The March-ers 2019 #6

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@VillageFete it sounds like you have a huge amount on your plate at the moment. I'm really sorry, I'm not medical so can't offer an informed opinion re the C Diff. I would suggest if you're worried to call 111 in the immediacy to get some advice from them. Otherwise, hard as it is, I suspect it might just be a case of waiting to see what happens and hopefully you won't develop any symptoms and will be fine. If you washed your hands well with soap and water then that's the best you can do anyway and hopefully you will have protected yourself that way. I'm sure people with more knowledge will be along in a bit to offer some more practical guidance.

All I would say is that, whilst feeling sick is a symptom of C Diff., you also sound like you have an enormous amount on your plate in a very stressful situation at the moment, and stress can make you nauseous too. I wouldn't be thinking the worst just yet. I'm 21 weeks and still get the odd wave of nausea every now and again and if my stress levels are high I often find it manifests itself as sickness.

I hope you're OK. Try to take some time to take care of yourself too, it sounds like you're having to be all things to all people currently and you sound like you're doing an amazing job of it. Cut yourself some slack.

@VillageFete I didn't want to read and run. The NHS website says that there is no evidence that having C diff while pregnant can harm your baby: www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/pregnancy/what-are-the-risks-of-clostridium-difficile-during-pregnancy/ Hope that helps relax you a bit. It also sounds like you practised good hygiene so you are unlikely to get it. Also according to the NHS, your friend will still be contagious for 48 hours after her symptoms have cleared up so it sadly may be best to stay away till then? I second @toastfiend about ringing someone for proper medical advice tomorrow. You sound absolutely knackered and emotionally drained and it is horrid to be worrying about this too. I think it might help you to get reassurance from a doctor about this one.

What real life support do you have at the moment? X

Sorry not ringing tomorrow, today! I have been awake with insomnia in the night, can you tell?!

@VillageFete you sound like an amazing friend but please look after yourself as well. I would call your GP or midwife for advice today

@villagefete I would definitely just give your midwife and your gp a call. Is your midwife helping with your anxiety at all? They won't judge you, just offer support and I really would look at it now if you haven't yet, as it really gets worse with a newborn as there is so much more to worry about.

My blood tests are back from the TORCH screening, no sign of infection so no more scans needed on babies bowel until January. Only thing present is at some point I have been exposed to parvovirus (slapped cheek) but this is nothing to worry about apparently and common if you have children.

Great news @wineandchoccy! Glad all is well xx

@Wineandchoccy I'm sure you're so relieved - I hope you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

Really pleased to hear that @Wineandchoccy.

@VillageFete I hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Thanks I am very relieved

@wineandchoccy Really pleased for you, what a relief!

I’ve txt my midwife but am yet to hear back. Going to try and get a GP appt this afternoon. I am supposed to take care of my friend’s son on Wednesday but i’m so scared he’ll have the infection and pass it on to me. Is it incredibly selfish if I say I can’t have him? Do I make an excuse? A relative of hers has been diagnosed with it today, she has had her son this weekend, so i’m really reluctant to have him now. I feel awful

Do not feel bad @VillageFete you need to look after yourself and your baby

@wineandchoccy So happy for you, what great news.

@Villagefete I hope you get your GP appointment for this afternoon. I don't think it is selfish to look after yourself, though I can understand why you'd feel that way. But as others have said it sounds like you are working incredibly hard to be all things to all people at the moment, and you deserve to take time to self-care also. Regardless of whether that is to look after your physical or mental health, in this case. I would be upfront about why I couldn't look after him if I said no (it's important to me to stay healthy to look after my unborn baby), because I'd feel an excuse may not convey how much I'd love to be able to support. But you will know best what makes you comfortable in the difficult situation you're in. Good luck, and many hugs.

@VillageFete I don't think you should take her son on Wednesday as it is going to add hugely to your worries. It is not selfish to say no on this occasion. I would do as @wordsmithereens says and be upfront about it - I know this may be difficult though as I think you've said your friend is avoiding talking about your pregnancy? Is it possible that you could ring around other mutual friends and explain the situation, and find someone else who your friend trusts to take her son on Wednesday? Thus taking the worry of finding childcare away from her, without putting yourself at risk. Perhaps - if you feel up to it - there might be something else you can do to help on Wednesday, e.g. cooking a meal to drop off (without touching anyone!!) that her son (and partner?) can eat in the evening?

@wineandchoccy so pleased to hear your news!

@VillageFete as others have said, I would apologise that on this occasion you can't and be upfront as to why. You're doing a huge amount at the moment and sometimes you do have to just look after yourself and your baby. There is absolutely no shame in that.

Great news @wineandchoccy - hopefully it continues with good news at the Jan scan :)

@VillageFete you sound like the most amazing friend. It sounds like you have so much going on and I really feel for you. I hope you managed to get a GP appointment. Please look after yourself, sending hugs to you xx

@Wineandchoccy great news on your results! Really pleased for you.

Does anybody feel quite short of breath? I'm not sure how to describe it really. I'm 20 wks on Thursday and since I've been home from work I've felt sort of like I'm being squashed in my chest. Not out of breath like panting, but even just sat still just a little short of it.. is this normal with baby starting to take up more room?

@melissa112 YEP, I have been short of breath on and off for weeks now. I'm 19 weeks on Wednesday. I sometimes find standing still leaves me short of breath. It is ridiculous! I was actually reasonably (not mega, but reasonably) fit before getting pregnant. I find it's worse when I'm hot.

@BadBadBeans glad I'm not the only one! I used to practically run up the stairs in work and today I felt so unfit! I guess our bodies are working to pull the extra blood around? At least I hope that's all it is, plus a mixture of baby growing. I read that as of 20 weeks baby is measured crown to heel and is approx 10inches. That seems so big that I wonder how he fits in there!

Pump not pull*

@melissa112 I’m short of breath as well, I’m working in an office tomorrow on the 8th floor with the worlds slowest lift I will need oxygen if I take the stairs though

@VillageFete no wonder you're feeling sick with everything that's going on. I'm clueless but hoping it's the anxiety rather than the bug but don't hesitate in getting tested.

@Wineandchoccy great news!

I've got my anomaly scan tomorrow morning so scanxiety is kicking in tonight. Not sure I'll be getting much sleep.

@wineansdchoccy amazing news! Hope you can relax more now.

@villagefete that sounds very stressful- as others have said don’t worry about putting you and your baby first.

@melissa112 I’m with you on feeling out of breath. It’s just happened the last week or so.

I had a strange experience today - getting ready for bed i could smell stale milk and realised it was my breasts leaking into my bra - seems a bit early but normal I think.

@HidCat good luck for tomorrow

@Nightmanagerfan I hope it is normal I’m also leaking! I can’t remember how early I did in my 1st pregnancy but have been for a few weeks now, weirdly just on one side as well.

@VillageFete I read your post much earlier today and it really got to me. Please please please take the time you need to put yourself first. You are without doubt an amazing friend but do not ever think you are selfish to put your own needs first. I can't imagine what you are having to deal with you must have so many conflicting emotions. Please make sure you have someone that you can lean on for support, whether it be your partner, another friend or family member. Please also speak to your midwife about all of this, I'm sure they will be able to help you with any anxiety you are feeling or make some recommendations by way of support to you xx