August 2019 4: All the scans and hopefully the end of nausea

[ScotsBaby2]

Hi all

Welcome to the new thread. The list of names is HUGE! It might be a better idea to start a new list after 12 week scans so we have up to date due dates. It also allows those who have bad news but don't want to share it to leave quietly if they so wish.

I don't even have a scan date! Hurry up and end first trimester.

@Kcjoe a huge number of things go into the combined test. Wait and see what the results are and speak to the hospital about what to do once you have processed. Can you ask your community midwife for an emergency appointment so you can go through the coil stuff and the combined test stuff? Might make it all easier in your head telling someone neutral. Sending lots of love. You are coping with so much already xxx

So sorry @Kcjoe, that sounds like a lot to deal with. I hope you get some answers soon and that everything looks to be OK.

My DH has just texted me and told me his work has said no to him coming to any midwife appointments. I kinda wanted him to come to them. Will he be missing much by not being there?

@bubblegumunicorn I wouldn't say he would be missing anything. Most of mine were blood pressure, check wee sample and general chat. This was until about 30 weeks when the midwife would do a Doppler to hear heart rate and measure bump. It might be nice for him to come to the heart rate one but you will have both seen it twice on the scans. I would say more important to try to get to the ante natal classes.

@Kcjoe So sorry to hear that you have so much to deal with right now. I hope it all works out well for in the end.

@bubblegumunicorn my DH never came with me to midwife appointments. To be honest I never even thought of asking him to come. It's usually just blood pressure and wee tests. He'll come to the anomaly scan but that's pretty much it.

@ScotsBaby2 @Ninunina Thanks Ladies that makes me feel a lot better about it! They have said he can only have unpaid time off to come to the scans and nothing else I'm going to have to see if I can get Ante Natal Classes outside of his work hours so he can come to those!

@bubblegumunicorn my other half didn't come to the ante natal classes with me. A lot of the dads didn't. I'm planning on getting the Positive Birth Company's digital pack very soon and making him watch the videos.

Same, there were 20 of us and only 1 partner came! So I really wouldn't worry too much. It's more the nct ones partners go I think?

Kcjoe sorry you're having such a stressful time, it's been one thing after another with you hasn't it 😔

@Kcjoe

The waiting must be terrible. Good luck


@Kcjoe
All strength to you and your husband at this worrying time.

@bubblegumunicorn my dh didn’t make it to any midwife appointments, and most scans through either of my pregnancy’s. During the first pregnancy he couldn’t get time off work, during the second he was looking after my son so I could go.

Tbh he missed the birth of our daughter because he was stuck on a train 200 miles away.😂

My 12 scan is on Thursday and he’s buggered off to Australia for two months. We had to have a long chat about what tests I would go for and what potential outcomes I might have to deal with before he left. I couldn’t be calling him up and trying to discuss something so important over the phone.

Midwife appointments are very dull, and in the city, very very rushed.

My second pregnancy was in the countryside with a proper community midwife, a very different experience.

You will be absolutely fine.

So just looking for some reassurance really, this evening I was involved in a minor car crash (low speed, small damage to both cars). I feel fine, other than worried. If I call the epu in the morning do you think they will scan me?

@Jelliestogether The same happened to the week before last, I was 13 weeks pregnant. I rang hospital straight away to ask for advice and they booked me a scan for the next day to check baby was ok. They said if i started bleeding or cramping I had to go straight in. I was absolutely fine and so was baby after a very sleepless night! On the scan baby was somersaulting around as if nothing had happened. I'd definitely ask for a scan to out your mind at rest as they checked my whole uterus for signs of bleeding etc that you wouldn't necessarily know you have until it bleeds out x

@blueberry2018 thanks for that it's made me feel a bit better. Epu opens at 8am so I'm just waiting for that. Glad you and baby were ok. I have to say I've not slept well worrying and thinking maybe I should have just gone to a&e! Even though nothing seems wrong.

Thank you everyone for your support. I will keep you updated xx

@Kcjoe I've been rejected for cvs again today and so will now wait for amnio at 16 weeks. If you'd find it reassuring you can look up the risk rates of your individual consultant. I've definitely found that that they are super reluctant to take even a tiny risk if there is a chance that you want to keep the baby (which I do).

Thinking of you. Hope all goes well.

@kcjoe thinking of you and hope you have a positive outcome. You have had so much to deal with this pregnancy already!

Re midwife appointments, DH won't be coming with me, if he's off work he can wrangle the toddler. I bought him to an early one last time because my midwife wanted to meet him but it was completely pointless. He also came to one on my due date where she gave us a very graphic description of how to have sex to bring on labour he only came because he works shifts and happened to be off, definitely wouldn't bother arranging time off work. I think father's are entitled to two unpaid appointments so better saving them for scans or anything else concerning.
Re breastfeeding I fed my son for 15 months. I would recommend an antenatal class if you are considering it so you have some idea of latch and what cluster feeding is. I was expecting it to be terrible because I had heard so many horror stories but it worked fine for us. I think that's just luck though. It also helps to have friends & family who have done it, I found mw and HV gave some odd advice that would have been detrimental had I followed it.
I used a Hakka (pop on other boob when feeding) and had enough from that for DH to give bottles when needed. I do honestly think breastfeeding is easier (when it works) even than shared formula feeding, just because of the massive faff of bottle prep. Plenty of people find the non stop nature of early breastfeeding more stressful though, so it really is just personal preference.

@QueenofFox they said about there being a possibility of not being able to do the cvs. You can guarantee that that will be me! 🙄 I don't know who the consultant is. I've just been asked to attend on Monday and told where to go. Sorry you've got to wait even longer x

My first NIPT failed so I went to the hospital to get the form for another. They had some extra time so thought it might be nice to do a scan and see the baby. Of course I said yes. Then they saw almond formed brain halves which could mean that it has Spina Bifida. They arranged an emergency scan with the gyneacologist but she can't see it clear enough to diagnose yes or no. Now I have to wait three weeks. I spent hours googeling and encoutered everything from stillbirth to it's no big deal and everything in between. I don't know what to think.

Why can't I ever have something go normally.

@explodingkitten oh that's such a shock to get. When will you get your NIPT?

NIPT results in ten days, but 30% chance it fails again if it failed tge first time. I'm more concerned about the spina bifida, if the baby has it and how bad. They hope to see more at 16 weeks and if not they'll scan me weekly till they are sure.

I'm so sorry to those of you who are going through worrying times. Sending love and positive wishes to you all 💕

Got the call regarding our Harmony test results this morning. Baby is low risk for Downs, Edward and Patau and also low risk for gender based birth defects.

I'm so relieved, I really couldn't focus on enjoying my wee bump and was trying to mentally disconnect from it, but I don't have to now. I can't stop smiling!

Thank you all for the lovely messages and support, what a wonderful group you ladies are ❤️

Hi all,

Sorry to hear that a few of us are going through the mill.

@bubblegumunicorn: my husband never came to any midwife appointments either. He made the scans but that was it.

@kcjoe; thinking of you.
@explodingkitten: I hope the second test works.
@QueenofFox: sorry to hear they postponed you again.

Big hugs to everyone and hope everyone is feeling ok.

@Elmamadegatita: hope you had a nice birthday?