June 2019 - Thread 2

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New thread for those of us due in June 2019 😊

Big hugs @MadeInCornwallx3 - it's an emotional time and I think we probably all feel a bit overwhelmed!

Does anyone else find they get mild lower tummy cramping after sitting down for a while? Any idea what could cause it? I also get it when I need a wee so wondering if it's bladder related...

@owly321 welcome - that's exactly how I feel too! No sooner have i done a poo than I feel like I need another! I'm a poo machine!

@MadeInCornwallx3 - you aren't alone. I am really struggling too. Exhausted doesn't even start to explain how I feel. I am worried I'm letting dd down.

Those of you with older children, how are you managing not telling them too early, even when they can tell something is going on? Dd has just turned 5, and she is starting to act up because I'm not normal. She is pushing boundaries because I think she doesn't understand why things are changing. Part of me wants to tell her as I think she is worried that I'm really ill, but then I don't want to risk breaking her heart if this doesn't work out. I'm 8 weeks, so a few weeks away from the "safe-zone". I don't know what to do.

Stormwell I'm finding it hard to hide from older children. My two are over 10 years and they hate it whenever I'm unwell.
My emotions are all over the show. This is a much wanted baby but I'm terrified of getting more nausea, sickness and dizziness. I struggle at work especially and have plans with the children at half term that I may have to cancel if I get any worse. Sorry feel a bit low tonight.
All the scan news are lovely to read and twins! How exciting x

@Twig1234 - so sorry you feel low, if it helps, I feel exactly the same. Dd worries so much if I'm not well as i have ongoing health issues anyway. I think I'm coming to the decision that we should tell her. She is stewing on it and worrying what is wrong as I have been unwell for weeks now. I'm also worrying same as you what the sickness and exhaustion is going to stop me from doing with her. I feel like I can barely stand at times, how am I supposed to parent her? I forgot how tough this bit is.

Oooh the exhaustion! 2 days back at work and feel like I've been hit by a train! Seriously thinking about switching to my maternity bras already as my boobs are just so sore and I'm convinced ive gained s couple of cup sizes (which is a bitch as I'm already a J cup).

Had a couple of moments of nausea today too. Nothing too serious just didn't really want my dinner. Then the nausea passed so I managed dinner and the cake for afters!

How's everyone else doing symptom wise?

First day of feeling sick today. Nothing too bad just around meal times. Really tired too but can’t get my arse up to bed! Got a super busy day tomorrow which I’m dreading.
The pg vitamins must be taking effect as the iron has already made me constipated, wah, woe is me .....

Anyone get any tips on anxiety? Despite this being my 3rd I’m worrying about every twinge and googling miscarriage rates etc. I’m driving myself mad with worry about it tbh

@mindthechaos is there anything that’s helped you in the past? Can you carve out some time to do something for yourself, like have a bath, meditate, or go for a run? Keeping yourself busy might help you to stay distracted and off Google.

TMI alert:

I’m supposed to have my first scan tomorrow but I think I might have thrush so don’t know if I should cancel in case of an internal scan. I’ve never had it before so I’m guessing I should go into the GP whenever they have an available appointment.

I am going in next week for my booking appointment but I really hope someone can see me before then. Feeling miserable and hoping I can still have an external scan. It’s all I’ve been thinking about the last few weeks!

@mindthechaos I am the exact same way at the minute. Keep telling myself that no amount of googling will change the outcome either way, but it's really hard not to. Just trying to keep busy and distract myself as much as possible.

@mindthechaos it's a mind over matter thing, anxiety. Worrying over miscarriage will only ruin the first trimester for you. I miscarried three months ago, but I flat out refuse to let myself worry about it with this pregnancy. Way I see it, any stress I allow myself to experience is not good for me and so in turn, not good for my babies. I have quit vaping, drinking etc for them so surely I can quit stressing too!

I know that all sounds easier said than done, but there is no quick fix for anxiety, you have to take it head on and force your mind onto other things. Fake it until you make it!

@kescilly, don't cancel the scan, go along with a nice full bladder and hopefully an internal won't be needed. If it is, I'm sure they will have had ladies with thrush before and will know how to deal with it. Best wishes for tomorrow!

@Kescilly good luck for the scan.

This thread moves so fast I struggle to keep up.

Waving to all the newbies. 👋🏻

Hope everyone is well.

My 1yo has had me up for 2 hours. Tomorrow will be fun

@CollyWombles Fab news! How exciting!

@Kescilly agree you should definitely go to the scan as they might still be able to do an external. You can always say about the possible thrush and see what they say.

I’m currently in Amsterdam airport on my way home from my holiday! It’s 12.45am where we’ve come from and we’re getting home at about 4.30am which will be 9.30am UK time. I couldn’t sleep on the plane so going to be awfully jetlagged the next few days eurgh! Really excited to be able to have a scan in the next week or so! I’m too scared to tell anyone before the scan!

My tips for anxiety are to picture a train, when you find you're thinking of past mc or images choose not to get on or get to a point you feel safe again. Let that train rub past in your mind (apparently it's the brain dealing with the memory)
The other method I was taught was to let the brain think of something else like how many blue things can you see? Find something that is square. Etc

Not sure it'll help although I had three sessions, I couldn't complete the PTSD course at the time.

My worry is getting to term and enjoying this pregnancy and baby. I'm so scared of labour and what happened I can't let myself enjoy it yet. I can't wait to see a midwife to talk so I don't seem so bonkers. I seem to worry more when waking or going to sleep - how about others?
What are your worries maybe we can all help each other?

I was on medication prior to this pregnancy which helped with my anxiety but obviously stopped them now, and my doctor has just left me to it. Thanks for the tip about the train, I'll give it a try next time.

@kescilly good luck for your scan this morning, definitely still go!

@mindthechaos I am 6 weeks today expecting my first and had a mc in April at 6+1 so totally get the anxiety. I am trying out the mantra today I am pregnant and I will enjoy this (sore boobs and nausea included). It has helped so far today and tomorrow I think we'll be hardest for me but I know I did nothing wrong last time so nothing I do and no amount of worrying will change it now. Distraction is also important I have made sure to go out for a walk daily in the fresh air trying to go to the gym (lower activity) still but tiredness not helping.

@kescilly thrush is really uncomfortable. I had it a few months ago and was not sure if pregnant as in tww had before so knew what it was went to pharmacy cannot take oral tablet but pessary is OK. If you are not 100%sure it is thrush I would see your gp. The gp will probably advise not to use the applicator to use pessary. Hope you feel more comfortable soon x

I’m struggling with anxiety too! It was an issue with my last pg and I’m determined not to let it get as bad this time! My anxiety is to do with having a mc to an extent but to be honest most of it surrounds my emetophobia (phobia of vomiting). I felt so so sick last pg the whole way through, I was bed bound for months feeling like I would be sick the next second. It was so bad I didn’t really leave the house for months. The same is happening again and I’m starting to have doubts about how I’ll cope again. I’m seeing the gp on Friday and all my hopes as pinned on this appointment.

Stellarfox I’m feeling tired just reading your post!

Good morning everyone, amothee day done and ticked off the first trimester.

It's so nice to be able to share these feelings! I haven't had sickness yet (too early) I was sick twice with my son. Once wasn't bad and once was awful :( remember your body knows what it's doing. If you need to stay in bed restiepeace then stay (if you can) if you are sick, remember it too will pass and this feeling will also pass. Hard I know I wish I could take my own advice! I hope the Dr. Can help ease your mind. You can do it though and are!! :D

Had my booking appointment and flu jab yesterday. I've been referred to the consultant because of how big DS was, but hopefully as he was born fairly uneventfully they won't feel the need to do much different.

Private scan today, feeling a mixture of excited and nervous!

@mindthechaos to stop me googling everything I downloaded some really good books to my phone and read them instead. I never read books these days but I've read 4 since finding out I was pregnant.

The anxiety can be so debilitating at times! My DP just doesn't understand it.

@Kescilly defo go for scan they will be able to see externally at this stage. I only had internal when I was 5+4, since 6 weeks onwards you can see from external and I've even got a tilted womb which makes it harder to see. Good luck xx

I love the idea of reading more to take my mind off the anxiety.

Thanks for the advice everyone. I think I’ll call the GP today to see when I can get an appointment. And I’ll go to the scan because it’s probably too late to cancel anyway. It’s not until late this evening, so I’ll be nervous all day! Am honestly not sure if we will see anything as I haven’t had much nausea at all, but I’d rather find out at a private scan now if it’s bad news.

Kescilly, no symptoms or low level symptoms aren't a bad thing, I promise. I hope it all goes well today! I had external around 6 weeks last time and it was fine, just drink plenty of water :)

DD was an utter delight this morning- NOT! I am very pleased she's at nursery and that I don't have to deal with her.

We have told her, shes 3, and we know it's a long time for her to wait, but she was worrying about me being in hospital and having to go to the doctors and being sick lots. She's happy, but we did wait until I had an early scan!

@SassehMonsta did she understand? Hopefully she will be less worried about you now.