The March-ers 2019 #6

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@Murphyrocks yes, would love recommendations! We have loads of games that are good for groups - really love Ladies and Gentlemen, Camel Up, Hanabi, Colt Express and obviously Catan - but for two of us at home we more often than not fall back on Trivial Pursuit. I'm angling for the two-person Codenames, and I'd like more collaborative games if possible (we like Pandemic).

@melissa112 @Sictransitgloria @Badbadbeans She didn't give a reason to delay the flu jab. Maybe she thinks it would give more protection for baby closer to birth. I have no idea! But don't fancy having it myself. Although DS is getting his at school mid November. Grandad was booking his with GP so think I'll do the same then get whooping cough in 5 weeks or so.

@Villagefete you are going through an awful lot right now. I hope you are reassured by stories from the ladies. There's 8 years between my brother and me. As PP said, I was like a 2nd mum when he was born! I was stuck in changing nappies helping at bath time etc helping out homework when he was in primary. Now he's the only one left at home if DM is away I'm cooking him dinner lol. He comes to me a lot if he's having problems rather than DM DF so please do not worry about that age gap.

They'll be 6 years between this one and DS. I don't care now that we couldn't have the small age gap I'm so happy DS will have a sibling at all and he's so excited! If I can convince DH we might try for dc3 too quickly after this baby in the hope that we'll have a higher chance of conceiving. After you have a meeting with the Cyprus doctor maybe try concentrating on yourself and your friend and pick up on it after DS is born. Anything to take the pressure off you right now. Please take care speak to your midwife or GP if you're too overwhelmed x

*I don't fancy having the FLU myself 😂

20 week scan all done! Baby seems to be developing perfectly, has all the right bits and bobs. And it's a girl! I'm super excited as I quite wanted one, and also really felt like it was a girl, so on tenterhooks to see if intuition held. (Of course I'm totally just confirming my own biases, but hey.) :)

@badbadbeans That may well be a good idea to block some time out provisionally, I'll have a think, thanks for the suggestion.

@wordsmithereens congratulations on your baby girl news💕 glad your intuition was right 😉 and all looking well.

@wordsmithereens congratulations on growing a little girl! It's funny isn't it, I found knowing the sex with DS made him actually feel real!

I've been thinking loads today and I think I have to find out what mine is at 20 weeks. If DH doesn't want to know then I will keep it from him and I will do a good job, but I feel like I need to know as soon as I can. For bonding, to let go of the possibility of the 'other' sex as soon as possible, and because I am afraid that if it is a boy there might be a bit of me that is sad for a little while about not having a daughter - and I would rather that is on a nameless day somewhere in the middle of my pregnancy than on the day my lovely little human is welcomed into the world. Going to talk to DH about it tonight.

Thanks guys! Yes @badbadbeans, it does feel remarkably more real knowing the sex.

Your reasons were pretty much exactly what was going through my head in terms of wanting to know. I'm sure you'll love it either way, but you also know yourself best and if you feel you need the processing/bonding time, I'd say go with your gut. Hope the conversation with DH goes well. Mine initially didn't want to find out, but changed his mind when he understood how important it was to me.

@badbadbeans I think we will find out too - it will make it more real for us.

@wordsmithereens congrats on your little girl!

Anyone else lost their appetite? I eat a few mouthfuls and feel completely stuffed.

@wordsmithereens congratulations on your baby girl! How exciting! So glad all went well with the scan.

@Nightmanagerfan unfortunately the opposite. My appetite has come back since morning sickness with a vengeance and I feel sick if I don't eat for like an hour! Just scoffing some cheese and crackers as a 'snack' before OH makes jacket potatoes and chicken for tea 😳

@Murphyrocks @ladycarlotta hubby bought me Forbidden Island for our anniversary (Romantic 😂) and its quickly become a favourite. Board games tend to get brought out for groups when we're at my parents house but I'd love some 2 player recommendations - think DH and I should probably spend some more quality time together than we do.
@melissa112 I'm like you, I need to be eating constantly 🙈That said, I think I fill up faster after a meal too.

@jenfur good stuff - I actually sent @ladycarlotta a pm earlier with game recommendations as I didn't think anyone else would be interested! In terms of collaborative games one deck dungeon is also great, for competitive stuff our 2 player favourites are quarriors, waggle dance, machi koro, carcassonne and isle of skye and our current go-to favourite is star realms! Excellent deck building game.

@Miami81 welcome to the group. I'm so sorry to hear your story but glad that you're being closely monitored. I hope you're managing to enjoy your pregnancy a bit.

I've had some strong feelings of movement the last couple of days - took me by surprise as I'm only 18+4 today and although I've had gentle flutters and bubbles for a few weeks I forgot how weird the early movements feel once they get going! 9pm seems a regular activity time for now.

@physicskate so good to see you here! I've had tightenings but not regularly, I'm sure it's normal. Worth a call if you're worried though.

@Murphyrocks congratulations on another boy! @ladycarlotta congratulations on your little girl!

@VillageFete you have so much going on in your life at the moment is there any way you can have a break, even if just for a day? Try not to overthink the age gap - my nephew has an 8 yr age gap with his sister and then a 13 yr age gap with his brother but he actually gets along brilliantly with both.

@wordsmithereens I'm glad you and your Mum have found a compromise. Congratulations on your little girl!

@Jenfur Our favourite 2 player game is hive. We have this travel version and it has no board so you can play it on any surface. It's easy to learn, v strategic and every game is different.

www.amazon.co.uk/Gen42-Games-5513668-Hive-Pocket/dp/B0079L0EKY

Does anyone else feel like their bump and stomach post dinner time are fighting for room?! So much for my better diet this week, it's Two for Tuesday at Dominos 🤦🏼‍♀️ I did so well until tonight. Stomach just feels really tight now, must remember there's someone else taking up space now!

Yes @ballanj I feel full of food and baby and really uncomfortable by the end of the night

I totally get this too @ballanj, feel really uncomfortably full if I over-indulge, often for hours!

So I spoke to DH last night and he is totally cool with me finding out but doesn't want to know himself. So we are going to discuss names up until the scan and then stop, in case I accidentally give it away. And we are going to pretend to everyone else that we didn't find out so that nobody pesters me to know. I am really pleased!

Pleased you came to an agreement @BadBadBeans I had a friend who did similar, only that they found out the sex but made out to their friends and family that they hadn't so kept it just between the two of them!

Congratulations to everyone who has found out the gender. May I ask what made you want to find out? I'm completely torn whether or not to. My OH wants to but I think it would be a lovely surprise. But with all the excitement on here I think it would be nice to know if I'm carrying my son or daughter.

@Nightmanagerfan I have, feel full for ages after eating and find I really don't fancy most things still, even though I am no longer feeling sick really (although when I do feel hungry it also comes with intense nausea that makes me retch...lovely!) Like @ballanj, I find that my stomach feels like its fighting for room now. I basically have to choose between feeling full and being able to breathe properly, because if I do overindulge I wake up in the night feeling really short of breath and that carries over into the next morning too.

Congratulations to all those who have had their 20 week scans and found out the sex of their baby recently. I have mine this afternoon and am horribly nervous about it. We aren't finding out the sex, although it's so tempting knowing that I could know by this afternoon what we're having. Just trying to stay calm this morning, 2pm feels a very long way away currently!

Thanks @Murphyrocks and @LittleKitty1985 for the suggestions, I'll check them out.
@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I'm not really a fan of surprises so don't want to have to wait to find out. I also would like the chance to work out a name before the birth - last time we had loads of girl names and no boy names, they couldn't tell at the scan but thought it could be a girl then had to have an additional scan at about 36 weeks and found out he was a boy. We were really lucky to get those 4 weeks to work on names because he would've been called "Baby" until he was a month old otherwise!
I'm also in agreement with others on here about gender wistfulness. I'd like to have a girl to have one of each (and because DS says he wants a sister) and I feel so different this pregnancy that I have a feeling it could be a girl. I don't know if we would have a 3rd baby so this might be the last chance for a girl and I think I'd need the time to adjust if its a boy.

@Assumeitwassomethingclever personally wanted time to deal with the idea if it was another boy (which it is) as we already have 2 (1 part time who also has a brother on the other side) and this is our last so we won't have a daughter. Not that I'm disappointed about having a boy particularly but I wanted time to let go of the idea of having a daughter/giving the boys the sister they wanted. Even if I didn't mind the gender though I'd find out as personally I found it quite bonding being able to use gender pronouns speaking to the baby (hey little man when he starts kicking etc) plus I feel like there's so much about having a baby that you can't know in advance (personality, what they'll look like, temperament etc etc) why would I not find out one of the few things I can know! But I can totally see why people choose to have a surprise and that moment of finding out when he/she is given to you in the delivery room must be lovely.

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I don't want to know yet neither does my DH we loved finding out at the birth last time, all the announcements have made me feel like maybe I'm missing out but I think that feeling will go.

Feeling strange today. I'm finishing my PhD in a month's time and just had my last meeting with my supervisor as he is going away, sinking in that I'm actually leaving this time and not coming back.

@toastfiend enjoy your scan today! It'll be a lovely experience regardless of finding out the sex.

@Bluebelltulip wow, busy times! Congratulations on nearing the finish line of your PhD, what an achievement!