The March-ers 2019 #6

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@Wineandchoccy really great news about the scan! I hope you can now relax until January and enjoy your pregnancy lots more.

Thanks everyone, it’s so kind of you to take the time to reply. I ended up having a glass of red wine tonight, it was the only way to unwind.

GP was about as much use as a chocolate tea pot. Seen him in the past and he’s very dismissive, almost rolls his eyes at you. He said “It’s unlikely you’ve caught it, but just wait and see” Super reassuring! I would hope i’d have shown symptoms by now? It’s been 72 hours. Yeah, I definitely can’t take her son on Wednesday. I’d be worried sick he had it and was going to pass it on. They don’t actually need childcare, I was just taking him on a day out. I feel bad, but i’ll make it up to him. Just not sure how to get out of it....

@melissa112 hi due date buddy 👋🏼 I'm 20 weeks Thursday too!

Totally normal on the shortness of breath in my opinion. I had this a lot in the first trimester and read that a lot of the time it's down to hormonal changes and later on in the pregnancy, as you said about baby taking up too. Mad lungs probably a bit more restricted. I feel like it sometimes towards the end of the day and especially after a meal at night

@VillageFete I'd be honest and say to your friend that you're just not up to it, that you're not feeling well yourself and that you would much rather take her son knowing you're both on good form and when you feel more able to. You can rearrange it for another time. I'm sure despite your friend's prognosis she will understand.

@HidCat good luck with your scan tomorrow. Mine is next Tuesday and will no doubt be feeling as you do in a week!

@ballanj Thank you for such a kind post at the top of this page. It’s massively appreciated. My Midwife is aware of everything that’s going on and has been fantastic. I did text her today for advice but not heard back. Hoping i’ll hear back tomorrow.

I just feel a little bit cheated? It took me 4 years and multiple failed IVF cycles to fall pregnant with this miracle. I so want the chance to enjoy some of it. Up to now it’s been 18 weeks of worry and stress! This is partly why i’m so desperate to have another baby after this one. To hopefully get to enjoy that pregnancy in happier circumstances.

@VillageFete I'm glad your midwife is in the know about everything that's going on. You absolutely deserve to being enjoying this pregnancy. It must be heart wrenching given your friend's prognosis but do make sure you take some moments, even if they seem so small (if I manage to fall straight back to sleep after getting up to pee in the night for the second time, this to me is winning) to enjoy these days of pregnancy. You won't get them back and I'm sure your friend will understand when there are times where you can't be there. You'll be a much better help to her and feel more able to cope if you're a bit more rested, less anxious and feeling better in yourself.

@VillageFete huge hugs to you. This is such a lot you're going through and you're being a great friend - don't beat yourself up, you can be generous and kind whilst also taking care of yourself and bub.

@wineandchoccy so pleased all is looking good, I hope it continues that way!

Baby woke me up at 5.30 this morning (much appreciated...) with loads of movement - I think she maybe had hiccups? Quite dramatic little jumps at maybe 5-10 second intervals. It went on for quite a while. Cute but I could have done with the sleep.

I woke up through the night I was lying on my right side and had a dead arm and pins and needles down that whole side. I turned to the left and was fine. Woke up lying on my back!! And again had pins and needles through my body. I have never had that before what is it?

@villagefete everyone has already said what I'm thinking but I don't think there is one "ideal" way to be pregnant as life doesn't stop happening just because you're having a baby. Therefore all of the anxiety and issues that were there before are still there and you still unfortunately need to deal with them. I certainly expected being pregnant to feel different to what it has so far and I think that's natural, particularly if you have so much other emotionally draining things to deal with simultaneously and you've been dreaming of this moment to happen for such a long time like you have been.

@wineandchoccy so glad everything is more ok with baby! You must be so relieved now you have a better idea of the situation.

For those who were asking about pregnancy yoga... I did it and it was actually quite good. Better than I expected. There was another new girl who also hadn't done yoga before (she's due the week after me and it's also her first baby) so we befriended each other at the start which made it easier. I feel like I slept better last night too so will continue going... There were some airy fairy bits (sorry!) when's I just wanted to laugh and wasn't really me, but overall I'm just going to go with the flow.

@angelmiracle the reason they say it's best to lie on your left side is that if you lie on your back the weight of the uterus can start to press down on an important vein, which might make you feel dizzy and light-headed - I would guess it could also cause the pins and needles? Might be squishing a nerve?

In Expecting Better, it says that if you get the light-headedness while lying on your back, stop doing it. Most of the advice is that if you go to sleep on your left side and wake up on your back, it's no big deal, just put yourself back into a good position. By third trimester it'll be more practical to sleep on your side anyway. One study suggests that sleeping on back or right side in third trimester can elevate the risk of stillbirth, but don't panic! The risk is still small, just try not to sleep like that. Maybe it's time to break out the big sausagey pillow.

I'm probably worrying over nothing but I wondered when you all started to feel baby move? I always think there's some kind of stirring but as I've said the last couple of weeks, nothing I can definitely pinpoint to confirmed movement! It's my first so I know I might not feel as quick, but hearing about everyone feeling kicks and lots of movement is making me feel a bit anxious. I'm not expecting a really firm prod or anything, would just like to feel something out of the ordinary I guess! I'm 20 weeks on Thursday X

It's probably not helping that I'm noticeably bigger and so naturally people are now asking me 'feeling baby move now?!'

@ballanj I'm 20 weeks today and it was only when talking to a friend who has a 1 year old over the weekend that I realised I might have been feeling stuff but not realising it was baby moving but this is only over the last week. Loads of my friends didn't feel anything till they were nearer 24 weeks though so I honestly wouldn't be alarmed.

@ballanj oh and what I've been feeling aren't kicks so nothing definitive. I'm just taking a guess that what I've felt has been movement

I can only feel things because I remember from last time. Sometimes it just feels like swooshing (I bit like when you're really hungry and your tummy is a bit gurgly!) and sometimes it is firmer prods. It isn't every day or all the time yet.

@ballanj I've only had 2 times (over the weekend) where it's been more kick like and I've been like "is that the baby?", all of the other times it feels like there's a flickering worm inside me, but that could be anything. I'm 18 weeks and it's also my first. My best friend is 2 weeks ahead of me and reckons her baby has been kicking for ages/husband can feel it etc but I'm not going to start worrying for another month yet and hopefully in that time it will become clearer. I've had nothing at all to suggest there could be a problem so I don't want to make it into one and know it's very early. Hopefully you'll be able to get reassurance at your scan next week that everything is still ok?

@ballanj I'm sorry, probably my swanking about the hiccups isn't very reassuring when you haven't felt movement yet. I didn't mean for anyone to draw comparisons - please don't worry! It's still early days, and like PPs have said, you might be feeling things and not recognising it. I definitely get more of a wiggling, rolling sensation than defined kicks, and they aren't predictable. Give it a couple of weeks x

I'm only feeling baby so early because it's no.2 and because I recognise the feelings. It's mostly that rolling sensation or firmer tummy on one side. If this was my first I would not have picked up it is baby please don't worry @ballanj DSis is due dc1 on Sunday but only felt movement near 23 weeks.

@ladycarlotta yeah definitely need to buy the big pillow now. I'm thinking because my shoulders were scrunched up that may not have helped. I never go to sleep on my back it's scary awakening that way and feeling pins and needles.

@ballanj I'm not feeling movement either. All the updates on my apps are saying that I'll be feeling movement around my belly button; I'm not. I'm with you on being a bit worried despite trying not to be.

Is anyone still suffering from bad skin? Mines the worst it has ever been and I get married on Saturday. 😫 the makeup artist will definitely be earning her money!

@ladycarlotta oh don't be silly of course you should wax lyrical about your movement, the baby having hiccups sounds so cute!

Thank you everyone else, I feel lots better now reading those comments. What I have felt has been firmness on one side of my tummy in particular and what I can only describe as what feels like little tiny air bubbles popping over my stomach skin. I'm sure when baby does really start the prodding I'll be praying for it to ease up. And I think it's knowing I have my 20 week scan in a week, so perhaps a bit of scanxiety at the same time.

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever my skin has played up a fair bit in the second trimester. Sometimes it's really blemishy and spotty and other days it is completely clear. Can't tell what it will be like one week to the next!

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever so exciting!!! Mine is super dry when I'm usually so oily. Don't worry make up does wonders!

@ballanj This is my second and I think I have had a few movements since about 16 weeks, but wasn't sure till 18 weeks when I had four kicks all in the same place. Generally feel it about once a day when I lie down to go to sleep, and it feels clearer when I put a hand over it. With my first I felt him at 18 weeks too but he had an anterior placenta, so I hadn't felt any small movements beforehand - just a big jab all of a sudden! There is a huge variety in how soon people feel their baby and it will be affected by loads of different factors such as body shape and muscle tone and position of the baby. You will feel it soon!