The March-ers 2019 - #8 3rd Trimester

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Thread 8!

Things are ramping up now mamas.

Get your hospital bags at the ready
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Thread 7 link:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3414226-The-March-ers-2019-7?pg=1&order=

@ballanj My waters didn't break until I was fully dilated. My sister's went with quite a leak 4 months ago. I don't think the stats are overly high of waters breaking with a gush but you just dont know?! I dont want to chance it with a year old mattress. You could buy something that's reusable for potty training down the line.

I would say put something on and hope it’s not needed rather than ruin your bed @ballanj
I used puppy pads last time but did manage to get the mattress as well. This time I have bought a silent night waterproof mattress protector on amazon. I also used the puppy pads in the car for on the way to the hospital as well

Mine went sitting on the sofa last time with a pop, crossed my legs and gushed some on the loo but then they went fully in hospital (which is why I ended up having to be kind of induced whilst in labour to get things moving)

Thanks so much all. Bought a 25 pack of 40 x 60cm disposables - they look like giant puppy pads to me!! - like the idea of tucking a couple into the travel changing pad per @SharonO225 's advice. I'll stick a couple in the glove box and under our sheets too. Dread to think what a surprise might do to the electric blanket, which would be end of days up here!

I would say more often than not it’s a trickle as opposed to a flood, but it’s certainly does happen.
I remember triaging a lady who walked in squelching, and proceed to announce that she somehow didn’t think her brother would want his trainers back!

With my first my waters were broken by the midwife during labour, my second went with a very dramatic gush through my pad and jeans and continued to gush until he was delivered (I had poly tho) but I swear it was never ending. The poor midwife had to set a disposable mat over me every time I pushed as waters wer making quite a mess with every push . My third went with a dramatic gush too but nothing like the second, they continued to gush with each contraction in the car en route to hosp hence the disposable pads in the car were great protecting the car seats lol

I'd just like to thank you all for the advice you gave me yesterday about the harassing calls I've been receiving.
I have had a few today so decided to call 101 to get some advice more than anything. I was transferred to a police officer and as soon as I gave her his name, number and car reg she took it very seriously and said she has launched criminal proceedings on two charges; harassment and malicious communications. I'm a bit shocked to be honest. I thought they'd just tell me to ignore it and I'd go on my way feeling a bit more at ease knowing they've got record of it if something did happen. Definitely didn't expect them to launch charges against him! Makes me think this isn't the first time he's done it!!

I hadn't thought of protecting the mattress against my waters either! Will need to get myself on amazon sharpish.

So glad you called @assumeitwassomethingclever - makes you wonder if he is a repeat offender, especially with the SORN issue as well.
Have you let your insurer know about the police action? Might be worth giving them a heads up if not.

Hi ladies just wanted to update everyone. I had another scan this morning and the fluids had dropped back down to 3.6cm and only one of pocket of fluid. They have told me I can stay home but keep a close eye on any changes with me or baby. I have an appointment a week on Monday for scan and consultant but have been told to prepare myself as it is highly unlikely I will be coming home from that appointment. They will probably want to keep me in to give me steroids and deliver baby soon after

@exhaustedmummy1811 thanks for the update. It sounds like they’re keeping a really good eye on you. Hope you’re not feeling too overwhelmed with it all.

Re waters - with my 1st I lost them in a trickle well into labour but with my 2nd it was a full on gush before I’d even started contracting! Will be protecting the mattress just in case...

@exhaustedmummy1811 sorry it wasn't the answer you wanted. At least you can use the weekend to get yourself sorted ready for Monday hopefully. Fingers crossed baby stays put a bit longer

Crikey @AssumeItWasSomethingClever just scrolled back for your OP, sounds like a horrible accident & so glad you were taken seriously. Sure the police will do their job now. Don't want to make the assumption but do you have a partner in the house? And nice neighbours? If there's any more sign of him I wouldn't hesitate to start with 999... honestly. Last thing you need pregnant!!!
@exhaustedmummy1811 hope you are feeling OK about it all, everything crossed for you!

@PassTheAfterEights He was reasonably normal at the scene and not aggressive in the slightest but seems to have turned to intimidation tactics now that he's either getting it in the neck from his insurers or realised he can't scam me! Yes DH lives with me and only works about a ten min drive away from home. My mum, dad and sister all live less than 5 mins drive away and work shifts so there's pretty much always someone around in the case of an emergency. Unfortunately my neighbours are all in their 70s,80s or 90s so they wouldn't be much help apart from to call the police if need be. Definitely not what you want when heavily pregnant!!

@SquirtlesMumAgain yes I've given the insurers a heads up and asked them if they can try to push it through ASAP to try to keep the harassment to a minimum. Whether or not they will though is another story.

@Exhaustedmummy1811 sorry your scan didn't go as well as you'd hoped. I wish you all the best for Monday. Will be thinking of you!

@Exhaustedmummy1811 sorry your scan didn't bring better news today, hopefully u and baby will be content enough until Monday and u have a little time to prep for what's to come next. I hope it all goes as smooth as possible for you.

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I'm glad police have taken it seriously for u, maybe now he'll back off as he's getting more than just a warning. It's certainly not the kind of thing u need to be dealing with at any time of pregnancy let alone this stage. It does sound like they've heard of him before if that was the reaction after getting his name. Perhaps it's as well u called them when u did.

@SharonO225 That's the impression I got from them- that his name or car flagged something up. Just hoping it doesn't get any worse!

Thank you so much for your kind words ladies. Luckily I have everything for baby now, I'm going to prepare some meals to freeze for my other children for while I'm away. I've never really been away from them before so I'm feeling a bit emotional at the moment. The midwife also said since they can't see an obvious reason for the lack of fluid the placenta could be breaking down which is scary to think about, other than lack of movement how will I know if baby is OK? This whole time they haven't listened to baby's heart beat or checked her at all other than the scan which is a little worrying too. I have a lot going on in my head right now, just trying to process everything without getting to emotional x

@SharonO225 I've done the same thing but think I need to get some Velcro as it keeps moving down the bed!

@PassTheAfterEights if / where your waters go is pot luck so best to be prepared. Last time we had puppy pads on the bed but they went in the kitchen so I just changed my clothes then just sat on a bin bag and towel in the car. I picked up the reusable one in Lidl a couple of weeks ago for £3.99 so if waters don't go in bed then that will probably go in the car and then be used in the cot (machine washable) afterwards. My cousin's broke as baby arrived and soaked the midwife from head to toe!

@Exhaustedmummy1811 sorry it's not the best news, just keep an eye on things and keep on at the docs if something doesn't feel right. Don't be afraid to call them if you need answers to your questions either!

@Exhaustedmummy1811 any worries about baby's movements at all ring them immediately. They wouldn't just let you go home if they weren't happy with baby or had done the checks needed I'm sure. Its good you're organised and will be more emotional leaving the kids than they will be! But I can completely understand- I rarely have left DS also.

Thank you I'm keeping a close eye on baby's movements. Its just all the unknown right now. I shouldn't be meeting her for almost 8 weeks yet it looks like she will be here in just 2! I've tried explaining everything to the children, the younger ones don't understand really and the older one seem OK just a little down about it

Must be very hard for them to process @exhaustedmummy1811, especially with the understanding that you aren't going to be around for a bit either.
Don't push yourself too much at the weekend, you don't want to have to go in before Monday if you don't have to.

Have hit the fidgety stage) which I guess is nesting but most things are done.... Expect picking a name. We kind of had one but found a major problem with it being a homophone for someone asking me a question as a grown up!!!

@Exhaustedmummy1811 sorry you didn't get the news you hoped for. Must be very worrying for you, I'd keep a close eye on movements and call straight away if you have any worries at all.

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I agree with your thoughts that it sounds like this guy's name flagged up with the police. They seem to be taking it seriously which is good and I'm glad your DH isn't too far away and your family too should you need them

@Exhaustedmummy1811 thinking of you and your little family, make sure you get yourself back to the hospital if anything doesn't seem right with baby.

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I'm so glad the police are taking it seriously. Hope they give the guy a ruddy hard time, you do not need that s**t right now!

Hi @Exhaustedmummy1811 is it Monday coming that you are back in or next week? Sorry just rereading your post. I hope you are ok.
If you do have a week to wait in between I would ring triage and ask if you could be seen for monitoring in the day assessment unit whilst you are still not an inpatient.
I am having monitoring with them twice a week and I find it so very helpful and reassuring.
I know it must all be so hard, but as others have said try and take it as easy as you can on yourself.

Currently queuing at a mum to mum Market... It doesn't open for 10 more mins and there is already a massive queue. Thankfully got here early and got somewhere to park, but could do with a chair to sit on!!!!
Hopefully can pick up the last bits I need, but not optimistic!