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Due May 2005?

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cab · 28/08/2004 19:56

OK I know it's VERY early days folks but someone's got to start this thread sometime. Due date between May 4 and May 9. Any other takers?

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myermay · 18/10/2004 19:47

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fisil · 18/10/2004 20:10

Hi cab, good news about the scan and welcome back.

Stop it myermay et al with your talk of exercise. The sprint that follows the cry of "poo potty" is all the exercise I'm getting right now. I am on my feet at work all day, I guess. Does that count?

logic · 19/10/2004 09:54

hi cab - how difficult was it for you to get an emergency scan? I am still petrified that i could have lost the baby because i keep getting cramps. I did tell the midwife this and she just said to rest. They won't even agree to listen for a heartbeat for me! Basically, I'm sitting at my pc in tears over this - dh and i are even seriously considering buying a doppler ultrasound heartbeat detector at huge cost...

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cab · 19/10/2004 11:16

Logic phoned the local midwife unit and they said they were short staffed yesterday so would only have been able to scan me today. I asked would it be ok to try the epu in our neaerest city and they said fine. EPU very helpful. Phone up again - explain how VERY worried you are and demand a scan.

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cab · 19/10/2004 11:17

p.s. Hi Fisil!!

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raggybaggy · 19/10/2004 11:31

Oh Logic, you poor thing, you must try to relax and not stress too much. I get a lot of cramps as well and I've read that it's not unusual to carry on getting cramps that feel a bit like period pains during the first 3 months. I had a miscarriage at 3 months a few years ago and the symptoms go a long way beyond cramps. It was absolutely excruciatingly painful almost from the first & I lost an awful lot of blood etc over about 12 hours. I was in so much pain I couldn't walk and called an ambulance. I'm sorry this is gorry, I just want to reassure you that comparing your symptoms to mine it seems unlikely that you've miscarried. I think it's what we're all dreading most and personnally I feel so panicky the whole time that it's easy for me to blow things out of proportion and imagine the worst. If your cramps get very painful, I'd call your gp out to see you or even go to casualty so they can take proper care of you. Big hugs & I really hope you're feeling better soon.

logic · 19/10/2004 11:34

thanks cab - only problem is, the doctors at the local epu are really, really horrible. When I had my m/c, the first doctor asked me if i'd had an abortion despite my notes saying that the pregnancy was very planned! She also refused me the scan that the GP had asked for. The second doctor literally laughed at me and said 'well, you weren't very pregnant anyway were you?'. That's the kind of service that is provided. Even if you are bleeding they won't scan.

Dh found a doppler unit on ebay this morning, brand new and boxed so we are going to buy that. I find it appalling that we have to buy our own medical equipment but it's a long 2 weeks until my routine scan - at a different NHS trust i should add...

Uwila · 19/10/2004 12:56

Logic, have you reported this behaviour somewhere. Like the PCT (Primary Care Trust) where these doctors work. I think it is inexcusable to speak to a patient that way. And I personally would write every letter I could think of just to 1- get a bit of revenge, but 2- to hopefully curb their behaviour before the next patient has to experience it.

That's just terrible. People just shouldn't be doctors if they can't be compassionate.

Uwila · 19/10/2004 12:59

Oh, by the way everyone, I've been lurking for a a while now. I'm due at the very end of May, so I couldn't decide whether to join May or June. I've told the GP that I'm pregnant. She said she'd write a letter to the midwife referring me. I haven't heard from the midwife yet, so no news on that front. I only saw the GP last Thursday so I figur eI should hear from the midwife this week.

I did however book a nuchal scan at the Fetal Medicine Centre in London for 19 November.

Uwila · 19/10/2004 13:01

Logic, can I ask what hospitla/trust treated you that way?

They are bad people. I think I have sympathy anger for you...

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cab · 19/10/2004 13:02

Logic I cannot believe you were treated like that .
What about trying another hospital today?

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cab · 19/10/2004 13:05

Congratulations Uwila - I'm off to the FMC too - flying down tonight!

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Uwila · 19/10/2004 13:07

Flying? Where are you?

Have you been there before? I had the nuchal there for DD as well, and I think they are fabulous. The quality of the nuchal scan and the level of attention and professional treatment I got there was far superior to my NHS anomoly scan in Winchester.

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cab · 19/10/2004 13:12

Uwila I'm in Scotland - main reason for using the fmc is they've more experience with nuchals and cvs than up here, so reduced risks with the cvs I'm hoping.

Logic, just a thought - if you're going in for a reassurance scan might it just be the midwives you'll see? I didn't speak to a doc at all yesterday. Please try not to worry too much - the pains I was getting the other night really were excrutiating, but the baby certainly looks hail and hearty - very definite features!

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cab · 19/10/2004 13:13

p.s. uwila - I've not used the fmc before. Just more concerned this time around cos of my age (41).

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Uwila · 19/10/2004 13:20

Yes, they are great. Dr. Nicholades (sp?) who founded and runs the centre pioneered the nuchal scan. They are awsome. At least I thought so.

Are you having the CVS, even if the nuchal goes okay?

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cab · 19/10/2004 13:26

Yes uwila I am - because the nuchal, unlike cvs isn't a diagnostic test.

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Uwila · 19/10/2004 13:30

oh... that's a bit scary then. Is your DP/DH going with you? But, you are most certainly in good hands.

myermay · 19/10/2004 13:54

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cab · 19/10/2004 14:00

No he's looking after the 4 yr old - with help back here. But I'll be fine.

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Uwila · 19/10/2004 14:04

Well, Cab, you are more accommodating than I would be. I'd demand hubby and 4 year old went with me, even if we all had to drive to get there.

Do you fly straight back? Or do you have to lye down and take it easy for a couple of days?

cab · 19/10/2004 14:16

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logic · 19/10/2004 15:54

Welcome Uwila

Thanks for the words of support girls - the m/c was a few years ago now and yes, I should have complained but I really wasn't in a fit state at the time. I've really put it behind me now but as you can imagine, I have no intention of stepping foot in there again!

Actually, I feel better this afternoon - much more positive anyway. You're right raggybaggy, these aren't imminent m/c symptoms, I need to relax more. Luckily my kind neighbour looked after ds for an hour this morning for me to have a break. My doppler should arrive tomorrow too so I'm really looking forward to that. If you want a job done, do it yourself I say

Good luck with the cvs Cab, thinking about you...

myermay · 19/10/2004 16:26

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Uwila · 19/10/2004 17:01

I'm not sure. NOW I@M NO EXPERT. But, I think I have heard that it's time to worry when it goes bright red and that brownish dischsrge is pretty normall. But being in the emotional panicky kind of state that we pregnant women tend to be in, I think I'd try to relax, but if the bllod went bright red, I'd go to the nearest A & E. I wouldn't mess around with midwives at that point.... But I wouldn't freak out just yet.

Can someone else add some better advice? I'm not sure if I'm right about this. But I didn't want to leave youwithout any replies.