The March-ers 2019 #6

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I've just seen an advert for a new BBC series called, "Help, We're Having a Baby!". It starts on Monday, 8.30pm on BBC1. Could be interesting.

Is anyone having upper abdomen stabbing pain? Not sure if I have just done too much this week, but it bloomin hurts!!!

@HidCat thanks for the heads up

Does anyone have any other baby-related tv/film suggestions? The film "what to expect when you're expecting" is quite good

Failing at life today. GP has signed me off work for 3 weeks on advise from midwife to "get myself in a better place".

Overwhelming guilt has kicked in. I'll never go back to that job. I start my new one 3 weeks on Monday.

Wow so much to catch up on. Welcome all New comers and congrats to everyone on their gender reveal and scans. My scan not until 19th so time feels like it's crawling along.
@wineandchoccy sorry to hear about your scan. If it's any consolation I referred for an MRI on my son's brain at 23 weeks as sonographer said she saw a shadow on 20 week scan. Those three weeks were the longest of my life and when I had the MRI the scanner person said it was nothing and my son was perfectly healthy. Apparently it was just the position he was in on the scan!! He turned 9 yesterday and is totally fine so although I know it's soooo hard please try not to worry too much as it could be nothing. On the other hand even if there is a problem you will be well looked after and I'm sending you all the best wishes and hugs xxxxx
@ladycarlotta nope haven't even attempted to buy anything yet. True I already have most things as youngest is only 8 months but if you can I'd advise waiting for Black Friday/Christmas sales.
@villagefete I have 3 years between my three eldest ( currently 12, 9 and 6) and baby is 8 months with baby due 3 weeks after youngest turns 1. My eldest three seem to get on ok and I am the middle of three with the same gap however my DH is only 10 months younger than his brother (DH was 3 months premature) and they were and are so close compared to me and my siblings. I encourage my children to be close but I know my 6 year old annoys my 12 year old something rotton sometimes. My son is sandwiched between two girls bless him so tends to do his own thing a lot unless he plays board games with my eldest or they're messing about with their chemistry and electronics kits. I home educate so my kids are probably closer than other kids due to not having 'school friends' although they do have friends in the various activities they do rugby, boxing, kickboxing, Kung Fu etc. I don't think there's necessarily an advantage to a small or big age gap and as long as each child is given enough attention and space to be individual then I don't think it matters. The main thing is that they are happy.

Thanks @1986mumof5 You’ve made me feel a bit better. The plan is to hopefully squeeze one more in whilst DS is still fairly young. I do want 3, and i’d rather do it similar to how you’ve done it with your baby and the one on board if I can. Can I ask, have you ever had a C section? My son will be delivered via C section and I worry that it could cause scar tissue that could stop an embryo implanting? Maybe i’m just super paranoid because of my past infertility.

@thewanderlust Not failing. Just prioritising the important thing right now which is yours and baby's health. I'm sure anyone with a sense of empathy and compassion at the old job will understand, anyone who doesn't, doesn't matter. Good luck with getting to a good place to start the new one - how exciting! Xxx

@VillageFete I had an emergency C section with my first. I then started trying to get pregnant in Feb this year and fell pregnant the first week of trying, though sadly miscarried at 9 weeks. Started trying again in May and fell pregnant on my second cycle. So it's caused me no issues xx

@villagefete no I've never had a csection all mine have been vaginal ( I bloody hate that word lol) but my friend had a csection then got pregnant 3 months after and had another successful pregnancy so there's only just a year between her two. After the initial shock I'm actually liking the idea of the youngest two being so close in age as there's a 6 year gap between my newest addition and next youngest. I'm also quite interested to see if new baby will develop and hit milestones quicker having a sibling not too much further ahead. I know my others did and there's a three year gap between them. It's also really handy in terms of baby stuff. Plus between my son (2nd eldest) and 2nd daughter I ended up changing nappies for 5 years straight and it drained me lol. So looking forward to getting them both in big girl/boy pants asap lol. My DH has said he's not bothered if this baby is a boy or girl but then said if it's another girl we're going again!! I think he wants a boy!! Lol TBH I'm kind of hanging out for a boy purely for my son's sake so he can have a little brother to play with but as long as baby is happy and healthy im not too fussed. I suppose we'll just have to 'go again' as DH suggested lol

Yes i’m thinking having another one fairly close in age will have advantages, and we will but crib/bouncer etc all in neutral so if we are blessed in the future and it’s a girl then we’ll already have everything. The pram i’m getting is unisex.

I think because I had fertility problems for so long, I truly never thought i’d have a chance of completing my family. We paid for IVF and fell pregnant naturally (but it took 4 long, painful years) So I got a refund. The money is in an account untouched so we are considering going to Cyprus (much cheaper than here) and going straight for IVF rather than trying naturally again. One of my tubes are blocked and I have PCOS so I don’t really have the luxury of trying again for years.

@villagefete I completely understand your wanting to go straight for IVF but you are literally the most fertile after giving birth ( I think I'm testament to that lol) so maybe give it 2/3 months try after 1st period just in case? I have a good feeling about it but that's just my two pence. I got pregnant after my 2nd period post partum.

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Thought I’d just ask for peoples thoughts on the flu jab. I’ve never had it before and I know it’s advised to have it during pregnancy. Being my first pregnancy I’m not keen on the idea of having it as I have had a lot of previous problems in terms of reactions to medications. I think it’s my anxiety kicking in about doing the right thing, just wondered if majority would recommend or not? Thanks in advance x

@teare I'm not really sure you will want my advice as it doesn't really match what you will have been advised but here goes. I never get the flu jab or whooping cough one. I don't agree with injections on the whole. I have my anti d ones as I understand what they have in them and what they do. My eldest had all her injections and despite being perfectly healthy at birth now has severe eczema and food allergies which appeared at 18 months out of nowhere. My other 3 children have had no jabs since birth and are a picture of perfect health. So even though doctors and midwives tell me there's no connection with my daughters problems and the injections I've found research to suggest otherwise. So I tend to steer clear from any unnecessary jabs. If I get the flu I shall drink hot water honey and lemon and hibernate under a quilt lol. These are of course my own personal opinions and feelings but I thought I'd add them in

@TeaRexx I had it a few weeks ago apart from a sore arm for a couple of days no other symptoms. Flu is awful and when we can only take paracetamol I would say it’s the last thing you want.

@TeaRexx your immune system is weaker during pregnancy so if you get the flu you are more likely to develop complications. If you get it severely it can harm your baby, including stillbirth. I had my flu jab today and they only asked me if I was allergic to egg or chicken. I would suggest your speak to a midwife or GP about your specific history of reactions so that they can help you assess whether it would be a greater risk to get the vaccine or to go unvaccinated and risk catching flu. They may possibly have alternative vaccines for those who do have allergies or reactions?

I went to try my wedding dress on today. Still fits! Thank god. I did have about an inch of spare material either side of my waist before getting pregnant which has now gone. We get married in 3 weeks when I'll be 18 weeks. Fingers crossed my ribs don't expand anymore otherwise I'll be getting married in my pjs!

@TeaRexx I'm a first time mum as well. IMO the nhs aren't going to advise things that aren't necessary and are going to cost them money. I'm definitely going to get it. I agree with @BadBadBeans about the risks not being worth it. I also read that there's a link between contracting the flu whilst pregnant and the baby having autism.

An unvaccinated child being healthy doesn’t really mean anything. They are piggybacking on the herd immunity without contributing.

@shampoeee well that's your view and opinion. I meanwhile have watched my daughter suffer for the past 10 and a half years and still have to bathe and bandage her every morning and night. She developed an allergy to all nuts (peanuts severely) eggs, legumes, peas, seeds, some dairy, all of which she did not have from birth or whilst weaning. She also developed allergies to pollen, dust and animals. She has to carry an epi pen everywhere and is constantly having to take anti hystamine and her inhaler. She cannot wear short sleeves or shorts even in summer as she is too self conscious about the inch thick eczema plastering her skin for which she sees a specialist every 6 weeks. Until someone can guarantee this won't happen to my other children I refuse to put them at risk. Besides my children do not piggy back anything thank you very much and are home educated so aren't as exposed to most of the bugs and infections that go around. Everyone is entitled to their own choice and opinion and I made this clear in my other comment. It can sometimes be quite humbling to see things through other people's eyes. You should try it sometime

I appreciate that some people have bad experiences with vaccinations but it doesn’t sound that terrible compared to my friends’ baby who contracted measles just before turning one (so before they could have the MMR).
You are welcome to your opinions but perhaps you shouldn’t be so touchy about it being challenged.

So this morning we went for a private gender scan. Been convinced from the start it was a boy so wanted it early because we would need a minute to adjust if it was a girl.

Opened the envelope and...........

@WhatALearningCurve congratualtions! How lovely 😊

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever thank you!! Now to stop my partner suggesting all names footballer related.....

@WhatALearningCurve oh god, I feel your pain. My OH is hellbent on the name Harry thanks to the World Cup. Could be worse I suppose!

I thought I'd pacified him by letting him call our cat Alan after Alan shearer. Apparently not. 😂