The March-ers 2019 - #8 3rd Trimester

[Angelmiracle]

Thread 8!

Things are ramping up now mamas.

Get your hospital bags at the ready
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Thread 7 link:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3414226-The-March-ers-2019-7?pg=1&order=

[Wineandchoccy]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3506187-The-March-ers-2019-9-Meet-the-Babies

@Dalesgirl16 come and join us on the new thread

[Dalesgirl16]

Hi again every one! I'm 33 weeks today with my second baby. Needing to go to loo every half an hour now which is a problem when we go out! Anyone else's bladder under pressure?!

[Angelmiracle]

//www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3506187-The-March-ers-2019-9-Meet-the-Babies


Link for our new thread ladies!! No. 9

[Wineandchoccy]

@CaseofEllen I am a 2nd timer and after last time I realise no matter what I wished for baby didn’t read the birth plan so this time I have just put a few bullet points down.
Yes to vitamin K and injection fit placenta. DH to cut the cord if possible. We don’t know the sex so we would like to be the ones to look 1st. Pain relief anything but pethidine as it makes me fall asleep. Check for tongue tie post natally.

[Gronk27]

@caseofellen FTM too! So no idea either. Can I recommend the Positive Birth Company website and YouTube channel. Very informative. Trying not to bang on about the hypnobirthing but so much of it is science based and informative and might help you make choices? Feel free to PM me-I’m obviously no expert but my antenatal class and hypnobirthing courses were so informative.

[CaseofEllen]

@Gronk27 that sounds lovely! I have no idea what birth plan or pain relief I want. Midwife said to fill in a section in notes for 36 week appointment but I just stare blankly

I agree, I think DP wants to wait the recommend 6 weeks as he's so worried about hurting me but after that I'd like to start trying again slowly. FTM so no idea what will actually happen though xx

[Gronk27]

@caseofellen glad to have helped in a roundabout way! We’re trying it tomorrow. And tonight we’re doing a relaxation script and practising our breathing (hypnobirthing).

Post birth I am worried sex wise. I really hope we can try pretty soon after as I feel like perhaps the longer it goes the harder it will be? (Lol!) Medical issues aside of course, that’s a different kettle of fish.

[CaseofEllen]

@Gronk27 @BadBadBeans I did ask DP last night if he would help with massage. I do have a big bump and literally can't find a position I could do it in myself after some thinking he said 'well I suppose I will if other MNs partners are helping!' 😂 think we will start tomorrow at 35 weeks, need to buy some oil but will go with something vegetable based like you have suggested!

Re sex life. Before I fell pregnant I was being seen at hospital for erosion and endometriosis so our sex life was quite on and off depending how I felt. Since being pregnant it's actually picked up a bit, we are active probably once a week although sometimes not intercourse. We've actually discussed post baby sex life and once I've recovered from birth etc we're going to start trying some new things () and making more time for it! Used to be very active (2 times a day) before I got poorly so it's been difficult as it was something we did to bond/feel close I guess! How is everyone feeling about post birth sex? I'm already nervous and have no idea what to expect xx

[Angelmiracle]

@Sictransitgloria yeah it is all so close I'm end of March too. I'm now at the point everywhere I go school work shop etc people are asking "how long now?" Or telling me "not long now" Thanks for the reminders!!

DS was 9lb9oz and I had up to 10lb (up to 1 month) gros/sleepsuits for him which we got a month out of. Especially with BF they do drop weight after a few days before they start putting it on again. Might be worth having 10 or so in that size. Although a 6lb baby may need first size!

That sounds like a lovely baby shower! I warned DM I didn't want one but have lots of lunches and meals out planned with friends. My sister had two!! So I'm getting lots of unused items from her.

I'm same as you finishing 1st March will be 36 weeks and really glad about that but only have 8 working days left as I take Wednesday's on leave to break up the week and it's mid term next week so plan to take an extra day to do something with DS.

[ballanj]

@Gronk27 your OH sounds very considerate haha! But mine is quite the same, it all feels quite different at the moment and both have so much to do and think about that to find ourselves in the mood at this late stage, if it happens then great but if not, then that's fine too.

[Gronk27]

Oh and during our last attempt I got the worst calf cramp I’ve ever had and had tears running down my face-sexy!

[Gronk27]

@ballanj this is my thinking as well.

Sex wise we’ve probably had sex about 5-6 times during the pregnancy. Most recently last week after a bit of a dry spell. I’m the one with the higher sex drive and if anything OH had been a bit too considerate! He’s been very stressed recently as well. That being said full sex is much more sensitive and we both feel a bit differently about certain things, like boobs! He actually bought me present right at the beginning of the pregnancy so I could help myself out . . . which I thought was very thoughtful!

[ballanj]

@Gronk27 I wanted to get a sleepyhead but was still looking to pay enough even for a second hand one. I've gone for a Purflo pillow which is quite similar but about half the price of a Sleepyhead. I bought second hand from FB marketplace as the woman had only owned for 6 months and was a bargain at £20. Im going to use it more for just having a place to pop baby down when downstairs, on the sofa, table etc.

[ballanj]

@BadBadBeans I was going to raise the sex question and you beat me to it! We broke a three week hiatus on Sunday, before that we would be lucky to manage sex once a week but that was from the point of where I began to get significantly bigger and more uncomfortable. We had a very active sex life otherwise. OH is very supportive and we're just going with the flow at the moment. It won't be forever and to be honest, I feel so uncomfortable that it's really not top of my to-do list at the moment!

[Sictransitgloria]

Checking in. Can’t believe how close it is getting now and I’m one of the later EDDs. Had a panic yesterday when I realised baby could come in potentially 4 weeks 😱 my house is so not ready and although we have most things, I need to sort out clothes etc. Had a baby shower at the weekend which was lovely. Now have millions of 0-3 months clothes but not many newborn/first sizes? I know all the shops sell different sizing - how much newborn clothing do you think is needed? It’s hard to know when you have no idea how big your baby will be!

I have 13 working days left. My job the last few weeks has been horrendously stressful to the point I considered getting signed off as I was concerned about the impact it was having on my baby. I can see the light now though! The countdown is on and I am so glad I decided to go at 36 weeks and not 38 weeks as I originally planned to.

[melissa112]

@BadBadBeans we managed it the other night but before that it was about 3 weeks then prior to that about every 2 weeks which is unusual for us but it just became difficult as I'm either breathless from bump weight, legs too painful or just can't be bothered! And to be honest it's so much effort right now that I don't think he can be bothered either 🤣

[HidCat]

@BadBadBeans I've found full sex unbelievably uncomfortable all the way through pregnancy so hubby has been fab and not pushed me. We have done other things but only on a few occasions.

[Angelmiracle]

@Gronk27 my sister's baby (15 weeks) loves the sleepyhead and she's trying to wean him off it but it's not going so well she can't get him to sleep as long without it! Hers was 2nd hand too.

[Angelmiracle]

@BadBadBeans we managed it twice last week even though pelvic pain makes it rather difficult. I was in the notion really so thought I may as well DH thought it was his birthday 😂 Probably was 3 weeks prior to that just one time. Usually do other 'stuff' weekly than the full thing haha. Bit like you're thinking try to fit in a few sessions now as could be quite a dry spell after the birth

[WhatALearningCurve]

@BadBadBeans I've had no sex drive since about 14 weeks. We've had sex once since then. My partners been very good about it, it was hard at first for him but I think that was because we'd only been together 9 months when I found out I was pregnant so it was difficult for him to figure out it was my hormones not how I felt about him that had changed

[BadBadBeans]

@CaseofEllen I did perineal massage by myself before. I used coconut oil that I had melted a bit (not hot though - be careful!!!!!). Bit awkward reaching around the bump but I did manage it.

I have started crocheting a baby blanket now. Doing a really simple giant granny square (but in a gorgeous yarn) so that I will finish it in time. A tiny little hat is also on my to-do list! I did a blanket and a hat for DS and I don't want second-born to dip out!

If I can get a bit personal, can I ask how people's sex lives are at the moment? We haven't done anything in nearly six weeks. I am feeling a bit guilty but my libido is very low and DH is very politely not propositioning. It took me literally months to feel okay with sex again after DS - we only did it three times in six months before things got back on track - so I feel like I ought to be having sex now while I can. But I'm not! Argh!

[HidCat]

I cant imagine my husband having the maturity to do perineal massage without making stupid noises at making it awkward 😂

[Gronk27]

Lol reach not teach!!

[Gronk27]

@caseofollen I was a bit hesitant but essentially it’s (and sorry to be graphic) only where they’ve been before in. Planning on using olive oil. I couldn’t teach myself now! Xx

@wineandchoccy thanks for that. I’m tempted by a second hand one.

[Wineandchoccy]

We had a sleepyhead for dd @Gronk27 bought in desperation at 3am one morning it was amazing but I know some people don’t like using them for over night sleeping.