June 2019 Thread 4 - sliding towards 2nd trimester

[SassehMonsta]

Morning June bfp-ers, here is thread 4!

Good hews I think I can feel the baby move! Bad news I think my eldest son has chicken pox!

@socktastic I think your cousin is going a bit OTT here. It was an honest mistake too. Hopefully she calms down a bit and realises she's been a bit foolish about it.

Congrats annihall

I knew about getting a new mattress for SIDS reasons but didn't know about bedding? Is that definitely a thing? I was going to reuse the sheets and blankets from DS1. Will cost a fortune to replace, we had so many in the newborn phase from all the spit up!

Re reusing mattresses: there is apparently little risk if you reuse them between siblings. The risk - and it's only a tiny one, other risk factors have far more weighting - is when a mattress is used by an unrelated child. I have reused both the noses basket and cot mattresses with mine and will do so again. The only thing I need is a car seat as mine has expired (but even then I'm wondering if i really need a new one...it's mainly been kept inside and not at the mercy of extremes in temperatures etc).

Mauis that’s interesting about siblings. I think we’ll get a new mattress given ours has been in a dusty loft for 7 years. We’ll need a car seat too as we borrowed from a friend last time who then needed it back so we don’t have one.

I’ve never heard about the new bedding and googled it and couldn’t find anything so I’m going to check with mw but expect to use the same. nothing here about new sheets needed but it does say ideally a new mattress including between siblings.

Re: money - yep so shit my DH's job is being regraded so will be losing £300/month - fine now but not fine when I'm on maternity pay. Oh well.

Thanks btw to those posts about stuff to buy- really helpful!

@socktastic - your cousin is a dick and is making a massive deal out of nothing. They just need to get over themselves.

@annihall well when I sent my 12 week scan to the nub techs they said they were 98% sure it was a boy so I think that's been playing in my mind...

Would love either to be honest, there are so many girls in my family (sisters, 10 cousins) that a boy would be a nice change, but then again I know how to deal with girls!

We won't find our gender until 20 week nhs scan, so won't know for Christmas. I think it's for the best as otherwise family will be buying clothes a d gifts for the baby - it's not here yet guys, c'mon! Though, I did ask my sister for a tiny dinosaur outfit she saw on the wish app ages ago!

I won't be buying a new mattress. I think we did for DD as the mattress has been in the attic since my.brother (has 19 this year). But DD is only 4 and Ichave no issue reusing it. Same applies to bedding- using bedding from my childhood and leftovers from DD. Second the Moses basket sheetd/pillowcase idea too!

Sock, your cousin in a knob. Ignore ignore ignore! Why is she mad - surely she should be pleased for you no matter how she found out!

I texted her in the end but I wasn't apologising. Just said I believed the news had leaked out as I had assumed the Facebook page was private. I'd intended on telling everyone at Christmas when we were altogether and that ds was looking forward to being a big brother.

Her reply; ok, no probs, cu next week.

Honestly fuck her. Still no congratulations or anything. Only thinking about herself. Selfish cow. Don't want to go to christmas now!

@socktastic don't let her ruin your Christmas! Some people are just so self-centred they don't even realise how incredibly stupid their behaviour is. Of course that doesn't excuse her reaction, but probably best for you to move on and ignore it - people like her won't change but you can choose to be better and not listen to what they say x

I’ve woken up with urine retention happened both pregnancy before because of the position of my uterus. It’s 14 week scan day today so I’m hoping they’ll be able to tell me if it’s baby or uti. But either way it’s bloody horrible. I’ve been sat on the bog for 20mins forcing out little bits of wee.
Not sure if I should make gp appointment yet or wait til after scan?

Curly how nasty. I think I’d make a gp apt as they’re tricky to get so at least you’d have one. If the scan said conclusively it was baby then you could cancel gp apt. What did you do last time for it?

Socktastic how very annoying. Hope you are feeling ok about it this morning. Just let it wash over you, it’s her issue not yours.

Had a rubbish evening/night with the nausea, worst in a couple of weeks and so terrible sleeping so feeling miserable and tired, please let me soon feel better...

Last time ended up being catheterised til the baby moved off it! But first time they thought it was uti so have me loads of antibs without actually checking baby position. I’d rather do handstands than be catheterised again!

How rubbish @curlypasta not really sure what to advice but would agree with Reastie to maybe get a GP appt or drop a sample in anyway. If it is a UTI not sure if the hospital would be able to give you anything or if it would have to go through the GP anyway. My GP lets you drop a sample off and they test when they have chance and call to let you know, leaving a prescription if you need one so no actual appt. Not sure if its different when pregnant though.

Urgh socktastic you can't win with some people! Nice of you to text and you have explained so just try and ignore the grinch!

So exciting to be finding out sexes already! We will find out at the end of January at our 20 week scan.

For those talking about cloth nappies, I have used them with my son since he was about 3 weeks old, big fan. Highly recommend the Nappy Lady website for info, she also has a quenstionnaire where she recommends particular brands for you based on your answers. I found that birth to potty nappies were too big for my (enormous 9lb8 at birth) baby for a couple of months though, so we got some first size ones too which we then sold on (which I now regret).

Nappy libraries are also a great source of information. It's handy to see them in the flesh before you buy.

We elected not to find out the sex via the Harmony. The info is available now, if we want it, but we are both keen for another surprise.

Did anyone previously find out the sex and wish they’d waited or waited and wish they’d found out? I really can’t decide. I feel like we found out last time so this time we should know what it’s like not to know and get a surprise but I’m the most impatient person I know and I don’t think I’ll be able to wait and I’m not sure the surprise will be worth the months of frustration in wanting to know. I think dh could be persuaded either way.

@Reastie I'm a bit like you! Found out twice previously and so was adamant about a surprise but now have scan booked for Saturday! DS and DD are already arguing over what it will be and I want them both to have chance to get used to it, plus there are a host of practical reasons to know ie decorating nursery or not from DD.

I'm also massively impatient!

@socktastic you're stronger than me! I would def have sent something back like 'well I appreciate the congratulations' or been similarly sarcastic.

Saying that I'm having a shit day. No sleep last night thanks to DD and just a crappy day all round. My patience is wearing thin!

I'm having my third after one boy and one girl where we found out!
This time I'm not gunna find out.. I'm so impatient but gotta stay strong 💪🏻

I applaud your patience @Bigonesmallone3

I have the same and I really thought about not finding out but DH and I want to “get to know the baby” again before it’s here (I know that sounds daft) plus I’m utterly convinced it’s a girl so need to be proved right

I want to know because we both have a preference and I don't want to have any mixed feelings later. I'd rather have time to get used to the idea. Plus, names! We will probably struggle to pick one out.

Counting down the days till we do our gender scan on Christmas Eve!

I would love a girl for my youngest DD who will be 2.4 when baby comes, but DP and DS would love a boy so to save anyone being disappointed no ones gunna know 😂

@Reastie we didn't find out last time at my insistence, DP really wanted to know (was SO sure I was carrying a boy...until DD was born ☺️)
This time I said we could find our via harmony test so we already know, but I kind of wish I didn't. I don't want anyone to know that we know so it would just be better if that was true!! (If that makes sense!) It does feel weird not telling DD (she's 2.5) what she's having - brother or sister - but if we tell her the world will know....

I wish my partner wanted to find out! There’s no chance I could find out and not let it slip so we’re going to wait. I’m sure it will be a nice surprise on the day but I want to know who’s in my tummy! I have no preference on gender at all. Nubtechs said 85% chance girl and I’m interested to find out if they are right or not!

I have to know, I have absolutely no willpower and I also don't have any desire for it to be a surprise on the day - it's already going to be a magical enough time ☺️

I also have a mild preference and it'll be good to know once and for all, and it will help settle our arguments re: names!

We plan to find out at our 20 week scan at end of January at least Christmas and a holiday in between to keep my impatient self busy