June 2019 - Thread 2

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New thread for those of us due in June 2019 😊

I don't know how to process how I'm feeling and I apologise, there's no real point to this post other than try to put down my feelings in writing. Since going to a&e and finding out it may not be good news, I feel like I've accidentally just accepted that this pg isn't going to happen. I no longer feel pregnant, I am no longer excited, I no longer see this working out well. I know that the doctor didn't definitively say it wasn't viable and so there is realistically still hope - I just don't feel that way. I'm scared that I've prematurely accepted it isn't going to work out and so am now actually very nervous that if it does turn out to be a viable pg, I won't be able to accept it and will spend the next 8 months convincing myself there's a problem. I think this week has turned me slightly insane 😕. I don't know how to feel about what I feel - if that makes any sense?

Me too curlypasta, I’ll be 10+3 at booking in and my scan is less than 2 weeks later. Must’ve been a particularly romantic time through August/September up here? 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

@JBCG, it’s no wonder you feel this way. Sometimes we ‘switch off’ to try and protect ourselves from bad news and it’s completely understandable.

I’m so sorry you’re in limbo at the moment. I also feel like I’m waiting for something bad to happen and won’t find out till Friday if this pregnancy is viable, so I completely sympathise ❤️

Try to take each day as it comes - easier said than done, I know - I find busy tasks are helpful 🤷🏻‍♀️

Much love x x

@JBCG that sounds so difficult, I'm sorry that you're going through this. Maybe you could take it one day at a time? See how you feel each day instead of trying to predict how you might feel months from now. You're not insane, you're having a normal response to a distressing time. We're here for you however you want to process your feelings.

@Skee @curlypasta is it bad to have a booking appointment slightly later? Mine is today and I think I'm 9+4 but they'll put me at 9. When I called for my appointment she didn't ask how far along I was, just gave me an appointment.

It’s not bad as such, but it feels like an awful long time to wait to speak to a MW, particularly if it’s your first?

I feel pretty relaxed about when it is, because I only had DS1 last year, so I’m following fairly recent advice on vitamins etc. I think I had my booking in at about 7wks last time. But if you’ve never been through pregnancy, you might not know what to avoid/vits to take etc?

Perhaps mine is later because I’ve had a baby right enough? No biggy, more of an observation on my part 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Skee this is my first pregnancy and I've been disappointed in the medical care so far. I'm worried that my hypothyroidism is affecting the development of the baby and by the time they change my dose, it could be too late. But I've tried calling to ask about this and other meds and they've made me feel a bit stupid, so I just stopped calling. I have no idea if my other meds are damaging the baby.

In fact it took several calls to me to even find out about a booking appointment, no one gave me any instructions on what to do. The first HCP I talked to told me I could book an appointment with a GP if I wanted but made it sound like it was unnecessary so I felt really frustrated. But apparently he put in my notes that he told me to book in with the midwife, which is untrue and would have been very helpful if he had!

I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had a bad experience @Kescilly. And I’m angry that your concerns were discounted as being unnecessary

Personally, I think I’d book an appointment to see the GP to talk through your concerns. There’s absolutely no harm, and I think it’s important if it will help ease anxiety.

Hugs, my doctors surgery seem to be far more sympathetic, it’s a shame services differ so much x x

I've been waiting a week since my booking in appointment (currently 9+6) to get my scan date through, only to have been told today that my referral paperwork must have got lost so they'll have to try and resend it... not looking likely that I'll get it booked in for any time soon! 😖

@JBCG Im sorry you have to go through this. How you’re feeling is completely understandable and possibly quite self protective. Take care of yourself xx

To others - talking of appointments etc. I hope it’s not a silly question, but listening to you speak I realize I’ve no idea what I should be doing. When I found out we’re pregnant, I registered myself with a gp (in London 2yrs and work in the nhs but hadn’t bothered before now!). Their receptionists told me to self refer to the royal london - which I did a week ago. I’m hoping for a midwife led care but no idea if I’ll be classified as high risk (endrocronology issues, and previous laser on cervix). I’ve heard nothing! If I was in Ireland I’d have had to do bloods by now but nobody has mentioned anything. I don’t have a date for a booking appointment or a scan. Should I chase? Anyone else in East London know what the next steps should be? (Sorry, I’ve never gotten to this stage before and feel clueless!)

I have a booking in appointment for when I'm 9+1, other than that nothing..
Iv booked in a private scan for 8+4 because I'd like some sort of reassurance from someone!!

Thanks @Skee. I’m seeing the midwife today for my booking appointment so I thought I’d see how that goes. My pre-pregnancy experiences with this surgery have been good which is partially why I’ve felt disappointed now.

@Torsz how frustrating! Good thing you chased them up on it.

@Hopefulirishmammy you’re not alone! I’m unfamiliar with the NHS and have never been pregnant before so I had no idea what to do. It’s part of the reason I was upset when I kept calling and asking and no one told me about booking an appointment with the midwife. I have no clue what I’m doing and the ladies here have been a better resource than the NHS for me so far.

Last time my gp wouldn’t even refer me to the mws until I was 8 weeks and this time she’s done it at 6 weeks it I guess it’s all very variable!

Meant to say JBCG let us know how you go this morning, thinking of you.x

Kescilly I feel your pain. I am still waiting for a specialist midwife to get in touch about my booking in appointment as I have medical problems. I'm 9 weeks and still haven't heard anything. I have no numbers to phone except epu, which doesn't seem appropriate. The only other phone number is the automated pregnancy booking line, which I have already done. I was told nearly a month ago that this midwife would be in touch in two weeks. I don't know what to do!

@Torsz how annoying! They booked me in for my scan (without telling me) before my booking appointment, but they thought I could have been 6 weeks ahead of where I am so they must have done it quite urgently. Keep chasing them! Also did you try ringing them to book it directly or ring your midwife to get them to book it for you?

@Helpfulirishmammy yes definitely chase, what’s the harm? I was booked for an appointment and never received my letter so definitely worth checking

@JBCG Fingers crossed for you. It’s hard to resolve the uncertainty in your mind until you know for certain. Try to take it easy.

I found my booking appointment was basically admin. Although I suppose if I were to have had any medical conditions etc there would have been more to talk about so it’s definitely necessary. In terms of things like what I can and can’t eat I have just been looking on the nhs website, we didn’t discuss at the meeting at all!

It’s a shame it’s taking so long for some of the appointments and scans. My advice would be to try to ring your hospital directly about scans. Don’t be afraid to chase! Try googling “hospital name ultrasound department”. If you have had your booking appointment the numbers for local hospitals should be on the front of your file.

I have my booking in appointment this week at 9+3. Nothing about scan yet. Last time the mw sent request through after my booking in app. Last time I had a nightmare at the start. My paperwork got lost repeatedly and I didn't have my booking in app u til I was nearly 12 weeks. Then my scan wasn't until I was just under 14 weeks. And I had to chase that scan repeatedly. So far much better this time but we will see.

Also sending love to those going through worrying times. Fingers firmly crossed for lots of good news.

I know other people have much worse stuff going on right now, so this feels a bit self indulgent, but I feel so rubbish I just want to curl up and cry/sleep for the next 4 weeks!

I know it is a good sign and all, but I'd like to be able to walk past the toilets without the smell making me retch a bit. Or brush my teeth in the morning without vomiting.

So sorry to those who are having bad news. I hope you have all the support around you that you need.

@stellarfox so I'd been phoning the hospital as they're the ones who will be doing the scan but they kept saying they were waiting on my paperwork and can't do anything until it arrives. Today they finally said it should have arrived by now so told me to phone my midwife. I phoned the midwifery team and didn't get much help (the girl said someone was waiting so she just took my details and said they'll resend the paperwork if it turns out it's been lost?!)

I just want to get my scan booked in dammit!!

Booking appointment went well and the midwife was very nice. She was also extremely excited when I told her that I carry the trait for thalassemia. She said they always test for it and no one ever has it.

I have another appointment booked with her for 16 weeks, and I should get something in the mail about the 12 week scan. She said if I don’t hear anything by 11 weeks I should call her. Hopefully the system will work, though I’m less confident after seeing some of your experiences!

Is anyone else going to be consultant led?

Hey guys quick question, i'm 8 weeks 4 days and still haven't had a scan. I had my first GP appointment last week which was pretty useless cos he told me stuff I already knew and went on to tell me I need to self refer myself to the hospital. I've done that today but no idea how long it will take.

Feel like i'm the only one that hasn't gone for a scan yet . Is that normal?

OMG I just caught up.

@Azure83 I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that you're okay

@JCBG I hope everything is well for you and you hear good news only today.

Praying for you both

oops I mean @JBCG