Bumpety Bump- Feb 2008

[samsmam]

Here you go........

Evening all, Nuchal scan went well - there is a baby in there - only one! I couldn't get over how active it was seemed to be bouncing around all over the place - had to wonder if it was in response to DD1 who came with us and was being a little noisy. Nuchal measurement was 1.5 and combined with my blood test my risk dropped from 1:55 (very scarey - due to my age!) to 1:1081 (much better ). Does seem a bit more real now and we're off to see parents on both sides on Sun to tell them the news. Think I might give Piriton a try at night - I'm keeping DH awake with my noises for a change but obviously I'm waking me up as well!

Welcome lightwind - DD1 arrived a week after my 40th birthday!

Thinking of you gingermumi - must all be a bit stressful hope things improve rapidly

Had nuchal this am at FMC. Downs risk is 1/4227, and everything strucrually seemed fine. Phew! Also, found out it's 85% likely to be a boy. DH is a bit upset (really wanted a girl), but I'm fine with it. I just hope that it doesn't have the same/more energy than current DS!

Fantastic news on all the scans!

Congrats to morning glory and everyone else who had scans this week

Hello all,

welcome Lightwind.

glad to hear that everyones scans are all good!! I will have mine on Thursday next week, but I'm ridiculously nervous!! I really don't know quite what to expect...

I feel like they won't find anything in there!? and it's all been a mistake. Is that normal?

The earlier symptoms I had have pretty much gone - sickness - sore boobs - getting up to pee 4 times a night - poor digestion etc. (I should be V happy!) The only symptoms I have now are tiredness and hunger. So am feeling like I might just be greedy and lazy - and not actually pg....!

Mind you I do have a stuffy nose too - and never suffered from hayfever before.

Help!

I'm also constantly hungry Bovril, I'm starting a temp job on Monday so wonder how they'll feel about me constantly eating
I haven't worked in 21mths, since I stopped with dd2, so a little nervous but it's 3 days a week, 5hrs each day, and we're not sure how long for, so it's not forever anyway. Just wanted to do something before the next baby arrived and I couldn't go back to work again before August next year at the earliest.
Good news about all the scans, mine is on Monday week, also feeling a bit nervous, just want to hear everything is ok and then we can start telling people. Getting more and more difficult to hide

Congrats on excellent scan results. Dh still in intensive care but is likely to go to normal ward today. Thanks for kind wishes, really appreciated. Am totally knackered, more so than usual! Had braxton hicks contraction this morning, very odd, never felt them with dds. Lovely day, hope everyone has a good weekend.

i have a hellish time over the last few days and am having a lazy day at home in my pjs to try to begin getting over all the crap!!
Had ex visit on thursday to see the kids,he hasnt seen them since april though is supposed to visit them evey 8 weeks.Anyway he was only around a couple of hours before he started havign a go at me,we took the kids out for lunch and he started threatening me and df(fiance) shouting abuse and being generally aggressive,all this in public in front of the 3 kids.He then left us in the shopping centre with no transport as we had gone out in his car! Cue hysterical response from ds1 whos autistic over how we would get home.DD upset and sobbing that she doesnt want mummy and df to get battered!Shes only 4 FGS.
Got a taxi home to have him follow me ,i got the kids in the car and away to a friends before he was able to turn his car and follow us.Went home after 3 hrs and he was sitting outside my house.Went straight to police station,made a statement over the threats etc and had a police escort home to get ovvernight stuff for me and the kids.
Went away to stay with df overnight at his as ex around till sunday.
Came back over fridya afternoon for chiroppractic appointment,left the clinic and crashed the car into the back of someone else! Ended up 2 1/2 hrs in hospital to check the twins were all ok as developed laower abdo and back pains.Had to have antiD injection but all is well with my babies.
Ex showed up outside house again this morning and phoning so police alerted again,have lawyers appointment on monday to seek injunction and keep ex away form me and kids.
Definately a few days i could have done without !!

Hi everyone, welcome to Lightwind and hope you are all well!!

Miniandme - that just sounds awful. As you say, something you could really do without. I hope he bogs off and leaves you in peace soon.
Gingermumi - glad dh is getting better, it can't be easy at the moment and I wish you all well.

Glad too to hear so many scans are going well (that's what we like) .

Ok here, a bit tired as missy in the flat upstairs had a party last night, so we have all had about 4 hours sleep but apart from that, ok. Ds has been offered a place in a nursery, which means that our childcare costs are going to halve overnight and we will be able to keep him there when the baby is born so he can have some continuity and I can get on with looking after a newborn (eek!).

I am 15+3 now and still feeling pretty rough. When does this blooming business start then?!!

OMG, mini&me. I don't know what to say. It sounds like you have coped admirably well. Where is your current DH all this time?

Oh God, Miniandme. What a nightmare couple of days you have had. Perhaps it is a good thing that your ex doesn't see the kids that often. Is he always this unstable, or has something happened recently to trigger off this behaviour? Sounds like he has some serious issues and is venting on you. Definitely get a restraining order! The last thing you need now is the fear of him coming around again and causing havoc for you, the little beanies, your children, and your partner! Is your df far from you? Can he stay with you for a bit, or will that just incite your ex even more?

Hi everyone we are back safe and sound from hols. Exhausting but lovely.

Tried to scan all messages but trying to rush so probably missed things. Two car crashes in one week? Glad everyone is ok. Miniandme hope you are ok and not worrying too much about the nob-end ex. Fingers crossed the police sort him out and he stays away from you. Must be terrifying.

Welcome to bovril and lightwind. Lightwind I am in Putney too! Except I am moving in SEVEN DAYS [terrified emoticon]. Do you mind me asking whereabouts you are?

Will be back later, wanted to add a post to get this back into my active threads.

My df is only about 20 mins away by car but is with me ,has been since thursday,he always stays with us when he has days off.Ex has only met new df for the first time when he came up this has been his trigger,i have been on my own for 5 years since we split but im now with someone new and having babies,obviously he didnt like what he saw.
DF was at mines when ex arrived and he was fine,they had a fag together exchanged pleasantries and df went off to work,but ex waited till i was on my own with the kids before starting on me.He is supposed to be going back down south where he lives on sunday so i can relax after then knowing he isnt near us.

Mini&me: do you have one of those Family Reconciliation Centres near you? Sorry if that's the wrong name... basically, it's a place (social services managed) where you would take the kids, leave them briefly, then your DH would pick them up or even only visit with them there, under supervision. If he took them out, they would be in the sole charge of your ex-dh, and he would be responsible to bring them back to the centre. No direct contact between you & the ex.

I know it sounds risky, but one of the provisos is both sides have to sign up to codes of conduct, including (especially) responsible behaviour on his part when in charge of the kids. And he might be much better with the kids if he didn't bring all his issues with you into it.

Otherwise, if he reneges even once on his agreement with the centre, you are on better grounds wrt to getting a restraining order or moving to supervised contact only.

2 of my 3 kids have special needs,ds1 whos 11 is severely autistic and dd whos 4 has a severe speech disorder,asda traits and a poss sleep disorder.
Ex doesnt see the kids enough so really has no idea what dd is saying at all as he isnt used to listening and tuning into her needs,and the reason we split 5 years ago was because he was physically,mentally and verbally abusive to ds1 because ex couldnt handle his condition.Hence why he only sees the kids when im with them!!He doesnt get them unsupervised as i couldnt trust him to havbe a clue what he was doing with them or to care for them properly.

Morning all, just checking in. Nothing happening, this is a very dull stage of pregnancy isn't it! Finally phoned the midwives last week but haven't been phoned back so I think I'll have to go and see her at the GP surgery on Thursday, and take the younger children with me, which is a PITA. Was hoping for a home visit for booking in.

Miniandme your ex sounds like a nutter, good luck with the lawyer today.

Gingermumi - hope things are going as well as possible with your DH. When is he likely to be home?

And welcome to Lightwind - sounds like it's taking you a while to adjust to your new pregnant status! I don't think I accepted that I was actually going to have a real live baby until I'd given birth the first time, I wasn't in denial about being pregnant but it did feel kind of unreal. And that was when I was 23, so to get to 39 and suddenly have to change your whole view of yourself must be very strange. Glad you've found us now!

Right - better get on with the day. Will post later in the week if I do get to see a midwife....

Oh my goodness, just been catching up with everyones posts!

Mininandme - glad you're okay after all that! I hope your ex goes away and leaves you alone, he sounds awful!

Bovril - Don't worry, I think nearly everyone thinks that maybe there isn't really a baby in there and they're imagining things. When I went in with early bleeding I told the doc I didn't really believe I was preggers and she laughed at me!

My back got much worse, to the point where I couldn't move on thursday and ended up crawling round crying. Dp took Friday off to look after me thank goodness so it is much better.

I did have some very slight bleeding over the weekend though, just old stuff and it stopped very quickly. I'm not sure if it is worth trying to track a midwife down to tell them!

Hi everyone, just popping in, Quite new to Mumsnet. Have a daughter of 4 and a son of 2.5, new (last) baby due sometime in Feb. We thought 18th but the nuchal scan suggests that we are at least a week ahead of that YEE-HAH! However, taking that with a pinch of salt as my son was 11lb at birth so it could just mean another ENORMOUS baby!

Have stopped feeling sick so everything is right with the world! How vile is that constant nausea???

Have decided not to find out sex this time (although none of my friends think I am capable of that!) am keen to discover if labour feels different when you don't know. Hmmmm

Good luck to everyone, anyone due on the 29th????? Only 1 birthday every 4 years, bliss :-)

x

Hi Rapunzelle, and congratulations! Am feeling that you're over your sickness. When I'm not feeling nauseous, I feel absolutely starving hungry!
Am off to find the box of ritz crackers...

Morning all.
Had my 12 week ultrasound on Friday, which was fine except at 13 + 6 the bean was too big for them to measure the nuchal fold thingy. Which is a bit tiresome, as I thought that was the main point of the scan. Ah well, I'll have bloods done in a couple of weeks for a Down's risk.

Miniandme, what a nightmare, poor you.

Welcome to the newcomers.

Hi all and welcome to rapunzelle!

Miniandme - you really have been going through it lately - so feel for you and hope things settle down soon.

Gingermumi, glad DH getting there...hope he makes a really quick recovery and is back home soon!

Congrats on the good scan results everyone too

and hope you had a good hol Egg!

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone x

Is everyone else still feeling completely exhausted? I can hardly keep my eyes open at work; I'm so tired, I don't know what to do with myself. I haven't told the NHS that I'm going private yet, and still no midwife has been in touch. I'm 14+1. Is this normal?

Yes I feel like I am almost DEAD from exhaustion. Let DS sleep for over 3 hours earlier and didn't want to wake him as it would mean me having to do something. Moving house in 5 days and am stressed to the eyeballs.

Do think it is odd no midwife has contacted you Bessie. I was sent through an appt for a home visit. I received the letter about 2 weeks after I first saw my GP, and the appt was when I was 11.5 weeks. I think they normally see you by 12 weeks, although am sure this varies.

Welcome to Rapunzelle, and anyone else I have missed.

Mini, hope everything is going well today with the lawyers. We are thinking of you. I ought to remind myself I am very lucky when I am feeling a bit tired and stressed, at least no psycho ex on the scene...

Not surprised you're exhausted egg, did't I read in the initial thread hat you are having twins?????? I am not so exhausted now, but I am a teacher and so in the middle of Summer break which is somewhat more relaxing.