August 2019 4: All the scans and hopefully the end of nausea

[ScotsBaby2]

Hi all

Welcome to the new thread. The list of names is HUGE! It might be a better idea to start a new list after 12 week scans so we have up to date due dates. It also allows those who have bad news but don't want to share it to leave quietly if they so wish.

I don't even have a scan date! Hurry up and end first trimester.

@ScotsBaby2 they aren't usually open at the moment because it's so cold 🤔. Midwife wasn't particularly worried but said to get it checked next time I'm in to see if it's gone down. She said weirdly that having a cold made hers go up and I have been really unwell for the last few days with an awful cold. Almost missed the appointment yesterday.

On that note - can sneezing a lot and blowing your nose a lot hurt the baby? I know it's probably a stupid question but it did strain my stomach quite a bit over the last few days. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thank you, my very kind mumsnet friends xx

Thanks for your responses!
@ScotsBaby2 I'm so mixed with my feelings towards it, when I'm at home I think I'd love it but it's when I'm around people or out I just can't imagine doing it, i don't know why I'm so off out by people seeing my do it, I've looked at expressing but heard that can be quite abit on you and can take along time

Oh I don't know 🙈

@Emma1224 when I breastfed out and about I never had any looks or negative comments at all. I used to wear a vest top with another top over the top so only a small bit of me was exposed for a second. Though in fairness I didn't really go out much for the first few weeks til I was confident.

Maybe try and see how you get on, the first colostrum before milk comes in is really good stuff so maybe just take it a day at a time. I only managed to pump with dd3, despite the fact my babies were big and gaining weight well I could not get any out with a pump for dd2.

@emma1224 I'm bottle feeding mine because dh has said he wants to do night feeds 🙌🙌
Also because I want him to have as much to do with the baby as me and we found this milk machine that makes it so easy to make up the bottles 😂

I really want to try bf again this time round. I bf ds at first, but gave up within a few days, mostly due to what I now know was pnd. But I know how much I struggled in the beginning last time so I won't pressure myself this time.

@emma1224

It's my first too. I'm going to try to breastfeed but I'm keeping an open mind about bottle feeding. I have PCOS and I've read somewhere that breastfeeding could be difficult with PCOS. I still want to try it though.

I breastfed my first two, after the tricky first few days it was the easy. And I’m essentially a very lazy person.
I went to 13 months with each, stopped when I felt they should be sleeping through the night, and before they were old enough to notice it had finished.
No idea if I’m going to manage to feed two at the same time, it seems like that might be harder.
I’ve thought about mixed feeding but the expense!

@Runningbutnotscared do you mean combo feeding so formula and breast milk
(Sorry if I sound silly)

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@emma1224 I know a few people who exclusively pumped with their children. It's a huge commitment and means that you are doing double the feeding time. It worked for them but didn't work for me. I tried to exclusively pump after she refused breast feeding but it was too tying to the house and I felt quite isolated.

I got more negative stares when bottle feeding than breast feeding. I did go to a lot of breastfeeding support groups and our area has a very high level of breast feeding so it's pretty common here. Plenty of time to decide.

My two were breastfed for the first 7 months, then I switched to formula. I found it very hard to get them to take a bottle. They both refused bottles initially and it took a huge effort to get them to take it. Expressing wasn't an option for me, my milk supply wasn't great and I struggled getting a whole feed out. I never got nasty looks breastfeeding, but I didn't like feeding outside. I had an breastfeeding apron which helped, but still preferred bottle feeding when out. Breastfeeding was otherwise the most convenient thing. Nighttime feeds are so much easier, and boobs work like magic when comforting a screaming baby. I will certainly breastfeed this baby if I can.

Thank you to everyone for the advice. I will speak to my midwife today.

@emma1224 I bottle fed my son. I had him at 35 weeks because of his kidney. I had already decided that I would bottle feed. I was never questioned by anyone as to my choice. My son had to be tube fed for a couple of weeks anyway as he wasn't taking any milk down. He kept putting his tongue over the teat. When he started bottle feeding properly we had to make sure we pushed his tongue down 😂 little monkey. My ex husband and I used to share the feeds. Ive chosen to bottle feed again and when I told the midwife, she didnt question my choice. As @Avacadooo says, your other half gets to do night feeds! Mine has already volunteered for this 🙌 I personally think it's great that partners want to get involved and are able to x

I mix fed my first because of night feeds, so my DH could give a couple of bottles overnight but breast fed the rest of the time. With my second I did the same except I expressed the bottles that he gave overnight as found it easier second time. She was EBF till 8 months and moved to bottles.
Am hoping to BF this one as it will be my last and there is something quite nice about it when it goes right. Will deffo be expressing the bottles so DH Candi night feeds again though! I found medals to be best pump but it is pricey. Amazon and boots occasionally do flash sales on them so look out.

I'll (probably) be breastfeeding. Had a really tough time with ds for the first few weeks but really wanted to do it and luckily had lots of local support and it was just so easy once we got the hang of it, he's still going now at 20m (although I'd like to stop, that's another story 🙈, hoping he does before this baby arrives as feeding both at once sounds exhausting). Pumping is such hard work, or was for me. For the first 2w he would only feed from one side so I was pumping the other and it's double the work having to feed and then pump as well. Everyone gets on so differently and has such different experiences it's best to keep an open mind and see what works for you. He also then wouldn't take a bottle when I went back to work at 7m though which was stressful but he ended up just being fine going without it and feeding evening and night to make up for it. This time I will try introducing a bottle earlier.

12w scan for me today at last! Symptoms have massively improved the last few days and my bump has basically disappeared so feeling anxious. I know it was mainly just bad bloat before but it's weird that it's just gone all of a sudden.

I hope I’ll be breastfeeding again as I love it and missed it in a way when I weaned my two boys after a year.
I find it easy (once the first few days of establishing it are over), convenient, snuggly and obviously cheap! It’s not for everyone though and we’re lucky to have great alternatives available these days.

I find it easy (once the first few days of establishing it are over), convenient, snuggly and obviously cheap!

You make it sound so nice with the snuggly fitted in there. I'll try to keep your words in mind if I find the first few days a bit hard.

@explodingkitten I will be completely honest and say that some of my friends have found it painful. Whatever anyone says I think it can be, at least to start with.

I didn’t though. Just a bit tricky to get the hang of at first, especially before my milk properly came in. Which can be hard when you’re hormonal anyway, tired, worried your baby isn’t getting enough etc. But, purely in my experience, the ease of it after a few days - and for months and months afterwards - made it worth persevering.

Good luck at your scan @RaindropsRoses

@CautiousOptimist the first week can be tough. Lots of feeding, nipples not used to it, trying to find the best positions, not knowing how much baby is getting are all issues. Having gone from breast to bottle, breast feeding in the night is sooo much easier than bottle for our family. No cold plods to the kitchen, just roll them over and stick them on.
Bottles are much easier to allow someone else to feed baby but OH feeding during the night wasn't an option for us and being out and about I would rather flap a boob out than have to locate boiling water for a bottle.

I sound so anti bottles. I'm not. My baby thrives on formula. I just found it a total faff and I'm super lazy.

Just waiting to go in for my 12 week scan - I'm 14 weeks tomorrow, eek. I'm so nervous. I feel like I've just found out all over again.

Sickness has been horrific today so fingers crossed I've still got a wiggly little sugar puff in there!

@ScotsBaby2 I don’t really have any experience of bottles except for the odd one of EBM if I was going out, completely agree with you about the easiness of BF once you’re used to it. That can take a while though can’t it, and feel like it’s never going to ‘click’.

Good luck ABearAndABump, hope all is well.

I’ve been nervous over the last few days because, having felt lots of little kicks in the last couple of weeks, I haven’t been feeling much at all. Has anyone else experienced this? I imagine the baby’s just moved position maybe, but can’t help worrying. You’d have thought I’d be a bit more chilled out having done this twice before, but I’m just not!

@CautiousOptimist I've felt that too. Loads of flutters around scan date 11+4 but nothing for about 5 days. I'm sure it's after 24 weeks you need to be more aware movements. I bet our little trouble makers are just cosy and warm, hiding at the back.

Has anyone's midwife gone a bit ott?
My sister had a suspected blood clot after her third and my mw is scaring me. Been told I'll need to inject heparin into myself after giving birth and just got a random letter from her with an appointment with the blood consultant to talk about my sister.
I think this is over the top and it's also meant my mw has taken loads of choices from me like where I give birth.

I had a scan today, for the coil issue. The scan has shown an NT measurement of 4.1mm 😕 so I was referred to antenatal clinic. They did another scan and took bloods for the combined test. I've been referred to bham Womens for a cvs next Monday! They seem to think that the blood results will come back as high risk as I'm measuring 4.1mm at only 11 weeks 5 days (date has come forward again). So it's a case of waiting for bloods to come back tomorrow and then the cvs on Monday. Nothing's easy 🙈 and then to top it all off I went to early pregnancy unit after who said the coil will have to stay in now because of where it is. They were useless in there today. My partner nearly bit their head off because the other news had stressed him out. So then my 12 week dating scan for monday was cancelled as they did that today instead but we didn't get a photo because we were expecting to go on Monday again 😞 the screening specialist midwife rang this afternoon to check on me and she's going to see if she can get a photo if one was saved earlier, if not she suggested that bham may do one for us. So it's more waiting and more decision making 😢

So sorry @kcjoe that you’re going through all of this x