The March-ers 2019 - #9 Meet the Babies

[Angelmiracle]

Thread 9 wow 🤗

All being well a lot more birth announcements this thread 👣🍼🤰🏿🤰🤰🏾🤰🏼

Check-in mamas ✔

Hit send too early!

Make sure your birth partner knows what you want and can stand up for you if you need them to.

You are strong and can do this!

@Angelmiracle my SI joint went out in early pregnancy. Physio put it back and I have been very, very strict with myself about lifting 2.5yo DS ever since (have only done it when absolutely 100% necessary - most days I don't pick him up at all). It's been fine since. Hopefully yours will be the same!

@Harley8888 odd that we are both feeling similar... Bug or pregnancy-related!?! I feel a lot better after basically lying down for hours. I've just got up to have a bowl of cereal with cold milk (even though I had decided to be dairy-free... hey ho!) because although I'm not hungry, I didn't eat dinner as I couldn't face it (VERY unusual for me!) and I don't want to wake up hungry in the night. Definitely feeling perkier.

@Sictransitgloria I'm so glad you have had a good midwife experience and that at least you know some of your birth preferences are potentially possible. Fingers crossed for you on the day.

@melissa112 I did baby massage with DS and it was looovely. I found it gave me a really positive way to interact / bond with him at home (when I was casting around for stuff to fill my day with to entertain us both!).

@cardboard33 My midwife also reckons I'm 'all baby' - although my placenta is anterior too. But I don't normally have this much wiggling! Maybe it's just that it's so big now that I can feel every movement more? I also think the same as you about the higher likelihood interventions on a labour ward - it is surely because there is a higher proportion of women there who have got some kind of complication in their pregnancy, therefore they are more likely to require an intervention. I hate stats like that because they are somewhat misleading if taken at face value!

Hi everyone, Iv been keeping up with all your posts but I'm a bit useless at posting.. I don't know if it's because I'm using the app or I just don't know how to do it correctly but when I start a message I can't go back to see what has already been posted or who posted it lol then I don't know who's name to put on what reply unless I go back to the main chat and by doing that I lose everything I have wrote.. so I kind of give up . Do u all just have amazing memories or am I doing it wrong?
Iv been going a little crazy cleaning the house lately and getting so worked up and stressed out in doing it as my hubby and kids are a bit of a tornado when they are at home and everything I do gets undone before iv even got sitting down then I'm at it again.. I fear I may lose it with them all completely as I'm feeling a bit worn out with it all now but can't help it, it's like a compulsion to have it all immaculate. Even my 2 year old is telling her older brothers off when she sees them leave things lying around lol.

@SharonO225 you should be able to close the text box down by pressing the x and still have your typed message there next time you go in. I'd say focus on things being cleaned but don't worry so much about the untidy, if that makes sense?

Thanks @HidCat i did wonder how everyones memories was so good when mines is practically like a sieve atm lol. My textbox clears when i go out of it and back in again.. maybe my app needs updating, il give that a try and see if it helps.
I wish it was just mess but they literally undo everything, when I have the floors clean they walk something in or spill something, I cleaned the windows yesterday and this morning had face prints on the glass and handprints (all before breakfast) it seems when I tell them I've cleaned something and not to touch they get the big red button impulse and can't resist..
I know I'll be fine once baby is here, iv always had strong nesting instincts with the others too and it settled very quickly after baby arrived so just trying to keep my sanity until then. I'm looking forward to them going back to school on Monday tho lol x

@sharono225 definitely sieve brain here. I use browser and the Web page which means I can scroll but only in the page I'm posting on!
I know it's really hard to deal with the kids (& DH) making mess, but I hope it settles down for you. I have thankfully made peace with it and will be hiring a cleaner as soon as my mat pay starts! It's a treat for a few months but there is no chance I can keep on top of it with baby here.
Can you start giving the older ones a few jobs to do? (stack the dishwasher, tidy toys away before lunch, even clean the windows?)

@SharonO225 fancy sending some of your nesting urges my way? My house is an absolute pig stye at the moment with boxes everywhere and dust from when we had our new kitchen installed and dining room decorated. No matter how many times you give the floors a scrub, dust still descends from god knows where!
It's my last day at work today before I start maternity leave so I'm hoping it kicks in when I've got more time on my hands.
On a slightly separate note... has anyone seen Mrs Hinch's squeegee tip? I did our stairs yesterday and the amount of cat hair that came off it made me feel a bit sick. I'm very tempted to do the whole house with it to see what the Hoover has missed!! 😂

@SquirtlesMumAgain my oldest is 14 so he has some chores he does regularly like dishwasher etc, I have to constantly keep on at him tho as he would easily take an hour to do it instead of a few mins. I asked him to dust the skirting boards for me yesterday with a dry dusting cloth and 2 hours later he hadn't finished... I'm not actually sure where he really started . My 8year old is more helpful, he's trying by keeping his room tidy and making his bed lol. Hubby does speak to them about helping out but he is at work all day and I can understand when he comes home and just dumps his things and wants to chill. Feel a bit bad for moaning to him. But he knows il calm down once baby arrives lol he's been through it all with me all the other times too. X

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever oh I don't know how you are coping with that, I remember when we had our kitchen installed crying in the morning when I would go downstairs and see dust from the plaster that I had hoovered and moped before going to bed.. it takes forever to get it out of the house. I'm really sympathising with u at the min lol I think I would prob be pulling my hair out of that was happening this close to baby arriving. Haha I follow mrs hinch on Instagram and saw that hack.. I am prepared to blame her fully on my cleaning going into overdrive 😂 when I'm happy with the house and settled in the evening and go into my insta, she will be doing something that makes me think 'oh I need to clean there too' and then I'm at it again 🙈 x

@SharonO225 @AssumeItWasSomethingClever I've not heard of this Hinch woman but I am going to search for her now!

I've been reading up on Marie Kondo in an attempt to bring order to my chaotic household! We've still got work going on, really hoping that Hulk's room will be started on this weekend. We've got a lot done in a short space of time but I feel I've been cleaning constantly since October as a result!

Morning everyone, I've missed so many comments in 24 hours I can't even begin to catch up with them all but I hope you're all okay!

@melissa112 I'm also nervous about meeting new mums but need to make the effort to look into some groups etc! Also, I didn't reply to our chat about the doggos the other day, my girl is called Luna, she's 14 months and we've had her just under a year now. She was passed around quite a bit before we got her and had 4 homes in her first 3 months until she came to us. We think there might have been some neglect or abuse as she was timid to start and especially didn't like brooms  I could cry just thinking about it but we don't know too much about her back story. We have everything in our name now and paid to have her microchip changed to our name as it was a random person a few hours away she was registered too. Your doggy is looking lovely, especially at 11 years! I love GSDs, think they're so lovely and loyal, although we do get the odd funny look because people think she might be aggressive! In fact she has been almost attacked (we stopped other dogs) twice locally. We ended up ringing 101 to report another dog last week!

@SharonO225 I know what you mean about remembering who said what etc. I have to make little notes and then bulk them out 😂

I had my 36 week MW appointment yesterday and told her about the leaking and reduced movements over the last 10/12 days. She was concerned they hadn't offered me a scan as I've been up a few times so sent me back up.

I was up there 4.5 hours as monitor didn't pick up movements at the start, although picked up lots later on and then waited to see the doctor. After my community midwife and the hospital midwife advising that I should have a scan today to check fluid and growth (baby measuring v big, growth spurt in last 10/12 days according to midwives) doctor said 'if you can lie on your back and see some movement then be reassured, even if you can't feel it. No need for another scan' and left!

I am so upset, standard practise is to offer another scan after 28 weeks if more than one episode of reduced movements. I've had 9 in whole pregnancy and 3 in last 10/12 days. And I've never heard of 'lying on your back and watching for movement', it's always been to go on what I'm feeling. Am I supposed to just lay with my stomach out 24/7 and watch him 😢 DP is not happy and wants to ring our community midwife, explain to her and get her to sort us another scan for reassurance! I feel so much pressure to protect this baby boy that I'm now doubting my own judgement re movements xx

Please do @caseofellen, youve recieved a poor response, in fact it’s a pile of bull shit.
For a start he shouldn’t be advising you to pay on you back at this point in the pregnancy and secondly you really should have a scan after the second episode of reduced movements, it gives a lot of extra information over and above that from movements or monitorings!

Definitely call the midwife who sent you up @caseofEllen. Sounds like they are doing their best for you. I wouldn't be happy with what the doctor said either, but would have been the same - how can you respond?!

The senior consultant was like that when I went to ambulatory care - the one I was mainly dealing with was lovely but he was just so dismissive and rude.

@CaseofEllen aw that's such a shame about your girl and her being timid. My girl is the same, we got her from a dodgy breeder where they were kept in a pen outside with no human interaction except for feeding and all but 2 of the pups were gone by 5.5 weeks..not something we would have gone into had we known (as don't want to support breeders like that) but once we met her I couldn't leave her. Shes unfortunately never really become confident around people she doesn't know despite numerous positive only trainers trying to help etc but we just manage her. Shes not aggressive to people at all but it's still sad to see her nervous after so long.

I also get the looks that she might be aggressive when walking her. And stupid comments that she'll eat their dog for breakfast etc. She was attacked by collies a few times as a pup and has a dislike to them but not aggressive. When she got attacked by two yorkies she just ran with her bum tucked in to avoid getting bitten and the owners just laughed.

Re the movements/scan it's the policy at the hospital I'm at that you get a scan after two episodes of reduced movements. If you then go in again for reduced movements you will automatically get another scan but with the restriction that there has to be 2 weeks between each scan so they ask you to come in for monitoring up to the scan date. I'd definitely be pushing for another scan. I can barely lie on my back when they scan me as it's so uncomfortable and I cant breathe so no idea why they'd suggest you lying on your back!

To those who have mentioned Mrs Hinch. Just had a look now and found a million other things I want to do. I wish my house was as tidy as hers!

Haha @ballanj take my advise and don't look up mrs Hinch just yet.. u may regret it, it'll open a whole can of worms lol.
Loving the nickname hulk too 

@CaseofEllen I would definitely call your community midwife and explain what has happened and how upset you are, she may be able to sort it for you. If it's out of her hands as it may well be then It may even be worth calling the hospital and telling them you are not happy with the decision that was made as they are not following protocol, tell them you will be contacting the hospital PALS service and taking it further if proper protocol is not followed as you feel ur baby is being put at risk.
I hope u get it sorted, that's extra stress you just don't need.

Iv just had a scroll back and had a look at all your lovely dogs, I have 2 dogs and they really are the biggest softies.. they would be absolutely lost without each other even with a six year age gap.

Boris & Pippa

Thanks for all the support and advice, I have text community midwife as she says to text and she will call when she is free. If I don't hear back in a couple of hours I will call her though. I'm just really disappointed in the advice given, after the Doctor had told me to lie on my back the midwife then agreed with him, which goes against everything I've been told in pregnancy!

@SharonO225 they are chunky! I love it! Dogs are the best, so excited for my boy and doggy to grow up together. Although will obviously keep a close eye on them xx

@CaseofEllen my boys love the dogs and get on great with them but my 2yr old girl doesn't like them at all. She never has. They've never done anything on her either lol she just took a dislike to them and is very stubborn. My poor dogs won't even go into the same room as her for fear of making her screech and run slamming a door behind her.. I'm hoping we can persuade her to give them a chance when the nice weather comes in and they're all in the garden together. Fingers crossed she comes around to them lol x

Just out of the consultant - he has decided induction at 39 weeks, unless baby comes early herself. Such a relief!

Aww that is good news @SquirtlesMumAgain would be great if baby made an arrival herself naturally tho. Rooting for u xx

Yep she's got a couple of weeks to arrive on her own (her brother came at 38 weeks) so there is every chance, but just nice to have a goal date to work to now and makes it much easier for booking family in for looking after him!

Great news @SquirtlesMumAgain that you have a plan

Dd has just been weighed at day 3 she has lost 6% of her birth weight so within the normal range. I have had to pump though as I am engorged since my milk has come in and my boobs are all lumpy so she is struggling to latch today.

How has feeding been 2nd time @wineandchoccy?
Does your body just get used to it, or is it still that initial discomfort?

Up until today it had been ok but milk came in last night and her mouth is tiny so she hasn’t been latching great so as the day has gone on my boobs are in agony @SquirtlesMumAgain I have hand expressed with the midwifes help and took paracetamol and been encouraged to feed to get the lumps shifted.
The first few seconds are painful but after that’s it ok

Today I've been getting bouts of period pain and what feels like pressure building up around my cervix and then like a little pop (assuming a kick/punch) and then a sharp scratching pain. The period pain lasts a few minutes but the pressure/scratching only lasts a couple of seconds. Has anyone else had similar? DH thinks I should text the midwife but I don't want to ask silly questions if it's normal!