The March-ers 2019 #6

[Angelmiracle]

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Good luck for Friday @PurpleFlower1983 each scan is so nerve wrecking! I'm in same boat going from really strong kicks/nudges to noticing nothing but I'm only 15+4. When you're busier than usual it's harder to feel anything I find. But I try to take some time in bed and concentrate and usually feel something even just a tightening or hardening of the tummy tells me baby is wriggling in there!

Hope you are ok @wineandchoccy is your next appointment tomorrow?x

@purpleflower I know what you mean I haven't felt anything for two weeks now but this happened in my previous pregnancies too and I was always told that baby is still quite small so not to worry too much. I still do though lol. I've got my scan on the 19th so not too much longer. Hope yours goes well and helps to ease your mind a little x

@Elizabeth134 thats great! I would love to make a start on some baby items too with Christmas coming up and January is always a long month waiting to be paid!

@wordsmithereens thank you so much for all the helpful information you have posted and for taking the time to do that. I'm going to have a look through them all.

@PassTheAfterEights thank you, that's so kind

@1986mumof5 thank you for the offer of a chat. It's nice to think of myself as strong for acknowledging the problem rather than weak for feeling it in the first place. I know I'm not but it can sometimes feel that way. I have never tried meditation but it would do me good to just shut out all my thoughts for a while. I'm going to check out the links that @wordsmithereens posted and see how to get started

@frenchgal thank you for your kind words, it's so lovely to be in such a supportive group. You have all been so much help.

@PurpleFlower1983 I'm sure baby has just moved into a position where you are less likely to feel them. I'm glad you are feeling better after the prods, they do like to keep us on our toes don't they, even when so tiny!

@Angelmiracle my appointment isn’t until Friday I’m not doing great to be honest but trying to keep busy although it’s hard not to sit and cry. It’s the not knowing this week is going on forever

Oh @Wineandchoccy I can only imagine how you must be feeling. It's bad enough the weeks dragging in the first trimester but having such a worry of the unknown must make time pass so slowly. I am keeping positive that you will have good news on Friday 💕 Rant here anytime even just to vent your worries x

Thanks I’m taking comfort that he or she is kicking away in there

Sat in triage feeling rather fed up. 2 hours of agony and blood in my urine is making me feel pretty yuck. Hoping the on-call consultant will come out of theatre soon and send me packing with some antibiotics. 🤮

@frenchgal your job sounds fascinating. Will you keep travelling until the third trimester?
Thinking of you @Wineandchoccy.

@TheWanderlust Aw no! Did it just come on this evening? Where do you feel pain?Hope they call you really soon!

@purpleflower1983 i’m sure baby has moved. I’ve not felt anything for a few days after having a week or so of what felt like raindrops in my stomach. I’m guess he/she has moved somewhere less sensitive or turned so is pushing against something we can not feel.

@wineandchoccy hope Friday comes around fast.

@Angelmiracle literally so sudden. Got stabbing pains across the bottom of my tummy and a pressure point in the middle at the top.

Have listened to baby's heartbeat and all okay. Just got some proteins and blood in my urine which could be the issue. Midwife can't discharge until the doctor sees me ☹️

@TheWanderlust that's all you need! Hope it's something antibiotics can sort out. I'm sure you just want home to bed.

Hope you are ok @TheWanderlust and you can go home soon. Try and take it easy x

I guess in some ways it's a double edged sword... at least I know what triage on the labour ward looks like now 🙄

It's so busy here!! The midwifes are working so so hard to make sure everyone is seen.

@thewanderlust hope everything is ok. Glad they've listened to heartbeat that must have given some comfort. Hope you're back warm and at home soon xx

@thewunderlust hope you get seen soon and discharged. I remember it taking ages when I went in for reduced movements.

@wineandchoccy you're always in my thoughts. I have my fingers crossed Friday comes with the best news possible

@TheWanderlust hope you get the all clear really soon!

I'm desperate to feel some 'definite' movement from Hulk. Felt lots of stretching/pulling on holiday and had some stabby type pains and my bump has definitely expanded the last couple of weeks. Just feeling a bit anxious I haven't felt movement I can't be sure to say is baby. I'm 18 weeks on Thursday.

Also, I'm feeling bad that I drank on holiday. A glass of wine with my dinner every night, sometimes 2. Not masses but more than the one or 2 glasses a week I allow myself at home. My other half said he was worried that the alcohol has harmed the baby. I've been very relaxed throughout this pregnancy even though it's my first. I've been reading Emily Oster's book and I've been following her 'bottom line' recommendations for alcohol consumption but now I'm starting to doubt my actions. It's such a minefield knowing what is best. When all is said and done, I look forward to my glass of wine with my dinner a couple of times a week. Just feel bad that I've made my other half feel worried about it and now doubting my actions. I'm aware of NHS guidelines that say no alcohol whatsoever but I don't see the harm in light drinking, slowly and with food. I'd appreciate your honest opinions, without judgment please. I know the majority of women abstain completely and I think this is why my OH thinks my actions are against the grain.

@ballanj I don't think you should worry. I think you will be fine if you go back to your original plan of 1 or 2 glasses a week. Yes most women do abstain but some don't. It's the same with smoking there are some women (my mum and mum in law included) who smoked through all of their pregnancies. It's not advisable to drink every day whilst pregnant but I don't think you will have done much harm drinking with food and only 1or2 a night. To be on the safe side cut down as much as you can and assure your husband it was only while you were on holiday and maybe mention it to the midwife on your next visit for clarification. Most of all don't stress or worry as that can be just as harmful to baby. If I'm correct drug addicts are slowly weaned (if possible) off their drug whilst pregnant as going cold turkey can do more damage. So if baby can survive class A drugs I'm sure wine won't be that bad.

@ballanj ultimately you have to do what's comfortable but from what I've been told I really wouldn't worry; my midwife volunteered that she was happy for me to have a daily glass of wine with dinner, in line with NMC's comfort with 2-6 units per week (I don't, but I do take half a glass on an occasion or if we have a nice weekend meal). She also said she'd prefer I was relaxed and if having a glass of wine with DH achieved that then to go for it, and that the government line is because they don't trust women to interpret "moderation" and "unit" the right way (which I do kind of understand). Most women on the continent do drink in obvious moderation from week 12. I had to look up what the latest guidance on a unit is - it's not a glass - but honestly if you can I wouldn't beat yourself up at all. Hope DH is reassured too x

@wineandchoccy I know how you're feeling I had the same waiting for the MRI on my son. Those 3 weeks were the worst of my life. Please try and feel comforted by the stories from other people about it being nothing. I know your mind must be racing but please don't work yourself up too much. Easy to say I know. Here's hoping the time flies by for you so you can get to your appointment and I wishing you all the best for the best news possible x

@Wineandchoccy I really feel for you. The waiting must be horrendous. I have everything crossed for you for Friday. Sending hugs in the meantime xx

@TheWanderlust did you manage to get out at a decent hour last night? Hope all is ok

@ballanj I too have read the Expecting Better book and I think you and baby will be absolutely fine. As you say, it was slow light drinking with food. I wouldn't worry, easier said than done I know!

Thank you for all the reassurance guys, you’ve made me feel better.

@Wineandchoccy I’ve been thinking about you all week. Not long to wait now and I’m sure everything will be ok.

Thankyou for all of your supportive messages ladies. Finally got home at 1am with some antibiotics and pain killers. Seems little lady is having a growth spurt and laying right across the bottom of my uterus.

Am so grateful to FPH, they were extremely busy last night but did everything they could to ensure I felt supported and check that I, and baby were both okay.

Thankyou again everyone for caring