The March-ers 2019 - #7

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Hey guys, sorry I have dropped off a bit. Will have to go back and catch up on how everyone is! Good here, lots of kicking yesterday with some seriously weird lumpiness sticking out of one side of my tummy at one point - I forgot how strange it is to have a little person growing inside you!

I've had a bit of a funny week as I have just found out that my mum (who died many years ago) had one of the BRCA gene faults. I obviously now want to get tested myself but apparently the consultant may not be keen to do it when I am pregnant, as if I do have it I then won't be able to do anything about it for a while. Personally I would rather just know anyway though. Been doing a bit of reading up on the BRCA stuff and it's quite a big deal, it turns out! I am not freaking out though, mostly because I have long suspected that the cancer might be hereditary so to be able to actually have some concrete answers and then be able to plan a course of action if

necessary is a hugely positive thing.

Anyway! Will go and catch up on posts now.

@BadBadBeans that’s a lot to take in and I get you wanting answers now.
I had an odd shaped bump earlier today was trying something on in a changing room and I looked all lopsided

I was so tired earlier and now I’m in bed I feel wide awake, baby is currently practicing it’s breakdancing moves 😂

Hey, I’m new to mumsnet so don’t really know what I’m doing. I’m due a little girl on the 3rd of March. I’m a first time mum and only being 20 is daunting as hell. I was wondering if anyone else is experiencing excruciating pains in their stomach. It’s constantly solid, hurts to eat and is tender to touch. Anyone else experiencing this? I’m 26 weeks if that helps x

@Jessclarkky welcome to the group we are all a lovely bunch so you will be ok here. I haven’t experienced that, have you had a midwife appointment recently or due one? If not it may be worth contacting someone for advice.

Welcome @Jessclarkky. I think it's normal to be a bit daunted when you're a first time mum no matter how old you are. I'm sure once the baby's here you'll slot into it just perfectly.
I also think (hope) it's normal for you belly to be hard. Mine is rock solid!
I had stomach pains at about 16 weeks but it wasn't excruciating. I would definitely drop your midwife a line just to get some advice as it's better safe than sorry. This is going to sound weird but have you moved into maternity jeans yet? I hadn't at the time of my stomach pains. As soon as I moved into maternity jeans I found that the pressure on my belly must have been causing the discomfort (even though they weren't that tight!) and I could eat normally again.
It could also be round ligament pain but I definitely get in contact with your midwife if you're describing it as excruciating.

@Wineandchoccy I have spoken to her about it but she says it’s just bruising where my stomachs getting bigger and she’s kicking so much, but no amount of paracetamol helps 😩

@jessclarkky I get quite a lot of pain but not to the point where painkillers don't help, does sound worth a further follow up.

I would say it is a steep learning curve the first time and completely daunting (even now 3 years on I am still winging it!) You do find your feet though and find what works best for you.

@Gronk27 sorry to hear you're struggling through the night. Do you have a pregnancy pillow at all? May help with sleeping on your side and a bit of support for your legs?

@BadBadBeans that's quite a shock. I think I would want to know too, even if you can't do anything about it now, you have time to look into it more and plan what you want to do about it should you need to.

@Jessclarkky hi, my bump is very hard too but not experiencing the level of pain you are. I would follow up with the midwife again or the community midwife number to get a different opinion.

Does anyone know when I should be worrying about reduced movements? I'm 24+2 and on Thursday evening remember saying to OH that I hadn't felt baby much at all that day. I'd had a stressful day at work but didn't feel him following my post work choccy snack when he's normally kicking away.

Middle of the night on Thursday evening/Friday morning i woke up and remember thinking to myself that I will try and concentrate on movements tomorrow but then had another hectic day at work and yesterday evening following a few quality streets I still felt nothing. Later on I felt a couple of kicks but for a few weeks I've been feeling him so much throughout the day and especially in the evening. OH can normally feel him loads too and belly constantly moving. Today I've felt him a couple of times when my stomach has gurgled . Nothing in the night when I've woken up for a wee and normally feel him.

So it's not like I haven't felt him at all but definitely nowhere near what it's been like. Only a couple of times a day and much smaller, lighter movements.

I don't want to panic into the triage yet. I'm having a relaxed day today so was thinking to keep an eye on it throughout today but is there anything I can do to try and see if he's moving ok?

When would you suggest ringing the triage? I don't want to waste anybody's time, and think they might not see me anyway as I've had movements this morning, even if only a couple.

Sorry for the essay. He's normally such an active little one that I'm just worrying a little.

Had 3 kicks in my side just now. He obviously knows I've posted and is making himself known. Still concerned but at what point do I know he's ok?

@melissa112 there is no magic answer with movements I'm afraid. My pattern is similar to yours and am 24+1 today. I was at midwives yesterday for my OGTT and I asked her to do a quick listen in just to put my mind at rest. She was happy to do it and little one's heartbeat was a good solid one.
I have gotten one of the kicks count wristbands and I find it very helpful. I just slide it along every time I feel a set of movements.
Kicks count have good advice in terms of stage that you are at and how regular movements are.
But fundamentally if you don't feel right and you are going to be anxious then I would always say to ring triage and see what they say. Be firm and mention how anxious you are, sometimes it is more important as the mom that someone listens to your concerns then anything else.
And believe me, the midwives always want to see you if you are concerned about movements.

I wish it was as simple as 10 movements in a set amount of time, but unfortunately each baby is different.
I don't like relying on sweet stuff, but I find lying on my side with no music and no distractions after drinking some ice cold water really helps me get a handle on movements.
But I will say again, if concerned best to get checked.

@melissa112 I was worried about this the other day but I did some research and apparently we're not expected to be able to feel regular movements until 28 weeks, so "reduced movements" doesn't mean much until then

Thanks both for your replies. I thought after 24 weeks we were to ring up for reduced movements. Well that was just from the Tommys website so maybe I need to look elsewhere. I did hear about not expecting a pattern before 28. He doesn't really have a pattern other than be to really active most of the day so just making me a little anxious.

I'm going to try the ice cold water and lying on my side for a while and see what happens. If still only 1 or 2 movements by mid afternoon I'll give triage a ring. As you say, it's helpful even if I don't need to go in for them to listen to my concerns and hopefully provide some reassurance.

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@BadBadBeans I'm so sorry to hear that. If the test itself is non invasive then I'd be the same and want it ASAP. If nothing else you have plenty of time to deal with anything they may find and make a well informed decision.

@Jessclarkky welcome to the group. I get occasional stabbing pains and heartburn and my bump gets really firm at times. Does that sound similar? It's always worth contacting your midwife with concerns though even if you're repeating yourself.

@melissa112 it is possible to have quieter days at 24 weeks but call them if lo hasn't perked up soon.

@melissa112 yes I have a dream Genie but might look at getting a big v shaped one instead.

@melissa112 @HidCat thanks. It's a simple blood test so I will be getting it done if I can convince the consultant I can handle bad news right now. Totally agree that finding out now gives me more time to research / plan. My mum's cancer diagnosis was at 41, and I am nearly 34 so I do feel like I would need to make decisions quite quickly - knowing as soon as possible will give me as much time as possible to work out the best path for me. I have spent the last few days reading up on people who have had preventative surgery relatively young, and mostly it sounds very positive. Obviously hoping I haven't inherited the gene, but I am a planner and cannot help jumping ahead in my mind!

Melissa, how are those movements now? Sounds like you were doing exactly the right thing. I am not quite 24 weeks yet but don't really have a pattern as such, although I do feel the baby frequently most days. It is a hard thing to keep track of. Maybe a kicks count bracelet would be helpful for you? I had one episode of reduced movements with DS - hadn't felt him for hours and hours, I think most of a day and night - and ended up rushing to hospital at 6am - this was v late in my pregnancy. He then kicked merrily away on the trace. Typical. But nobody minded!

@BadBadBeans I do hope they give the option of testing now. When will you be able to find out?

I ended up ringing triage and they did say that at 24 weeks he may have just turned his back against my belly and as long as I was feeling something I should be ok but to monitor for another few days.

As soon as I put the phone down I got about 10kicks within a couple of minutes. Then have had a fair few since then. Still not convinced it's quite as it was but he's moving a bit more so hoping in a few days he'll be back to making me jump with some of those harder ones!

@melissa112 I am waiting for a consultant appointment to come through. The counsellor said depending on which consultant I see, they will either take my blood straight away, or they will refer me back to the counsellor to make sure I want to go through with it before making yet another appointment to take my blood. I hope they just take it straight away! Then it's 4 weeks for the results. So I won't know till January at the earliest.

Oh I'm so glad you're getting more movement again! Yes just keep an eye on it. I had a quiet patch with mine a couple of weeks ago and it is disquieting I know. So tricky at this stage. Xx

@melissa112 I'm glad you rang the triage. It's always good to just chat to them if you need to. Also great that movements have picked up again as well.

@melissa112 glad you have some reassurance regarding baby's movements. I'm only 22 weeks but a very active baby. I felt huge movement on Thurs night convinced baby had turned because Friday and Saturday definitely not the same frequency of movements. However today we are back to almost all day wiggles.

Oh @Badbadbeans that's a lot on your plate but you sound pragmatic about it all. Hopefully they will at least do the blood test.

I have my rescan tomorrow looking forward to it.

Hi all! Hope you're having a nice Sunday. I've posted on the Facebook group and on the main pregnancy board but thought I'd ask here too - has anyone experienced any blood in their nipple discharge lately? I've found a tiny bit today and was wondering if it's cause for concern...

@PartridgeJoan I have replied to you on the fb page but just to repeat are you sure it’s blood? Colostrum can be very orange in colour.
But always worth getting checked out if anything concerns you.

thank you for your responses :) I can't be entirely sure... It is quite orangey! I will check with the midwife anyway but I think you could be right. DP is colourblind so wasn't much help