Due October 2007 ~Piggies into Porkers~

[muppetgirl]

Have I started a new thread?

omg it took me ages to read all that! just got back from the funeral o bout an hour ago and am just having a jacket spud with tuna mayo.

theres no way i can remember everything but...

lisa, that video was lovely, i only watched half of it because it made me cry and couldn't eat, but i have saved it and will watch it later

to who mentioned birth trauma(muppetgirl?) its funny you said that, because i was going to mention it today, after being in the delivery suite last night being monitered and hearing a lady screaming when in labour, it brought it all back to me and now i am very scared, and i mean terrified, in fact i think i've changed my mind, i'm seriously considering some type of hypnobirthing.

to all those that have told me off, i promise i will try and take it more easy from now on, its just hard when i've got things planned in my head in a certain way and it doesn't work out as planned (control freak i am )

i've got to go to an emergency staff meeting tommorrow as they are closing my place of work down for 5 months apparantly, so don't know if we're going to be shipped to other centres, was going to fit my stair carpet tommorrow as well! also got my friends 8 month old baby tommorrow so its going to be a hectic day, again!

hope your all well and sorry if i've missed people out x

oh bollox just read my post and i really am doing too much aren't i/ i think i need ti sit down and try and sort things out and make lists, lots and lots oflists, and then a list of my lists

btw my f*king cat has just slurped my strawberry nesquick and i've got no milk left, then when i shouted at her, she hid under the table like a dog! have chucked her out now, greedy b*ch!

J20 i didnt mean to make you cry, its a happy video, why the tears?
Im glad to hear about the hormones at 24-28 weeks it explains a lot

lisa

Cheers for that nellie - thats very reassuring to know. Don't think I've been suffering as much as some but there have definately been more teary and feeling sorry for myself moments than I am used to over the past couple of weeks!

Lisa, was about to watch your video then got distracted by ds - will try and make tim e to watch it later this week (work today!). It sounds fab.

Inzi - glad your first day back at work went well for you and that your colleagues have been supportive. Makes a big difference I find!

J20 - glad you can see you're doing too much! Looking after yourself and dd has to take a higher priority than anything else at the mo - you're much more important than work and a carpet!

Hello to everyone else - try not to chat too much so I have a fighting chance of catching up tonight!!!!

Morning everyone - dont have a chance of catching up on all the posts! Hope everyone is ok.
J20 - I have just booked myself on a hypnobirthing course - two saturdays at the end of this month, my midwife was really glad! she raves about it!

Have a great day all.

lisa - that video is really lovely, and I love the choice of music, its got me in tears too

Is it is to do, may have a go myself

Morning all!
Lisa that video is gorgeous...Tanisha is such a doll!...oh and the B&W pics are my fav.
Sorry to all who are feeling down...I had a couple of weeks of it (as you may recall )but dont feel as bad..having said that lay awake for 2 hrs worrying last night because lo hadnt had his/her usual 10pm kickabout...didnt fall asleep until he/she booted me in the behind!!!!(twisted or what!?)
Inzi; really glad that all is good at work, its great to hear you sounding more positive..not good about the sickness though
Thanks about the cabbage tip whoever that was.
EJt; I hope DH is better soon and that the blue badge comes quickly
J20, glad to read that you realise you are doing too much ..hope the list of lists works! and think your cat is a real character!![grin
Right that took me an hour to catch up!...I'd better get this house sorted and get off to buy Mums bday pressie for tomorrow...(this is going to be a tough one...1st without Dad )! Have a good day everyone.

Morning all no hope of catching up as an occasional poster on this thread (at least until my maternity leave starts!) but hope everyone is okay. Couldn't see any posts from Buffy hope she is okay.

Have skim read some of the thread and thought designer baby's list of lists was really helpful for a first timer like me. Have got quite a lot on the list and there wasn't really too much I hadn't thought of.

Sorry if people have been feeling down. For some reason I have been feeling really happy about everything ever since my last scan. I was terrified before that point of something being wrong but now for some reason I am feeling really calm and happy about everything. Hope it lasts

Hi all,
Thanks for listening yesterday I hate the way I feel about giving birth and feel an absolute wimp!!

My symptoms are;
Cannot stop crying once I start
Keep saying 'they don't believe me' when talking about prfoessionals
I don't trust what the professionals say
I don't feel 'safe' especially as dh has gone back to work in London I am constantly worried something will happen to him when he's out of the house
I am very aggiated when waiting in waiting rooms to see midwife/scans etc

But, after long chat with dh (and several toilet rolls later!) I am going to request to see my labour records which may help me find answers to the 'so many' questions I have.

Dh says I have to remember that I had a lot of stress around the time of the birth;
Working in special measures school
ds made redundant
Living in rented flat when dad (who owned it) announced he was selling it.
Dh's sister diagnosed with MS
And then to top it all I found dh crying at the kitchen table 6 days after birth ds telling me we were £75K in debt (yes really!)

Now I know we're not there anymore but are so worried about this feeling safe/stable.
Worried I'm going to muck up the calm that we've taken years to get to!

btw ds had another dry night last night -same thing, wee at 5am then poo at 6am.
He's wonderful!!!

Muppetgirl - I know other people on MN have posted about traumatic births and I think there are services which can help you, just can't remember any of them right now!

DB - as someone else said, you have to leave it as late as possible to get fitted for a nursing bra as your ribcage reduces, but cup size goes up. I hated it when my milk came in as I felt like I had two rugby balls hanging off my front. It lasted about two days, I think, but really took me by surprise as they don't specifically warn us well-endowed ladies about that aspect...

Having a bad morning. My parents are moving at the weekend and my mother is being extremely unreasonable and nasty about my dh not having time to help her - he's in the middle of drafting an insurance policy for what apparently is the biggest single piece of insurance that has ever been placed in satellite industry so he's under massive pressure as it is! She's also got a form of lung cancer which can spread to the brain so that might explain some of her increasingly unreasonable behaviour. Plus I spilt my mocha down my front and don't have another clean top at work, unsurprisingly... Plus I have picked up ds' cold which he had over the weekend so am feeling rotten anyway. Ugh!

Interesting about the hormone surge. Have definitely been feeling more stress sensitive and like hiding myself away with dh and ds over the last few weeks...

Morning all

I went to bed early and got woke at 3am by dd, but then couldnt get back to sleep till about 5am. I then got woken by midwife calling me at 9am!!
Thanks for the comments on the video, they take time to make but arent hard as long as you have photos to upload.
They dont cost to make and share online but if you want the dvd made it cost about £12 and cheaper for any extra's. We got ours made for inlaws who never see Tanisha as they live 5 houors away.
Muppet so happy with your ds and another dry night (doing a little dance for you now)

Im going to pick up my wheelchair tomorrow, my last bit of dignity gone But hey lest i can race dh round tesco

Hugs to all

Lisa

Muppet; fantastic on the toilet training front...I'll do the poo dance for you if you like!

No wonder you feel like you do after all the trauma last time! . I think asking for your records and going through the process is a fantastic step towards laying those ghosts to rest.
I know it isnt easy, but do try to look hard at the things that went wrong then in your life and in your labour but that cant or simply wont happen like that again, so you can put a big black line through them and say "thats off the list! Its just a bad memory and will not ever bother me again!".
Those things that theoretically could happen again you can underline and say "if this happens we will do ...xxx" and "failing that we will do ...yyy" so you have contingency plans should the worst happen again and at least you will be prepared and in controll.
For situations that you find stressfull, like sitting in waiting rooms, you could inform the staff that you are waiting outside or take some knitting or a good book to distract you...personally, (though I dont actually know if it is permitted in pg, but I NEEDED it for my 12 wk and 16 wk scans), I took some Bachs "Rescue Remedy" ... it helps me cope when I'm about to panic..it doesnt stop my tears but avoids total hysteria!
Above all I think you need to forgive yourself for being worried about stability at a time like this...we all feel vulnerable and concerned about the massive changes ahead (some of us because we dont know what is coming others because we had bad experiences first time round...(my Mum, as I have said before, would have had loads of kids if the experience she had with my brother had come first, but it didnt, I did, and it took her 7 years to be able to face it again....and then only by accident!))and if tears help release those pent up fears then let them out!...you are allowed...its the hormones!!!

Mump; theres not a lot I can say except sorry about the cold , sorry about the mocha and extremely sorry about your Mum [incredibly symathetic and concerned smiley]...all I can say is that it might not be the cancer spreading (I sincerely hope not), it could just be the medication...my saint of an uncle became utterly horrid when he was being treated, yet my rat bag of a gran became a really sweet old dear and my optimistic generous Dad became introverted and self centred....if it is the drugs, try not to get too angry with her, they just change your brain chemistry for a while. I hope the house move goes smoothly and then she wont be directing her frustrations at your poor DH. ((hugs))

Oh 'eck,

Toooo much to catch up with again. Can't even remember if I posted yesterday such is my nappy brain. Anyway, hello everyone - welcome new people I haven't met before.

Very interesting to hear about the cabbage in bra trick - does it have to be savoy?? And you H cup ladies, spare a thought for us tiny girls. I'm in a B cup at the mo (which is huge for me - I'm loving it!) - but when the milk came in last time it had nowhere to go - it was like I'd had implants under my arms and in non-breast areas of my chest, they were like rocks, and every time I fed, milk shot across the room! But, she hastens to add in effort to not put off first-timers, once it had all settled down breast-feedings was the best thing ever. So convenient! I've never sterlised a bottle to this day! DD went straight from breast to beaker. Another top tip - wear an elastic band (or something more attractive if you wish) on your wrist to remind you which side you fed on last/need to feed on next. Too many feeds in a row on the same side can lead to nasty engorgement issues and trying to remember without assistance was impossible in my experience.

There, right, I'd best get back to work. Will continue to try to keep up with you all. Bye for now.

FT - thanks for sympathy!! Fortunately, I am very quiet again at work today, so don't have to try to focus on anything much... Just on keeping my hair on. I think it must be the drugs exacerbating her usual indecision...

Thanks floria!
I'm feeling better this morning I am writing to get a copy of my records to understand what happened so I can plan this time round.

On the plus side, this morning, I have performed open heart surgery on a panda (fell apart in the wash!)
And made some very 'interestingly' shaped ginger nuts.

Are jsut about to drive a courtesy car which is manual when I drive an automatic so I'll be the one 'kagarooing' up the road and stalling at roundabouts

Hi All, I've made my way over here thanks to a nice note from alicet in the AIBU forum.

I'm due on the 10th of October but haven't found out the sex. I'd measure my tum but think I'd scare myself :-)

Baby is very active but particularly likes to kick like a mule from about 4:30am each morning.

Good to hear that you are all doing well with your pregnancies too.

Hi Marie - sorry, but much shorter...

I forgot to say that I finally tracked down a measuring tape last night and am 33 inches around my non-existent waist... Hate to think how much around the bust...

Apricott - I used white cabbage leaves, they are smoother than savoy

Mumpbump, last time I measured my bump, it was 43inches

Apricott - the only thought I'm sparing for you is one of envy...

I'd LOVE to have nice neat little boobs instead of the these ever-expanding melons I'm currently saddled with. They're huge, heavy and very painful, and make me look enormous when I'm really not that huge anywhere else...

I doubt they're going to look very pretty after all this either this kind of expansion (I reckon they're currently standing at about a 34/36 F from a pre-preg 32 D) has to take it's toll.

So sorry... no sympathy... I'll happily swap, if you like

DB
xx

hi everyone!

not been about for yonks,been so busy and not very well.

dd has been really poorly,so is on her back up anti biotics for another week.shes been really clingy and whiney,poor thing.

my spd has been sooooooo bad and is getting worse.mw said that the physio has been on hols for the last 2 weeks and will get round to me eventually.not very helpful when im in agony!also been getting headaches from hell,and had mw come out yesterday to check bp and test my urine.both were clear,but she thinks ive now got a viral infection.

house is coming along nicely!the roof trusses are up and when we drove by earlier they were putting windows in.

had my friend from hull here last week because dh went to plaster his brothers house.my friend was panicking all week though as her gran got put into a hotel as her bungalow flooded.

j20 hope your house stayed dry last week.

not read the whole of this thread...you lot have been sooooo chatty!!!!will try to catch up later.hope everyone is ok!

oh and ive bought a pram!changed my mind on the silver cross,mainly because of the house move being brought forward.went into mothercare and they ahd a sale on,so bought an urban detour 3 wheeler with carseat (already bought a mamas and papas carseat so that will be getting plonked on ebay!!)pram is in the sahara colour.really nice.and it means that i am now finished with my baby shopping!!!so am concentrating on getting things fr the new house now!!!

Hi buffy!! Was just thinking yesterday that there are quite a few people who haven't posted for a while. Pleased to hear that the house is progressing well!!

hi mump how are you?just been trying to read through all the posts!!theres far too many!!!have forgotten what everyone has said!!!