I keep reading messages on here but before I know it, days have passed without me getting round the replying.
@BadBadBeans Thanks for the advice about physio. I actually had my letter through with my appointment from NHS - 10th Jan, which is fine and not too far away but it says it’s for 2 hours and is a “women’s back class”. Does that imply to everyone else that it’s a group session? If so, I’m more wary whether it will help, especially since the midwife said that higher up back pain was unusual in pregnancy so I’m expecting to turn up with a bunch of pregnant women suffering from lower back pain and be the only one that it can’t help.
Thanks also for the advice about counselling. DH actually sees a counsellor himself regularly (he used to go and has started again this year due to his depression) but I don’t feel it would help for me. I’m not good at talking to strangers, especially about problems, so I’m not sure it’s something I’m comfortable with. I appreciate that talking to each other is the way forward, I just wish that we could do it without another person having to help us.
@melissa112 I’m glad that you’ve taken the first step to getting some help, I’m hopeful that you’re listened to and can feel better soon. I agree with others that anxiety can get worse when baby is here, even though there’s DH to shoulder some responsibility. I don’t remember being anxious during pregnancy but I remember spending a lot of time staring at sleeping baby and trying to check that he was breathing. Thanks also for the recommendation for FamCal, I think having a manageable list will help me to feel better and hopefully get DH to help out without too much trouble.
@NotDoingThat I’m sorry that you’re having a tough time, totally understand feeling a bit better that others feel the same. I felt like that after DS, that I wasn’t coping with being a mum but other people I knew just seem to breeze through everything. It’s horrible feeling like you’re not doing well or not doing as you should but you’ll probably find out that those people have also struggled during their pregnancy, just in different ways. Unfortunately, you seem to have loads of different symptoms at the same time so it feels so much worse. Take the time off, rest and relax and remember that you and baby are most important. The 90% is based on your usual salary, I don’t think sick pay can be used in any way, even as an average but I can’t remember exactly how it’s calculated.
Welcome @Jenda and @cpearce88
@Sictransitgloria I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling. I don’t really have any helpful advice but agree that it could be depression and hopefully your midwife can advise on help.
I’m currently staying with my family all the way until New Year now - feeling much more relaxed as I’m away from home and having others help out with DS a bit so I can sit down and take it easy. I hope everyone else has a lovely Christmas!