Due October 2007 ~Piggies into Porkers~

[muppetgirl]

Have I started a new thread?

GINA FORD???????????

MOVE AWAY FROM THE BOOK!!!

BURN IT.

GIVE IT TO SOMEONE YOU DON'T LIKE.

[GRIN]

Oh yes the up the back poos!! Projectile ones too - ds managed to hit the nursery door from the top of his change table over a metre away!!!!

Oh and have been told by friend not to have over the cot changing mat -you know the ones thatstaddle both sides?

She says fine with girls as wee is directed down but not good for boys as willy's can make the wee go everywhere, even over the nice clean bed....

I had an over the cot one. No choice as room not very big. We never had any problems with ds - just kept a cloth over his bits apart from when actually cleaning him!

That's good to know as I wanted one -room baby's in will be v. small also and it would save space.

thanks for all your messages btw, went into work this morning and didn't get anywhere near the sympathy required, although we are in a bit of a mess at work after the flooding.

db i disagree on the wardrobe, i alreasdy have a wardroble and a chest of drawers full of clothes for lo, so it depends what your like for shopping

have only had time for a quick scan through as i'm meant to be getting ready to go to a funeral wake so had better get off mn, can't remember who said about stretch marks, i didn't get none with dd, and none so far but i'm a lot bigger this time so probably will eventually.

smell you all later

Off topic here but thought i would ask.

I am due another scan next week and it looks like dh wont be able to get time off work to come with me. He has missed quite a few appointments with my consultant and an extra scan at 22 weeks. Am i being very silly by not wanting to go alone? I have been on my own but sit in waiting room with woman all of who have their partners.

I know his work dont have to give him it off, but my hubby is a bit of a push over and hates asking for time off. I have atleast 3 scans to go.
Should i just carry on going on my own? I dont feel able to have my mum in the consultantion with me.

Sorry

Lisa

If you have a boy, you can just put a bit of cotton wool or similar over his bits whilst you're changing to prevent the fountain effect! Agree with the projectile poo - when will someone start make changing mats with blast barriers at the end...

Re: Gina Ford (always dangerous), I thought it made interesting reading, but don't think it's really feasible in the first couple of months. After that, you find that babies tend to stay awake for no more than about 2 hours at a time which is what her routine is based on so I suspect a lot of them start to fall into something not entirely dissimilar anyway. But it is only ONE way of parenting... I had a friend who was always clock-watching because she followed the routine so closely... Never suited me 'cos I liked to be out and about with ds...

Lisad - can you remind me what the scan is for? I think it's completely understandable you don't want to go alone - do you have a good friend who is not at work and who could go with you instead?

The scan are for a number of things really. I lost most of my waters lasttime and also placenta started to fail which meant dd was born by E section due to plessure on her heart and weighed 5 lb.

Lisa

So I am guessing that they've classed you as high risk and it's for general monitoring of the pg, is it?

yeah classed as high risk, due to my health and babies. So keeping good eye on me, atleast every 4 weeks, with normal midwife in between
Lisa

Mump absolutely with you on the Gina Ford thing! But it works really well for some people so I think you have to see what works for you.

I found that ds got into his own routine about 12 weeks anyway which was much easier to keep to as it suited him. But then I'm not bothered about winging it a bit - if you like / need an element of control in your life GF or similar would probabl yreally help you muddle through the first few weeks.

Lisa I too would hate to go for a scan on my own. I do think that your dh has the right to time off for antenatal appts though - may be wrong but I'm sure that is the case. Don't know what he does though - could he offer to work late on the day of your scan to make up for it? But failing that think its a good idea to ask a close friend.

cross posted there while you were explaining why you need the scans. Can def understand why you would like dh to be there.

Any chance you could amke your appts either at the beginning / end of the day or at lunch so he might find it easier to get away?

By the way, I added in the fact that we are having a surprise to the stats thread. Don't know if anyone else fancies adding gender in... I was going to cross-refer and update it for everyone, but realised it would take a stupidly long time...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?rn=16083&topicid=2290&threadid=277946&redir=16083

Is there any indication that there might be repeat problems? Agree with the suggestion of making it around lunch-time, but only any good if the hospital is near where your dh works, I guess.

What about a sister?

Have added our little boy to the stats thread too!

Dh started a new job 2 weeks ago on the Mon and then I/we had the 20 week scan on the Wed right in the middle of the day. He's in London, we're in Swindon. I actually approached him to say that it was okay if he wasn't there as

1. He is self employed and we don't get paid if he doesn't work.
2. He's a worrier and worrries about not letting his employers down ( I know I'm important too but this really has been a one off situation)and he also worries about money.

He was amazed I'd even suggested him not coming (so was I actually) but he has worked as a contractor for 3 years with no hoilday, only sick days and became incredibly run down and was cruising for a heart attack (Overweight, ate crap, no exercise, long hours etc)he had 6 months working from home and he is re-charged.

My opinion of our situation is that he needs to be looked after as do I. I am worried he'll end up how he did and I realise I really want him there for the birth (we're saving for his leave so he can take a week) without worrying about money.

I can really see your opinion and understand how you feel. Are his work okay with him having the time or is it a 'him' thing?

Lisa;I know how you feel about wanting DH there for your scans...my Dh has only been to 2 of the eight I have had so far, my Mum came to the all important 20wk scan and seemed so "under whelmed" I wished I hadnt asked her! (as it happens shes since told every member of the family about LOs "lovely, long artisitc fingers" ad nauseam!!! so she was excited, but she didnt give the support I needed at the time!), I would so much have preferred for DH be there and to start bonding with his son/daughter ... bur unfortunately his work takes him out of the country a lot and as his wage pays the all mortgage and bills, mine just covers food and luxuries so I've just got to grit my teeth and bear it...However, he has taken a weeks holiday to be with me for the 30 week scan and poss. amnio (so I can lie on my back for a week and he can be there if something goes wrong)so I shouldnt complain....just wanted you to know that I understand how you feel.

Theres no way of knowing if same will happen again but high risks due to history.
My hubby works in london so a good 35 mintues drive back. he has come to appointments with me over his lunch break which were meant to be short appointments and ended up being there 3-4 hours, which didnt go down well.
My mum came to extra scan and seemed happy to be asked but i always see consultant afterwards and dont feel i can ask her in for that. I have 2 sisters. one of them is misdee (if you know her from here) and so she is very busy with peter and the other is having a baby 6 weeks after me but has 3 children already. My best friends, well one had a baby 2 months ago and the other was due last week, so will drop anyday.

he was at my 12 and 20 weeks scans, but doubts he can get next week off as he is finishing early today to come to dd school visit.

I guess i will just have to look like a loner woman

lisa

Get the friend who is due to drop to go with you - if she goes into labour, at least she'll be in the right place!!

But seriously, I would ask your mum. She can always say no if she doesn't want to or doesn't have the time, but speaking as a mother, I would do anything to help ds if he needed me and I think that feeling probably remains for the duration.

I have updated my details on the stats thread.

Afternoon all,

OMG ? there is no way on earth I?ll be able to keep up with this!
For the record, I started my post at 15:57 ?..

Quite a hectic weekend ? compounded by the fact that dh has done his back in ? he assures me it?s not sympathy pains, and he does look rather grey, love him!
Was hoping for a quiet day to recover from the excesses of the weekend, but have been doing work for school up to now ? and running around after dh ? he?s now told me to stop it, as I ended up in tears with the pain at lunchtime!

Pram news ? dh ?forgot? to bring it back from his parents with him (he went up on Saturday) ? I am seething ? am almost tempted to buy the pram i want just to prove a bl00dy point!

As for lo?s room, we are planning to do it mid-August ? the junk needs to be moved around from the spare room ? and it needs painting, new flooring, curtains etc? the cot is up in the attic, and I?ve bought a new mattress ? they were on sale on Tesco direct! HMP - our lo?s room, sounds much like yours!!

We have a canvas sided crib to put next to the bed ? used it with ds until he was 12 weeks old, then he grew out of it! I think, much as I like the look of the amby nest, that I?ll stick with what we?ve got ? just with a new mattress! The crib is so old, I have to get a new mattress custom made!

Muppet ? we went through this with ds too (pooing in pants rather than toilet) ? he used to go and hide in the corner ? and I used to have to haul him out of under the table and take him upstairs ? eventually, I got cross ... after trying everything ? much like you! Getting cross was the thing that finally worked ? besides it means he has something to tell his therapist about when he?s older!
? success on poo in the loo! Hurray!

MrsFish ? the indigestion is horrible - but the strangest things set me off ? curry ? no problem ? strawberries ? agony! What?s that all about?

GGG - have to admit that we tried to get ds out of night time nappies far too early, and it caused all sorts of problems for us ? he was dry by day at 22 months, clean by day at 2 years ? but not dry at night until 4 years 2 months ? the pooing in pants thing was a totally different issue to the night time nappies thing ?

Theladyevenstar - welcome!! And don?t worry about ranting off topic ? go right ahead! We all do it (me more than others!) ? oh, and so glad to find another bb8 fan ? dh thinks I?m mad at 36 to be still avidly watching it!

inzi- sounds lovely about starting ml early! And what a relief about mortgage payment holiday!

J20 ? stop leaning over the bl00dy banister! Oh right, you didn?t phew! to hear about your mum! And that xp is being a twunt!
Oh no, just read later post ? hope all is ok! Oh, breathes sigh of relief, you?re ok ? now ? listen very carefully take it easy! lisa - I?d been considering going for a blue badge myself ? think I may have a go now ? they can only say no!
I completely see where you?re coming from where scans are concerned ? but there again, I go on my own to all my other appointments ? and I have a lot! Second / Third / fourth asking your mum to go too ?

designerbaby - I don?t have stretch marks yet ? didn?t have any with ds either ? think it?s more to do with the luck of the genetic draw than any cream you put on though!

Also ? with your list ? whether or not you buy socks really depends on how cold your house is ? where we used to live, our house was freezing, so ds used to wear socks underneath his sleepsuits during the day ? that said, he never wore the newborn socks as his feet were so big (and still are!!)

You don?t need a bunting if you?ve got a coat / sleepsuit ?
I would suggest you get a couple of fleecy blankets ? IKEA do some nice ones, as do Tesco direct ? even if you don?t use them on the bed, they?re useful for putting on the car seat / in the pram etc.

Baby oil ? don?t bother ? they don?t need it, and as mumpbump (I think) says, almond oil is far better?

Don?t buy your nursing bras til 36 weeks plus ?

Chest of drawers / changing table ? you can get some which are both ? also second the others about not bothering with a wardrobe ? ds is almost 5, and still just has a chest of drawers ? none of his stuff needs hanging up!

Second Alice on not bothering with a bottle warmer ? and about the nipple shields ? would also suggest breast shells ? you can put them in your other bra cup when you?re feeding, and the dribbles that would otherwise soak your bra and shirt, collect in the shield, and you can store it in ice cube trays ? very useful before you start expressing ? just make sure you put them in the right way up!

Alice ? I like the sound of the miracle blanket!

RE: Gina Ford ? I used it from about 4 weeks with ds ? but tailored it somewhat to fit it more with us ? one of my friends tried to stick to it to the letter, and got really despondent ? read it by all means, but remember that it is neither gospel nor necessarily true for your circumstances ? if it suits you, then fine ?

I found the Baby whisperer much more in tune with the way I work ?

Right it?s now 16:47 ? am about to refresh thread ?. Watch out for another 100 posts!

winnie ? waving to you, and everybody I haven?t mentioned!

Right, going to go and cuddle ds! ? whether he wants it or not!

OMG there are over 200 messages on here!!! I was only away for the weekend, its going to take me a week to catch up...again