to DH tonight and he told me that I shouldn't worry about things before they happen, and that if I find the bathroom dirty then I should just ask someone to clean it (that is SO not my style, and also I don't think he realises how hard it is to get hold of a member of staff on a busy postnatal ward, all while trying to spend the minimum of time away from your tiny little baby...) To be honest, thinking about it all tonight has made me feel fairly teary.