The March-ers 2019 - #8 3rd Trimester

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Thread 8!

Things are ramping up now mamas.

Get your hospital bags at the ready
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Thread 7 link:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3414226-The-March-ers-2019-7?pg=1&order=

@CaseofEllen congratulations and welcome to the group!

@melissa112 take every victory for what it is - a victory! No matter how small.

Hopefully your little man is starting his witching hour for you now but if in doubt you could still call.

Seems like he's started to pick up his movements now. Almost like clockwork! Will keep an eye out for the next hour but feeling hopeful

@melissa112 please ring if your concerned it’s changed/reduced.
From a professional perspective, I’d rather see you a hundred times over and everything be fine, than you not come in and it happen to the be the one time something was amiss.

@melissa112 somehow missed your most recent message, glad movements have improved but please never worry about calling and being seen

Hi all, apologies for being quiet lately - work has been crazy and I’ve been nesting like mad this weekend! Feeling more organised now which I think will means I feel more relaxed. I’m only 32+4 so still lots of time left but wanted to get my hospital bag ready just in case.

How many sets of clothes are you taking to the hospital for the baby? I’ve packed 3 sets of newborn and plan to pack 3 of 0-3 as well, is this enough do you think? If we need more DH can come home as we are only ten mins walk from hospital, but I’d rather take them.

And cheers for all the nightie recommendations too! Will pop to primark tomorrow and see what they have.

@babycatcher411 Thanks, got 10 moves in 5mins at 7pm when I posted. Then all went quiet and have barely felt anything since, if anything. Definitely nothing for the past hour. I don't know what's normal anymore. Whether I'm supposed to feel them a lot, or just a lot at certain times followed by lots of quiet? Mostly I feel him throughout the day and definitely 7pm onwards. Thought after the mad movements at 7 things were back to normal and now I'm doubting things and don't know what to do..

@melissa112 I think if you have any doubts at all, give them a call and (I assume) go in for monitoring. As babycatcher said, they'd rather you did.
If you feel like you're being overly cautious - you're absolutely, absolutely allowed to be. We're growing humans without much way of reassuring ourselves that we're doing it well so any check that you need is better safe than sorry.

I'm sure all will be fine but just be sure xx

@Jenfur I think I'll give them a call. There's been a few small squirms since I posted. To be honest I'm not sure what counts as reduced? I guess it's in the wording, but if you then have a few movements, does that negate the reduced movements? I'll see what they say anyway

@melissa112 what a great victory! My movements are very random. If I haven’t felt her for a while I give my tummy some rubs, drink something cold and concentrate on my tummy a bit more. She also seems to like it when I relax. Hope you feel reassured and like you can approach the midwives if you need to.

When I was pregnant with DS the midwife unit told me to drink some ice cold water and eat something sweet, give it half an hour and if things hadn't picked up to call back.
I usually find it works for her too if she is being quiet, but I would never hesitate to call if I was concerned.

@BadBadBeans thanks for the tip on keeping spare nappies and maternity pads in the car, wouldn't have even thought of that! I had only packed 10 nappies in hulk's half of our suitcase so I think I'll definitely keep a whole pack in the car now 👍🏼

Has anyone had what I can only describe as fanny daggers?! I've just had a really sharp pressure in my vagina that's made me gasp and assuming he's nestling his head down or wriggling across my cervix. Made me bloody draw breath though!

@ballanj definitely has those feelings too - started this weekend and some take my breath away! Fanny daggers is such a strange term.

@melissa112 did you call in the end? Always best to even for reassurance if you’re not sure. They do say any episode of reduced movement should be checked out at this stage, but as you say it could just be a quiet period.

@Assumeitwassomethingclever I hope not!! It's just stayed stingy. I've brought a thermal mug to bed with honey and lemon to take through night.

That's awful that you've took that 😷 try to rest as much as you can! Hope you're better soon.

Welcome to join us @CaseofEllen there's lots of chat now times closing in!!

@ballanj my sister was calling it lightning crotch in Australia 😂

Well my crotch has been in agony all evening I've a hot water bottle to bed to help ease all the pelvic region aches and sciatica. I've actually been taking paracetamol regularly the last couple of days as the pelvic pain is becoming increasingly harder to bear the bigger baby's getting. Will ask GP tomorrow if that's ok.

@ballanj 😂 fanny daggers- amazing, I love that term. It’s the perfect description for what I’ve been feeling this evening. I got out the bath and was trying to put the fresh bedding on the bed and kept having to stop and sort of hold myself, then kneel at one point and then lean over the bed.
Other-half kept saying what the hell are you doing, and I was like MY VAGINA ITS HURTING. HE’S HURTING ME.

@melissa112 from a professional perspective, we always say that a change in the pattern is what you should look out for, the strength may vary, particularly as you get nearer to the end of pregnancy and they’re running out of room, but the pattern should stay the same.
I have to say though, now, as a pregnant person, I’m not sure I’m aware of exactly what my ‘pattern’ is, outside of more movements in the evening. I would say that generally your gut instinct is what you should go with, if something is telling you it’s wrong/different/or concerning you enough to worry, then ring and go get checked out.

I did call in the end. I had a big glass of ice cold water and a sugary snack and still nothing so went in around 10pm. Just got back now. They want to see me twice weekly for monitoring and another scan in 2 weeks despite the other on Friday being ok. On the trace I got some really rapid movement as soon as I went on which fizzled out to next to nothing for the rest of it, was on there a good hour too as no one told me to press the button when this thing turned green. Heart rate seemed ok. I'm glad I went in but still worried that I'm getting so much reduced movement. He's been fine on the ctg each day last week then next to nothing today all day which is very unusual for him.

Going to try and get some sleep now. Meant to be up at 5 for work but my boss has very kindly text to tell me to work from home and log on when I've had some rest. Feel really thankful at how supportive she is being but feel very guilty as this is my final week in work.

Don't feel guilty - ultimately baby may need you before you finish work, the work can be picked up by someone else if needed!

Glad you were seen and they are checking you. Hopefully all is OK but much better tracked and baby fine than not and there is a problem

@ballanj oh yes the fanny daggers we're in full swing last night along with some very big movements and Braxton Hicks. @babycatcher I would love to have seen your OH's face lol. The next 6 weeks is going to be so much fun 😳

@melissa112 I'm glad you got checked out. Your boss sounds lovely, having their support is amazing but like you I feel so much more guilty when I need time off as a result.

@melissa112 glad you got seen. Don’t feel guilty, they have offered because they want to be supportive which is great. They probably expect that your last week is not going to be super productive.

@ballanj Fanny daggers-I am adopting this phrase from now on. Love it. I normally say she’s punching me in the cervix. Then walk like John Wayne around the supermarket or wherever I am.

Finished our hypnobirthing course yesterday. Learnt some really interesting stuff. A lot was covered in our very excellent antenatal class as I think a lot of the midwives at the Women’s are also hypnobirthing trained.

Something that stuck out-

Due date stress-people will start asking and due date are a guide so it’s a due month or period. I liked that. So when the MIL starts asking you can tell her to back off lol!

@melissa112 glad you went in and got help, as others have said I think they'd rather see you multiple times nearer the end (well, at any time) than you not come and it end in still birth. You're at the stage now where if there were any major concerns they'd just get it out and you'd likely both be fine, as @toastfiend has proven.

@gronk27 we've deliberately not told anyone (other than medical people/on official stuff like matb1 forms!) our exact due date as this was advice we got from others who have recently had babies due to the amount of "have you had it yet?" calls... Surely common sense should say that if they have had it AND want you to know, then you'd already know? All I've told work/friends is that it's at some point between finishing work and Brexit which gives me a two week window before people hopefully start asking.

@cardboard33 good plan. I have been saying for a while now to anyone asking well it could be any day or it could be end of March, which it could!

Thanks all. There was just something in the back of my mind where I'd read that those who had had a stillborn, a lot had noticed reduced movements and I just kept thinking of that.

I don't know if it's just the stress of the worry, the late night or what but I saw one of the neighbours cats in my garden this morning and had complete anxiety meltdown. DDog is at my mum's this week.until I finish for maternity on Friday but worried that the cat may have done it's business and the dog may bring it back in when she comes back. I've only ever seen it going across the back of out fence before and it Definitely knows the dog is there as she runs to the back door and stares at it.

OH had to leave for work but is going to check the garden tomorrow morning as it'll be too dark when he gets in tonight.. we don't have any soil (maybe a few neglected plant pots) and the garden is just grass with a patio area so hoping the cat wouldn't want to do it in there. If it had and my OH had to pick it up am I at any risk? I've been doing so well anxiety wise over the last few weeks but this has just left me feeling almost breathless with worry. I keep going into the kitchen checking it's not in there but I just feel so paranoid that either OH will have to clean it up, or he won't see it and DDog will bring it in..am I being completely irrational?

Hi all, thanks for welcoming me! I'm trying to keep up with the thread but have missed so much.. think I will just start from here so I apologise if I have missed anything important.

Hope you are all doing okay today! Not long to go now, although it feels like a long time still.

I've been having period type pains for the last 3/4 days and just generally feeling meh almost as if I have a cold coming on or something yet no symptoms of a cold! Pains aren't getting more regular so I'm assuming it's not a worry.

How are you all feeling about the birth? Anyone feeling totally unprepared still? X